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Family / A Touchn Story On Marriage: by DIVA201: 6:30pm On Aug 09, 2010
[b]Saw this on Facebook today and decided to share it here too,


When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said,
I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed
the hurt in her eyes.


Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I
was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.


She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and
shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She
was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage.
But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to
Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!


With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she
could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.


She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten
years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted
time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved
Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had
expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of
divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer
now.


The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the
table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast
because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.


When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so
I turned over and was asleep again.


In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything
from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in
that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her
reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want
to disrupt him with our broken marriage.


This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how
I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.


She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our
bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to
make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.


I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought
it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce,
she said scornfully.


My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was
explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both
appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms.
His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then
to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes
and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling
somewhat upset. I put her down outside

the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I
could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this
woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There
were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its
toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.


On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning.
This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.


On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing
again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month
slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.


She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but
could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown
bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why
I could carry her more easily.


Suddenly it hit me, she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.


Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him,
seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his
life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I
turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last
minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the
sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally.
I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.


But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my
arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly
and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.


I drove to office, jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I
was afraid any delay would make me change my mind, I walked upstairs. Jane
opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce
anymore.


She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever?
She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My
marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of
our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that
since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her
until death do us apart.


Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the
door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.


At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The
salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you
out every morning until death do us apart.


That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up
stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.

My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even
notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the
whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the
divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband,


The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is
not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an
environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So
find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other
that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!


If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to
success when they gave up and for those of us not married, we can learn the art of sticking together with your relationship partner despite the odds. You are both stronger than the odds only when you agree.


A CHRIST-CENTERED MARRIAGE IS A MARRIAGE THAT IS SURE TO LAST A LIFETIME.

So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined
together, let not man separate.[/b]
Music/Radio / Re: What Song Would You Prefer Sang On Ur Wedding Day? by DIVA201: 2:38pm On Jul 22, 2010
Mr_Cork:

Michael Jackson: Beat it

LMAOOOO
Nairaland / General / Re: Best Comment Votes by DIVA201: 11:48am On Jul 13, 2010
I totally agree with you!
Family / Re: Betrayed By : by DIVA201: 12:45pm On Jul 12, 2010
Its an excuse sweetheart, tell me how many times on this forum, you"ve asked for a 2 sided story?
She deserves evry insult i can come up with, why are u lot making up excuses for her? are you yourself trying to tell me that if such a situation comes up in your home, you are going to cheat on your husband? seriously call a spade a spade. She is not a child, she wasnt born yesterday, if she knew she couldnt keep up with the temptation why didnt she quit and relocate immediately? what was her husband supposed to do? go to the court to bring her back home? you can only force the horse to d stream. . . . . .

And yes you have defended her actions, do you wanna go back to your post and see where you were accusing him of not putting his manly plate down, thus the reason for her cheating? arent you trying to justify her actions? We have the wives of army officials, soldiers name it that still stay faithful even though they spend less than 2 months evry year with their partners.

If it were your brother"s wife will you be saying the same thing? NO way, and dont even bother saying you will, cos i 100% dont believe you

Almost like i made that post.
You make so much sense sis!!!!
Need I say more!!!!
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Phones / Re: The Most Annoying Phone by DIVA201: 9:01am On Jul 09, 2010
LG Chocolate
Worst phone ever!!!
Celebrities / Re: Paris Hilton Headed To The World Cup With Her Entire Closet by DIVA201: 12:39pm On Jul 05, 2010
Kunbee:

See louis vuitton

My sis, I think say na only me dey see am oooo grin grin grin
Celebrities / Re: Kelly Rowland Caught Picking Her Nose! Lmao by DIVA201: 12:36pm On Jul 05, 2010
Star or not, picking your nostrils in public is bad habit. Talk-more of a celebrity caught in the act,
Embarrassing I must say!!! embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed embarassed
Religion / Re: Govt Bans External Loud Speakers At Religious Centres by DIVA201: 12:28pm On Jul 05, 2010
But what would wake me up in the morning now? tongue
Romance / Re: An Open Warnin To My Proud Roomie Who Treats Her BF Like Poo-I'll Take Your Man by DIVA201: 9:03pm On Jun 30, 2010
kushe:

@funkybaby

see as u chin me,na waaa ooo.anyways no love lost,still gbadun uuuuuuu to smitherings wink


@yorubaspeakershater

if to say u sabi speak english maybe i for answer u,but u are an insignificant misallocation of an extremely useful resource called time and so while u process the above words i suggest the waste of weight and space that u are dive headlong into one of the lakes formed out of the erosion gullies on the way to your village you bloody literate ignoramus cool


Someone wake me up, LWKMDFHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

tkb417:

dont you know ure depriving a village somewhere of an  ?

