₦airaland Forum

fairheart:
Sorry about that! What level are you?

Openbusiness:
Treat a woman the way she is. You have to be a mirror and let your communication mirror her the way she is. Her disposition is her language, so you have to speak a according to the "language" she understands. If she's speaking one language and you're speaking another, then you won't connect with her.

So basically, If she's a hoe, treat her like a hoe; if she's a normal decent girl, treat her like a normal decent girl; if she's a hoelosho, treat her like that. The kind of person or personality oe mindset that she has ia one of the earliest things you watch out for amd pay attention to. She will always leave clues and hints.

Your job is to pick up those hints and decipher her and decode fbe kind of person she really is before you workout your game plan to make a connection. If you treat a slut like a normal girl, connection fail. If you treat a normal decent girl like a hoelosho = connection fail. If you treat a hoelosho like a slut = connection fail etc! "Treat" = communication = how you relate with her etc. Some girls code themselves but they will leave hints as to their real or true disposition no matter what.

You see some girls on social media, they code themselves to appear like normal decent girls, you will see them dropping motivational quotes, Bible verses, Muslim attire etc, but when they describe themselves you see things like "straight to the point" = hint, or "fun to be with" = hint, some leave hints with their appearance, or fashion style, some leave hints with their main point of discussion, like I can't date a broke guy oh = hint; he must be loaded = hint; he has to spoil me = hint. So you merge all the clues and hints you can find to know who you're dealing with and then deal with her accordingly.

For example, look at that girl Zzor.... BLW = coding, but profile pic always showing off curves and ass = hint, her main focus of discussion = money, money, money, rich guy, i hate broke guys, I want a billionaire etc = hint. Put that puzzle together = hoeleosho type = pay as you go type. They are all about money, that's the language they speak and that's how you can connect.

If you like, drop all the cheesiest pickup lines, it won't work = connection fail. If you like drop intellect, talk science, politics, entertainment etc = connection fail. But when you talk money, and talk gifts and talk cruising and spoiling with cash and talk shopping spree or Dubai holiday getaway, forget about all that good girl virgin cock&bull bs she keeps fronting with to code here, she will spread her legs for you like a TV antenna. Na normal level be that. You will connect. But if you want to be dropping gist and preaching I love you, you're fine, yen yen yen language without speaking the money language she understands, then that's you below. This is my red pill nugget to you!
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fairheart:
\ I hope your study and graduation plans are not affected by the pandemic? That's a nice school. I assume you're a Yoruba too?

Jessepaid:
If you are talking about security yes! It's included.
There is still some level of sanity and orderliness in our communities today not because of the presence of failed security agents,
But because we fear being caught by them even if they are not doing their jobs well.
So imagine when there is an announcement that there will be no security at all or presence of security officials in a particular section of the state.
Just imagine
Lawless driving
Daylight armed robbery etc
It's not a thing to pray for sha

Jessepaid:
if I were to be a governor, people who commit jungle justice will be sentenced to life imprisonment.. and if I cant get any, the area where the jungle justice took place will be stripped of all state benefits including health light, water and security at least for nine months

dollynnn:
A GLIMMER OF HOPE FOR NIGERIA: CONSTITUTIONAL AMENDMENT


To have a democratic nation, Nigeria has to heal herself of the pathologies and get rid of the cankerworms that have held her down for decades. While many individuals and statesmen have canvassed for several ways through which this can materialize,only few individuals have taken cognizance of Constitutional Replacement. It is a trite rule in law that the Constitution is the "Fons et Origo" ( The fountain of authority), the fundamental laws of the land. How can the several suggestions that have been proffered materialize when the foundation is faulty? The only way to begin this Journey of Reformation is to start with a people-drawn constitution, not an amendment of an anti-federal, military imposed 1999 constitution which is currently being operated.


A quick survey on the background and the history of the 1999 constitution reveals the following facts:


a) It was imposed by the Military by virtue of Decree no. 24


b) It was not ratified by any elected body(ies)


c) It side tracked serious contentious issues such as true federalism which has been a tug of war. A replica of the 1979 constitution which was operated when Nigeria was divided into 19 states, and now Nigeria has 36 states.How can this cope with the current situation in Nigeria?


d) A mere "copy and paste " exercise


e) The people of the country were not involved as there were no referendum and debate(s)


In line with the above narrative, the phrase in the preamble of the Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria (as amended) "we the people " Is false and misleading and thus nothing but a sham!


