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luminouz:
Yet you rely on the dude for money?

Jesus...see what simps have turned the world to. Someone with nothing but looks thinks she deserves the world?

I feel like vomiting after reading that post.

*Talks to someone off screen* Barman, give me a bottle of Hennessy to wash this bitter taste off my tongue

Even the looks na makeup, weavon/wig and camera angles (with those unhygienic fake nails that hinders their ability to wash their asses properly).

nkemjacob2 Emu4u2c Feelings79

I won't lie, it took me a second to get that missile comment

"I for one do not do liabilities" she typed as her stomach growled, her fingers trembling as the hunger took effect. She cleared the typos, with each and every erase wondering "Is this guy even worth replying?"

Perhaps. Perhaps not. But she was no lowly riff raff... Prompted by her ego she delved further to be more grandiloquent, but she couldn't shake off the sensations of hunger. The hunger growing stronger she decided "Perhaps not." She hit Send, hissed and stared out the window, taking a moment to ponder her next move.

"These broke guys are something else," she murmured, "I don't blame them. I really don't blame them..." She exited the chat with a mild but persistent disdain. The disgust conceived of his audacity ever-lingering; she continued to herself "I'm the one that's entertaining their nonsense sha, that's why," turning her head back to glare at her cracked phone screen for a few seconds.

With the final fumes of irritation puffed, she scrolled slightly lower with a delicate and flippant flick of her index finger. Then, something caught her attention. A gentle tap on a profile picture, she lazily leaned forward to scrutinize the enlarged image with such an intense focus that would give a prime detective of a mystery novel a run for his money. "Hmm," she thought, one hand stroking the extensions flowing down from her scalp. "Lemme see something..."

She clicked on the profile and began. With her thumb weaving in various directions across the lower half of the screen she suddenly paused as if frozen in time, eyes still glued to the screen. To the observing individual it seemed as if she had just encountered a profound realization. Now filled with some new found self-assurance she slowly pressed the Send icon. She patiently stared at the grey buffer icon spinning besides the text before showing it was sent. She leaned back into her chair confidently. Nodding satisfactorily as she went through the text one more time "This is it" she said. She swiftly stood up and pressed a button at the side of the phone and it made a snappy, firm sound as the screen went black. She slipped her phone in her pocket and wandered off with a small smirk on her face.

Behind a dark screen, within an app laying dormant in the background, a text read "Can you buy me dinner?"

1. Her baby daddy has imprinted on her. As a woman, she is more invested in him as she has his baby but you'll be invested in her going forward:
Baby Daddy < Her < You.

2. Baggage.

3. Her child will ALWAYS have a higher priority than you.

4. You're simply there to provide for the child and herself. You'll know this someday when you try to discipline the child.

Women do not love, but your love has a sedative and blinding effect. Once it clears hope you won't see yourself lying wrapped up on a spider's web.

The John was on a conference call with his wife I assume he lives with, and yours for 2 hours? That is, he was on conference call with two women seemingly gossiping about a church member for almost 2 hours?

In whatever path you take, first and foremost do that DNA Test. You really fumbled confronting her without evidence, now she'll be more careful.

Henceforth don't discuss or even hint at this matter with her again. Act dumb and if possible show loving gestures often, she'll eventually lower her guard so just keep an aloof but watchful eye on her movements.

Again: Please do those tests.

heartofcity12:
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Women would rather share a king than be with a faithful peasant. Hypergamy maximized.

It's almost as if men of old had good reasons for keeping women under lock and key due to their nature...

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Women prattle like children. They talk not because they should but because they can. It's best not to take their babbling seriously.

There are some occupations that will open your eyes to female nature, some being hotel receptionist/worker and divorce attorneys.

Learn female nature and see women for what they are, not what you want them to be, some guys will say "NO!" Now it's "Fear women.."
Is it not normal to fear that which you do not understand?

As for that your neighbour, do for someone what you'd want someone to do for you. If you were in his shoes would you enjoy giving your all to a woman who is busy giving her 'all' (and some of yours) to another man? You may give him evidence but do it anonymously.
Emphasis on 'anonymously' in case his simping has graduated to Masters or PhD, hopefully that would be his own awakening.

I don't even know where to start with this post...

goodconsience77

tommy589:
There is this old wives tales,that the man who shares bedtime most with a pregnant woman most times have the child looking like him

I think the scientific name for that is Microchimerism.