The fact that nobody understands you doesnt mean ure an artist

im not trying to be rude, but i think ure just too insignificant and ill be better  off spending ma time with much more saner peeps

if common sense is expensive, try artificial intelligence cos at this rate, if a desert eagle is placed on your medulla, u will still be foolish

Who wouldn't love Nairaland?
I am definitely going to use that on someone soon grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Romance / Re: An Open Warnin To My Proud Roomie Who Treats Her BF Like Poo-I'll Take Your Man by DIVA201: 9:06pm On Jun 29, 2010
@Poster

You are mouthed jare , O lenu bi kettle
Just keep us updated, If Mr J refuses you, and you become a laughing stock, please still let us know
But since you are confident that you can hold him hostage with your kitty, Go on soun, . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .
Romance / Re: Funny Experience I Had Yesterday by DIVA201: 6:37pm On Jun 27, 2010
LMAO

Why didn't you call me back, hahahahahahaahahaahaahahaha
LWKMDFH grin grin grin grin This thread just made my day
Romance / Re: Men - Women And Makeup. by DIVA201: 3:26pm On Jun 25, 2010
When it is applied moderately, it looks very nice, If you don't like it close your eyes
lol
Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 1:34pm On Jun 24, 2010
~Sauron~:

She looks like the product of an Antelope and a Silverback Ape.

LWKMDFH grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Sports / Re: Juju: Why Can't We Use It To Progress/win In The World Cup? by DIVA201: 12:07pm On Jun 24, 2010
I don't want to know if we couldn't use it to win the world cup or not,
What I know for sure is that JUJU is real, If you say you believe in the bible then why won't you believe in juju?
what else was the bible talking about when it was referring to principalities and powers in high places?
Computers / Re: How Much Does It Cost To Set Up A Cafe by DIVA201: 11:53am On Jun 24, 2010
Depends on lots of stuffs, also your budget too
I just set up a 12 systems cybercafe and it cost me about 1.5 million naira,
I was lucky to get a very good location of which the rent was unbelievably cheap, So it may vary , but if you want me to give you more tips just post the specific questions here and I would try my best to answer them.
Sports / Re: Nigeria Vs South Korea: 2 - 2 @ World Cup 2010, June 22 by DIVA201: 8:55pm On Jun 22, 2010
amigoes:

                       

plane ke                           NIGHT BUS grin

Which night bus is that one?
Canoe would be more appropriate for them, better still they should trek,



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Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 12:02pm On Jun 22, 2010
~Sissy~:

my dear, you think these type will listen to their friends or anyone as such who questions their dressing?

they will probably shun you and the next thing you will hear is "jealousy"

these type probably has the highest level of ITK available when it comes "fashion"

hahahahahahahahaha, LMAO
The thing that they can still look hot and sexy in descent clothes.
Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 11:09am On Jun 22, 2010
~Sissy~:

worst part, they will be feeling like they wore the "best of the best" and "outshined"everyone embarassed embarassed embarassed


i wouldnt be surprised if in the near future, women/ladies like this start wearing only their pant and bra to social events undecided




I can imagine, ut what I do not understand is, even if they don't know, am sure people live with them
can't those ones tell them how horrible and trashy they look?
see that one with her g-string showing from behind, I can bet my pinky that she is a prostitute.
Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 10:53am On Jun 22, 2010
~Sissy~:

DIVA20.1 those are pics are just well, i can say more than embrassing sad sad sad

amazing!

It baffles me how they can wear those stuffs out!!!!
Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 10:15am On Jun 22, 2010
embarassed

Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 10:13am On Jun 22, 2010
:p

Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 10:07am On Jun 22, 2010
;d ;d ;d

Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 9:57am On Jun 22, 2010
;d ;d ;d

Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 9:37am On Jun 22, 2010
shocked shocked shocked shocked

Romance / Re: My Ex Wants Me Back After I Won The N2m Promo by DIVA201: 7:23pm On Jun 21, 2010
LOL
Maye it is coincidence now!!!
Crime / Re: Call Girl Breaks Waist Running From Clients by DIVA201: 7:17pm On Jun 21, 2010
Global-D:

Friday, May 21, 2010



"I offered to get her a job if she would quit being a harshie (harlot) and I even allowed her to use my phone. If I was a ritualist, would I have done that? I believe it was because she heard me speaking on phone with a client about a real estate deal running to N45m. Maybe it was what the girl heard and she thought I was a ritual killer. I swear to God am a Christian, it is quite unfortunate that this happened, but I have no intention of using the girl for ritual," he defended himself.


http://odili.net/news/source/2010/may/21/832.html

He should STFU
Do christians now patronize harlots?
Romance / Re: A Broken Heart Isn't A Broken Dream Nor A Broken Hope : My Story by DIVA201: 1:29pm On Jun 21, 2010
TheCongo, Thanks for this wonderful story, At a point I was moved to tears, I still say it nothing as painful as a breakup, cos no matter how hard you try the memories are always there.
God bless you and your marriage.

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