₦airaland Forum

Holaomoakin:
Shai, I hope this is not a new love avenue!

My Dear Brother, your mind needs cleansing by the Blood of Jesus so you can think of things that are pure.

Awesome01:
Same here bros. If you like follow your spouse around like a bodyguard, person wey go cheat go cheat. Toto and kondo no get meter.

Having an opposite sex friend is not a yardstick for cheating. Many saying No no no here thinks by not allowing your spouse have opposite sex friends guarantees they will stay faithful?

What if your spouse is bisexual and you didn't know? Means same sex friends too are not allowed?

Abegi!!! Know yourself and know + trust your spouse, and expect same. Like someone said earlier everyone that is in a committed relationship must maintain a boundary with all his friends, colleagues, religious members, families etc.

Life is too short to me to get hypertension because of woman o.

Thank you! And that's the point. Your last statement summarizes it all.

paparazi1:
Oga you sure say you no de do like that with the nurse at the back of your wife.

She's more of a blood sister to me now than a would be lover, and I can't bleep my sister.

justsaypeter001:
Oga, are you sure something is not already going on between you and that Nurse. I wouldn't have said this, but when you said she was somebody you should have married in the past. That calls for concern o.

The truth is that, that previledge can be abused by either party. So, I will say NO. I will never allow my wife to have bestie of opposite sex and I won't have too. Shikenaa

Nothing is going on between me and her, and nothing will. She's taken me like her own brother and that is a trust I must protect by all means. I said I intended to marry her. We didn't actually get to date at all as she turned down my advances. She too is married now with a kid.

Slimsly100:
Bros make I ask again
ARE YOU FOR REALLLLLLL

And let me answer again. Yes I Am. This life is simplier than me been worried about someone cheating behind my back.

Keji1012:
U are never a marlian

And I'll never be.

Kenstufez:
Male colleagues lol, be saving money for DNA test okay because e go happen. I guess you're trying to feel civilized and all, probably showing how you're more like Oyibo haha but e go shock you!

I was actually expecting a comment like this since. I know someone will talk about DNA bla bla bla... But understand: we may live in the same country, same state, same town, even same street, yet we do not live in the same world- our realities are different. I'll respect you for the world you live in; I hope you'll respect mine. Thanks.

tribalwarlord:
[s]

It's obvious you have perfected the art of cancelling people's post, and it only betrays your inability to tolerate other people's opinion. But it's not good for you as a lady. Anyways, go ahead and cancel this one too.

tribalwarlord:
[s] keep talking nonsense

With the way you cancelled my comments, and reading your reaction here, obviously you can kill or at least harm any of your husband's ex who relate with him in anyway. Just take it easy, this life is simplier than you think.

Exponental:
Some people here are kids, they don't understand relationship. With my relationship with women, if a woman wants to cheat, forget story. Do you know some muslim women who cover their faces (eleha, some of them have lovers)? No insult to the religion but cheating is a personal thing.

Exactly!

paulolee:
i love your balls...wished i gat jus one of them..

Sorry, Bro. Can't spare any of my balls. Lol! It's somewhere in you too, all you need is the ability to accommodate, trust and forgive.

abysirius:
Are u for real

Yes, I am. You can read my comment again as I just added some lines. The thing is, if you are someone who cannot forgive and let go of the slightest or worst offence it will be difficult to take such position.

It's more of what works for you as a couple. My wife has male colleagues who are close friends with her and I don't feel threatened by them; she knows her limit. When our first child was delivered through CS, the first pap she would take was brought by my own close female friend (someone I intended to marry years back) who now happened to be a nurse in the ward, and she was there for my wife till discharge. When there was a problem at the early stage of the pregnancy, it was that same friend of mine that made sure my wife was attended to on time by calling the doctor at the emergency (UCH, Ibadan) and claiming my wife is her inlaw. I don't like to be caged, so I don't cage my wife. We know how far we can go, and we live our lives with God's grace.

Trump For The World!

Way To Go, Trump!

Righteousness89:
If we don't exhibit Confindence, what are we living for?

Please ask him again. I think he would rather we live in fear while they keep on looting in the name of covid 19.

