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RollinTNDA:
From my personal experience

I witnessed this in December 2024
A girl who was my neigbour i have crush on her. But it end with Hi and Hello. We didnt talk with each other

Im a chemist, so one night this girl came knocking loud on my door.
I peep window see say na she dey knock. As i open door i see her holding her stomach and wrething in pain. She said her stomach feels locked she is constipated and it giving her serious pains

As a chemist, i took into action
Took my shop key and use leg to trek in midnight to my shop to get her constipation drug.
In the process vigilante boys stop me threatning to matchete me if i run. Omo that night mad

After explaining to them they extorted me and let me go.
I came back and there she was in pains.
I administered drugs to her for free
And that drug was really expensive
But no wahala i took it and gave her for free...SMH

The next morning she came by to thank me for saving her life.
Mumu me was blushing and i told her if we date she wont spend a dime on medication. We laughed

That evenning we hang out and i told her my mind that i like her.
I ended up telling her some personal secrets about me ( WORST MISTAKE EVER) We talked about the future and so on..

Long story short
She played me like ronaldinho
Then exposed my secrets to everyone in that compound!!!
Telling them that i smoke weed

The girl finished my reputation
I was regretting why i even helped her and risk my life that night going to get drug for her.

The way i see girls now, hmmmm
Make Elon musk create female robot for men. Cause these modern day women will soon end up alone.

Nobody want to marry problem!!

Comrade, this is not a "modern woman" phenomenon. It's a woman phenomenon, as in it's a 'constant' of female nature.

Women do not have a sense of honor, so sharing your secret with a woman and expecting her to honor your secret is, frankly, an unwise action. Women are also selfish by nature, meaning they will grasp their own secrets closely to their chests, but any other secret is sweet gist/gossip material - and if you knew how 'sweet' these 'gists' are to them...
This is also the reason women would likely rather confide in a (non-judgmental) man than her fellow woman (who is not her partner-in-crime).

One of your strongest suits as a man is mystery. When you are, in certain ways, mysterious, women can't size you up, so they can't be sure of the consequences that will fall on their heads if they misbehave. But if they've gauged you properly or in other words if they've seen you finish they know what you can and CAN'T do when they start following their whims at your expense.

When you, a man, went out of your way to help her, a woman, just like that, she had already classified you as weak/gullible in her mind. And yes, every woman 'classifies'.
You had already initiated see finish by your own hand, with the journey to your store, free medicine and indulgence of personal info.

And one last thing, your journey was not from the goodness of your heart or altruism. If it was a man you very likely wouldn't have done that (with free, expensive medicine on top) - if you think about that honestly, that's simping - helping just because it's a woman.

AlphaNugget:
Bro.....
Last year I thought I have met the love of my life, it was as if we were perfect for eachother, so we decided to get married; fortunately our parents agreed.

She moved in with me and we cohabited for 8 months - March - October, during that period it was all love, we did things together.....she made numerous promises, the love was intoxicating, we made other people envious because of our public display of affection, we were young couples (she was 20, I was 26).

It was all fun, we planned our future kids and wrote names for both genders; then she was pregnant, the pregnancy lasted for 4 months, but the 3rd months was hell, her mum started acting up and we started having issues....we fixed wedding for November because of some financial constraints which my ex was well aware of, but her mum was saying that I only want the baby, that I will travel out of the country and leave the daughter, her mum wanted to hasten me but I just don't like being rushed into doing things because the year was coming to an end and I already have everything planned......we had this serious issue which led to her going back to her mum's house, that was when she aborted the baby of 4 months (although she said it was miscarriage and she pleaded that it was miscarriage).

Her mum was the weapon formed against us and unfortunately she succumbed to everything her mum planned.

I decided to end everything by December despite her pleas because I felt hurt by the fact that she could abort my first fruit despite everything I spent during her 1-3rd trimester, it hurts man, it does.....she went amok and was lamenting against me and all....it was not funny.

I decided to move out of that zone and relocate to another state just for my peace, I trashed my old SIM card and deleted every memory about her.

