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Hello everyone,

I would like to share my story with you here.
I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 years, I met her on Facebook and we developed serious connection. We are from the same state. Her first visit to my place was during my service year in 2017. I served in the neighboring state to our state. On her visit, she is so beautiful and down to the earth. She cooked, washed my clothes, cleaned my room and even top it with super Sex.

Just of recent, I visited my friend in my state and we were just talking randomly about girls of this generation. I tried to brag about my girlfriend by showing her picture to him but lo and behold, my friend laughed to stupor. Lol. I was confused. To my surprise my friend told me details about my girlfriend. He mentioned her name, her place, her sex style, he told me the last time she showed up at his place, he even showed me his last chat with her. I was just laughing and thinking how crazy these girls are.

I called her the same moment to meet me at my place that I'm in town. She showed up the next day, I acted like nothing happened, lol. I'm actually good at that. I had serious jokes with her and we had great sex because it's been a year. My love for her was gone but can't let go of her sexy body.

She left my place the following morning. After 4 days, she posted her picture on whatsapp status, showing the entrance of my friend's apartment and another one showing the bedroom of my friend. I wasn't surprised anymore. That same evening, my friend called me that my girlfriend just left his place, we both laughed on phone and agreed not to let her know that we are friends.

Up till now, we still talk like nothing happened. I feel like I'm using her even though she deserve it but at the same time I feel like I should let her go since I won't be serious with her. But the main issue is that I can't let her go because of her sexy body and she gives the best Sex.

What do you think guys?

Yustash001:
Why is that when some women suddenly become richer than their husband...
They start to develop wings..

It means she achieve that by sleeping her way to the top. No woman with fear of God will look down on her man even when she's earning more. She will see it as blessing from God and will even lift the husband

Masturbation is a strong addiction that is very difficult to stop. Some have tried fasting but yet they still indulge in the act. The only way to overcome this problem is serious determination. I have practiced these tricks and they work for me. I was a chronic masturbator before, 3 times per day on the average. I have been using these tricks for 3 months. Now I have my confidence back because masturbation itself is a killer of confidence.

1. Stay hungry for 12hours

Men don't have Sex urge when they are hungry. Hungry man can't really think of sex. This logic can be used to stop masturbation. Stay hungry when you are alone and most especially at night. Have your meal only in the morning and afternoon, water is okay at night. If you can do away with food at night. Trust me, you will overcome.

2. Stay away from seldom Sex

It is advisable to abstain from seldom Sex. If you are not sure of having it in the next 4 days. It is better to abstain from Sex cos the urge will always come. This may not be generally acceptable but it works for me.

3. Say NO to the thought

This is more of psychology. Anytime you develop the feeling, just shout NO to yourself and make it loud for people around you to hear. By so doing, you are controlling your inner man. This is a great tool for all.

4. Don't stay alone in the day

Try as much as possible to stay with one person especially when you are not busy. It helps you kill the thought of it.

YES YOU CAN DO IT!!!

Ihatefeminist:
big fat lie!
Nah them worse pass!
Rich girls always rub the fact that their father have money on your face!
I dated one before; Gloria. that girl was a reck!
I pity the unfortunate fool wey go marry am.
Her papa money don enter her head.

Maybe you are after her father's money. If you put more value on yourself by chasing your own dream, she will respect you and be the one running after you. She can do anything to support you. Rich girls are so caring guy. Work on yourself.

Notyamate:
Ok let me go first.

There was this girl in my class during my predegree days. Anytime she's watching a movie she always mute the sound even when she's watching movies without subtitles. I asked her how she understands what the movie is about and she said she understands by their gesture/body language.

There was this other girl in my hostel with asthma. It's like she's got a death wish or something. The girl is always looking for what will trigger her. Na she go wan sweep the dusty surroundings, na she go wan fry plantain with red oil. One day she had an attack and we searched her bag for her inhaler, it was empty. Come see how we were running helter-skelter to get inhaler for her at 11pm. Thank God one guy got a spare she for die that night.

Over to you.