Please help me tell the so called SGF that he is out of his mind! He is sick and talking nonsense!

Now the family has lost the little sympathy we've been according them, and have succeeded at messing up their patriach memory.

Campbell was only keeping on to the Agenda of the deep state. Their plan is to keep Nigeria in perpetual slavery by making us ruin our own fortune and keep looking up to them for handouts. But sadly many Nigerians are ignorant of this, and they swallow just anything from America, especially from Obama camp.

In addition, obsession of any kind is dangerous as it's usually with a selfish interest; as long and enduring as love can be, obsession can outlast love, since it's not mostly about others, it is destructive. Crave for good things; be wary of been obsessed by anything.

While it is natural as a man to find a particular part of women that attracts you, obsession is another thing entirely, and in your case it's becoming a dangerous addiction; and the danger is that it wastes away your mind and creative potentials while you think you're having pleasure. Save yourself first by thinking of the good and productive things you want to do with your entire life; secondly by getting involved in activities geared towards achieving your set goals; thirdly, keep those items that ignite the passion far from your reach; lastly, commit your plans, yourself and your weaknesses to God in prayers.

zomby:
By the end of summer time, all the people they think are on their side or got their back will gradually drift away; typical Nigerians method of operation.

If she wants to remain relevant, she needs to chill out and count her blessings...In politics, there is no permanent power or permanent friends.

Just let the man Rest In Peace.

Exactly!

Abelfidelis:
I agree with you, apart from ministers, the Bible didn't condemn polygamy, at least I'm sure of that with my knowledge of the holy Bible.
Some women don't cheat, but they dont crave for intercourse, that's if the man doesn't initiate sex she won't mind.
But the fact is; any man who got married after he had a lot of sex while single will likely be frustrated and sex-starved if the wife is not as active as he wants her to be. This may be the problem with this man.

God bless you so much, especially for that first part. That has actually been my position about polygamy; it really took me some time to make my wife understand and accept it, and recently she's come to admit it for a fact, so instead of been afraid of a rival wife, she gives me the conditions which is basically on she and the children been well cared for, my availability when she needs me, and the other woman living separately from her.

Rilwayne001:
You sounding like a rascal and really unintelligent. He was a former governor of the state, an immediate one at that. The onus is on the current governor to take the whole burial upon itself. The family isn't to be treated like an outcast or just a nobody. Her family served Oyo state for good 8years and even if shorter. Makinde goofed on this and he's starting to appear power drunk, very unlike he was before getting elected. Too bad.

did you read the part where it says they called her but she didn't pick up? while i'm sorry for her loss, i think she's only trying to transfer her aggression on makinde while she's sparing the tinubus of this world that used her sick and now late husband for politics.

As far as i'm concerned, this is cheap blackmail from the former first lady. She's only looking for sympathy.

Tinubu thinks he can fool us? On another note, I hope he is not actually believing in the face saving poo he called press release?

Tadeknkeepcalm:
This is as a result of polygamy being obsolete in the society.

It's the only responsible alternative and would surely correct all these nonsense.

i kinda agree with you. but our society, most especially christianity has demonized polygamy, now women take it for granted.

zedegit:
May such women not near us.

Amen!

McSlow:
Just listen to your self saying when your wife wish to have sex with you before you will do. I don't understand this rubbish.

so you will rather rape her right?

Endlesspeace:
To a large extent, it may depend on the relationship between you two. How do you people relate? Friendly or like cat and dog?

hmmm, well it's not about me. it's about a close friend and they relate so well we do envy their marriage, but the husband is complaining privately.

Endlesspeace:
I have nothing to tell you on what to do but it's rather improper for a wife to only want to see the husband in the bedroom just for baby making. So what if their plan is just to have 1 or 2 kids, won't there be sex again in the marriage after the one or two kids must've been gotten? A woman may deny the husband sex when she's not ok for it but wanting to only do it with him only when they are trying to conceive, it sounds somehow.

well, maybe not just for kid making per say. let's say she only allows the man when she wishes, and she may not wish in a whole month or two- a marriage of less than 3 years for that matter.