We were lovers with plans, we were supposed to be parents this year.....but now we are strangers. It is sad but I am now focused on my next journey out of this country, I pray the outside world favour me.

Truly, you either love women or understand them, never both. It's easy to be of the opinion that women are emotionally stronger but in truth they just lack the capacity for love. Their main advantage towards men (besides sex) is that they're followers by nature and men are leaders - when a man starts demonstrating his love she just follows his steps like a chameleon, so nothing feels out of place for both parties. When she then acts in her self-interest against the interest of her lover or branchswings she does so seamlessly because there was no love to create friction in the first place.
What many men call "love" from a woman is just sexual attraction or being addicted to the emotional roller coaster of a particular guy (She's loves the experience/feelings he gives her, not him as a person). And what many men see as a woman adhering to "morality" or "honor" is just fear of consequence/accountability.

Women have no value for a man's love beyond what it can do for them. How often has one heard women chastising other women that "If you love him you'll do or not do this (even if it's disadvantageous to you)"? but you'll definitely hear "If that man loves her he would have done [this or that] for her (even if it's disadvantageous to him)" and they'll say it with certainty.
And I don't mean most or majority of women - I mean ALL. It's simply their biological wiring to make up for being physically and cognitively weaker in contrast to men. If women, being the weaker sex, could love then that would be greatly detrimental to them, like predators having very fragile teeth and claws for hunting.

A woman's mother is, in many ways, an accurate indicator of how she will be years into marriage. No matter what she learns from her father, she still needs to learn how to navigate life as a female from a female, and the mother is typically the source (in this case her mom is basically a single mom).
If you had married that girl your life would have been hell on earth (and this would very well be the case seeing how strongly you were under the influence of love). And this might sound effed up but it was for the best she didn't end up being the mother of your child. She probably would have been influenced by her mom to separate from you and poison your child's mind, thus repeating the single mom cycle.
So in a sense, her mother's meddling was more a blessing than a curse in hindsight.

She also tried to stab you and you were still entertaining the thought of marriage? Omoh things dey happen oh . If my own blood actually tried to stab me, no matter how heated the quarrel is, I'll distance myself from that person, let alone someone who is basically a stranger to you. Love really makes men tolerate things that shouldn't be tolerated.

Also, at the risk of making a long comment even longer you're not a woman nor an old man. There isn't much reason to be rushing into marriage like your biological clock is ticking. Personally, I strongly advise against marriage but if you must marry for whatever reason then take your good time and understand female nature. They say marriage is the biggest investment a man makes in life... you wouldn't put your entire life savings into a business venture without knowing the nature and risks, would you?
So why do men do this in regards to marriage?:
Love and lack of understanding of female nature. These two things are mutually inclusive. It is not a coincidence that within this era of masculine weakness/misunderstanding there is also a huge surge of young guys rushing headfirst into marriage.

The most important thing right now is to not let what has happened weigh you down. Just focus on bettering yourself. Don't let women or other distractions stray you from your path.

@ Elasmobranchii Are you done with your playful banter post? Please do tag me if you drop it.

This thread has been a lot less lively as of late, but quite helpful nonetheless. Perhaps it just reflects the hardships being experienced in these periods and, to be honest, if things aren't getting better then things are likely to get worse. Even outside the country things aren't rosy.

But every cloud has a silver lining - and men are not made from good times. Suffering is not sweet, but it is necessary. To quote renowned psychologist Sigmund Freud:
"One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful."

Many didn't get to see the earth make a full revolution around our sun, but here we are kicking and hale. That alone is worth being thankful for.
To all the comrades, around and scarce:
Skepticus Martinez39s heartofcity12 Streak47 JESHAL007 Karlifate Philosopher1979 Smartb0y emmaodet Lordisaac Elasmobranchii luminouz ubunja Pukkalolo RedpillAdviser traware Kipaji badmashiii etcetera.

This 2025 is to the strength for what we want and perseverance to keep aiming for it.

Happy New Year.

