₦airaland Forum

firstEVA:
Pls don't marry him, end the relationship asap, you will regret that marriage.

elantraceey:
You need help



Have you tried discussing your sexual fantasies with him?

mainman7:
Darling, don't mind those senseless scallywaggs critisizing u, you are a very intelligent girl. All igbo men are perpetually tied to mummy's apron, thats why they lack the maturity to handle quarrels with their wives, they'll rather quckly kill the poor lady. They are less that half-man and so emotionally immature. The only thing they r good at doing is frustratedly killing there wives instead of maturely handly emotional issues. Pls, Google "igbo men have the highest wife killing rate in the whole world, true or false" You see it's true, it would bring so many daily occurences of igbo fruatratingly killing their wives. So, ur decision is a very wise one, u will surely get a husband that will treat u like a Queen for the rest of ur life not one that will childishly terminate ur precious life.

Kedam:
if she can't understand that means she isn't worth it.

tonychristopher:
So why bothered ..Igbo sons respect their mother's unlike other tribes their mum divorced and cheat on their fathers and so doing lost respect from your siblings

Igbo don't need you
We don't even know you

Why want us
We don't want you
We want to be on our own
That's why we wanted and still want Biafra

Can't you guys just get this simple analogy

Vikkyk10: When i was 16 i got impregnated by a corper who denied the pregnancy.Life was so hard for me,my parent kicked me out of the house.But my mum was alwys there to help me.I gained admission into the university through my mom's help,mom took care of my son while i was in school,it wasn't easy though.There was this friend i had then that i would say was the one that sponsored me throughout my stay in school,she was like a sister to me.We graduated from the university and we went our seperate ways.I got a job and i remarried.My husband had an accident and died in it,due to my inability to give him a child,his family members kicked me out of our house.I didnt worry since i had a job i could rely on.Then ône day i came across that my friend that sponsored me through school,we talked,chatted and she told me she was having problems with her husband due to her inability to gìve him a son.She invited me and so i went 2 her house.But to my surprise her husband was that same corper that impregnated me 28 yrs ago.He wasn't around,his wife said he was out of the country cos it was his picture i saw.When i got home i told my son who is now a medical doctor everything that happened at my friend's place.He was so happy,because he wanted to meet and know his biological father,especially now that he is planning to get married.Right nw,i dont know what to do because the father of my child married my friend not just a friend,but a sister from another mother.If i tell her the truth won't she say i wana take advantage of her situation.(inability to give her hubby a male child)this is not a movie.It's a true life story.Your advice is needed pls.

Dbisi: I had a problem with my husband about 2 months before our wedding, he suspected and accused me of having an affairs he later found was not true and this was after we have dated for 5 years. That broke my heart because i was a very decent girl and infact he disvirgined me after 4 years into our courtship after i had graduated from UI. He did apologise though and even though i tried to stop the wedding he begged me and made the whole world beg me i was no longer interested but it was too late. When we got married i realised i never enjoyed sex it is always pain and i tried to see if something was wrong with me, i tried to forgive him and free my mind and yet i still never enjoyed it. One day i listened to a voice mail a girl left for him of how much she enjoyed him and how he should not because of marriage forget her as he was too sweet on the bed, this broke my heart because i trusted him and now i realised its not as if he doesnt know how to make love it was my problem. Though i regret it now and feel quilty, i slept with an ex who never slept with me as a single girl and i must confess i enjoyed it, now i can't say what my problem is, i never did it after then and i still don't enjoy sex with my husband. I feel so guilty and i wish i could confess to him and ask for his forgiveness. Is it wise to do this and please if you have ever had like problem what can i do to enjoy sex with my husband. Please, this is a marital and serious and real issue will appreciate genuine and helpful advise.

Krak: So ladies cant work for themselves and make money again. Why must you always depend fully on your boyfriends or husbands?

Joofirst: My wife keeps calling her ex on phone every blessed day. The worst of it is that she speaks wit him on or before 8am on daily bases and each day they talk on phone for four to five times. I have tried to stop her and each time I do she tells me that her ex keeps calling whereas she is the one calling. She keeps asking me if I want both of them to be enemies. I am not comfortable with that and I feel like beating her terribly but I am not the beating type. I wish to quit the marriage despite what I spent on my wedding because I am not happy with the marriage. Since I cant have happiness in the marriage, I don't think it worth it. Folks your advice will be appreciated. Thanks!

ifyalways: So is having a baby now a curse or what?
Are your friends the ones dictating who you date or not?
I pity the gal for hanging out with a wussy ass like you.

Sijo01: they are jealous of you because a Nigeria man is not looking their way. forget whatever they are saying and focus on how to build your home and enjoy your life with your husband. cheers!

SarahMaria: I do not talk about the users in this forum.
I talk about my experience in real life.
Dnt put all ur trust on nigeria men, mostly igbos, they are cheaters
I am a white girl and when I say that my husband is a Nigerian they feel like they can say any rubbish to me what comes into their mind and I am tired of this.

I do not think that Nigerian men are worster than other men of other races.

SarahMaria: Really I can not understand it.

When I meet Africans of other nations they are telling me to be careful with my Nigerian husband.
They are all players and liars and so on.
Yes, nigeria men are liars, cheaters,
A white woman who is married to a man from Guinea tells me all the time that I am stupid to be with a Nigerian. She said she know it from here husband that Nigerian men are bad and only play with women.

I do not want to hear all this. I know my husband. He is a very good person and I do not like how people talk about him and the whole nation. Is that normal? Why does they say something like that. It really piss me of and whatever I say back to these ignorant persons, they are laughing at me and they say I will see in future that that what they said was true. Ur frnds are telling u d truth, nigeria men are liars, cheater, pretenders, womanizer and heartbreaker, dnt put all ur trust

SharonI: I have been dating a Igbo man for 4 years now. He is very caring and loving by action. We have personal conversations and he is open with me at times, although he is a very private person. He loves his mom and siblings I see that by action as well very family oriented I love that. He is an American citizen so he is not looking a green card. If he had a wife in Nigeria she would be here by now, and he doesn't travel back often twice in the 12 years he has been here. I have noticed at times he says we and us and I feel thats a plus. He is 32 no kids and I am 34 with children from a previous marriage. I just don't want to waste my time with him I hear so many things about Igbo men some I see in him some I just don't but the rest am unsure. What is he waiting on to get married and settle down. He is really laid back doesn't let to much bother him a plus to our relationship is that we have not ever had an argument not ever raised a voice at each other nothing weird but I love that we get along so well. I love him and would like to be his wife and have a child for him but there is something that frightens him with marriage. I am unwilling to have a child at this age without being married which he doesn't mind doing. He says we don't have to be married to be happy and or have a child. He already has a career and is in school to get a higher degree I love his drive. We are both very busy people so time is spent as often as we can at least once a week we usually don't let 2 weeks go by without seeing each other although we communicate on a daily basis we check in with each other as we work the same shift so we chat via text while at work because thats really the only time our schedules allow us to actually chat and see whats up with each other. He likes the fact that I am stress free no issues I don't bother him don't go through his stuff even when I am alone in his house just something I don't do I respect his space hoping we can share our space and our lives together.