The first thing I would like you to understand is, she didn't come clean because of honesty or guilty conscience. She confessed because circumstances forced her. Remember that whenever she says "Please forgive me." If that circumstance didn't present itself another man's child and babymama would have inherited everything you've worked for when you passed away (on top all the suffering you're suffering for them now).

When some men are urged to understand female nature they yell "Just make money and women will come," and then trap themselves with sunk cost fallacy. It's the (heavy) investments you've made on woman's head that increases the pain of betrayal. A man aware of female nature might have already done DNA test earlier but what has happened has happened, hindsight is 20/20.

As the case stands, her highest priority right now may be emotional manipulation/blackmail (maybe that's why she went to meet the pastor, so he'll join her begging). You said you want to send her away, so she's still living with you? If you forgive her that's when your troubles will TRULY begin.

Several things about that Taiwo Cole/Wofai Fada marriage reminds me of this Tyrese's past marriage.

It may sound negative but I'll be very surprised if that marriage lasts..

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"God I'm blocked again"

Lmfao

Streak47:
Bro the economy has a role to play also. The country is hard. If you've stayed in lower to middle class environs you will see grown up girls from 12 up to 20+ that are dependent on their dad's don't have small money as little as to plait hair, undies, etc..the situation of the country is that bad. If men that were built to face adversities could be complaining about the mess of the economy, how much more women.

Some even meal to eat. Have you observed most girls--midle to lower class complaining of ulcer. How comes? Most have stomach ulcers. Tell me why such kind of girl wouldn't trade money for knacks. And Nigeria men also are taking advantage of the situation, just throw some stash or show your ability to spend and you can get a hit.

The worst ones are even students in tertiary institutions from middle-lower class. You see the girls no food, hunger etc..the daddy's they're dependent on is failing to provide. Some dad can go a month without sending monthly stipend, it is as worst as that o! Then just look at our economy.

I can bet you that 85 percent of the families in Nigeria may not be able to boat of 100K monthly income. The remaining 10 percent are the exceptional middle class that have toiled to get to about 250K to prolly a million monthly income while maybe the rich 4 percent and elite 1 percent.

The village settings is even better. Cause at least, in the village the father is farming to feed the daughters at least hunger isn't a problem. But you see lower and middle class environs, the proliferation of hookup is high! Most of these girls leave their humble beginnings in the villages to go to the cities of a better life, school or trade and garnish it with hookups or several relationships to get cash here and there. Although there are exceptions, but very few.

It is what it is. The situation is really bad. I know girls too want to have fun. But the economy also contributes. So they get to explore their full blown hidden nature as well get money from so doing.

One time a girl I wanted to use for knacks told me she has a bf that is really trying for her. Like he has just become a father role. Setup her business etc..they both run the business together. She doesn't want to cheat. Although, I didn't press further or told her it was Fwb I was looking for. She told me she isn't like most of the Nigeria girls in her circle that have like 30 guys on their contacts and bills everyone like 1K here and there, she is ok. But one will understand she was only ok because she had this other guy doing all the things that was supposed to be the father's responsibility.

Digging further, with my experience, I knew the guy was just taking advantage of the girl as a guise of playing fatherly role. It is that hypocritical!

Moving forward after several months, I guess my guess was correct, because later the babe told me the bf was diagnosed with HIV (when they were planning marriage) and she wouldn't leave him for any reason because of all he had done for her. In my mind I couldn't tell her, but the bf knew all the while he had it, reason he over compensates financially and love bombing. Perfect example of taking advantage of the economic situation in the relationship.

My advice to we men that have the intention to raise a daughter tomorrow: 'Sew your coat according to your size'. If your income can only suffice for the village, go to the village and raise a family that at least you can feed and train a good daughter. If your income is low, don't go to the city or go and put your daughters in schools you can't afford or city lifestyle you can't keep and the daughter is left to the mercy of men in the wild world. Some father's just pay school fees ignoring other needs, like where do you want this girl to get money from. Someone not working yet.

All in all....men have failed in their fatherly roles, the degeneracy we're seeing today, is as a result of men. Men have failed from the family level to institutions. Weak men create hard times.

I see where you're coming from and I do agree with you that men are slacking on a social-wide level, but I can't help thinking that often these statements are shifting blame further from women onto men. Like it's men's "protective instincts" kicking in in verbal form.

