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Women and wahala:

https://www.nairaland.com/7753241/dissection-women-wahala

Show him this thread:

https://www.nairaland.com/7753241/dissection-women-wahala

Interim.

Hmm

Marriage is also a concept of man, created to further maintain order in society. Marriage works for man evolved, but unfortunately, not for female nature, and from a survival perspective, what good would it do for the weaker female? (It should also be noted that, as the weaker sex, the female's survival instinct is always active even with security/stability).
Women are quite willing to engage in this legal and holy union for the stability it brings. But while the legality and holiness of matrimony can suppress female nature to an extent, it does not quell the primal yearnings and chaos of it; so of course, a female strategy would be implemented (when given the chance).

Women can either see men as provider or sexual attractant - two mutually exclusive entities, or as Esther Vilar would put it; Father-substitute and Sexual partner (this also ties-in to the Dual mating strategy).
This is also why man and woman cannot truly be friends like man with his fellow men. She will either perceive him as Provider (providing money, favors and/or [free] attention) or Sexual Attractant (friends with benefits). Where the male cannot be perceived as either the "friendship" cannot exist.

Women are the gatekeepers of sex, and when a man sleeps with a woman he has, in a sense, defeated her; Men are the gatekeepers of commitment, and when a woman gets a man's commitment, or make him fall in love, she has defeated him.
The difference is that, while the man can still feel the virtue of love for a defeated woman; woman lacks this virtue, and consequently will begin losing attraction for the defeated man.
(Ephesians chapter 5 states "Men love your wives; Women respect your husbands" - It doesn't state that both parties should 'love' each other. In fact, it is never stated anywhere in the bible that women should love men because, as Lawrence Shannon would put it, It's a biblical principle that God doesn't ask from individuals that which they DO NOT HAVE the means to accomplish).

Because marriage or commitment to a single female is not a signal of a 'cold' strong male in nature the female can only perceive him as a Father-substitute to protect and provide for her and not a Sexual partner to sexually arouse her. This quickly transitions to the stage where she can only have sex with her father-substitute out of necessity, not sexual arousal.
This is also the foundation for the extremely common and infamous complaints of married men and their greatly diminished sex-life amongst other things... something I do find funny is when women and some men use the rhetoric along the lines of "If you're looking for sex just marry, you'll have sex till you're tired/Na you go f*ck tire..."

Now that the 'provider' half of her strategy has been satisfied with 'security', she can now covertly seek the other half outside (given she's not held back by circumstances). This is understandably a disgraceful thought and a bitter pill for both married men and single men enthusiastic about marriage.
It is a somewhat known fact that with many married women, bedding them is not exactly a challenge. Some of the most intense "green lights" given to single men are from married women.

(In line with this is a previously sexually active woman suddenly "disliking/hating" sex or losing interest in it - this is simply a sign that the male has been given the short stick of her strategy. Not excluded from this are non-virgins saying they don't want to have sex till marriage).

It is a bit unfortunate that many men only find out about the numerous problems of marriage and female nature the hard way, too late (several years into marriage with a few kids), with some daydreaming of vanishing into the night, while the more practical ones plan an exit strategy once the kids get older.
To show that women are quite intentional, fully aware of what they're doing and are only kept in check by circumstances, some married women will start acting a bit more 'sensibly' when their children mature, because now there's little holding the man back from leaving.

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Praxis758:
Any woman I will marry must have the spirit of self control, else, I’ll use my decorum to avoid her running mouth like cancer.

Can’t just beat the garrulous nature of some women, especially those addicted to social media.

I pray marry a wife like my mum who rarely talk.

A quiet man living with a nagging wife is like an old man climbing up a sandy hill
- Sirach (Ecclesiasticus) 25:20

For man to create, he needed to evolve. With his strength and logic he created civilizations but to build and maintain societies he needed to evolve even further.With logos, he created concepts to uphold the society he had built and to separate himself from beast. These concepts exclusive to man were morals, virtues, integrity, honor, principles and justice.
Woman, not expected to build or maintain but to be protected and provided for like offsprings, had and has no reason nor incentive to evolve. And so, she is devoid of the concepts born of man. Consequently, the lack of necessity to evolve and her disinclination to do so prevents her from reaching a higher plane of existence - This simply means women did not evolve to be decent or good people, hence a strong reliance on their 'nature' as they follow their instincts, biological impulses and primal urges almost like animals.

Man's concept do not apply to the beings of nature---animals---because it will only hinder them. If a 'predator' sees 'prey' but takes a moment to ponder the moral implications of killing it, by the time it's done contemplating the prey is far gone. To be efficient as possible, whether to kill prey or escape predator, the animal needs to be 'amoral' and 'completely rely' on its nature.

Man---flawed but with 'concepts'---stands between God and beast whilst leaning towards God; Woman---flawed with no true grasp of 'concepts'---stands between man and beasts whilst leaning towards beast.

Like a beast, woman in her amorality acts on instinct, and because such instinctual actions are typically frowned upon in society she then 'emulates' logic to rationalize said actions. For instance, the female animal, when given the option, will always prioritise mating with a male with good genetics (to pass off to her offsprings) --- mating with these males numerously (promiscuity) or while in a relationship (infidelity or paternity fraud).
These acts of 'promiscuity' and 'infidelity' are not judged in the wild but goes against man's concepts in society, so she then attempts to temporarily lean towards man and exploit logic. She may claim to have been raped or taken advantage of, make her spouse 'responsible' for 'her actions' ("He's not giving me attention" ), regress to a child unaware of its actions e.g. "I don't know what came over me.." or "I don't know, one thing just lead to another..", or claim it was a mistake (which she will [instinctively] repeat).

