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Vinshu:
The guy is not attractive. And does not look rich. Why did she say Yes?

That's what we call Unconditional Love...

Very rare

ricsman:
pray not to have the spirit of jealousy because if you do then your own go bad pass lolollol

Abi ooo... Everyone has the spirit of jealousy, u jes have to use yours wisely..


God go help us

Oh my God! I can't try this, wouldn't dare.
It doesn't always end up well
Sometimes it's best not to know he's cheating
Nice one

I pray ooo, for where!
I'll give him a thunderous slap, for him to know how it feels
When I don finish, I go waka leave am..
If he like, mey he kneel down for ages

He should propose on a good day

McCarlito:
And statistics have it that girls going for "Ready-made" men mostly end up as single parents....





















Any lady that was not there thru my struggles would never had made my list of marriageable partners

And what if the ladies who were there for u thru ur struggles, end up not marrying you..

Won't you be an already made for someone else who is ready to marry you #jes saying

Just pray to have a good girl who won't suck u dry.

Cos left for me, all ladies are not the same, so long as we are from different womb

agarawu23:
Anty, God fearing isn't assurance of wealth. You can choose not to fear God and be loaded with cash and vice versa

Brother I know o, am jes saying its necessary

agarawu23:
if I hear loaded

God fearing guy without cash isn't complete

Sure naa. The God-fearing guy must have cash naa..

Hia! Don't quote me wrong oo.

When he's God-fearing, all other things will be added unto him..

Eg. Success & beauty

MONEY impress lazy ones, when a woman work hard, a man with money is just a BONUS... I'm loaded

God-fearing guys are just the best!!

I believe in #one 9ja, Buhari or no Buhari ..

United we stand

Truly it's rare but they exist

For example __me.....
Dunno about PMB, after all we no dey bear the same name

1. A good man will never pick apart your looks.
“Oh, if only your hair was a little longer.” “If only you lost those couple
of extra pounds.” “If you would only wear more makeup.” A good man
will never take jabs at your appearance in a way that’s demeaning to
you or makes you feel badly about yourself. If he is doing this, he’s
purposely attempting to lower your self-worth so you won’t feel
confident enough to leave him. It’s his way of trying to control you and
it’s emotional abuse. Walk. Away. Now.


2. A good man will never invade your privacy.
In a healthy relationship, there is no need to hide anything. Texts,
emails, facebook messages, whatever. But that doesn’t mean your
partner has the right to snoop through them if you happen to leave your
phone around or your computer open. Someone who does this is
showing a massive insecurity on their part and is likely projecting their
own infidelities and issues onto you. This should not be ignored.
*Note: This is assuming you haven’t done anything that would make him
suspicious or betrayed his trust.


3. A good man will never discourage you.
A sign of a person’s confidence in themselves is how they help to
support the ambition of others. A good man will always be willing to
help and support those around him and will never be discouraging or
insulting.


4. A good man will recognize your value; he will not make you feel the
need to prove it to him.
The minute you feel that you have to prove your worth to the person
you’re with is the minute you’ll know to walk away. A man or woman
should be with you because they value and appreciate who you are, not
what you do or how well you sell yourself to them.


5. A good man will never make you feel like an afterthought.
While a relationship shouldn’t be someone’s entire life, it’s certainly a
large part of it. I’ve heard too many stories about women who
constantly get cast aside for “guy’s night” or something similar. A man
should have have a network and individuality, sure. But there is a
difference between leading an active social life, and knocking the
woman in your life further and further down your priority list. If you feel
like you’re waiting for him to come home more than you’re actually with
him, it’s time to step back and take another look at where your
relationship is going.


6. A good man will never make you feel like you are alone in the
relationship.
Relationships are a partnership. A team. A two-way street. They’re
supposed to enhance your life, not complicate it. If you’re with a man
who is complacent in life and love, puts no effort into you or the
relationship, then it’s time to re-evaluate. Keep in mind, it’s natural for
people to get depressed and unmotivated at times. If this is someone
you’ve been with for a long time, I’m certainly not saying kick him to the
curb at the first sign of a slump. We all go through them. What I’m
referring to here is someone who is simply apathetic and makes you
feel like he doesn’t care. You deserve someone who will wake up every
morning and pledge to do and be the best they can


7, A good man will never cheat on you.
There are plenty of arguments in the world that monogamy is not
“natural” and that humans are not biologically wired to spend an entire
lifetime with one single person. Regardless of the scientific validity of
this statement, one thing remains true: Monogamy is a personal choice
made by two people in a relationship. There is literally nothing physical
binding two people together; just a decision. A good man will never
cheat in a relationship because cheating means going back on his word
or breaking a promise he has made to someone he loves.


