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Hhh4444:
I wonder why most African men don’t want to come to this reality. All women are the same, there is no unicorn out there.

Once the sweet taste of an illusion has been had, fighting it with reason becomes an uphill battle.

ollyboy900:
All hail the prof. (Dizzyyish), professor of women behavioral pattern studies.
This is a very interesting read bro, only men who have see women shege would understand the hidden knowledge in this write ups. Permit me to archive this for the future.

Abeg where be your location bro? Make i send you one bush meat make you take do pepper soup.

Comrade, archive to your heart's content. If we aren't pulling each other up here and there then what are we even doing?

If you get any brother man that you suspect isn't doing too well, knack am that bush meat on my behalf, brother. I'm sure you'll make his day.

ObaKlaz:
It irks me, not because it's flawed grammatically, but because I can predict with 90% accuracy that it's a Nigerian behind the keyboard whenever I see it on the internet. It's like a sure marker for me to spot a Nigerian!

"I don't eat beans late in the night, reason being that it gives me heart burn."

I don't get why Nigerians love to overuse that phrase!

Why not just use because ?!
That's crispier!

Okay, I see.

Well personally, between "because" and "the reason being that" I often don't like using the former, with the reason being that the latter is more compatible with the Nigerian in me.

ObaKlaz:
It isn't AI. He structured/paragraphed his writing well.

But then... His writing is still riddled with blunders here and there.
For instance, he used "...faithful day", instead of "fateful day".
And one of the grammatical expressions that I loathe so much 👉🏽 "reason being that..."

You see those two blunders? They are very typical of NIGERIANS - AI couldn't have made them.

If you don't mind indulging me, why does the second blunder irk you so?

@ollyboy900

https://www.nairaland.com/7166252/wahala-chaos-female-nature#113575657

https://www.nairaland.com/7753241/wahala-chaos-female-nature-volume#124237781

Bump

isyourboy:
Exactly! Real! Because omg imagine a man claiming he will beat his woman cuz her food isn’t good enough omg. I can’t even breath omg I’m literally shaking rn like omg like literally omg 😦

Guuuuy! Of all the comments here, your own just dey scatter my head.

Lwkmd

Nyascobar1414:
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Yea,they keep coming close ,but there is no lust left in my heart..
I look at them and see nothing worth liking 😔.

I snub them a lot and that intrigues them,cos throughout their whole lives all men they've come across simp for them..

I've figured out that if a man can identify/control the steam of his gonads,then he automatically conquers female manipulation ✌️

I see you've been sighting these predatory females lol. Women are more intrigued and receptive when you ignore them. When you're stern, really assertive and basically treat them like shit stuck underneath your shoe they get attracted. If I didn't understand female nature I'd be asking myself "Why do women, beings capable of self-respect and respect of all else outside of self, naturally gravitate towards such treatment?"

(In nature) the sexes have a natural way of viewing one another. Women perceive men highly - they're the strong active sex, pioneers and shapers of the world; men perceive women lowly - they're designed solely for procreation and pretty much the opposite of the listed. But society, over time, began to slowly and steadily flipped this dynamic---these perceptions. Now, the king worships the serf, and the serf cleans their feet on the king. How lovely.

It's when I stopped suppressing my disgust of their nature and stopped caring about them that they started relating with me well. Funny how that works.. it's when you don't have their time they have time for you.

Society would shout "Misogynist!! Woman-hater!! Sexist!!" - not for substantial reason, but to shame you into compliancy and maintain the status quo of the flipped dynamic. But look around. Look at the guys who change women like cloth, the guys women cheat with, the guys they choose and are fascinated by. These dudes - by what they say, joke about, how they act - would be the walking, talking definitions of misogynist, but women still follow like bees on nectar.

If a girl likes you, nothing---and I mean nothing---you say or do would seem misogynistic to her, showing that it's men who actually carry it on their head like Gala and LaCasera.

"No men who really think deeply about women retain a high opinion of them; men either despise women or they have never thought seriously about them."
- Otto Weininger

SpencerForbes:
Woman shares how she rebuked her husband for wanting to join her and her daughter on a lunch date with her babydaddy.

While single mom is a no no

"Some of y'all step into blended families and expect to erase history."

Never start your family with another man's family. Love, like every other emotion, will fade; what will remain is the position you've put yourself into.

Funny enough, from dating up to monkey-branching, all the guy did was employ female dating strategy.

Don't Let Your girlfriend Stop You From Finding Your Wife - HerEx ft. 2Baba

BlessedGift:
Nigerian billionaire businessman, Femi Otedola, has opened up about a fascinating chapter in his business journey, revealing how banks once sent “bewitching ladies” to court his favor when his empire was thriving.

In excerpts from his soon-to-be-released memoir, Making It Big: Lessons from a Life in Business — scheduled for release on August 18, 2025 — Otedola recounts how financial institutions went to extraordinary lengths to secure his deposits and offer him loans at the height of his success.