I had a friend that talks to actors while watching movies. Like "oh Jackie, do you really want to jump from that height? Jump let me see"

Scaredd:
Good day everyone,

I'm the guy that likes to flirt with women (trying so hard to change). Sometime last year November, I hand some sex encounters with 4 different women (2 unprotected) and by first week of December I started experiencing some symptoms which include;

1.White tongue
2. Occassional diarrhoea (watery, oily and formy stool ever since then. I feel sudden need to ease like twice or thrice a day).
3. A gradual weight loss (I eat very well, mainly fruits and proteins with carbohydrates on average)
4. Occasional hand tremor.
5. Occasional body vibration and fast heart rate.

I used to smoke marijuana and take alcohol, but stopped. I also masturbated for about 5-6yrs, then stopped last year which added to flirting with women. I've not masturbated since then, but still take alcohol (mainly vodka).

I went to a university teaching hospital, met with the consultant and explained to her just as I'm doing here (she was wowed!). She then directed me to do HIV test (came back negative), H. Pylori test (also came out negative) and another test (I've forgotten the name).

She then prescribed, nystatin oral suspension and vitamin B Complex which I've finished taking, yet no change. Meanwhile, I've taken fluconazole, antibacteria and probiotics of late.

I'm waiting for the lockdown to be lifted to go back, but before then, (who knows when this whole problem will end) felt i might get some help here.

Please Doctors, what could be wrong with me. Especially this diarrhoea and white tongue. My stomach is always rumbling after eating. Please help.

Thank you.

Pictures of my tongue before and after brushing

Negative? OP are you sure

Mad ooo

Chrisus:
Transferring cash from his current to savings account

Here for the give away

You are a fool, you know nothing about the government

Officialgarri:
Monumental failure

If not that wailers suffer dementia, no one will object if we suggest Jonathan be whipped daily. Obasanjo and Jonathan's deeds is still what we suffer till date.

Quran verse...Muslims with fake quotes

alienvirus:
Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said

"If you hear of an outbreak of plague in a land, do not enter it; but if the plague breaks out in a place while you are in it, do not leave that place."

If mankind had adhered to this advice, the whole world won't be in this mess. Yet, it is the solution adopted by everyone.

For those that are not happy that the message was from the noblest of mankind, you can do yourself a good by kissing a high tension.

The same way Men love tough girls...crazy world

Roof expert is here sir...

Goodgod213:
After I saw how my dad suffered to raise the two of us I and my sibling till the company he was working with went down. We started living from one aunt house to uncles houses. I have been thrown out on four occasions, accused of stealing on many occasions, starved by family, disowned by my own mother who is in the abroad sending monies to different people in Nigeria and disregarding her son because I looked like my father. At 21 I moved to ibadan, stayed with a friend, dumped by my gf, Hustled to get my cert, did my Nysc, hustled more, bought a land at ibadan, bought my first car, bought another car, moved down to Lagos, rented a apartment.

Now I have a unisex salon, a boutique, a car listed on Bolt, and Presently working on roofing my project.

It’s not been easy. Not all women are mothers.

E685:
My wife and I have been together for 8 years now, married for 5. I am 33 and she is 30. We now have our first child, a son who is just turning 1. He is everything to both of us. Before our son, our relationship was strong, although to be honest I’ve always been frustrated with my wife’s way of handling issues. I’m the kind of person who is very hard to get angry, I hear people out, and I talk out my issues. I listen to all sides and I think logically before emotionally. I seek therapy when I’m stuck. My wife is the opposite. She reacts with emotions first. She is very quick to be offended by anything. She will shut down and refuse to communicate until she has had time to process. I do all of the work resolving issues we have. I sometimes wonder if I ever stop taking the high road and work through our issues, if anything would ever resolve itself. So that being said, conflict management aside, we are happy. We are passionate, have similar interests, and make each other laugh.