Please don't start 2025 quoting trolls & redpill detractors. If one were to attend the ashawo thread or go into a brothel, for example, to argue against prostitution and its patrons, would that be considered an act of wisdom? If you showed a wise man the aforementioned scenario and asked him whether doing That or Walking away from what is outside one's control is the wise option which would he choose?
It is self-sabotage at best and at worst foolishness.

If "The sky is blue" is a truism then you need not argue with anyone about it. You need not fight tooth-and-nail about it because reality is reality. But to believe you speak the truth yet you push it on others means, deep down, the truth is not truly the objective, because they are trying to prove something to themselves.

When you invest your sense of self, your ego, into some idea of a woman then most statements unflattering to female nature (and by extension a particular woman in one's life) will feel like a personal affront no matter how objective it is. This also goes beyond women - when one identifies themselves with what they are not, this is the price one pays.

If you see (passive) aggression in their comments, don't quote.

IbeOkehie:
Ever since I read the news a month or so ago that 27% of DNA tests result in wrongly attributed paternity, I see Nigerian marriages in a different light.

Worst of all, because the testers tended to be middle to higher income Nigerians and thus likely more educated, it says something about the elite of the society.

Fully 27% of children in Nigeria are the result of infidelity. I know a few...3 men in Nigeria from many years ago who discovered this but I didn't know it's so widespread.

I mentioned it to a visiting Nigerian politician. He assured me that ALL the top politicians in Nigeria EACH have DOZENS of children conceived with other men's wives.

He even mentioned one currently generating several court cases, including one couple with TWO out four kids fathered by a BIG 2nd Republic politician who died a few years ago...no, not MKO Abiola.

The state of Nigerian marriage is worse than anything in any Western country. Not 5%, not even 15%....over ONE QUARTER of all children conceived in deceit!!! In the world's most religious country!!! Tell me something.

There's nothing to discuss about Nigerian marriage again. Truly it is FINISHED. There's no basis for a good society in Nigeria.

Good Luck to Nigerians.

There was a statistic from years ago showing Nigeria has the highest rate of paternity fraud in the world, second only to Jamaica - that was years ago - I'm quite certain that 27% is inaccurate.

It's much higher.

Namaster:
In the past few months, I have started to see the WISDOM of the Taliban.

Fools like this should NEVER be allowed to speak in public.

She's SHAMELESS.

A common PROSTITUTE who should be ashamed of her waywardness is on Social Media trying to use her prostitution to gain FAME.

It's fast becoming obvious that the best way to handle women is the TALIBAN WAY.

"Taliban" way has always been the way with women, check bible. Na guys wey no sabi women dey shout "misogyny".

luminouz:
Great Take!!!

The one that annoys me most is to be told to stand so a woman can sit...

I asked why? And 6 men yelled 'because she is a woman'

And I said 'and so?'

They couldn't answer me. Men have become weaker day after day....I'm grateful for the pill

If them answer e no go pass "chivalry" (simping). These dudes don't understand that women just see them as stepping stones. It's like saying "Hey, you remember that one random step on the staircase that you stepped on?"

Ask them "Sentiments aside, for what logical/practical reason should I do that?" You'll hear nothing of substance.

If it were an elderly person, okay, I could give them a sit because of old age, arthritis, what have you - those are logical reasons, but to stand up so an able-bodied person can take my sit... Omoh, you go stan there like Stanley.

UppaZakum:
The message of red pill has now become more important than ever before. Women are increasingly dominating the corporate world, displacing men from positions they once held. A vast majority of women have what I would refer to as persecution or victim complex. They have hijacked the structure of workplace and polluted with wokeness, inclusion and diversity, which is all aimed at eliminating men from leadership positions, even regular white collar jobs in occupations dominated by men and elevating women regardless of their qualifications, interests and skill level.
[...]

Guess what? They use men to achieve their selfish goal. They will invite powerful men to their women interest forums and brainwash them. These powerful men will then return and implement policies that will reduce opportunities for men, drop the number of men who are top guns and have laboured hard to reach such positions to create space for women whether they have worked as hard as the men or not. Or limit the number that can now aspire for such positions.