“One moment, I was the darling of the banks, who did everything in the world to court me, do business with me, give me loans, take deposits from me,” he wrote. “They would send bewitching ladies to make their offers more convincing…”

"Everything that deceives may be said to enchant."
- Plato

nifemi25:
Why telling us your salary? Either you earn 1 billion dollars or naira, something is certain... Water doesn't understand money language and it can take anyone's life at any time .

To be on the safer side just go for swimming training to learn how to swim and make sure you put on your safety jacket anytime you are at work...

*Falls inside water*

"Please don't drown me, I'll pay you!"

Water: ......

Water: ..."I'm listening..."

"So... what's your spec?"

"Conjoined twins."

"What a misfortune to be a woman! And yet, the worst misfortune is not to understand what a misfortune it is.
Politeness is pleasing – essentially – to woman, and the fact that she accepts it without hesitation is explained by nature’s care for the weaker, for the unfavoured being, and for one to whom an illusion means more than a material compensation. But this illusion, precisely, is fatal to her ... To feel oneself freed from distress thanks to something imaginary, to be the dupe of something imaginary, is that not a still deeper mockery? ... Woman is very far from being verwahrlost (neglected), but in another sense she is, since she can never free herself from the illusion that nature has used to console her."
- Søren Kierkegaard

I just went through a thread from a few days ago about saving a mother's life during a delivery over the child. That's the gist of the thread. For those who haven't read it:
https://www.nairaland.com/8485590/anything-goes-wrong-during-labor

Whilst reading, it wasn't the subject matter that I found interesting, but rather the replies from guys on the thread. The female in question had stated that in the event of some complication during childbirth her life should be prioritised over the child - and there was an overwhelming verdict that she was right. She's technically right though, but you see that's what's interesting about it...

Did her statement sound logical? Yes, it did. Rather, to be precise, her statement coincides with logic. What's interesting is the (supposed) oversight on the part of the male commenters. There was no mistake in trying to ascertain the logic in what was said, but the issue is that they didn't deem it necessary to go further and ask themselves "Where is this statement coming from exactly?"

Woman is inherently selfish, thus solipsistic. She can have no true/sincere input without a motive, and if there is no motive it's because it doesn't appeal to her, and if it doesn't appeal to her then it doesn't concern her to begin with. Woman does not do anything that doesn't benefit her in some shape or form. She sees only self and cannot fixate her sight on what is past self. As a consequence, woman is anti-logical as logic demands an objective view upon what is outside of oneself first and foremost.

When whatever comes out of a woman's mouth coincides with logic it's actually just a Trojan horse of selfishness (though they don't see it that way). It looks like the gift of logic and sound reasoning on the outside, and on the surface that's good enough. You let them wheel this horse past the walls of your city---into your mind, and then, it is not until the dark of night---in hindsight---do you see a small battalion of soldiers quietly springing forth from within the horse to slit the throats of their enemies in their sleep does it then become apparent that this "gift" had always been self-serving; that this gift was not an ends itself - but, as always, a means to an end.
This is how women use a man's logic against him and turn him into a tool to serve her wants and whims.

It's no different from how women say they want a really sweet, caring guy, who is nice and respects them. Though they speak from feelings of the moment, it does sound logical to men. Why wouldn't they want a nice guy who respects them? Why would a man listen to woman if what she said didn't, at first, sound logical?
So you listen and don't think to look beneath the surface... Until you start seeing a disconnect between what you've been told and what you're seeing. If you then decide to apply wisdom by disregarding what women say and start doing what actually works you'll see an even bigger disconnect. You'll start, for instance, noticing that their natural craving for drama and emotional stimulation is not even compatible with that respect which they claim to want.
Because at the kernel of their words and "logic"---in making you a beta/simp, in this example---is something tailored solely for their benefit.

The child, like woman, is neither logical nor rational; hence, when presented with a statement that seems built on logic, one ought to always ask themselves "What are they peddling (to me)?" If you ask yourself this question in truth, and deduce their angle/pov in the matter, then, you'll be surpised on how you'll begin to see the feelings and self-serving prompts in their "logic".

Look deeply upon any woman or at the below picture even. Does this look like a creature of truth, capable of logic and of magnanimity?

chukshobayo:
Care to explain please.

I think it has to do with discipline. In a world filled with junk and processed food, you'll need discipline not only to discern what you consume but also in maintaining that healthy lifestyle.

Discipline (or lack thereof) will seep into other aspects of your life. The lack of discipline (in one aspect of your life) is like a virus; you could eat healthy, exercise, meditate, etc., but the virus will keep jabbing at your immune system making you feel ill - but dealing with it will make you feel great overall. When you're disciplined in one part (in this case: how you eat) it's may be easier to see and discipline other parts (sex/lust). If one part is severely lacking then, eventually, the health of the whole "body" will be jeopardized.

Reckless sugar consumption (or eating foods with fast sugar release, I forgot the term) can cause sugar levels to spike and drop quickly, which in turn causes alternating moods like depression. Depression, too, can be discouraging to maintain or start being disciplined.