Women should either be seen as adults with volition and sound judgment, or as children with who ought to be kept in check and protected from themselves. It can't be both, oscillating between the two is why society is as is right now. Giving the rights and powers of adult, and then the protection and unaccountability of child. Any active attempt to have cake and eat it will always be a recipe for chaos on a micro or macro level.

An argument could be made that the economy is a solid cause for high promiscuity, but we've seen said promiscuity that rivals this in 1st world countries and I'm certain Nigeria is neither poorest nor second poorest nation. Nigeria also statistically has the second highest rate of paternity fraud on the planet, and if you factor this into the argument then economy becomes less of the issue - marrying a well-off man and giving him the child of a financially lesser man is less of an economic thing and more of female nature (dual mating strategy).
It's also not a "modern woman" thing, as those stats are more obvious now because of technologies like social media and DNA tests - only God knows the rates generations ago even when families lived well on farms.

Woman is a sexual being through and through. Her sexuality is naturally unbridled and at the core of her feminity. 1st or 3rd world, basic amenities met or not, women will still open legs if they have the chance to eat and clean mouth discreetly. Getting money with sex is merely a blessing of their sex from their pov.
Say, for example, 7 out of 10 females entered prostitution due to economy.. could you imagine what would happen if 7 of 10 guys picked up laptops for yahoo, guns or other socially-destructive acts due to that very same economy?

Women just prefer the easy path and should be also be held responsible for it. Go through Cave's last thread or even social media in general and see how they sing variations of "Women were not made to suffer," it's their mantra and hypergamy is a hint of this. Heck, look at the comments above on heartofcity's screenshots to see them justifying the world's 'oldest' profession with fantasies.
That's also why I strongly believe there is no such thing as a virtuous woman. Virtue can never be found on the easy paths women and children always prefer to tread.

As for the girl in your comment, please forgive me if it seems like I'm leaping to conclusions because I can only go by what you've mentioned in your comment:
1.) She has 'those' kind of girls in her circle but she's conveniently exempted from the herd?

2.) Her mention of marrying that man because of her gratitude is just talk. She's marrying him for (monetary) benefits (Briffault's Law). If he goes broke today that gratitude will get thrown out the window.

3.) Women are not attracted to "father figure" boyfriends, this is also a theme in Esther Vilar's The Polygamous Sex. That's why when someone starts narrating how they sponsored their girl through school you can already make a good guess how the story ends.

Digging further, with my experience, I knew the guy was just taking advantage of the girl as a guise of playing fatherly role. It is that hypocritical!

4.) That might be the case if she was forced into the relationship against her will, and a relationship where she derived no benefits (this comes back to that adult & child thing I mentioned earlier).

5.) She's moving on with the marriage despite HIV being a very viable reason to cancel it? That is, marrying up for her survival while putting her survival at risk? It's probably best to take women's side of stories with grains of salt. There might be other reasons why she turned you down for sex..

heartofcity12:
Lol 😆

I like how her profile picture is mainly her bumbum.

It perplexes me how shallow a woman's mind can be that her buttocks has more prominence than her facial profile in a picture. That a sentient creature's buttocks, where feces are excreted from, is more of an identity than her own face.

lymelyte:
Na who nor know women dey impress them. Simps will eventually learn the hard way

The other day I was at a lounge having cocktails when I saw two mature old fools fighting to buy a girl and her friend drinks..laff Wan kill me .

Both parties know his worth that's why he ignored her and she "forgave" him instead of getting angry or blocking him

They prattle like children. Once you give them chance by taking what they say seriously they'll take chances.

It's very likely she's seeing someone else. That's how they behave when a man outside is turning their heads. That outside man gives them the confidence of a 'better backup'.
That her statement of "being young.." may be a hint of this, her resentment for you (I'll honestly be surprised if she's not reasoning infidelity) and shows she's still reasoning her options (you should be grateful, not many men get these hints).

If you can patiently and discreetly monitor her calls and chats (maybe with hacking) to gather evidence and end the marriage that would be grand, because a cheating wife can do anything to you..

Also, as someone above stated DNA test is very important. If you can afford it pls do that and if you can't, save. Don't die and have all you've worked for in this life be inherited by a cheat and another man's child. Nobody wants to live and die a mugu.