Another thing that amuses me is the fact that the average man now carries this wokeness and equality on their head more than the female folks. Give them 5 minutes to talk about any topic of their choice in a public fora and see them talk about how women are oppressed in the workplace and how we need to give women more opportunities. In my mind, I'd be like wtf. Can we define this oppression exactly? In my several years of working, I have never witnessed a situation where an organization oppressed women. Most of these naive men just jump on the bandwagon of the bullshit that is being spread by the emotional creatures.

I have nothing but pity for men who champion this and I cannot but shake in my head in pity for men who call themselves feminists to form woke. It's okay...We're gradually seeing the ripple effects. In a matter of few years to come, I pity what will remain of men.

Most of the women they are trying to elevate at their own detriment will never see them as equal again once they get to those positions they are eyeing. Immediately, their hypergamous nature will set in and desire men who are higher in status. They will not remember the regular joe who called himself male feminist that championed their interest.
[...]

Before I would have just kept mum and watch them spread their propaganda just becuase I want to be covert with my redpill. In the end, the company will then find all manner of ways to get equal number of women as men even if it's not an occupation women naturally prefer based on their feminine and biological inclinations. It doesn't matter to the few women who are in the occupation. it's all about equalizing the numbers for women. They rob men of their God given talents by doing this. I have come to the conclusion that I shall no longer remaining silent but will use my position to advance and protect the interest of men.

For the records, I don't hate women but I will not keep mum and watch them destroy the malefolks. I have cordial relationship with these women and they have the utmost respect for me than other male colleagues that align with them all the time
as I tend to be very non-agreeable with their philosophy most times yet still show my caring and empathetic side by helping them solve problems. They have issues at work, they come to me and I'm always willing to share my knowledge with them that helps them in their work. But they respect me for not being a pushover. Perhaps they're faking their respect...I care less but I don't think so. They always want to come to me for advice which means they see me as a leader even though we are peers.
Most men think agreeing with women always will make women like them while in the real sense it's actually the opposite.

Happy International Men's Day to all the real men. I have to use "Real" as the quantum of weak and feminised men that abound in recent times is worrisome.

Men weak in mind have always been the backbone of feminism since its inception. When it comes to the conception of change and creation, you look to men. When it comes to creating and changing outcomes to favor themselves, women also look to men.

Emma Stone is a popular Hollywood actress that parrots that mythical gender pay gap feminist argument that has been debunked statistically, legally and logically several times over. But while filming a movie with Mark Ruffalo (Incredible Hulk actor and male feminist) she was able to convince the male actors that they should dock their pay for her to 'have parity with them'.
She said in an interview "And that's something they do for me because they feel it's what's right and fair." Mind you, at that time she was the highest paid actress in the world. Now she has "conquered" the pay gap is her pay getting docked for lesser earning actors? Is it getting docked for even lesser paid actresses? Equality is only to push themselves up.
The funny part is that the movie "Poor things" was just rife with her nudity and the actors upon seeing a self-serving adult child willingly exposing herself for a higher cut of the box office still divided their pay for her.

It is in women's nature to constantly test men's boundaries, to see what they can get away with. When they say things to men to have their way it doesn't matter if it's illogical - it's a number game - eventually, hopefully, their words will click with him or some other man - who knows little about female nature - to get what they want.

And Happy International Men's Day.

DAramis:
At the bolded, you care to explain further?

Before marrying her, she had been around with some hip hop bad boys. There was a christian convention, I believe, where someone in the audience asked why Megan wore skimpy clothes and her husband defended her by saying something like "She can wear whatever she likes in the name of the lord." (You can search the clip online).

Despite his fondness towards her and being a pastor (who is probably against divorce) he was the one to initiate divorce in a society where their divorce laws are detrimental to men, so he had more to lose. That is, what he would gain by leaving her (peace of mind) is greater than what he might lose in court.

Mr. Major's career was rubbished by a woman despite footage clearly showing him running away from her. He was supposed to be the next big thing with Creed, Marvel movies, etc. and for a time no studio, even his own PR agents, wanted to associate with him. Because of a woman, he was treated like a pariah.
In this kinds of situations there are two types of men:
1. When he comes across a dark aspect of female nature or a life-ruining situation he uses that experience to open his ears and eyes to female nature. He becomes careful and wise.
2. He believes he just picked a woman from a "bad batch" and the next would be entirely different.

