₦airaland Forum

MrBrownJay1:
again, this is INDEED the 1st date, and as i can see, you wouldnt look down on the act.... so as i say, dont be too quick to follow what "society" may dictate. time is changing....especially with social media and all them available dating apps.
[/b]

I disagree with you.

It's something to go on a date with a stranger and it's another thing to go on a date with your wife.

Judging from your point of motion, won't we call the both DATE?

MrBrownJay1:
the issue was to give us an answer, as it sure does happen around the world.

You are still proving me right that you didn't understand my first comment, go back and check the last part of my comment. I said "IN AFRICA".

MrBrownJay1:
funny that you look down on my assumptions while calling it unrealistic (aka an assumptions of your own, lol)

BTW so many enter arranged marriages, where they only meet their spouse on marriage night...hhmm ok.

Things that rarely happen shouldn't be used as an assumption and backup while striking a point in an argument.

MrBrownJay1:
the question was VERY SIMPLE....i will ask it again, since you didnt answer it: if you (as a man) do exactly the same thing a slut is doing, do you consider yourself BETTER THAN A SLUT, simply because society does not look down on your actions?!?

a YES or NO will suffice...

A YES or NO shouldn't be an answer to this question, it's indirectly rhetorical.

It's just like asking a thief after being caught if he/she should be killed because some society believe in killing thieves. Would you expect a YES/NO type of answer from the said thief?

MrBrownJay1:
bro, let me help you understand why i believe you are misled by society (and its oulook on this isuue).

A) lets say you meet a gal via FB/Insta/tinder or any other social media, and therefore communicate with this babe for a few months...before you guys decide to meet (when you understand that you are passionate about one another). would you still consider this babe a slut if/when you finally meet and have sex on the 1st date?!

This instance is a different ball game, the relationship has being built, you both aren't strangers anymore, there has being an introduction of familiarity in this case, get my point.

How about asking "When you meet a lady today, ask her for a date today and get down with her on bed today" this would have being a good question, not when you both must have known some things about each other.

MrBrownJay1:
B) you meet a babe, and on the 1st date, you end up staying the whole day together and at the end of that day, you ask her to marry you.... she says yes and you guys have beautiful sex that evening. would you still consider her a slut?

This is still different buddy and the assumption tends to be unrealistic.

Well, to answer your question, i'll call her a slut because there's no different between her and a loose lady, what if the marriage utterances made by the guy is a tool to achieve his goal that same day?

MrBrownJay1:
C) and here is the important part... if you (as a man) do exactly the same thing a slut is doing, do you consider yourself BETTER THAN A SLUT, simply because society does not look down on your actions?!? remember, i am asking how do YOU feel about yourself, not what society feels about you, since what is important here is YOUR own view.

Logically and equally, both genders should receive the same critics in this case, but it doesn't work like that in our society and you know that, women mostly suffer sexual consequences and critics than men in Africa.

Concerning myself and the society, a society can be seen as a long-standing group of people sharing cultural aspects such as language, dress, norms of behavior and artistic forms or countably a group of people who meet from time to time to engage in a common interest; an association or organization.

And no matter how you try to justify the act of not attempting to please the society, I won't concur to that but will rather see it as pretense and societal ignorance.

MrBrownJay1:
as much as you made some sense in the 1st part of your post, i fully disagree with the above....you see, what you wrote is the exact reason why women are confused about this issue, you have no CONCRETE reason to give them and blame society for this issue, while the reality of life is that a slut can make you wait for months, and still be a slut, while a good babe could have sex with you on the 1st date (especially if you have communicated heavily via social media prior)) and she will still be considered a good babe.

I, MBJ, would only view a babe as a slut if she ACTS like one, WALKS like one, DRESS like one etc, and whether society looks down on her is irrelevant to me, as i certainly dont follow that BS (although i understand why some do).

there are many hoes out there that you dont need to fukc (on 1st date or 100th date) to know that they are low dirty skanks.

and IMHO, a man is just as sluttish as these women, if he fukc every slut he possibly can, whether society accepts it or not. you cant possibly sit here think that you are better than a slut, while doing the exact same thing she does. the catch here is that MEN DONT CARE due to our inner bestial nature, while women do.... and thats the issue here. but dont be mistaking, as there are plenty of male sluts!

