CONVICTION or CONFUSION (Episode 3)

YOUR ROLE
Yea! I said your role is just 30% right? Yes, I mean it. The 30% is for you to work on yourself. Your education, your charisma, you outward look (No wonder pastors dey marry fine babe these days), your vision, your aspiration and your desire. Your type of food is also important, mode of eating and even sleep. All is not just been ‘he/she must love me for who I am’. Taaah! For where?

Dear brothers and sister, check yourself. Let me give you a gist. I hung out with a lady on the 27th of December, 2016 and while catching our fun, a lady came and said ‘Can I join you for a photo shoot please?’ Will she has asked for that IF maybe something was wrong with our outfits. Let me open up sef. Me as a guy, I do have ladies as toasters. I remember a lady that confesses how she was dying to just move close to me as a friend owing to the way I talk, walk, carry myself and deal with issues at my WOFBI course with winner’s chapel in bonny. Wish she have been dying if I am just a casual guy. Bro, tell your neighbor… SHIFT!

YOUR SPOUSE
Yes, I said the remaining 50% is about your spouse. Yes, I know why I said so. First of all, have this at the back of your mind that you can NEVER understand your spouse to the last letter so soon. Psychologist says ‘it takes 3 – 4 years before you can know someone better (not best remember) and couples that stays close to that in relationship/courtship are less prone to divorce’. That is why I will NEVER support all these 3-6months courtship and then go into wedding.

You have two works to do even before telling a guy YES or proposing to a lady.
1. You need to know and understand your partner, never expect your spouse to understand you, you should be the one to understand him/her. The work includes knowing his/her weakness/strength. Likes/dislikes, food type, sleep, body/mouth odour (if there is any), future ambition, spirituality, blood group and genotype, temperament, movement and lot more. Now wait! Will God be the one to come and do all that for you? Many lazy Christians will just sit down in the church, kabashing in tongues and expecting a perfect will of God who will just suit their taste and purpose as if they are perfect too. NO! Go out and see things yourself. Understand him/her before accepting or proposing.

2. You have to now work on the area the brother or sister is not meeting up. See, get this straight. Church is not a home for saints but hospital for sinners/broken hearted/the lost souls/mending point, call it a name. So, don’t just think there are ready made spouse anywhere, you have to work on them. At times self, you buy ready-made clothe be it gown or whatsoever in the market at even expensive price and you still take it to mushroom tailor to work on it for you. That is the typical example of what I am talking about. Your going to market to buy what you like is choosing a partner while either enlarging or slim fitting is molding him/her to your taste and the tailor is either your pastor or mentor or marriage counselor who may even end up telling you to condemn a cloth (spouse) if peradventure is not good enough for you owing to one reason or the other or encourage you to move one with him/her. If your tailor condemns a clothe and you insist, you alone will have to dance to the tune of its consequences’ because for every decision in life, there is always a consequence.
Don’t let me bore you, read the next episode at your convenient time but remember we are still celebrating a virtuous woman.

CONVICTION or CONFUSION (Episode 2)

ROLE OF GOD
You are still wondering why God is Just 20% right? Ok, let me try to explain if I won’t bore you. Kindly answer these questions please. Will God come and live in your house for you? Will he hold down the hand of your spouse when he becomes angry and wants to lay hands on you? Will God cook your food when your wife is not around? Will God teach your spouse the next move you wish on bed? NO…

God’s role is to ascertain that your spouse is genuinely born again. I can go to church a million times a day, pray and fast a thousand times a day and God will still not know me as his son/daughter. He knows His people and His people knows Him (John 10:14) and He will not give his own to a stranger (John 10:5) which is the devil.

This aspect is what many of us are not always convince that now needs the intervention of God and assistance of a sound and seasoned man of God to discern in case we are making mistakes. Have you ask yourself what normally happens when you have a revelation and conviction of brother A and also of brother B? It is still same God. But immediately God’s part is been done, it is left for you to decide on the rest.
You are the one to know if you see future with him/her, if you share the same dream, if your genotype/blood group will not be a barrier. If you truly LOVE him/her. Love is the ultimate thing here. Infact, that aspect you don’t like, if you love him/her love will cover it up (1Pet.4: because nobody is perfect.