Then there’s my mother. Where to begin. My mother, while seen as incredibly loving and generous to many people, is also a person who has been shut out of so many relationships in her life that I really just feel bad. My father and her are divorced. She has a genuine phobia of being left out - of gatherings, of relationships, of family. She is extremely smart and knows how to manipulate people into doing what she wants. She also widely seen as a “difficult” person. She is difficult in that she finds great offense to issues many people would not notice or care about. If she feels wronged, she will overwhelm the person who wronged her with incessant questions trying to make them feel her side until they cave in. In her closest relationships, her absolute need for the show of love and inclusion and validation cause the very people she is trying to reel closer in to push her away, a self fulfilling prophecy. My Mom, while I love her, is her own worst enemy.

Needless to say, these two, my wife and my mother, clash. At first they liked each other. The very first issue involved our wedding planning. My wife had a very clear plan for the guest list, and my mom asked for a number of her friends to be included on the list. My wife did not want that, got immediately upset and the situation blew out of control. My mom called me nonstop asking why my wife could be so cold, unwilling to see her side, or give in even an inch. My wife felt my Mom was making the wedding all about her, and could not believe she was called cold. She was “done”. My mom wasn’t paying for a cent of the wedding either so this was another offense. In the end I brokered a compromise, much to the dismay of both women. Each held the grudge for a long time.

Occasionally my mother would do something that my wife disliked, and my wife would be pissed at me for not standing up for her. Admittedly I had never stood up to my mother, I always took the time to listen to her side and find reason behind her otherwise inflammatory ways. My wife and mother had a falling out right before the wedding, and forced me to choose sides. I struggled as I found both of them to be at fault. I chose my wife and my mother hated it. Ever since, basically anything that my mother says or does, whether good or not, offends my wife. Even the most genuine attempts by my mother to reach out to my wife are smacked down. My wife has never made any effort to release the past resentment. Over the years my mother has attempted to take the high road, only to be barely acknowledged by my wife. I have always pleaded with my wife to at least pretend to like my mother. She did a bad job of pretending because my mother would always call me and ask why my wife appears to never care or never let go of past feelings. So both saw through each other, my mother would continue to act happy and loving, while my wife never would.

Anyway now our son came into the picture. He is amazing and being the first grandchild on both sides, the grandparents want to be around him every chance they can get. My mother visit every weekend. I told my wife we have to let her do this. My wife dreaded this. I told my mother that one of the weekends, we wanted her to visit on a Sunday (staying over till Monday morning) instead of a Saturday because we had plans that Saturday. In actuality the day was a birthday celebration for my father in law, being held at her parents house. She just didn’t want my mother involved in everything so she put her foot down. My mother wouldn’t take no for an answer and pulled it out of me what we were doing that day. Well she took great offense to the fact that she was not automatically invited, and couldn’t believe how cold, unChristian, and I loving my wife and her family were.

This stuff affects me greatly so of course I share with my wife, and she exclaims she is done with my mother. No longer wants to be nice or pretend, she is tired of how much my mother always wants it all to be her way and then throws out insulting and hurtful words about my wife to get her way. I get messages from my moms friends telling me how I need to see things my moms way, they would never exclude their mother this way, and that my wife is causing all of this.

And so here we are. I saw my mother the next day, and my wife removed herself from the situation by staying out for the day. It was incredibly uncomfortable. I told my mother how mad I was at her for always being so difficult and never just letting it go. I told her my real feelings about how I wished she could stop needing such inclusion and love. Her response was that she is justified in wanting to be included in everything, and that my wife has never shown her any love or effort and it was obvious, so what could she possibly do? I told her my wife is willing to work on this, perhaps in professional therapy. But in reality my wife wants no part of that and has no desire to mend anything anymore. I think she resents me for trying to mend things.

So what do I do? I’m frustrated with my mom for being difficult, always needing more and never letting things go, and saying inflammatory things when she doesn’t get her way. But I see that all she’s ever wanted was peace and love, and my wife never gave her that. I’m frustrated with my wife for getting so easily offended at everything my mother says or does, and I wish she could make any effort to see the other side and let go of such a grudge. My mother is definitely strong willed and manipulative but I think there is love there if only we could work through it. My wife is extremely assertive and refuses to let anyone wrong her twice. Both think the other has always been dead wrong, the entirety of the blame, and will never change. My wife is ok never seeing my mother again, yet my mother says she wants to let bygones be bygones and attempt to work through it.