I respect the fact the you sensibly and logically opposed and countered my opinion.

But I strongly believe you didn't understand some part in my comment, had it been you comprehensibly invested on the last past of my scribblings and buttressed opinion, you would have understood the reason prompting my stances, the problem and reasons are African society and mentality, I maybe part of the society, hence the change starting from me, but some sexual ideology has ruined us and might take a hell of decades to erase it. That's the truth.

Below is my comment.

Donstan18:
Truth be told, in Africa, a woman who sleeps with men on their first date is a SLUT, quote me anywhere, she's not a slut because she's truly a slut, but because of how the society made gender sexual encounters look .

I never called a lady who sleeps with men on their first date a slut because she's a slut, but because of what and how our society view sexual encounters between both genders.

In Africa, a lady sleeping with a man on their first date is abnormal, it sounds weird to a third party and that's the truth. You may be different but MUST be on the minor side of those who v'got that mentality.

A lady who sleeps with a man on their first date will be considered a slut because that act can be seen as an example of a loose woman which correlate with the definition of slut.

May he be blessed by sons like Bobrisky and Osama binladen, instead of daughters like Linda Ikeji and other successful women and breadwinners of their family. So that he'll be happy.

Congratulations to the pregnant woman........Deliver in peace!


We gotcha back!

That guy is a disgrace to fertile men, this is what happens when you gym your preeq alone without attempting other muscular part of your body.

He had the bedmatics skills and strength to finger, tap and flog the ass of those ladies with his hands when they were giving him doggy style, but he couldn't use those same hands to defend himself from being beaten by a woman.

It's a brave and happy thing for man to be stronger than 7 women at a time during sex, but it's a disgrace to be beaten by a woman.

On behalf of **** and my two brothers, Don suck-pussay and Don otu-ocha , we'll sadly give our sympathy to the pregnant lady because of what her friend will do to her after dealing with her boyfriend.

Thegeneralqueen:
You should be grateful that you're weren't stoned to death binta

Are you pretending to be abnormal?

An accusation shouldn't equate condemnation till proven right with a befitting and concrete evidence.

Rumors are these days carried by haters, spreaded by fools, and accepted by idiots.

Marshalxv:
I read all these in your first post bro.
About African mentality, I'm an African doesn't mean I have to think like every other African.
I said something about individual variation.
My lady is dealing with me and not with the society.
There's no truth to be embraced here bro, I already know my truth but you're trying so hard to force Your Own truth on me.

Mr Obi is a Nigerian politician doesn't mean that he'll be corrupt like the rest, but does it change the cliche that Nigerian politicians are not corrupt?

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Are you asking me that question?

Yea, I did.

How many of them?

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Other African countries voted oooo! What the heck is wrong with people? Do you see other African countries berating it's citizens for watching bbn? Sadists.

Out of those countries, which of them is Nigeria better than?

lovediehatelive:
LOL.. Approaching her is not the problem, but IS IT PROPER to get her digits in the prescence of her co-workers?

It's proper to go for what you want so long as it'll not affect anyone negatively.

Marshalxv:
Bross speak for yourself, we all can't be the same, there's what's called individual variation. The way you see relationship and sex may be totally different from other person's view. To me, sex on the first day is not a yardstick to how much I'll value the girl, it all depends on the circumstances that led to the sex, our compatibility and how well we connect. For clarity, I once dated a girl that had sex with me on the first date and our relationship happened to be my longest and till today, I still got that soft spot for her.


Hey ladies, this is not to encourage you to be having sex about with every guy you meet on your first date. Zip up your skirt and open up your heart!

SLUT: This is generally a term for a woman or girl who is considered to have loose sexual morals or who is sexually promiscuous.

Be truthful to yourself, just be truthful.

African societal views on ladies who you can easily sleep with supersedes all your manner of pretense herein.

Embrace the truth and move on.
I'm a guy aswell and we both know the truth behind the OP's question.

Remember, I initially said that the lady might not be seen as a slut because she's truly a slut, but because of how the society made gender sexual encounters look.

rebirthforgoody:
My baby is watching you closely so you better keep up

rebirthforgoody:
Nothing wrong with it though I haven't try it before

Who asked you? Oh! your conscience did

You are simply scared to approach her.