Let us brainstorm a little. Does it mean that if God is involve, there won’t be challenges? See, I have seen a marriage God told the two parties they are meant to be and after few years, they end up parting because they marry under the influence of God not of love. That is when a man will be telling the wife, I wouldn’t have marry you if not that God says and they will be living under the bondage of God says not accepting things because of love.
Many Christian homes are nothing to write home about today, they come to church truly, attend functions together in the same attire and do all sort of things together but when they get inside their closet, they are cat and rat.

See, am not moved by your high level of Holy Ghost filled you might be if there is no love.
Don’t let me bore you, read the next episode at your convenient time but remember we are still celebrating a virtuous woman.

CONVICTION or CONFUSION

Still in the spirit of celebrating the only woman I never changed her name from BELOVED on my phone for ages. Though it’s been long I have time to compose new thing, I have been doing copy and paste for a while but I think there are needs for me to share my own personal view of things.
The above topic is all about RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE. At times I look at the level of things in Christendom and I asked myself over and over again if we have not been brainwashed. The word conviction is what we are always after and later end up been confused. Let me see if I can start with the word conviction itself.
Dictionary says conviction is a firmly held belief or opinion on something. To me, conviction is yje assurance of something you are into and how liable it might work.

I don’t want to go too canal and don’t want to bee to spiritual but God will help me to balance it out rightly.
Now, talking about conviction in relationship/marriage. Don’t let us mix things together. Our God is not author of confusion remember (1Cor. 14:33). Since the time of Adam that he blamed God for giving him Eve when he never even truly ask for an helpmeet (Gen. 3:12), God has been very careful when it comes to choosing a life partner, so that you won’t blame Him for your ordeal when challenges arise, that is why He says: He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD (Prov. 18:22) not he who I give a wife to or he who ask me for a wife. So, it is the duty of a man to look for a wife not God.
I know many will feel like, does it mean God must not be involved in relationships/marriage? NO. God must be involved. Infact, he must be the foundation of the relationship/marriage but always have it at the back of your mind that relationship/marriage is just 20% of God, 30% of you and 50% of whom you are dealing with, I mean your spouse.

Don’t let me bore you, read the next episode at your convenient time but remember we are still celebrating a virtuous woman.

Any lady from preferably Yoruba but live/work in Rivers/Bayelsa and interested in a short relationship that will leads to marriage should add me up on whatsapp 08030834800.

Bluezy13:
Hehehe...






At the end of the testimony, na woman you find come.
You see, it all boils down to women!


I admired your testimony, but you needn't crown it all with quest for feminine satisfaction. It doesn't justify the above supposed reputable men of God you mentioned as well as the message you send across.

Body no be firewood, but open a separate thread where you seek women. Don't spoil this show na.

Anyways, I tap into your fortune

Thanks bro... Done

BreadandBeans:
Your testimony make sense, and I'm happy for you.. but you're trying to use the opportunity to catch NL babes.. and I'm very sure some of them will fall for your tricks

Smiles... You only speak from your own side of view and sincerely I appreciate it but do you think I will put names if am fake?

As for Nairaland ladies... If you dont buy fake, you can't know original

TESTIMONY TIME!!!


Running after a marine job even with Agboluaje Muhammed Adebimpe and Yekini Tajudeen at Nigeria Liquefied Natural Gas proved abortive and the endless roll of the second phase of interview seems not to reach my side, I decided to take up a little job at a private firm around April 2015 just to keep spirit and soul together even though it doesn't worth it but to Ben Ige, I am swimming in money here in Bonny Island and even Gena Nwanguma alongside with Allison Philomina Ibifiri wants to send me off by force if not for the help of Otunba Prince Sam Elekwa who has been giving me though false but encouraging hope and Dagogo D. Allison who made me know I can still reap something good out of here.