8. A good man will never disrespect you.
Easy, simple, basic – but often overlooked. A good man will show
respect to everyone around him. He will not be condescending or put
anyone down, regardless of intelligence level or professional position. As
the saying goes, ‘a man of quality is not afraid of equality.


9. A good man will never avoid important conversations.
Whether it be between family members or in a relationship, a good man
understands that no problem can be resolved until it is faced. The only
thing that avoidance of difficulties will accomplish is delaying the
inevitable and potentially making things worse. There is a difference
between choosing your battles and avoiding conflict altogether – the
important thing is to know when to hold ’em and when to fold ’em.


10. A good man will NEVER abuse you.
There are many different types of abuse, certainly not just physical and
certainly not just in a relationship. Someone can be emotionally abusive
toward a child or pet as well as their significant other. Regardless, they
all have one thing in common: The desire to break another down. A
good man recognizes that his confidence and worth comes from within
himself and never from attempting to place others below him. At any
sign of any type of abuse, walk (run) away immediately. It will not get
better, and you deserve more.
We need to stop making excuses for those who mistreat us and start
lowering our tolerance for this nonsense. Any self-respecting decent
human being will treat you with the love and compassion that you
deserve. If they don’t, then what’s the point of staying with them?


Try to be a good man for your woman

In sum, the Yoruba political leadership, as mentioned by Balarabe
Musa, has shown itself over the years to be incapable of rising
above narrow tribal interests and reciprocating goodwill from
other sections of the country by treating other groups with
respect. Practically every crisis in Nigeria since independence has
its roots in this attitude.
The Yoruba elite and area-boy politics;
Igbo marginalisation and the responsible limits of retribution;
and
The Yoruba Factor and “Area-boy” Politics.
My views on the Yoruba political leadership have been
thoroughly articulated in some of my writings, prime among
which was ” Afenifere: Syllabus of Errors” published by This Day
(The Sunday Newspaper) on Sept 27, 1998. There was also an
earlier publication in the weekly Trust entitled ” The Igbo, the
Yoruba and History” (Aug. 21, 1998).
In sum, the Yoruba political leadership, as mentioned by Balarabe
Musa, has shown itself over the years to be incapable of rising
above narrow tribal interests and reciprocating goodwill from
other sections of the country by treating other groups with
respect. Practically every crisis in Nigeria since independence has
its roots in this attitude.
The Yoruba elite were the first, in 1962, to attempt a violent
overthrow of an elected government in this country. In 1966, it
was the violence in the West which provided an avenue for the
putsch of 15th January. After Chief Awolowo lost to Shagari in
1983 elections, it was the discontent and bad publicity in the
South-West which led to the Buhari intervention.
When Buhari jailed UPN governors like Ige and Onabanjo, the
South-Western press castigated that good government and
provided the right mood for IBB to take over power. As soon as
IBB cleared UPN governors of charges against them in a
politically motivated retrial, he became the darling of the South-
West. When IBB annulled the primaries in which Adamu Ciroma
and Shehu Yar Adua emerged as presidential candidates in the
NRC and SDP, he was hailed by the South-West. When the same
man annulled the June 12, 1993 elections in which Abiola was the
front-runner, the South-West now became defenders of
democracy.
When it seemed Sani Abacha was sympathetic to Abiola, the
South-West supported his take-over. He was in fact invited by a
prominent NADECO member to take over in a published letter
shortly before the event. Even though Abiola had won the
elections in the North, the North was blamed for its annulment.
When Abdulsalam Abubakar started his transition, the Yoruba
political leadership through NADECO presented a memorandum
on a Government of National Unity that showed complete
disrespect for the intelligence and liberties of other Nigerians.
Subsequently, they formed a tribal party which failed to meet
minimum requirements for registration, but was registered all
the same to avoid the violence that was bound to follow non-
registration, given the area-boy mentality of South-West
politicians. Having rejected an Obasanjo candidacy and
challenged the election as a fraud in court, we now find a leading
member of the AD in the government, a daughter of an Afenifere
leader as Minister of State, and Awolowo´s daughter as
Ambassador, all appointed by a man who won the election
through fraud.
Meanwhile, nothing has been negotiated for the children of
Abiola, the focus of Yoruba political activity. In return for these
favours, the AD solidly voted for Evan Enwerem as Senate
President. This is a man who participated in the two-million- man
March for Abacha´s self-succession. He also is reputed to have
hosted a meeting of governors during IBB´s transition,
demanding that June 12 elections should never be de-annulled
and threatening that the East would go to war if this was done.
When Ibrahim Salisu Buhari was accused of swearing to a false