The 1999 constitution has a faulty foundation,embarking on an amendment of such constitution with a massively flawed origin is nothing but a futile and fruitless exercise. Little wonder only a significant achievement has been recorded since She got her Independence .This can be better illustrated with carrying out a renovation on a house with a weak foundation without tackling the problem with its foundation. Obviously,this is futile as the house will collapse like a pack of cards.


Nigeria has survived a civil war, six military coups and eight military heads of state. But despite these laudable achievements, Nigeria is still lagging behind and still groping in darkness.
Our leaders have failed woefully in mustering the leadership vision and the statesmanly discipline required to forge a nation from the diverse ethnic groups scattered across the vast geographical location. They have stubbornly and selfishly stuck to the imposed military constitution as it suits their selfish interests.They loot the country's treasury at will, accumulate wealth and fortune for themselves and unborn generations at the expense of the masses. Yet Nigeria claims to be the giant of Africa,What an irony!


Soon Nigeria will roll out her drums to celebrate her Independence from Britain,it is really saddening and quite shameful that there has been little significant achievement that has been recorded since then.


However, Some have argued that a constitution amendment Is better since they believe the Three organs of government are conservative and myopic. "Half bread is better than none" They say. Nigeria should make do with the Constitution at hand and subsequently "add" and " delete" any provision . But the question that should be on the lips of every patriotic citizen should be: "How long will Nigeria continue like this?"


The time is now! it's high time we took the bull by its horns, it's high time we all made the demand for a new constitution more intense and passionate and above all, more patriotic.

fairheart:
What school are you studying?

fairheart:
I thought as much. It's nice reading the way you think.
I am sure you will become a great lawyer and help us sanitize the justice system in the future. Amen!

fairheart:
I thought as much. It's nice reading the way you think.
I am sure you will become a great lawyer and help us sanitize the justice system in the future. Amen!

fairheart:
I thought as much. It's nice reading the way you think.
I am sure you will become a great lawyer and help us sanitize the justice system in the future. Amen!

dollynnn:
Jungle Justice is still not an option.

fairheart:
Hey, I'm sorry that this is coming late. I see your assessment of the subject matter and I was wondering if you are a lawyer or a law student? Also, have you witnessed jungle justice before? I have asked these questions because your choice of words show concern and sympathy towards victims and potential victims of this horrible act. I look forward to your answers to these questions.

"Who is to be blamed for the insignificant achievement of these machineries?"

Although after reading the entire piece, I see you have indeth understanding of the cause of jungle justice and I feel there's nothing much I can say other than share my own thought with you.

On who to blame, well, this is a difficult question to answer. But I think the blame is on all of us. As you have said, home or family is what makes a society. Everything we have become as a society and nation can be traced back to the family and home that produces us as citizens. So, to remove the menace of jungle justice, we have to go back home and examine how we are parenting and the value system we are using. Nigerians believe that if a person is caught in a criminal act, it is true that the person is a criminal, even when there's no immediate and credible evidence to back this up. Why? Because we are a people without faith in ourselves.

Distrust, poverty-induced anger, and the belief that every man walking on the street is a criminal waiting to be caught, are some of the fundamental drives behind jungle justice. An average police will tell you that you're a criminal until proven otherwise. Imagine a statement like this and its effect on illiterate Nigerians. At home, most of our parents did not learn the art of listening and investigating. Couple with poverty-induce anger and, as you have said, illiteracy, many Nigerians are a living danger. They are harbouring destructive anger that they vent when they see a suspect of criminal act. It is as if the perpetrator of jungle justice have been nursing desire for the act prior the moment a victim falls in their hands. Before, it usually shock me when I see people executing jungle justice without credible facts gathered from deep and unbiased investigation. But over the years, I realise that it will continue so long there's still poverty, illiteracy, poor justice system, and endemic corruption in the security sector, and delayed sentence of convicted criminals. King Solomon said in Ecclesiastes 8:11 that because the sentence against an evil act is not executed speedily, the heart of the children of man is fully set to do evil.

Although they party, get together, and talk about their common enemies in politics, Nigerians have lost faith in themselves. Yet, faith is an important quality in planning, creating and sustaining a thriving and law-abiding society. In this part of the world, Nigerians don't believe in their justice system, nor do they hope that justice and truth can come from that quater. Again, we have to go back home and assess how we do parenting: because this is one of the monumental acts that engineered our woes in Nigeria.