I got this job through the help of Caleb Benson who was once a dear friend and everything seems to be good at the initial stage till my manager started giving me attitude early 2016 and it wasn't really funny at all but I decided to keep on no matter what. I thought things would be better as time goes on but it was't . I would have maybe report to the CEO but they were best of friends and it will be more disastrous. I was once forced to hint some of our staff what I was noticing and the response got me shocked when they thought maybe she was having a crush on me and I on the other hand always put on a churchly attitude.


I was enduring this drama till when the CEO herself started giving me much more than what I can handle. As a sheep sent among the wolves, I need to behave myself and be more cautious of what I do but it seems I was only day dreaming when it later end up in getting fired. All thanks to my amiable Prophet Okamodu Lucky Benson and the only spiritual father I have in Bonny Island, Pastor Oleru Christian alongside with Evang. Prince Funso who interceded for me bother in advice, prayer, consulting and encouragement before the pronouncement got reversed.


As a little bit sharp guy, I tried looking out for a better offer and fortunately enough, the only place I applied was like a dream come true as they accepted me with a huge warm hand and showed me an unmerited love. If I am to be sincere, it was more or less like begging before I accepted the offer because I was scared of what I may faced there. Not to disappoint the, I put all my effort like never before and contributed greatly in promoting the image of the firm.


Less than three weeks I resumed there, my 34 years old divorced manager came to the facility. Hearing (not even seeing) that she was around, i curled into my shell and hid myself in my office expecting a call through our errand girl to be summoned but sincerely nothing of such came up. I was astonished and also confused when my new manager told me that she came to apply as well. Its not possible, no be almighty Soty 'as fondly called' will stoop so low to apply here and start from the scratch. Weeks after, she was introduced to us as one of the new staff and we exchanged pleasantries. she was given a position a bit lower than mine. Since my mummy Christiana Oloyede never taught me to keep grudges and Jesus also told me through His word to love my enemy, I decided to draw her closer and dine with her, though with a long spoon and enjoy the friendship while it last as anything might still come up. While doing that, I was also tapping into her vast knowledge of experience and to meet up with the past for me, she was dishing out more than what I even asked for. Without asking, she started narrating what transpired between herself and my former CEO and I guess you should know to the extend a lady can go to rubbish a co-lady when the issue of snatching man-friend/hubby is involved but I acted as if I was swallowing it all with hook and line.


Work resumed fully on the 9th of January and the whole staff gathered to have a long meeting after a short holiday. During the course of the meeting, an appraisal was raised and I was regarded as the best staff of the year... Wow! this was awesome and to crown it all, I was booked for a seminar in Lagos for one week by April and all expense to be paid by may firm. Sincerely, the verse 5 of Psalm 23 came to pass in my life and I felt like I was riding on an eagles wing.


Last week Friday, a committee was constituted to oversee the affairs and welfare of the staffs. I never even have the mind to be part of it as aiSAM project really clouded my mind than even MMM now but was not made only a member of the committee but the chairman by force. Iranlowo tipatipa. The funniest part of it was that, my former manager than frustrated my life then was now nominated as my secretary and guess how it will look like when dishing out instructions for your minor in rank. I couldn't help but to smile when I remember the old bad dayz with her and now she can't even cough... may the Lord silence your enemy when uplifting you. Can you please say AMEN?


Lastly, lastweek friday was another sweet day when my ex who after professing millions of love later brought her then boyfriend to embarrassed and even almost got me arrested over my thing in front of Tantalizer at Iwo Road in Ibadan came begging for forgiveness and asked to be just ordinary friend cause she knows she doesn't even worth a lover anymore. She wailed so much and said her then boyfriend jilted her because they have issues on MMM ponzi scheme. I quickly have to let her know my stand but just that I can't imagine me feeling this lucky. It think Xtianah Chriz Tohluhlohpe should remember the incidence.




BOTTOM LINE: Never misused your power or position and never look down on anybody as someone you looked on today, you may end up looking up to them tomorrow. The only constant thing in life is CHANGE


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A man is like a shoe lace, he passes through many holes before he finally ties the nut.

#Isorait
#Somebody's Bae
#Wetin Con Remain!!!