What should I do? Forever stuck in the middle. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

P***y got you possesed... Mother is mother.

MaxVee:
I Am Losing My Mind, Could This Be Love Or Foolishness?

Okay, I'd be quick and brief as well.

So about 6 months ago, I met my girl on facebook, And after months wooing her to date me, she finally agreed and we started dating..

Like everything was perfect and indeed I fell deeply in love with her even before I met her.

So along the line in our relationship she told she had a best friend who is a guy and they have know each other for like 4years..and that they talk very well (calls and chat) and that they tell each other they love themselves, but if I wasn't cool with it,I could break up she would understand.

As a guy I knew I had fallen for her and I embraced her telling me about the guy after a strong assurance from her that they were not into any sort of relationship with each other.

So my girl called me like let's say a month after we started dating that there was this her friend who she hadn't met and that wanted and she was going to see him, and I was like fine, she should just be fine.

P.S:- I hadn't met with my girl even till the point she went to meet the guy...I was in the west and she was in one of the states in the East..more like a long distance relationship.

Fast forward to days after they met I became uncomfortable with the relationship between my girl and the said new guy she met..I talked to her severally about it and she was at some point swearing not having anything to do with the new guy she just met.

Fast forward to the festive season I came back and I met my girl for the first time..indeed she was everything I imagined and we flowed amazingly well.

Long story cut short in the midst of one of our long conversations I discovered she have at some point had sex severally with her said best friend...so I was like since it was before we met I forgave her and we moved on..

yesterday I asked her if she has anything with the new guy and she swore again not having anything with him that the guy has been asking her out and she refused dating him.

She said plenty of things that convinced me into believing that nothing was going between them.

P.S:- before yesterday I told her to tell the new guy she has a boyfriend and she promised to..(from the actions of my girl I could tell she loves me.) She later told me that day that she told him and she had blocked him and stuff..and trust me I did believe her.

So this morning while she was sleeping I reaching out to her phone and went straight to her WhatsApp.. opened the chat with the guy and what I saw broke me..

She was reconciling with him over the break up she instigated of which was caused by something totally different not even because she told him she had a guy..what killed my spirit was a message she wrote to the guy saying "she left me for him even though I was far much a better option"..I confronted her and she has been pleading saying she loves me but she likes him and that they haven't had anything except kissing and caressing..that she loves me so much..that she started liking him when she started talking to him more frequently and I was far away. She hadn't know me..so she got fond of him and she likes him.

I love this babe so much, I told her I forgive her..but please I need your opinions..am I blinded by love or am being foolish..

How would you handle the situation. If it was you..
La La.. please help move this to front page
Am breaking every hour.

I think she's in love with you... Idiota

donstan18:
You harvested what exactly? Maize abi Cocoyam?

Oga! Your only pain is that you didn't sleep with her. Nothing else.

And for being foolish to believe her no sex and rape story blah blah bla when she's not a Virgin.

Take your L and move on.

Lol. I was actually bleeping other girls just that na she I love pass cos she's so brilliant and we share almost the same goal

Davash222:
The audio you heard is real. She and her nonsense friend are only manipulating you. You've been blackmailed emotionally.


3 years with a Nigerian girl and no sex When she's not a virgin?
You invested so much in the relationship while one boy is fuccking her with just indomie and egg. Inside life

We were in distance relationship for those 3 years. We see like thrice in a year. The rape story she told me really got me. She cried so bitterly when she was sharing the experience and I felt for her. She sucked emotion out me.

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nlPoster:
Cant make head or tail of the post.

What does rape have to do with whatever you said?

As for NIGERIANS accusing people of whatever they feel like accusing them of, if that's their pastime or full time occupation, then kudos to them.

It must be great to never get tired of crap, I wonder what the feeling is like.

She told me she won't be having Sex with anyone until marriage because she's been traumatized by the rape experience and that she hate men but really love the kind of cool person I am.

I'm finding it hard to move on, it's been 3 months now.