"No men who really think deeply about women retain a high opinion of them; men either despise women or they have never thought seriously about them."
- Otto Weininger

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MrPOTUS:
[Stop this rubbish bro, stop crushing on these bitches.

Take link, follow the topic, learn game

https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know


The thread is long though, but u can start from beginning of u have time and see how your mentality will transform and your game will improve.

Person wey them dey advice still dey talk 'crush'

The chaos of female nature is a universal 'constant' throughout space and time. Irrespective of the civilization/society or era of human history, the troubles and chaos of female nature is always present.
'Modern women' appear to be the worst generation simply because of modern technologies with access to information like the Internet, social media and portable devices that can record audio/video e.g. Smartphones. If older generations of women were young again and brought into present times will they be any different? Their 'decent' behavior was not by choice but circumstance. Middle eastern or Islamic women appear well behaved compared to Western women not because they're 'different' but because their men are different.

This is not recent phenomena at all, as it was with how old Nordic, Arabian, ancient Japanese and Chinese men judged the antics of women and kept them in check, as also with a book in the bible---written over 2000 years ago---stating (Ecclesiasticus 25:13 & 19): No wound is as serious as wounded love. No troubles are as serious as the troubles that women cause. Compared with the troubles caused by a woman, any other trouble looks small. May such women suffer the fate of sinners.
It goes even further back in recorded history, with philosophers of ancient Greece such as Aristotle stating: "Wherefore women are more compassionate and more readily made to weep, more jealous and querulous, fonder of railing, and more contentious. The female also is more subject to depression of spirits and despair than the male. She is also more shameless and false, more readily deceived, and more mindful of injury, more watchful, more idle, and on the whole less excitable than the male. On the contrary, the male is more ready to help, and, as it has been said, braver than the female; and even in malaria, if the sepia is struck with a trident, the male comes to help the female, but the female makes her escape if the male is struck."

Similar to the misconception of previous female generations being better (by choice) is the common misconception of many men taking a woman's inaction as a 'virtue'. Because woman A doesn't engage in vices like woman B (at least not openly) she is clearly virtuous. They believe woman A's inability or fear of tainting her reputation (being shamed/judged and reducing her chances of acquiring a lifelong provider) is from her choice.
This misconception not only leads to equating quietness for goodness or purity but also to the well known rhetoric of a woman being 'good' because she frequents a church or is (overtly) religious.

If completely left to their own devices, women will not be good or decent people, rather they will openly prioritize their primal instincts over morality or integrity. They only behave/act like decent human beings when they have no choice but to appear decent i.e. due to circumstances and not principles or a sense of judgement.
It has been proven that every instance of a strong matriarchy in history (a social system where women have power/authority over the people) is always present in a morally declining society.

Like women's Dual Mating Strategy - where the female conceives for a male she deems higher or alpha (that she's actually attracted to) and then has a male she deems lower or beta provide for her and her spawn. Essentially, born for the bad boy (Alpha animal) and deceptively give the child to a nice man (Beta animal). How can this strategy, as well as the other amoral strategies of women, (openly) work in well-functioning society without inciting chaos?
Men of old were not dumb. They were well aware of the dangers of female nature to men, women themselves, and ultimately society. The patriarchy was not created by a cabal of women-haters but by men of sound and stoic minds who demanded order in society.

MetalJigsaw:
You get luck...

If to say I see you 1on 1 I go press your neck till you die idiot.

Something u no fit do for our fellow guy.

All because of one elastic toto

Guy...

Very valid points.

https://www.nairaland.com/7166252/wahala-chaos-female-nature

Hm

Y'all don't ignore trolls/detractors anymore?

Truth is, weak people can't love. They may believe they can but it's simply not in their nature.

Runnerzz:
This doesn't sound right how/why will ur father want to kill u? How matter take cast? How do u even know ur dad actually wants or wanted u dead? Ur a man and I don't really know the full story but a time will come in ur life u will understand the sacrifices ur dad made for u before everything went south. But this ur story no add up sha.

Exactly wetin I reason. Does he actually remember those experiences or did someone tell him those things from small?
Ex-wifes and baby mamas have an infamous tendency to antagonise the child's father..

OP, pls read this thread (also, you should probably add paragraphs to your comment so it's a bit more readable):

https://www.nairaland.com/7166252/wahala-chaos-female-nature

The silver lining is that the money you gave is the fee you paid for learning the deceptive, exploitative & entitled aspects of female nature.

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OP: https://www.nairaland.com/7166252/wahala-chaos-female-nature#113575657

heartofcity12:
Some men must have been tricked and played like this. 🤦‍♂️

Many of these guys, if one were to give them redpill or try to reveal female nature to them they'll rebuke that person and his words without, at least, entertaining the thought of said words - now these are the results. Ignorance is not bliss, especially in the long run.

"A man with a child-wife knows that something is not quite as it should be, but he can't quite put his finger on it. He somehow feels though he has no right to perform the act of love with her, as though it were an imposition he ought to spare her. Still, he finds himself doing this 'improper' thing to her, but always with a guilty conscience! He also can't shake off the feeling that she is somehow doing him a big favor every time she puts up with it, and that he can never do enough, soon enough, to show his appreciation."
- Esther Vilar, 1976

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Mimicle101:
Yes...

I dey hail

Almiron Phargbemmy obaidan

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I'd strongly advice against that arrangement.

Women don't do things out of the goodness of their hearts. She has a reason/ulterior motive for what she's about to do..

I'd personally advise against having something serious with a woman older than you, but that one is up to you.

Mimicle101