"Oh yeah"
"F**k me harder"
"Screw me Chisom"
''Oh yeah go deeper baby "

I have always known my d**k game was toe curling and good but sometimes I wonder if Amanda was always faking these her moans and screams or she really was getting the D that good.
Actually that wasn't my problem today. Some other day, her screams would ginger me to thrust harder into her and even drill a hole in the bed if that was possible but today I was not feeling anything at all, I just wanted to release and get out of her and out of the house.
Tonight was the night I had planned with the boys to get the deal done. I was feeling antsy already. I couldn't wait to meet with Ugochukwu and Iseoluwa. Those boys have been my men since I came into Gidi 7 years ago.
We were all graduates who ran away from our parents to come heck out a living in Lagos to no avail. That's story for another time.
"Chisom yeah screw me harder "
"Deeper baby"
"Harder baby"
Amanda continued her 'dramoan', I was getting fed up of being on top, I needed to Cum very fast. I stood and turned her upside down, raised her succulent ass into the air and rammed into her with all the strength I could muster. Fifteen powerful thrust and I was done.
'"Thank God " I inwardly said my praises. Laughing, I don't know why I always dragged God into silly matters. I picked my boxers, shirt and trousers from beside the bed, wore them getting ready to go out.
"Chisom, where are you off to? " Amanda asked
"Taking a stroll with the guys" I replied
"I just hope it's just a stroll with the guys"
I don't like it when she starts this her subtle hinting that I might be cheating on her. Actually I was but I wasnt getting the P from Nike like I do from Amanda.
I watched her as she got dressed. Truth be told, Amanda is a beauty. Fine face, white charming dentition, crazy dimples and gorgeous hourglass shape but I still don't know why she ain't enough for me.
Shaking my head to clear the distracting thoughts, I opened my wallet to give her tfare. She kissed me goodbye, stepped out of my room and she was gone.
I picked my bag, stepped out of my house. Walking out of my street, I met Ugo and Iseoluwa on their way to my house.
"Guy, we don dey wait you since " Ise complained.
" No vex na Amanda just hold me down small".
"Ol' boy that babe go use her Kini finish you ooo" Ugo joked.
I smacked Ugo on the head as we continued our way towards the dumpsite that served as our meeting point and weed smoking arena.
We were to chill there for few hours before heading out for our job for the night.
Dragging my weed and puffing out smoke to form a halo over my head, my brain was just bursting with so many things I Would do with the money we would make from tonight. I was gonna paint the freaking streets of Gidi red. I will ball like tomorrow ain't coming.
Graduating from the University 7 years ago, with no good job, no money, nothing. I Don too suffer than not to flex when the money comes.
Three hours later, we finished smoking and moved towards Magodo Estate where the deal was to take place. We had our plans and weapons in place. We were going to waylay and rob The CEO of JadonTee Group of companies on his way from work.
We got a tip off that he was going home with a lot of money tonight. Standing on the deserted road awaiting the approach of his car, I prayed in my heart that this operation goes smoothly. We sighted his car and swiftly moved to our strategic positions bringing out our weapons.
We flagged down the car. Ugo and I were on both sides of the car while Ise stood in front of the car. " We know you have a lot of money with you, so open the door and come out of the car gently and noiselessly to avoid bloodshed. We just wanna take our share and vanish " Ise shouted from his spot. The door of the car opened slowly and the next thing I knew, I was on my face on the ground with a pistol pointed to my head from the back. I looked around and saw my guys in the same positions.
Wondering what was happening, I raised my head slowly...
Then I saw the uniforms...
"You are under arrest for attempted robbery and possession of weapons, you have the right to keep quiet because anything you say would be used against you in the court of law"
"We were busted "
The End

JUST FOR FUN:
Na wa oh, some kain mistakes can cause wahala oh, why would someone put up this kind of sign na? Any way, if you are driving and you find this sign on the road, what would you do? No lie oh!
1. Slow down
2. Turn the car around immediately
3. Park the car and run with leg towards the opposite direction
4. Call the police
5. Laugh and just keep going
6. Relocate from the state entirely
7. Others (specify)

Which one do you desire before this year runs out finally. There is God of the 11th hour.