That's my take sha.

advanceDNA:
Lol.....

All Women are weak according to you...but it's the bad one that corrupts the good women?? Why can't the good on influence the heart of the bad ones since they are all weak...

See...what u deliberately ignore is that bad behavior is attractive and fun.... Its not about being weak
.........pple just chose to surrender to the lust of their heart even when they know the consequences.u think a lady dating a yahoo boy doesn't know the risks....but he desire for her lust outweighs are discipline level...

...it happens to men and women....once u don't have not built your discipline and standards (moral and ethics)..... u will fall for anything and keep blaming others for deceiving you...

Na men like you go dey harass your babe side nigga that it's not her fault but the guy disturbing her...

As women dodge accountability so do many men (unintentionally) help them in dodging it. Coincidentally, women often bank on this tendency to help them.

Smartb0y:
Instinctively men value their peace of mind because that's how we function properly in order to grow and progress.
However in this modern times,men have been programmed to seek self destruction by associating with women without having any idea what havoc they're capable of creating.

Understanding the truth about women greatly restricts associating with them. Ideals like marriage would become non-existent.

Ironically, understanding women's nature might put a man in a narcissistic state although in the true sense, it's just a form of protecting one's mind from the chaotic nature of females.

To the weak man,the burden of understanding a woman is too great as it goes against all the principles that has been programmed in him from childhood.
He'd rather love them and continue the fantasy that he's not on a sinking ship which inevitable will lead to his demise if he doesn't keep himself in check.

Learn or perish

On the third paragraph, I remember recently reading something on psychology that stated narcissism could be used as a sort of protective shell (or what may appear as narcissism to some) - your intuition is on point. There's a particular quote by Rollo along the lines of:
"Women are realists pretending to be romantic; men are romantics pretending to be realists."

The weak doesn't always stop at the refusal to learn female nature, but in learning about it he'll skip or rationalize the parts that upsets his investment of self in the idea of woman, not dissimilar to how women are only comfortable with being told aspects of their nature that is flattering to them - it is subjective; a feminine type of reasoning, to shun parts of the reality of woman not sweet to them.

As a consequence, they blur the lines between the sexes to approximate both, and fail to see woman objectively. That way, the idea of 'that' woman for him is preserved. The programming creates an innate and often inexplicable dependence on women; the sweet feelings that a woman's feminity stirs in him is tied to his ego, and that ego will often arise to defend them.

The typical (shaming) defences for this dependence may range from: hating women, to an inability to sleep with women, to being an ascetic or some other strawman - but behind these is still (idealistic) romanticism under the guise of realism or logic.

All in all, it's just to see things as they are and leave others to their own perceptions lol.
"Dans un couple, il y en a toujours un qui souffre et un qui s'ennuie" meaning:

"In a couple, there's always one who suffers and one who's bored."

It's quite easy to morally posture or give platitudes, this I know, but reality is something else.

Learn or perish.

Huh..

"A man who has conquered his lust has conquered half his problems in this world."
- Anonymous

"Do not let yourself be guided by the feeling of lust or love."
- Miyamoto Musashi

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dkidd:
That witch who exposed his weaknesses so his opponent can take advantage of the information and win? But God still disgrace her last last

Samson and Delilah if Delilah's plans failed.

I'm not certain but those texts don't seem like they were written by a 10 year old...

Anyway, always remember that women's three means of attack are gossip, innuendo and reputation destruction.

Now check the hymen of the mouth and anus.

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Jacktheripper:
Alphaest male. 🙌

But your draconian rule na die oo.

Draconian? Brother, this is how it ought to be. A woman's "love" is nothing; the discipline (or lack thereof) from you is what will determine how she'll behave. The adult-child dynamic is almost identical to the man-woman dynamic.

If you give them leeway they'll turn you to a prayer mat to which they'll trample on, and when they've finished praying to the alphas they'll roll you up and dump you in the corner (for future use).

Ybigp5

When you guys had sex in January who brought up the idea of going raw, you or her?

Nonexisting1:
And she suddenly woke up and decided to go greet his mother. As daughter in law or as what? Trust this gender at your peril. He was toxic but she went to greet his mother and ran into him by "accident" and probably hanged out with him forever on that day. Women witches know each other and the other witch wouldn't have acted aggressively the way she did if she didn't feel the vibe of what was coming to play.

A woman's spec always remains her spec. It never changes, and you can know her spec from her dating (or fcking) history. If a woman says you're a sweet guy compared to her exes, just know you're in trouble.

When a woman wants to move, everything around her becomes fuel for plausible deniability, so if the outcome of the movement doesn't make sense for her she can rationalize to herself and deceive others that her intent was something else.

Phoenix990:
Eget one wey de ghost me every 2 weeks if she notice say I no de chase her she go come back still ghost me again

That's not psycho behavior, it's the behavior a woman would show when she doesn't rate you. She's using you for validation and ego-boost, when you start drifting out of her orbit she'll reach out to pull you back.