The man made a very good point with a controversial statement, I won't totally agree with the words "Abusive husband", neither will I disagree with him. You'll only understand that statement if you read between line with an open minded heart without being hurt as a lady.

But we all know the point he made.

-An unmarried lady at 40 is bitter..... Fact!
-A unmarried lady at 40 is unhappy....Fact!
-An unmarried lady at 40 is emotionally and psychologically lonely...Fact!
-An unmarried lady at 40 especially celebrities will come to social media to snap and pretend to be happy, but deep inside them they are not.....Fact!
-An unmarried lady at 40 is emotionally and psychologically frustrated.....Fact!
-An unmarried lady uses the words "God knows the best, It will be well, I don't need a man" to console and pretend, but will go inside and cry to herself......Fact.

And to avoid all the above aforementioned negative feelings, gives them the reasons to prefer any kind of man, whether broke, rich, ugly, tall, handsome, short and ABUSIVE, hence the reason and point of that man

He made a point!

SLUT: This is generally a term for a woman or girl who is considered to have loose sexual morals or who is sexually promiscuous.

Let us for once be truthful to ourselves, the hustle for commends from women(victims) herein will do you no good but harm them by encouraging them to have sex on the first date. I can see comments filled with pretense, lies, and self deception.

We are Africans, no matter how we answer this question by claiming sexually civilized on social media, we'll still log out and face the truth and reality, that's fact. This is Africa, where a woman who slept with a man on their first date will be tagged LOOSE WOMAN by the same man and the society, while the man will be tagged FVCKBOI, PLAYER, CHAMPION etc.

I can authoritatively tell you that the way a man see, feel and value a woman he slept with on their first date MUST be different with the way he'll value a woman he didn't sleep with on that day, but they'll come here to say E no mean anything , so that you ladies will keep sleeping with them on the first date , Human beings don't value easy things.

OP , to answer your question.

Truth be told, in Africa, a woman who sleeps with men on their first date is a SLUT, quote me anywhere, she's not a slut because she's truly a slut, but because of how the society made gender sexual encounters look.

Chikita66:
I will invite you to my wedding this year, mark it somewhere, you can ask highpriestess, you are not my level.

What level?

Level of how you once dated a married man who got you an apartment, a man with kids with a pregnant wife

Or the level of how you dated your ex's best friend

Which one pinkiB

I'm coming for you, an awesome drama will soon explode on Nland,

With a concrete prove

Safiaa:
I buy ny own food, put clothes on myself, pay my own rent at my house in school and also pay rent in my mothers house. You guys just just dont understand anything. You read one line and skip the others. Its not my fault that you cant comprehend, i’m sorry. I will never depend on a man for everything, but if you want to be in my life and possibly be my husband, you have to support me financially and show that youre willing to provide. Its that simple. I have to see that youre willing to take care of me.

Had it been you earlier said and personalized your point like this, the heat of argument would have being less.

Chikita66:
There is nothing wrong with that, so far both of them are working, they will always make out time for each other, unless he wants his wife to be idle and a housewife.

You are not qualified to comment on anything concerning marriage because of the harm nature did to you

highpriestess:
donstan is sounding all lovey dovey.

I wish you a blissful marriage.

Thegeneralqueen:
I tell you sis he's a nice person



Thanks girl

DONSTAN RIGHT NOW

Shugavee:
u both r crazy

Smh......

LadyAimy:
watin all of una dey do here?

Sister Oyin in the lord, how you?v

Chikita66:
Biko NEPA took our light and am hearing "mama give us signal on Facebook, what is it all about?

Pinkberry, Vickydera, rorachy and the rest monikers.


Donstan is saying 'Hy'

I'll soon explode as promised

ewa20buredi100:
Sir, I just have this fear of uncertainty of what may become of me in years to come and again the way things are in Nigeria. I don't want to end up regreting the decision.

Every attempt of hustle in this world is a risk and likely to have some atom of regret possibility.

You aren't throwing your certificate, you are going for the available since the desirable is not available, while you indulge in the apprentice work, you'll still be looking for jobs or a fellow to partner and start a chemical related business since that's your field.

I understand you, I sure do, but you have to get something doing at the moment to avoid negative mindset and influence from friends.

Destiny can only be delayed, but can't be denied

Oga, cut down your pride and hustle.............28 years no be beans oo.


Ego and what people will say are the problems of most young men these days.