Ask and ye shall be given

My best friend Mimido2 just won an award for the "BEST MAKE-UP ARTIST" Nigeria.. Congratulations dear!! More grace..

Malayy:
stop fvcking with a kid..

I never do bro

ikp120:


Read your opening post again and quit being a hypocrite. No be talk say you wan kiss am but she no gree?
Oga not everyone here is a kid. Just tell us you don't want to commit to her. Not bringing up some conspiracy stuff

Yes... I said it but I never meant it. Just wanted to know who she is really was

Mimido2:
hmmmm

Ok, I will

decatalyst:
Honestly, I don't know what to type


But I hope it's not this she wants to use for you...

Smiles... nawty boi

ikp120:
You sound like a kid although you're over 28 (age is just a number)

See how you're just turning into a conspiracy theorist because of a girl that can see a future with you.

Lalastiiclala abeg shutdown this thread. Make I wear my eyeglass first jare before dust enter my eyes.

[color=#006600][/color]funny enough, I cant boast of future with her. Also, I have never disvirgin a lady in my life. I always avoid it if I know am not going to marry you

Purpletee:
complicated!!!!!

she might just be deeply in love with you and can't wait for the wedding night any more,or maybe peer pressure,

she might think she has finally met the right guy and wants to win over your heart through sex,
or she might actually wanna give some guy her honey pot after you.
who knows

my advice: ask her why she wants to do that,communication goes a long way fixing broken relationships.

I think you have real points but even if she doesn't have the mind of giving her honeypot to other guy, distance will later tempt her to do so

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Twaci:
Well stick to your resolution and tell her you want to wait a while too

I have said that already. I told her to let us wait till she has settle down in school and she said NO PROBLEM.

Just that am scared she will loose it to someone else when she gets there

Twaci:
Sure say she never carry belle and dey find scape goat?

That thought too is disturbing me but when we discussed about it, I told her I will use protection.

I'm even thinking maybe she is only testing me

Mimido2:
pls remove it

Let me think over it

Dear romancelander… kindly help me out if something is really fishy here

I met a girl on facebook early 2015 and we became friends. I never asked her out but she always act as if she is hard to get. I base in Rivers state while she base in Oyo state, the same area I grew up from (Ibadan).

I went home last year December and invited her but she requested we go to an eatery instead of her coming to my house despite our house are closer and our church too are closer. To cut cost, I implored her to let us meet in church (because she is all these ‘godly’ sisters) but she didn’t feel too comfortable with that, so I eventually took her out to an eatery. We spent like two hours gisting and laughing like we have known for long. After eating and all that, I took her to a supermarket besides the eatery and bough her some stuffs and for myself too. Later that week, she visited me and met my lil sister and mum and we all took pix together. She confessed to love my family and that was all.

She started acting like my girlfriend for real and I tried to see if it can really work but the feelings is not damn deep as she has it for me. I asked for a kiss on another day out and she insisted that not until after wedding as she is a virgin and cannot do anything of such till she gets married. I accepted and things continued.

I have traveled home twice this year but we didn’t see. The first time I traveled was may and my phone was down and couldn’t communicate till I returned the following day as I only went home for a friend’s marriage. The second time was august; I called her that I was home and she told me she was in Lagos already, I frowned at it as she didn’t inform me of her traveling and that will be the third time such a thing will happen but she apologized. She is still at Lagos till now and we are planning to meet at home this month end. To my greatest surprise, this lady that always ask me of church activities, my spiritual live and lots more first asked of my spiritual life and later offer to give me her virginity when we meet at Ibadan end of this month.

I thought it was some kind of joke at first till she was telling me to be Hot on like three different occasions and asking me to come and make love to her. She just gained admission and I am nine years older than her. I find it somehow sleeping with a lady that just clock 20 and worst still, someone we have only seeing thrice and claims to be a virgin.

A whole lots are passing through my mind and I want to believe maybe she has lost it or have someone else and wants me to have it before she make love to another guy. I have asked her severally but she denied having another guy.

Please, what do you think is going on? I’m thinking of not making love to her

Mimido2:
mtchewwwa

wats with guys and breast sef?

Just this too