You do not lend money to women. If you must, hold something of hers as leverage or do charity and dash her completely, because depending on a woman's sense of honour is a road to (very) big disappointment.

As for befriending women for 'true' friendship, refer to Briffault's Law.

Comrade, good to see you're doing okay and sorry for your loss.

NiRfreak:
Since I got exposed to Redpill in 2011...My life and mindset never remained the same in my relationship with women

I always laugh at how it took social media to start exposing the whoring nature of women to men of my generation. Many men even had to marry and SUFFER before they have sense.....It dint take me 2 years after my first sex before realizing women are callous, insensitive and immoral with no conscience...I was 21 when I knew something was wrong with the psyche and love of women I was trying to woo and please..which led me yrs later to found Redpill which answered all the questions I HAVE been asking...now I'm at peace.
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I don't even know why...I usually dont feel pity for those men who fell victim of paternity fraud...cos how can u be so naive...how? In this present godless, sexually depraved and materialistic world?...same men will hype women and their beauty..same men will disrespect their mother cos of one ashewo lady they met 2 months into thire life...No pity..I'm sorry...Men will allow women to control them cos of pvssy they can get with ordinary 5k and househelp/cook of 10k.
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Being a simp is a calamity and disaster....Only a simp will talk about trust and love and woman in one sentence...shebi una no one get sense....
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Have u ever seen even on Nairaland where women strongly criticize paternity fraud? U will never..this is to tell you Most women don't care or see it as anything terrible..lol..thats woman nature including your wife.

...if u like trust that gender...u will only die young and they will inherit your property and start fvvckin ur enemy a week after ur burial, even on the matrimonial bed u left behind

Comrade, you have spoken truthfully.

He alienated himself from his 'royal' family for a woman. Woman who would not do the same for him. During interviews, his wife takes the lead whilst he sits passively with a subtle defeated smile on his face. I remember a clip where his wife was talking about making him stop his hunting hobby while bro just sat there like a kid waiting for his mom to finish talking with her church members so they can go home.

Q. Since I began living with a girl, I've noticed even my longtime friends have gradually stopped calling. Suddenly I've realized that most of "our" friends are really hers.

A. The isolation factor is another weapon used by the predatory female in her conquering of the male. She will, as the relationship progresses, begin cutting off his friends and confidants. She increasingly monopolizes his time. After awhile, his friends don't call anymore. Little by little, she becomes his only companion. This is powerful medicine because when she finally leaves him, he is totally alone. He's not only lost his only companion, but has no one to turn to.
- Rev. Lawrence Shannon, The Predatory Female

hmm

She forgot to write "Caveat Emptor - Toasters Beware."

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SenecaTheYonger:
Imagine a doctor that’s always failing but he keeps using money to sort his way out until h becomes a medical doctor.

If your child was in need of surgery, would you trust such doctor to operate on them?

I’m guessing your answer is no.

The doctor go bribe the child illness so the illness go leave am. The child go dey happy, the doctor go happy, you self go dey happy. Bad news no go knack anybody.

Bahamas95:
We call them FISH BRAINS for a reason, you can never satisfy these bleeding gender no matter how hard you try. Just give them what they deserve, don't try to be a gentleman always.


To earn a woman's respect you must be like a cutlass with both sides. (Blunt and sharp)

Bars.

"He's too perfect" is code for he doesn't reciprocate drama or keep me in check. Everytime I've heard that phrase it's referring to a soft guy. The kind of guy that would apologise for her transgression instead of being stern with her. Women won't say the actual reason for breakup so they won't appear shallow, very few would openly admit that their man is not giving them emotional stimulation via drama.

Women prioritize drama over peace. If the relationship is too peaceful she'll use her hands and (subconsciously) stir chaos to keep things lively.
Funny enough, if Kaka had caught her cheating she wouldn't use that "He's too perfect" because that would paint her as shallow in that scenario (and place the blame solely on her). So she'll likely use the ol' reliable "You were not giving me attention.."

hmm

CaveAdullam:
Dizzyyish, hope you've heard it.

"Lemme gan download Kolomental by Faze".

At least people will misconstrue my craziness for dance of king David.

Oh, my lawd.

God abeg oh. Make people no talk "redpill don finally make this one mad o." Martinez39s, you don dey lace our colos with cobra venom?

Madness and this economy na double trouble, so before you kolo fully just keep my easter rice and juice first.