So what do we do? My dear, inside-out education is the answer. By inside-out, I mean the type of education that is inculcated by parents at home, by teachers in our schools, by our religious houses, and by example from people elected into our public offices. This education must happen at the centre of these places. But to do that, we need faith: believing in what we have not seen. Do I believe that if I teach my children to trust the justice system there will be a positive change in how he sees the justice system in the future? Do I see the possibility of change in the youths of tomorrow if we teach students today how to be good citizens? Are we earnest enough to pursue this cause? Faith!!! If we don't have faith, we cannot pursue the solutions to our problems, which has been the case in every sector we have failed in Nigeria. We simply lack faith, and so, no commitment to pursue the kind of change we deeply desire as a people and a nation. The solution is with us.

Jungle justice can stop, but are we ready? Some of the questions I ask myself as a single person is: What type of father will I be when I become a father? How am I grooming myself to become this type of father? Am I preparing to be a father that raises a successful citizen? This has been guiding my belief and value system. Although I am not perfect, there's hope that if young Nigerians walk on same direction, we can raise children that will become better citizens tomorrow.

Thank you for the opportunity to share what I think with you.
By the way, your writing skill is commendable.

fairheart:
Hey, I'm sorry that this is coming late. I see your assessment of the subject matter and I was wondering if you are a lawyer or a law student? Also, have you witnessed jungle justice before? I have asked these questions because your choice of words show concern and sympathy towards victims and potential victims of this horrible act. I look forward to your answers to these questions.

"Who is to be blamed for the insignificant achievement of these machineries?"

Although after reading the entire piece, I see you have indeth understanding of the cause of jungle justice and I feel there's nothing much I can say other than share my own thought with you.

On who to blame, well, this is a difficult question to answer. But I think the blame is on all of us. As you have said, home or family is what makes a society. Everything we have become as a society and nation can be traced back to the family and home that produces us as citizens. So, to remove the menace of jungle justice, we have to go back home and examine how we are parenting and the value system we are using. Nigerians believe that if a person is caught in a criminal act, it is true that the person is a criminal, even when there's no immediate and credible evidence to back this up. Why? Because we are a people without faith in ourselves.

Distrust, poverty-induced anger, and the belief that every man walking on the street is a criminal waiting to be caught, are some of the fundamental drives behind jungle justice. An average police will tell you that you're a criminal until proven otherwise. Imagine a statement like this and its effect on illiterate Nigerians. At home, most of our parents did not learn the art of listening and investigating. Couple with poverty-induce anger and, as you have said, illiteracy, many Nigerians are a living danger. They are harbouring destructive anger that they vent when they see a suspect of criminal act. It is as if the perpetrator of jungle justice have been nursing desire for the act prior the moment a victim falls in their hands. Before, it usually shock me when I see people executing jungle justice without credible facts gathered from deep and unbiased investigation. But over the years, I realise that it will continue so long there's still poverty, illiteracy, poor justice system, and endemic corruption in the security sector, and delayed sentence of convicted criminals. King Solomon said in Ecclesiastes 8:11 that because the sentence against an evil act is not executed speedily, the heart of the children of man is fully set to do evil.

Although they party, get together, and talk about their common enemies in politics, Nigerians have lost faith in themselves. Yet, faith is an important quality in planning, creating and sustaining a thriving and law-abiding society. In this part of the world, Nigerians don't believe in their justice system, nor do they hope that justice and truth can come from that quater. Again, we have to go back home and assess how we do parenting: because this is one of the monumental acts that engineered our woes in Nigeria.

So what do we do? My dear, inside-out education is the answer. By inside-out, I mean the type of education that is inculcated by parents at home, by teachers in our schools, by our religious houses, and by example from people elected into our public offices. This education must happen at the centre of these places. But to do that, we need faith: believing in what we have not seen. Do I believe that if I teach my children to trust the justice system there will be a positive change in how he sees the justice system in the future? Do I see the possibility of change in the youths of tomorrow if we teach students today how to be good citizens? Are we earnest enough to pursue this cause? Faith!!! If we don't have faith, we cannot pursue the solutions to our problems, which has been the case in every sector we have failed in Nigeria. We simply lack faith, and so, no commitment to pursue the kind of change we deeply desire as a people and a nation. The solution is with us.

Jungle justice can stop, but are we ready? Some of the questions I ask myself as a single person is: What type of father will I be when I become a father? How am I grooming myself to become this type of father? Am I preparing to be a father that raises a successful citizen? This has been guiding my belief and value system. Although I am not perfect, there's hope that if young Nigerians walk on same direction, we can raise children that will become better citizens tomorrow.

Thank you for the opportunity to share what I think with you.
By the way, your writing skill is commendable.

nickvanilla:
@Kosixo20

I know many people are already insulting you here but It seems you're taking it with a pinch of salt and that is nice.

See we've all been there. Boy or Girl. When you're very young and a virgin at that, you get more attracted to people who are like the 2nd guy — naughty, adventurous, carefree, etc.