affidavit, the Yoruba political elite correctly took up the gauntlet
for his resignation.
When an AD governor, Bola Tinubu, swears to a false affidavit
that he attended an Ivy League University which he did not
attend, we hear excuses.
For so many years, the Yoruba have inundated this country with
stories of being marginalised and of a civil service dominated by
northerners through quota system. The Federal Character
Commission has recently released a report which shows that the
South-West accounts for 27.8% of civil servants in the range
GL08 to GL14 and a full 29.5% of GL 15 and above. One zone out
of six zones controls a full 30% of the civil service leaving the
other five zones to share the remaining 70%. We find the same
story in the economy, in academia, in parastatals.
Yet in spite of being so dominant, the Yoruba complained and
complained of marginalization. Of recent, in recognition of the
trauma which hit the South-West after June 12, the rest of the
country forced everyone out of the race to ensure that a South-
Westerner emerged, often against the best advice of political
activists.
Instead of leading a path of reconciliation and strong
appreciation, the Yoruba have embarked on short-sighted
triumphalism, threatening other “nationalities” that they ( who
after all lost the election) will protect Obasanjo ( who was forced
on them). No less a person than Bola Ige has made such
utterances.
To further show that they were in charge, they led a cult into the
Hausa area of Sagamu, murdered a Hausa woman and nothing
happened. In the violence that followed, they killed several Hausa
residents, with Yoruba leaders like Segun Osoba, reminding
Nigerians of the need to respect the culture of their host
communities. This would have continued were it not for the
people of Kano who showed that they could also create their own
Oro who would only be appeased through the shedding of
innocent Yoruba blood.
I say all this, to support Balarabe Musa´s statement, that the
greatest problem to nation-building in Nigeria are the Yoruba
Bourgeoisie. I say this also to underscore my point that until they
change this attitude, no conference can solve the problems of
Nigeria. We cannot move forward if the leadership of one of the
largest ethnic groups continues to operate, not like statesmen, but
like common area boys.
iii. The Igbo Factor and the Reasonable Limits of Retribution.
The Igbo people of Nigeria have made a mark in the history of
this nation. They led the first successful military coup which
eliminated the Military and Political leaders of other regions
while letting off Igbo leaders. Nwafor Orizu, then Senate
President, in consultation with President Azikiwe, subverted the
constitution and handed over power to Aguiyi-Ironsi. Subsequent
developments, including attempts at humiliating other peoples,
led to the counter-coup and later the civil war. The Igbos
themselves must acknowledge that they have a large part of the
blame for shattering the unity of this country.
Having said that, this nation must realise that Igbos have more
than paid for their foolishness. They have been defeated in war,
rendered paupers by monetary policy fiat, their properties
declared abandoned and confiscated, kept out of strategic public
sector appointments and deprived of public services. The rest of
the country forced them to remain in Nigeria and has continued
to deny them equity.
The Northern Bourgeoisie and the Yoruba Bourgeoisie have
conspired to keep the Igbo out of the scheme of things. In the
recent transition when the Igbo solidly supported the PDP in the
hope of an Ekwueme presidency, the North and South-West
treated this as a Biafra agenda. Every rule set for the primaries,
every gentleman´s agreement was set aside to ensure that
Obasanjo, not Ekwueme emerged as the candidate. Things went as
far as getting the Federal Government to hurriedly gazette a
pardon. Now, with this government, the marginalistion of the
Igbo is more complete than ever before. The Igbos have taken all
these quietly because, they reason, they brought it upon
themselves. But the nation is sitting on a time-bomb.
After the First World War, the victors treated Germany with the
same contempt Nigeria is treating Igbos. Two decades later, there
was a Second World War, far costlier than the first. Germany was
again defeated, but this time, they won a more honourable peace.
Our present political leaders have no sense of History. There is a
new Igbo man, who was not born in 1966 and neither knows nor
cares about Nzeogwu and Ojukwu. There are Igbo men on the
street who were never Biafrans. They were born Nigerians, are
Nigerians, but suffer because of actions of earlier generations.
They will soon decide that it is better to fight their own war, and
may be find an honorable peace, than to remain in this
contemptible state in perpetuity.
The Northern Bourgeoisie and the Yoruba Bourgeoisie have
exacted their pound of flesh from the Igbos. For one Sardauna,
one Tafawa Balewa, one Akintola and one Okotie-Eboh, hundreds
of thousands have died and suffered.
If this issue is not addressed immediately, no conference will
solve Nigeria´s problems. By Sanusi Lamido Sanusi.
Being Excerpts from A Paper Presented At The “National
Conference On The 1999 Constitution” Jointly Organised By The
Network For Justice And The Vision Trust Foundation, At The
Arewa House, Kaduna From 11th –12th September, 1999

