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kiddaz:
It's funny but not funny. I always love to help and be there for people but then they start thinking they're using me not knowing I just naturally have a very large heart. I know a guy who used to be one of the best at the services he offered in that ajah axis. Somewhere along the line he fell off. Left for mainland and then to Ghana. Went missing for about a year+

Sometime this year I reached out to him on FB and it took a while before he could return my message. He told me of all his troubles and all. We all have our share of it but then he begged me for help to get back to Nigeria and I also saw the benefits of it because he was losing where he was. So I sent him the fare. And he called me when he was in Lagos. I know he was actually in Ghana because I confirmed it. Now he has to work and I know some people. He now works and has free accomodation in somewhere in VI. I know how things be so I dey always send am upkeep funds until he gets paid he hasn't worked up to a full month now so I'm still the one sending funds.

Like some days back I was on a project online with others working on a project and I am not even in Lagos right now. His calls were distracting me. If I dey resolve things online I always dedicate my focus 100% make I no go miss any line. After I missed his call I got a WhatsApp message claiming to be a doctor and that my brother (this guy I'm helping) was rushed down and he's sick. My mind first go "format" but I chose not to believe. I later called and he explained what happened and still tear me bill join. Na me carry am enter naija back so I dey beat everything until he starts getting his salary so I just overlook and asked him what he needed. I sent it to him to buy the drugs.

Today my instincts just told me to check on him again and I did. This guy came with another billing oh telling me he's dependent on some drugs. For his health. One time he fell really ill I think kidney issues and he was lucky to survive so that was what he used to cover up his new story. But what he forgot was that this doctor and the previous one where he was admitted are different or rather supposed to be different doctors. Cos he was taken to his parents house then on the mainland. When the guy just dey narrate the situation I felt so heartbroken, like why lie? I dey update you regularly even when you do nothing for me, I carry you as my own and then this is what I get?

To add insult he told me the funds I sent him was used to buy Aspirin for strength and na that one weak me pass. Aspirin for strength? Lol he was literally crying before I sent that funds and me even dey low on cash rn cos I'm working on something that I put money on yet this guy no appreciate am. How can you tell me the doctor discharged you and prescribed drugs for you only for you to buy Aspirin? Aspirin when no reach or pass 5k per pack and today you are talking about the drugs you have been dependent on that the doctor told you to get again to continue else you fall back sick. Omoor. Na young guy when I just dey try encourage for hustle but it seems like he has other plans. Like this I done hands up but after listening to him I just told him okay.

To help people no bad but some people will make you take certain decisions that will make you seem wicked to others. It's just terrible. Lol Aspirin for strength. I done see something sha 🤣

Ernerstdavid55:
WizKid fc right now smh

OverCalculating:
My contribution and impact...? Why don't you let us start from yours?

I am not a "Mr Perfect Man"...I am a lady.

How does that make you feel?

Double0h7:
So you work full time and she works full time and you call doing the chores at home “helping her”
You are not helping her, you are being an adult and keeping your environment clean and safe.
You need to do better. Your woman has is pregnant, working, and expected to come home and work some more. Downplaying her job doesn’t help your argument. I feel sorry for her.

pocohantas:
Nigerian men love sex so much, but hate the women that indulge in it with them.

Now their problem is sextoy.
From a set that say all women offer is sex.

Mtcheeeeew

DEROX:
I dont really like this man abeg Atiku for life

Mariangeles:
How nice of you, omooba.

Someone already promised me.
Thank you.

givedemwotowoto:
Obi Kwankwaso combo is bigger than Atiku, and arguably bigger than Tinubu because over 60% of Tinubu's votes were from Buhari.

eepeepook:
Maybe he was a woman in his past life. Kobojunkie can relate.

OloriDesire:
You have no jobs and you have these powerful laptops?

Who you dey lie give?

Oya continue with whatever fetched you the money to acquire those engines.

Nairaland and fake lives.

bukatyne:
I will not die but live to declare God's glory in the land of the living.

And if you don't like that, you will go in my stead.

OverCalculating:
Mr Loud! I understand you clearly. We know your type. Na better man you be! You are a STRONG MAN in deed, but I didn't expect you to be LOUD about it.

On another note, next time, write: "This psychological projection of yours will not..." instead of what you wrote up there. Why? It is wrong to use a demonstrative pronoun (This/These) beside a possessive pronoun in a sentence.

May God bless Nigeria 🙏

SafariHunter:
Sad
A widow ....

Watch how men will not wait for the

YoungDaNaval:
Let me make it clear that I didn't ask Bournemouth to make it easy for me oh! But since it's the will of God, who am I to say no?

demoBaba:
Goallllllllll

Python25to30:
You wan implicate yourself because of $400.

iamfraud:
DMCA
I’m reporting from Delhi

Fishermen:
the post is about Gumi but you mentioned Obidients .
God bless Donald Trump
God bless Tinubu
God bless City Boy Movement
God bless me too

fredoooooo:
Thats a proper yoruba accent

QuinQQ:
Of course. I mean, she went to SECONDARY SCHOOL in Nigeria!

bukatyne:
More thoughts on Hypergamy:

Marriage to a man in your tax bracket or higher eliminates some of the stress in marriage. Like it is said, a man will always drag a woman to his level; that drag might be upwards or downwards.

I am sure we have all heard stories where the wife wants to subsidise rent, school fees, food and other things (where the husband believes his manhood is tied to sole provision) and it causes a fight? The wife can afford a 3 bedroom flat; Odiegwu wants them to stay in one room so that people will not say it is his wife that is housing him. Visiting a man in one room as a lady living in 3 bed for a weekend might be a kink; moving into a one bedroom after marriage is horror. And any other lifestyle downgrade.

A colleague from service year (male) used to chuckle when I spoke about love. He said ' a rich man hates you but he gets a maid for you, buys a car for you, doesn't require you to do some chores' aka makes your life easy.

Some guys here on NL say washing machine is for lazy women. Imagine a woman above a certain tax bracket marrying such. Whilst her company expects her to use her time well for more meaningful tasks (there is a reason organizations provide certain welfare packages at certain levels), she is washing clothes by hand because her horseband thinks washing machines and blenders are lazy in 2026.

Interestingly, a woman wants to pull a man up so she is handing over contracts to him, giving him the car to drive, changing his wardrobe and packaging him as the 'man'.

Imagine a richer man wants to get a car or a cook or a bigger house or a washing man and the lower income wife says 'it is too small' or stops the purchase.

Until the dynamics of marriage changes, a woman who doesn't want to spend her life shalaying, massaging egos, or reducing herself to accommodate a man should better marry her tax bracket and higher.

God forbid she adds the stress of marrying below her tax bracket to the stress of marrying a man.

And if they are both poor, he has the capacity for growth so that when they/she blows, he is not insisting on grinding stone pepper.

cococandy:
Adult men should be with women who are unambiguously grown. Anything other than that is simply weird. You’re absolutely correct.

When a man has to defend himself by saying they technically adults because the legal age is 18, it’s gives the impression that legality is the only thing stopping him.

We wouldn’t vote an 18 year old into the lowest office possible, we wouldn’t enter into business arrangements with them. We wouldn’t go into serious lifelong agreements with them. Why is sex and marriage the exception?

Just masking perversion with legal mumbo jumbo

osuofia2:
Jihadists have no place in modern society, say no to Sharia.