₦airaland Forum

holluphemydavid:
I didn't totally agree with u, if dat is d case base on what u stated above, she shud av let d guy knw abt his promiscuous act, to choose btw her or d noba 2,d sudden rejection of d proposal is too ill, a girlfriend of six years, as if dat isn't enough, she was even smoking and d guy didn't knw until d said day

Eeya.... if it's the man that pulled that silly stunt, you men on Nairaland would have hailed him... I don't support the girl's style but somehow, I feel it's fun to see a lady act in such a shocking manner to a man. Men don't have monopoly over evil or smartness...

metallisc:
all your scenarios don't hold any water... the girl is going to regret, and with an attitude like that, she will end up in the wrong hands eventually! I've seen that scene play out over and over again from cape to cairo, it always ends badly for the female. Where nuptials are concerned, guys have it easier than females.

on the other hand, since you believe babes get tired of one stick... are you tired of the one you've been using all these while? i have one for the taking... strong, long, dark and ready for action! holla back babe!

Like I always tell people, don't give theories that have no proof. She didn't want to end up with him, she will get someone else. You men think, you are doing ladies a favor by giving them rings that's why many have this dumb idea that if a lafy refuses a man, she will fall into wrong hands... you claim to have seen it happen, let's not start taking statistics....at the end, marriage is a choice.... so don't let your little male who get hurt...

holluphemydavid:
Agreed with u, but d guy just mid to move on sharply, and Am sure d girl might regret dat in a later years when she finally enter a wrong hand

You don't know why she refused...women are far more intuitive than men... she might have known about numbet2 to number infinity and she didn't want a public toilet for a husband. That he is giving her a ring doesn't mean he's doing her a favour.... the funny thing is she deserves and will get a better man... number 2 may even have a more serious relationship but is using the guy for money or something ...at the end, cheating doesn't pay.

vindisick:
the guy didn't loose anything afterall he has been eaten the girl's apple for 6 yrs. just promote no 2 to no 1 simple

My dear, receive some understanding... it's funny when I hear statements like that... so she didn't enjoy his own cane? Whatever they both did in 6 years was mutual and everybody gained or lost. Or you think women don't get tired of same stick? Things are not always the way they seem....

JONITEZ:
The Lady is not a wife material too. What she is gonna teach the Kids? How to smoke right?

So smoking determines whether you are a husband or wife material Hypocrisy everywhere...

butanep:
You aren't making any sense. Learn to behave matured.

Lol... so Mr or Mrs Maturity, how has your maturity affected anyone or group or the society? Please, respect your "matured"sef...

Thank God he's the ex....she dated a boy and married a Man.

YorubaStinks:
Malivelihood is stinky rich to shade a little girl Tonto Dike

He is rich enough to buy every girl in Nigeria a 2017 Range Rover Evoque

We're talking about the best and the number 1 jeweller in the whole world


Shading Tonto Dike is like me Shading Dangote who's the richest man in Africa

Just listen to yourself. Hes the best and number one jeweller in the world? Rich enough to buy every girl in Nigeria a what? Pls are you related to Lai Mohammed? Or you are his spokesman? I don't care much about Tonto and her exes... I'm concerned about the statements you are making.

So, what is the moral lesson of this post? In this recession that's when one jobless person will be posting something that doesn't translate to money. .......






Abeg Miss Genevieve Nnaji, I have a 105k dress for you...

Somebody is so pained. Someone call 911.

The term " wife material" is what men with spineless egos come up with to cover their empty pride. I mean, if you are wife and he isn't husband material? Please, shine your eyes ladies. You don't deserve to spend your life with mediocres. You deserve better.

Congrats sister. All I can think of is beautiful mixed race kids.

YorubaStinks:
have something nice i want to tell you

I will buy a brand new used brain for you

Why won't you marry a guy who earns 50k per month ??

Why can't you get off your lazy ass and go get a high paying job and help your husband and stop looking for Dangote to come marry you

Gold digging Hoes

So, men who earns 50k per month doesn't deserve a wife because they're poor ?? God, please destroy this world make everybody go rest

Just look at useless females who doesn't earn 60k in a month airing their opinion on who to marry

If you are a female and earn 80k per month, you don't have the right or opinion on a hard working man who earns 50k per month, why don't you work hard and support your husband ??

