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kayword: ha ha ha, aunty deols! Just curious o, wat wil u / can u do IF that happens??

It is better imagined.

Even my parents would not..What on earth would make someone i open my eyes marry to beat me.

Olohun ma je ka pade oloriburuku o. amin.

True.

Verbal abuse should never be allowed either. Both can bite deep.

busar: Beating won't even stop her from nagging/misbehaving in the house.there are several ways to punish a wife /women besides beating/flogging, it will even worsen the situation at hand. The best I will suggest is for the man to keep calm when she's boiling. but when she comes back to her sense he can talk some sense into her dry brain.
A neigbhour of mine was fighting with his wife one day,he was so angered to the extent that he picked a plank to hit his wife but fortunately the plank hit a fellow neighbour that was seperating them on her arm.The poor neighbour suffers the pain for days.
Note:Anything can happen during the fight.I remenbered a day I was trying to seperate a fighting couple,I was hit in the stomach. during the course.

I hope you learnt your lesson, busybody

Finally, op said something about him going on a date with a second woman.

I just want to say that many men make the mistake of threatening their wives with marrying other women. It is very bad.

The man may not marry this other woman until a very long time or he may never do. But the moment he mentions it, his wife will definitely feel threatened and may start to behave in ways that affect their lives. They may never be the same again.

I know of a man who has been speaking of having another wife for almost ten years. Whereas he has not. Imagine the wife plotting and being emotionally disturbed for such a long time.

People may have heard the wife's noise and assumed she is troublesome but may never understand the emotional torture she is going through.

Sissie: So in the situations you listed its ok for the woman to get beaten for it.

Hmmmmm. I hope if this situation happens your family member you would give the man gold medal for a job weldone ad encourage him.

I wonder too o.

The story about my friend continues She is hausa and she told me that the girl in question stayed on at her parent's house.

The thing is, if the girl is Yoruba, she would think twice before going to her parents. It is like a taboo to go back home and rather than her family helping her in this difficult situation, they'd be more concerned about how much shame it is that their daughter returned home. It is even cliche to blame her for the problems and send her back to continue suffering.

Why this story? many women grew up hearing it that it is their fault even when the men they marry act like animals.(of course not all men are this way).

Such ladies would take it all and stay in until they have psychiatric disorders or die.

I think they need to learn more about how they are at first, humans and then wife to somebody

Danmas: from what i heard its a similar situation. Tha man in question had problem (of disrespect publicly) with the wife in the morning b4 leaving 4 work. And when he comes back at around 10pm she refused to open the door for him claiming he went for a date with another lady he claimed he wants to bring as SECONDwife. After knocking severa times he call her phone she reject, he later call her aunty to plead for her she also refused. Its at that point he buggled the dòor, enter and sit on a sofa without saying anything to her, she then come to the fallow nd start insulting loudly which we can even hear from the negbouring building. Hmm....

These ones should never have gotten married. Are they kids? smh.

My friend called me yestrdy about a girl who wouldn't return to her husband's house after visiting her parents. she'd been married for only one year! and then we talked and talked about similar scenarios we know of.

Children getting married all over the place..and the word, children isn't literal.


*i actually dislike having to rephrase or reinterpret my statements like I have been doing on this thread*

I will soon get tired of this place

Danmas: kai! Is like you can do the opposite if you can! 'no offence' yovr statement say it all.
but its stated (unhamful beating) in the Qur'an as last resort!

Of course you are reading the wrong meanings. I will NEVER beat anybody.

I will not let anyone beat my CHIlDren.

You hear, I hate anyone beating anyone. So if anyine beats me, he is going to pay for it. That he will pay for it does not mean that I will beat him back. Read my post again and ask questions when you don't understand what I am saying.

Don't assume the wrong things. I am NOT violent.

[quote author=Just_follow_it] That's harsh. Personally I will never take that from anyone. But to be objective there are instances where some women acts warrant such. The most common scenario in our society is a woman who prevents her husband from leaving the house just because he refuses to do something which the wife thinks is important, as for me anything that happens to her during this is not the man's fault, it is the consequences of her own actions and she has to take the blame for it.