Now he's marrying someone whose ex-husband - a pastor - used his own hand to divorce her, in a country that has laws against men in divorce court.

Before DNA test if this man just hinted that he wants to do it his woman would rain down fire and brimstone, whether he doesn't trust her, whether she's a prostitute, etc. There's no manner of shaming and/or insults he won't receive.

It is not love nor wisdom but ignorance and folly to not ascertain with 100% scientific proof that your child is yours.

"My wife will never.." is the fertile soil where paternity fraud is planted and allowed to grow. How will you truly know your wife will never without proof first? Men need to understand that man and woman do not reason the same way.

Men are men because they prioritise logic over emotions. Don't let death leave you ignorant as another man's child inherits your fruits.

CaveAdullam:
Big man.

I'm cool.

I have been more active on Twitter/X.

How are you?
How are work and family?
How's your sweet baby?

Good morning.

Chairman, everything dey alright. I just said lemme hail and check on you, hope you're doing well.

Basiljoe:
Not similar. it just talks about the religious side of hypergamy. How Christianity has become feminized. How patriarchy, religion and hypergamy are intertwined. It's an interesting read.

Sounds interesting. I'll check it out sometime.

Basiljoe:
Yes, I've read everything in the series, I'm yet the finish 'players handbook'.

Is it similar to preventive medicine and as interesting?

Basiljoe:
"As Open Hypergamy becomes more proudly embraced and normalized in society, so too will women’s sexual strategy be laid more bare. And in laying that strategy bare, so too will women’s opportunistic model of love become more apparent to men." - RM

"Open Hypergamy becomes open prostitution, but this relationship becomes an accepted exchange or transaction the more comfortable women get with revealing the crueler nature of their sexual strategy." - Rational Male

Have you read the RM book on religion?

Cave, you're scarce oh. How's everything?

Redacted

LordIsaac:
Even Einstein divorced twice. It's not by IQ, women are a unique set of souls!

Philosophers and other great men of mind most often did not get married e.g. Tesla, Nietzsche, Schopenhauer, etc. And a sizable number of the ones who did got divorced.

Even the ones that are stubborn about seeing female nature get married repeatedly. An example being Bertrand Russell: “For my part I distrust all generalizations about women, favorable and unfavorable, masculine and feminine, ancient and modern; all alike, I should say, result from paucity of experience.”
Well, he definitely committed to his philosophy of learning by experience because he married 4 times, each new wife coming in within a year of divorcing the last one and passing away on his 4th marriage.

Bachelors know more about women than married men; if they didn't they'd be married too.
- H.L. Mencken

luminouz:
The number one feature I noticed is the lack of accountability. A woman would rather die than confess to the truth or say she is guilty. It's like I'm always looking at two people in one body. One who did the shiit..and the other who swore she never did the shiit. Schizophrenia is ultimately much worse on women than men. The ability to be so many people in one body, in a trait I have noticed in women.

Comrade, your observation is exactly on point. But you see that bolded? You'll be surprised how deep it is, like philosophically deep. Otto Weininger wrote about this phenomenon in-depth on women in his Sex & Character (and that book is from a century ago, not talking of the ones from 1000s of years ago by Ancient Greek similar subjects). It's funny how men of today say "You can never understand women." Very funny. If men of old didn't understand them, they wouldn't have handled women the way they did and there wouldn't be any literatures on female nature.

Lemme just post a page about that interesting bolded that Weininger discussed (it's a bit verbose but bear with me).

Flows001:
As in ehh, to marry come dey scare person like this so... Imagine what the husbands of all those women in the tapes would be feeling watching their "lovely" wives whom they've spent several years of their lives loving and providing for; getting used in a disrespectful manner, by someone who doesn't give a f**k about their marital status🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

That's life na. You either learn with foresight or from experience.

luminouz:
I never saw a thread so dry of female comments since I have been using NL. It was as if females no dey NL again.

