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Family / A Touchn Story On Marriage: by DIVA201: 6:30pm On Aug 09, 2010 |
[b]Saw this on Facebook today and decided to share it here too, When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage. This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me, she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office, jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind, I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband, The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up and for those of us not married, we can learn the art of sticking together with your relationship partner despite the odds. You are both stronger than the odds only when you agree. A CHRIST-CENTERED MARRIAGE IS A MARRIAGE THAT IS SURE TO LAST A LIFETIME. So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.[/b] |
Music/Radio / Re: What Song Would You Prefer Sang On Ur Wedding Day? by DIVA201: 2:38pm On Jul 22, 2010 |
Mr_Cork: LMAOOOO |
Nairaland / General / Re: Best Comment Votes by DIVA201: 11:48am On Jul 13, 2010 |
I totally agree with you! |
Family / Re: Betrayed By : by DIVA201: 12:45pm On Jul 12, 2010 |
Its an excuse sweetheart, tell me how many times on this forum, you"ve asked for a 2 sided story? Almost like i made that post. You make so much sense sis!!!! Need I say more!!!! A |
Phones / Re: The Most Annoying Phone by DIVA201: 9:01am On Jul 09, 2010 |
LG Chocolate Worst phone ever!!! |
Celebrities / Re: Paris Hilton Headed To The World Cup With Her Entire Closet by DIVA201: 12:39pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
Kunbee: My sis, I think say na only me dey see am oooo |
Celebrities / Re: Kelly Rowland Caught Picking Her Nose! Lmao by DIVA201: 12:36pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
Star or not, picking your nostrils in public is bad habit. Talk-more of a celebrity caught in the act, Embarrassing I must say!!! |
Religion / Re: Govt Bans External Loud Speakers At Religious Centres by DIVA201: 12:28pm On Jul 05, 2010 |
But what would wake me up in the morning now? |
Romance / Re: An Open Warnin To My Proud Roomie Who Treats Her BF Like Poo-I'll Take Your Man by DIVA201: 9:03pm On Jun 30, 2010 |
kushe: Someone wake me up, LWKMDFHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH tkb417: Who wouldn't love Nairaland? I am definitely going to use that on someone soon |
Romance / Re: An Open Warnin To My Proud Roomie Who Treats Her BF Like Poo-I'll Take Your Man by DIVA201: 9:06pm On Jun 29, 2010 |
@Poster You are mouthed jare , O lenu bi kettle Just keep us updated, If Mr J refuses you, and you become a laughing stock, please still let us know But since you are confident that you can hold him hostage with your kitty, Go on soun, . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . |
Romance / Re: Funny Experience I Had Yesterday by DIVA201: 6:37pm On Jun 27, 2010 |
LMAO Why didn't you call me back, hahahahahahaahahaahaahahaha LWKMDFH This thread just made my day |
Romance / Re: Men - Women And Makeup. by DIVA201: 3:26pm On Jun 25, 2010 |
When it is applied moderately, it looks very nice, If you don't like it close your eyes lol |
Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 1:34pm On Jun 24, 2010 |
~Sauron~: LWKMDFH |
Sports / Re: Juju: Why Can't We Use It To Progress/win In The World Cup? by DIVA201: 12:07pm On Jun 24, 2010 |
I don't want to know if we couldn't use it to win the world cup or not, What I know for sure is that JUJU is real, If you say you believe in the bible then why won't you believe in juju? what else was the bible talking about when it was referring to principalities and powers in high places? |
Computers / Re: How Much Does It Cost To Set Up A Cafe by DIVA201: 11:53am On Jun 24, 2010 |
Depends on lots of stuffs, also your budget too I just set up a 12 systems cybercafe and it cost me about 1.5 million naira, I was lucky to get a very good location of which the rent was unbelievably cheap, So it may vary , but if you want me to give you more tips just post the specific questions here and I would try my best to answer them. |
Sports / Re: Nigeria Vs South Korea: 2 - 2 @ World Cup 2010, June 22 by DIVA201: 8:55pm On Jun 22, 2010 |
amigoes: Which night bus is that one? Canoe would be more appropriate for them, better still they should trek, Warning - while you were typing 22 new replies have been posted. You may wish to review your post. Warning - while you were typing 12 new replies have been posted. You may wish to review your post. |
Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 12:02pm On Jun 22, 2010 |
~Sissy~: hahahahahahahahaha, LMAO The thing that they can still look hot and sexy in descent clothes. |
Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 11:09am On Jun 22, 2010 |
~Sissy~: I can imagine, ut what I do not understand is, even if they don't know, am sure people live with them can't those ones tell them how horrible and trashy they look? see that one with her g-string showing from behind, I can bet my pinky that she is a prostitute. |
Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 10:53am On Jun 22, 2010 |
~Sissy~: It baffles me how they can wear those stuffs out!!!! |
Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 10:15am On Jun 22, 2010 |
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Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 10:13am On Jun 22, 2010 |
:p
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Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 10:07am On Jun 22, 2010 |
;d ;d ;d
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Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 9:57am On Jun 22, 2010 |
;d ;d ;d
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Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by DIVA201: 9:37am On Jun 22, 2010 |
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Romance / Re: My Ex Wants Me Back After I Won The N2m Promo by DIVA201: 7:23pm On Jun 21, 2010 |
LOL Maye it is coincidence now!!! |
Crime / Re: Call Girl Breaks Waist Running From Clients by DIVA201: 7:17pm On Jun 21, 2010 |
Global-D: He should STFU Do christians now patronize harlots? |
Romance / Re: A Broken Heart Isn't A Broken Dream Nor A Broken Hope : My Story by DIVA201: 1:29pm On Jun 21, 2010 |
TheCongo, Thanks for this wonderful story, At a point I was moved to tears, I still say it nothing as painful as a breakup, cos no matter how hard you try the memories are always there. God bless you and your marriage. |
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