Joavid:
You paid her tuition once. (Which I assume is cheap) and you give her some change every now and then. Ok.

Is that enough for you to say you laboured for her, you sent her to school?

Did she not give companionship in return all those 4years?
Was she not cooking, cleaning and washing for you?

Men and lies.
She's not leaving you cos you're an OND cert holder (that can still further) with a lucrative business.

She's leaving you cos you're an a$$hoole.


Modified
I woke up to see 30+ mentions from angry men.


Ladies, don't ever let a man brag about labouring for you or your family, even if he ever was.
I encourage women to be independent, but in some very rare extreme and emergency cases of needs. Don't tell him to give you money for your fees or bills. Instead tell him you want it for brazzilian hair or some other ordinary things then use it to pay your fees, so he won't come and brag like this.

What is a boyfriend for, if not for support.

I tire my sister #What are they there for?

peeparty:
eya dis is an honest desire..

Abi naa, that's what ladies pray for. I can't imagine rushing into marriage only to rush out later, that's not what we want

If she doesn't love you, then why is she still with you? If u wanna know how faithful she is, check her inbox & see how many guys she disappointed just to be with you. Forget all she said about better off guys approaching her, its normal for all that to happen, I mean she's a lady. U are the Man here, when she cools off, try telling her your mind about the things she blots out of her mouth

I no go lie oo, my type na No 3 & 8. U wouldn't blame wives who are
the *Police type, it's the husband that pushes such wives to such.
I pray to marry a man who will bring out my #Good Qualities

The guy dey practice madness abi na madness dey practice am, Choi! Oh Lord Have Mercy. He's a Schizophrenic #aturu oji

The guy dey practice madness abi na madness dey practice am, Choi! Oh Lord Have Mercy. He's a Schizophrenic

For 9ja again #Shoroniyen, e b lyk sey d guy just return from Yanki(Libya)😁

Don't get me wrong, learning from experiences makes you wiser.
It is the Ultimate Betrayal, to have someone you have given your
heart to be Unfaithful, it's like having your beating heart ripped
from your chest with a pair of loose pliers.
Being #Cheated on makes you Stronger, it makes you better & it
makes you open your eyes & realize what you want out of a
relationship and what you don't want out of a relationship.
Being #Cheated on makes you learn just how Strong you are
after being Backstab and left for dead, you will learn just what you are capable of.
You may have been battered, but you will never be broken.
With time, you will heal. You will #Survive. Tho you can't help but wind up really guarded.
In conclusion, being #Cheated on is devastating. If you can come out of the other end of a Serious Trauma & continue on with your Life, then you are the #One who has Won the WAR

That's life for u, at least u both benefitted from each other. Who knows, maybe she wasn't made for u. Just let her go, the ONE that is YOURS will stay. Guys shouldn't use this opportunity to say they won't render help to their love. All RELATIONSHIPS must not end in MARRIAGE