I remember a particular thread (I can't recall the title) where the poster said he slept with a girl at his place, only to find out she had a serious boyfriend. He was asking if he should notify the bf on what happened.

You should have seen the way every single female on that thread pounced on him. If you've watched that "Why can she slap?!!" indian video where a woman slapped the guy, the guy slapped back and then all the surrounding males jumped him - that's how they were jumping the OP. He was standing on his principle, so he believed he should let the bf know, as he himself would want to know if it were him. That was none of the females' business, morality or principles be damned.

They'll shout "Mind your business!", but let them see a guy with another woman, no be 'mind your business' again.

Hypocrisy is a feature built-in and hardwired into the female psyche by nature. What they lack in physical strength and rationality in contrast to men they make up for with hypocrisy and manipulation - one of the reasons why arguing with them is fruitless endeavour.

Trust women at your own peril.

Flows001:
I agree with op 💯💯

I work in a Corporate organisation. The way my female colleagues fantasise about rich men, one would think that they themselves are broke, the least person in my company still earns 6 digits at the end of the month, asides from other side gigs, yet these ladies would still be shamelessly fantasising about wanting to get connected with wealthy Abuja men. The most annoying part of it all is that all these so called "career and independent" ladies are in serious relationships..

There was a day that one of them met a very rich man, she came and gisted the rest in the office and come and see the way these ladies kept plotting on how to go get their own sugar daddies, they kept dishing out silly advise to the lady who met the "maga", despite the fact that she told them all that the said man is married oo... One even shamelessly said she should ask the man if he has friends who are looking for sugar babies, that she would gladly be one, person wey get serious boyfriend oo, they have been cheating and doing coded hookup, no be say dey broke, but just that they are never satisfied! If you see the way they all hate any DNA discussion ehh, because they know that even marriage cannot tame them into submitting their honey pot only to their husbands, the hustle and quest for wealthy men still continues even in marriage for most them, no wonder paternity fraud is on the increase these days!!

I can NEVER marry a career woman, they are never satisfied nor impressed, the more they have, the much more they would still desire..

They wouldn't think twice to off pant for anyone who they perceive rich or famous!

Ladies in this generation are so shameless

The reality is, women don't like to work.. at all. Hypergamy means they're always dating up so they're taken care of like children. That's why the money of a high-earning woman should never be a consideration for men---it doesn't change women's nature. The high-earning woman would simply wish to live on the money of a higher earning man.
No matter how much they shout "I'm strong & independence!" they are never independent from their nature.

Even Mackenzie Scott, ex-wife of Jeff Bezos and one of the richest women on the planet, married a school teacher and divorced him less than a month later. Female nature is animalistic and ruthless, e no dey look face.

That's why all those middle eastern men don't play with women misbehaviour in their society. The knowledge of what women do when you give them ample freedom is imbued in their culture, so they keep a foot on women's neck to protect the women from themselves.

It's great that this Balthazar thing happened. Let the truth be open for men to see, so at least they'll take Paternity tests seriously. A countless number of them are just raising another man's child in their (willful) ignorance.

Kipaji:
Now that you mention it, I saw almost no female comment. I would say less than 10% of comments were from females.

When they see those women being exposed, by extension of having the same nature, the exposure makes them uncomfortable. Truth be told, it infuriates them (but most of them know better than to openly defend the exposed women - to protect their own reps).

It's kind of like a thief watching a thief get caught (but the thief watching feels themselves justified in what they do, like it's their right, but doesn't openly say so).

HARDESTNIGGAINT:
This baltazar guy just dey bang for any location

i saw a video of him firing a lady frm behind at mid-night or night the sky is very dark and a bright halogen light or whatever light

and a chick drinking his urine inside the toilet

Regarding this Balthazar issue - Women are just naturally depraved. Their function as childbearers and sexual beings means their utmost focus and purpose in life is towards the 'flesh'. That's why men for millenniums force morality on them, to mould them into something better than they naturally are, something better than what they'll turn to when you give them freedom.