My father was earning 5k per month when he married my mother and 40 years later they're still married and my old man is now a millionaire

This is the only reason why i will never get Married, i will just go find a girl, get her pregnant she gives me 4 kids and we live together for ever, i don't want rubbish from Foolish girls

The only people i blame are men, they fall mumu to women, that's why these females who have nothing and are broke have expectations on the type of guys they wanna marry


*Spits

*Spits again on money hungry hoes who only wants a guy for his money

All that one, na your opinion. At the end, everyone will go for what they want. Don't give yourself headache in another person's issue.

Lovelynature:
Good for them. Over to the house maid. Just pray it doesn't lead the hubby and the maid to the other room

Forget that one. Some women are super chefs and their husbands cheat. If you have culinary skills, good but don't think it helps you keep a man. What will be will be.

Two people are enjoying their marriage and some people here would be bringing up tribal sentiments and all sort of childishness. You that married from your hometown, is your marriage better than theirs? The type of people on Nairaland.....I just wonder...

If you don't want to give him phone number, don't give him.... heaven will not fall if you smile, look him in the eyes and say " NO", and walk away. No need for small pikin play

Berbierklaus:
[b]Grandpa no one asked you for your life history,so please relax and take to corrections.

if You were my husband/boyfriend,I would have told You to "shutup and listen" I said "Relax" coz You are my grandpa

Now to the argument You both are having,Everyone has an opinion,trust me I have come to understand You and your writeups,(You are only been realistic while most of us are striving to be idealistic).The challenge is finding a balance because all these rules and regulations for marriages and relationships are unique to every relationship,some men don't take NO,no matter how submissive the wife is(been realistic,I'm sure You will agree with me) and some men are in awe or their wives and a very agressive NO will do the trick(I'm been realistic),so the problem I have with most of your rightups is that "they are not a standard for relationships,coz every relationship is unique" but from your tone of words,You type like that's all that should be done because it is in the "BIBLE" forgetting that even Jesus said in "MARK 2:27" The sabbath(law) was made for man not man for the sabbath(law),
meaning most of this bible injunctions can be used uniquely not universally. (I hope You know what happened in that verse and why he made that statement?).


secondly,I want to say I agree with your rightup once again,although it is a little bit flawed "to me". Any idiot can see the emphasis You made on "WIVES SUBMISSION" I think its good but I also think it would have been appropriate if You emphasized as much on the "HUSBAND's LOVE". (I think this is where most relationship experts get it wrong).

Now lets use the scripture You qouted as an example,did You realise that Ephesians 5:33 has two parts(part A and B)
Did You realise that part A was talking to the husband?
Ephesians 5:33
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself
Did You realise that the bible spoke to the husband first? That tells You that Submission is "EARNED" so its flawed for You to say "THE BIBLE SAID THAT THE WIFE MUST BE SUBMISSIVE TO HER HUSBAND NO MATTER WHAT"







because grandpa,the bible has put an unspoken condition in that verse,(You can't respect/submit to your abusive father,You "FEAR" him,likewise if You say wives should be submissive unconditionally,You are only telling her to "FEAR" him,that is not submission according to the bible)

Part B
[color=#000055]Ephesians 5:33
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord[/color]

Every man that loves his wife,automatically has earned her respect and submission,it is a known fact,and a man that doesn't love his wife(cheating on her "glaringly" abuse her,doesn't do his roles as a husband etc) will be "FEARED" not respected/submitted to).

So grandpa,all this tunranchi is what the bible is preaching(Idealistic) not what our pastors are interpreting the bible to, not what You have interpreted the bible to,which is sadly the (realistic) point of what we have in the world today because our religious leaders have knowingly or unknowingly led some men astray by repeatedly preaching and emphasizing on "SUBMISSION" while skimming through "LOVE".