OR A woman who slaps a man publicly even though the man is blameworthy[/quote]That's harsh??

Well, anyone finding that hard to take must already know NEVER to raise their hands at me.

So, you think a woman deserves to be beaten for a stuupid reason like she is not letting him get out of the house? why isn't she letting him get out in the first place..

In fact, I dont want to even imagine this nonsense.

You are female and you think a woman should be beaten for not allowing her husband get out of the house. Would you allow yourself to be beaten..cos it seems you find it justifiable. Are there no other ways the man can pass his message across?

You will stay in a marriage that guarantees your continuous panel beating?

What in marriage puts a man in a position to beat his wife when she offends him? Can the wife do the same when he offends her.

pls answer all the questions asked. I really need to have an understanding of the thought process of a woman who thinks being beaten by a husband is justifiable.

Sissie: Nothing I do would warrant beating, NOTHING..

This won't happen to me, but if a man tries that. He would end up in the hospital after he gets tortured.

I agree with deols (except the suicide part)

stuuuuuupid Woman what's she still doing in the house until he kills her abi, or she kills him nonsense.

I was exaggerating by saying he should commit suicide first. It is like saying, over my dead body. I didn't mean that I would kill him. It just means that it should never come to his mind.

kids all over the world play on escalators.

Many of you grew old before getting on one. Stop being Jealous of those kids.

Danmas: Salam. For evr1 in the house, may Allah reward you all for this intresting and educating discussions.
There was this negbour (i call there union boxing ring)of mine who almost every month or weeks fight his wife or rather barter her at a slightest of prov6cation, yesterday they hadly allow us to sleep of to the extend that we hav 2 come out at around 12:30am to seperate them. Now the question is; is there anything that your spource can do tht warrant bartering the beautiful mother of kids, your companion,is it not shameful? . I am not in any way challenging/disputing the ruling(unharmful beating of a spource) but with my little knowledge i dont think its the sunnah of the prophet p.b.h. and his companions p.b.u.t. And lastly for the sisters is there anythng u think you can do to your hubby that warrant that if he is not the very patiente type.
Brodas and sister, although this thread is for singles,but i know Mac. Deols and CO can do justice to these. citation are welcome if necessary.

No!! Nothing I do, Nothing at all should/would make anyone whatsoever raise his hands at me.


Are You kidding? what would warrant what?

Seriously, he is going to spend everything he's spent his life making(, if he has made enough) or more. Because what I am going to do to him, he will forever nurse its wounds.

..and who is the stoopid woman he is beating? sHe doesn't have anywhere to run to?


This story is disgusting. I can not even be in the picture.


@Op, nothing warrants a man beating his wife. He should have commited suicide b4 even thinking of it.

OMG he went back to the one who disrupted the wedding?

This isn't for Nigerians. Why wont You invite distant relatives?

orisirisi..

o ga o

[quote author=PAGAN 9JA]man of god my FOOT.

enough man of gods. they have ruined this world.

t b joshua, olukoya, etc.

all na frauds.

Believe in the GODS.'

stop believing in MEN.[/quote]What have you been eating??

SMH..Learn the differences.

There are prophets-real ones. and there are oresent day people claiming to be prophets.

[quote author=Ile-Ife]Shut up and mind your islam business. [/quote]A troll will always be a troll.

Let me not prophesy your 2014

Every pastor has a prophecy. But not all are the same.


If they'd spoken in unison from different parts of the world, I would have agreed. For I think God could not have been saying different things about the same year to different people.

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My honest thought is, pastors are humans like You and me. Worship God like you have been taught and not fall Mugu for anybody.

why would you accept negativity because someone said so?

ronu e daada my friend!

This is good.

let there be peace, people!!

The pathetic thing is that people read and live their lives by these lies.

I didnt read, only posted. Just so you know