Sometimes the person you are in a relationship with doesn't "turn you on" as much as another guy and it can be that you see yourself already catching feelings for the later.

Just know that in the end, sex is not really worth it. You can destroy the life you have right now with a few minutes of pleasure and I can bet you, it is not an easy road to come back from. You may end up becoming a sex addict and guys will keep using you like a rag.

Love yourself dear. You're worth more than something a random guy will use to fulfill his sexual fantasies and throw away. Whenever he comes around, tell him point blank that those groping and flirty touches have to stop. If he doesn't respect your boundaries, leave him.

Anyways, the ball is in your court. I've said too much.

Faboosuarez:
som1 give ds lady a cold beer

Faboosuarez:
som1 give ds lady a cold beer

genaro2000:
wow, you are the first female since I have been reading trp on nairaland that has admitted openly to be true, and I am very surprised, and you have my respect for that

Faboosuarez:
now that's weird, aw do u find it interesting if I may ask?

ggirl4real:
Violence and jungle justice is not the best

There are agencies put in place to handle criminal cases.

Allow them do their job.

However, sometimes these agencies fail in their responsibilities which makes the citizens to take laws into their hands.

Currentlygrown:
now let me take this time to address some pressing issues since I’m well aware a lot of persons would be seeing this.
Nigerians are the most stupid, gullible, greedy, selfish and materialistic lots.
I weep for the stupidity of Nigerians.
Somewhere out there, there’s hundreds — if not millions of individuals clamoring for one old corrupt idiot to become President of this country in 2023. We’ve not even finished talking about the hardships and terror the current idiot in Aso Rock is putting this country through.
Since the inception of this wayward conception called Nigeria, greedy and selfish bastards have been in the helms of power and nobody cares.
Everybody just wants to benefit their own.
Benefit people!!
Nobody cares for the next generation. Suffer and untold hardship that’s all we’ve been going through. And now this thief has finished stealing for himself and his family members, they want to put another old stupid fool to control the wealth of this nation.
I weep for you Nigerians. I cry for myself every single day because there’s just very few reasonable folks like me in this country.
Folks who if it’s left for them, old unrepentant corrupt men would never see the daylight to control the purse of this stupid affair you call Nigeria.
I pity all of you. Wait until this country becomes Iraq or Somalia. Then you would realize that we all had our chances to make things right.
And for you greedy government official that would fortuitously read this post. I want you to note that NOTHING lasts forever. Nothing.
one day they’d come for your house, and the houses you built for your children, they’d knock and push and shove and pull until whatever barriers you have kept against them caves. And then you would watch as your so-called empires fade. one day.

fairheart:
Because this subject requires a fair assessment. More so, it is complicated. But I'd still love to share what I think about it with you.

fairheart:
I will share my view later

eodavids:
You have a point.

Actually, you can use happenings like jungle justice and the likes to measure the level of grievances in the society.
People are SAD and ANGRY.

More so, our Justice system must be strengthened to douse tension and built confidence of the people in the security agencies and the agents/dispensers of justice in the society.

Leaving things to continue the way they are currently, does not look good.

fairheart:
I read the article you shared. Look, people define things differently. In the Western world, people date with the hope of settling down (marrying) with the man/woman they are dating. Check the original activities intended for dating and check the one intended for courtship. The definition of courtship, according to that article is not different from the original definition of dating. You can't separate the right from the wrong by definition; you separate them by showing people what is wrong and what is right.

It is our intentions that tells. Dating is not different from courtship, in that people who date with the intention to get to know each other with view of marriage in mind experience the same thing that people who court experience--according to the article you shared. When you court, you spend time with him, laugh together, play together, support each other, pray for each other, etc. Dating nurtures ground for same activities. People can tell you they court and still have sex; and people can date and abstain.

You can't just bump into a woman and take her to the altar. In a world a lot of people pretend, you need to mingle, call each other, spend time together, talk about life, career, ask questions about individual habits, know genotype class, meet each side parents, go to cinema, beach. Can this happen without premarital sex? Yes!!! People have done it! People who claim dating is different from courtship would still enjoy the aforementioned activities.
People date for 6 months, 12 months and even longer without sex. YOUR INTENTION for being with someone is what separate those who fornicate when they meet new person from those who stays pure.

But I understand that in Nigeria, we mix a lot of things together in a society without values and direction.

donbachi:
Because of failed policing and corrupt judiciary..and delays in the legal process,available justice becomes the only option...like in the case of kidnappers,robbers and persons caught with human parts..jungle justice is bae.