The kingdom of God is a hot race,I fear for most people,as I have come to a stage in my salvation where,I read and ask the holy spirit to interpret and explain what this really means to me,instead of listening to one marriage counsel/counsellor and corrupting my heavenly journey .

I hope You will settle down and read my epistle,and may the holy spirit help You to realise the truth.[/b]

Finally, someone with understanding speaks. It isn't just enough to get wisdom. God bless you for speaking my mind.

LorDBolton:
You can tell a lot about person by the way they lash out during disagreements...

Sharp sharp u don enter person family? Lols

I recommend you drink cold water dear, I can't come down to your level. Sorry.

Still weak.... lol. With your hasty generalisation, we can see your level... get some education...bye

LorDBolton:
Madam we all enjoy scratching when our body itches.
...Until we see the result.

Guess i struck a nerve? Sorry ehn

Don't just bring theories from the moon until you have proof... ( like maybe women in your family)... and still it's just one in 7 billion... strike a nerve? Is that the worst you could come up with? Lol... upgrade.

LorDBolton:
Be careful with a woman who paints her nails (with two different colours)

I can tentatively assume this niqqa just married a h***

Oga, your assumptions don't matter you hear.... he likes it.

adviseseeker:
So it is an idiot who will tell his wife he will go outside? I have told my wife the same thing at least 3 times and I meant it.

Women need to get serious. The OP's case is totally different from mine because to be honest, he is with an idiot. Only an idiot will not want to see his own child. It is madness actually. But in a case whereby your wife thinks she can deny you sex ( when you only ask 3 times per week) and expect you to get it whenever she wants and will go any mile to get it nko?



Sex is not the be it all of marriage, but it is very important too.

Oga, your story is totally different. Moreover, everyone can get it outside.... oh yes! But two wrongs don't make a right. Threats and violence will never solve problems... so result to wiser and subtle ways of dealing with situations.God bless your marriage.

bloomstar:
Move on till when? Do you know what it means to be barren? She should mellow down... Pray to God. Get medications. If she confirms medical that she can conceive.
Then she can move on happily hoping that another man will come

So having an abortion means you are barren? Nigerians! Ur advice is fair but hope you realise that even virgins can be infertile... and even medically fit people can have fertility issues? Nairaland with stories that touch and replies that suck...

jamesharryson:
which ever way, the dude won. am sure the dude hates fat bleeps, otherwise he wouldn't go all that length to ginger the lady. am sure he wouldn't continue dating her if she still made no effort to lose weight. so break -up is inevitable. ladies can pick silly offenses at innocuous advice and suggestions on such topics. i don't blame the dude. he doesn't want to be bereft in love. period!

How old are you? I mean mental age? If a person can't talk to someone he is dating face to face but had to create another account to insult her.... then a lot of growing up is still needed on the part of the boy...yes, BOY.

Rest in peace. God give her loved ones the fortitude to bear the loss. It's sad indeed.

Their money, their marriage,their business... nice gesture....if you can afford it.... if you can't, for goodness sake, don't hate!.

(yawns) ok...so what should we on NL do?Cunny man die, cunny man bury am. There were two cunny birds chatting on WhatsApp... one named op, other named Cynthia, fly away op, fly away Cynthia...



Damn! I'm high on green tea.

My sister achieved same feat in 2014...

I laughed hard at this post. My sister had 9 As in 2014... thank God for your sibling tho.

He's as fine as they come.

woodboi:
Look at your life common question, you can't answer. I bet you know what they say about empty drum?

Enjoy yourself dull doll... I've gat nothing on you #StopLivingAFakeLife #PooAssDamnJeezShit.. When you don't even have Benin yellow card, more of any visa on your passport(if you have one).

( Yawns)... are you done? I'm bored already... I need something new. Go to blazes now. Get lost nigga. Bye

woodboi:
Look at your life common question, you can't answer. I bet you know what they say about empty drum?

Enjoy yourself dull doll... I've gat nothing on you #StopLivingAFakeLife #PooAssDamnJeezShit.. When you don't even have Benin yellow card, more of any visa on your passport(if you have one).

You are getting boring. Get lost.