There is nothing more outstanding and repulsive like witnessing the dark and sexual side of female nature. That's why they seriously hide their nature, package themselves like angels and hate being exposed (of all the NL threads on this Balthazar, count or recall how many female comments you saw).

Basiljoe:
Lol. No be me talk am o. Na rollo tomassi, from his book "The Rational Male" series.
It's something every man should read.

I know. I copied it from your comment na why I hail you for courtesy.

"Sexuality is a woman’s first, best agency and even the homeliest women know this – even when they’re just complaining about other women using it." - Book 1, RM

"The feminine’s primary agency has always been sexuality and manipulating influence by its means." - Book 1, RM

Quote courtesy: Basiljoe

You know the funny thing? She will only respect you when reject her (read it again).

Women won't openly say it, but deep down they know, a man that will accept her back after doing what she did is a weak man. They know this, but they'll obviously still beg you because of the benefits they'll get from being with you. They savour that weakness in the man for the benefits it grants.

Women will punish you if you forgive them.

That's why I often urge men to understand female nature. When you do, you won't be having contemplations like this.

naijapikin2:
my brother, right before my very eyes she swallowed Poison. Because I dared her. And ignored her. But you have given a deep insight on what to do. She undertakes a journey I move her things. Last time we had a fight she broke my head with a stone. What you've said is true, but she's really suicidal. She's working she has her money, I'm also working I have mine. No kids between us, so it'll be much easier... Hopefully o.

Thanks 🙏🙏🙏

No children? Brother, you're blessed. Many men are enduring something similar or worse and they can't leave because of children. From your comment, it seems you don't repay her acts of violence and she's really capitalizing on that fact. Untimely death is untimely for a reason oh...

Anyhow, I wish you all the best on your battle for peace of mind.

Verydarkhearted:
I was constantly giving this girl money and doing data for her.. the first time we met she walked out on me in the morning just cause of small money in her account . She gets angry anytime I want to scold her. I noticed she only shows love and care and calls me sweet names when she wants something from me. Bro I stopped giving her. She has been begging me for a month now I just give her excuses. She don’t call me sweet names, or express love for me . I told her to move in to my house so I can take full responsibility of her she refused. I’ve left her to think we still dating just so I can be fuvking her anytime I feel like, I’ve started a new relationship with a good woman and I see the difference. This one has never asked me for a dime but rather even helped me pay off some bills without asking for a refund.

The difference between the old girl and new one is the new is sharper. All those bills she's helping with is an investment, and all investors expect ROI.

Women won't do anything that doesn't benefit them.

naijapikin2:
wow... Exactly.. the way you speak, it's as if you know my outgoing wife. Whenever we quarrel I have to buy new clothes, new electronics, buy food again, cos she destroys ALL...in a fit of blinding rage. I have many audio recording of her threats to kill mé,or kill herself and label it on me She once swallowed Poison,and we had to rush her to the hospital,because I started packing her things out she has attempted to slit her wrists, which I collected the knife from her hands.

I don't mind her taking all the property as long as I get my freedom.

My brother wish me well o.

Chairman, this your issue is terrible, but it's not anything new, women have been employing these manipulations and blackmailing since time immemorial for the men they call 'pushovers' in their mind. In fact, to show you all that "suicide" na just gragra next time don't stop her. Don't speak or act just fold hand & watch her with complete indifference. That's when you'll know she, too, like life (if not she would have done it quietly long ago).

The frame you set from the onset of the relationship with her is why she has ginger to do all this. To be honest, it's very likely too late to change frame in her eyes at this point in time - once a woman's disrespect starts it doesn't stop. You might pause it, but you can't stop it. That disrespect show that she has already classified your frame as a "weak man."

As that gentleman has said, arrange those recordings and share them with family and mutual friends so your hands are clean in that aspect. Then stop bringing up topic of divorce with her, it won't change anything and you're just pouring fuel into the fire. Let small time pass so she won't know your arrangements.
When you're ready to act there's several ways to do it. One of the easiest ways for you would be to wait for her to travel then pack every single possession of hers, get a pickup truck and use it to send her load to her people. If that's not possible then rent small storage and put it there then give the key to someone close to her.

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