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LuvU2:
Was joking bae. I dont even find it funny on most hausa ladies D heat! D discomfort! plzzz Lol

Stupedinluv:
hijaff makes one prettier. Lol exposing the 'hausa girls are beautiful' myth

MChaze25:
Have you built a house?
Or you want to a life of rent?
Have you secured your future amidst the plenty that you have now?
Start investing and always show results/progress to your parents.
Life is a turntable.
What if you loose your job tomorrow and she walks out of the marriage?
You think you know her and her people more than your parents do?
I once ate in the house of a family friend, my mum heard about it and gave me a spank i never imagined.
She knows better...
Open teeths doesnt mean open hearts talkmore of open doors to marriage talks!
Act like a man first that wants a great future first and watch them agree to you sooner.
Cheers..

vislabraye:
Thank God for your career. 25 is young. If u wait a few more years, you have nothing to lose. You'll get more experience. Have u done your masters or planning to do one ? Waiting for some time is not bad.

rafsonnggmail:
I think ur parents re right to some extend
Marrying at dat age may denied u so many opportunities in life
At dat age u have so many chance to struggle ahead & aquare alot.
My lectural once told me to take every opportunities dat come my way while I'm still single because once u tide de knot ur challenge wld definitely multiply
Wat giv u assurance dat de same company u re working wit today can't sack u tomoro?
So exercise patient wit ur parents so dat u don't regret ur action tomoro. U still have plenty of choice to make o

JeffreyJamez:
I'm with your parents on this one..... The fact you're okay financially doesn't mean you're ready for marriage... It's not like they said you shouldn't marry her, they said you both should wait!... So my advice... ...wait!

mamachizzy:
like I said its a personal feeling. stop getting headache over it

Ifakiland:
Ure still not making sense bro...its simple, d youngest in d house is d one dat always washes d plate. It has notin to do with real woman or aba made woman. If ur wife can take it no problem....but for me, no way, my kid bro will do d washing as long as he's in my house. Simple. But if d wife is younger Dan my kid bro, den she will do it. Its disrespectful for an older person to wash plate for a younger person.

JUSTbuchi:
my brain needs lubricant..... I get

JUSTbuchi:
thank God you understand now!

And for the other part, would pass!!

JUSTbuchi:
here we go again....read the pages abeg....the man said his brother helps out with other chores like fetching of water and all that, why complain about the dishes??

And you said there's nothing like a real woman??.... Let's not quibble over details here, we all know there's what we call girlfriend material and wife material

ItsQuinn:
As in, how are people meant to take him seriously? Not everyone is religious, just like how I'm not religious ....the bible is total crap, I don't believe in that stupid book ....only few verses in the bible make sense tho ....but 70% of the bible is very unrealistic of today's world

Konzent:
I think you need wisdom here more than any other thing said . First understand that your brother is feeding his ego and would not want to go down and wash the plates. Allow him there, rather define the tasks in the house and give him a portion of work that would be more dignifying. This would also relief your wife of some work and placate her. If she still complains, know she has something personal against your brother.

stephenmorris:
you females are just very very rude sometimes i even get angry why i support the feminism movement lol

mamachizzy:
Me personally will never let a man enter my kitchen and wash plates. be it my husband, brother or even brother in law. I think there are other more manly chores around the house that he can help ur wife with. like fetching water or cleaning the house. But if washing of plates will constitute a problem in ur house, then let ur brother was his plate immediately he is done eating

daryoor:
if the people in this incidence are yoruba, then the wife should not complain, the culture does not allow you to call the little guy by name talkless of demanding he wash the plates at home. the guy should only respect himself and wash his own plate. then if she's heavily pregnant he should help her out often.


respect your brother that has been with you unconditionally all your life. love your wife unconditionally but in situations like this you need to remember that, that b.itch chose you because of what you have.

Loisemm:
Who does the cooking for your younger bro to eat?

*modified -
since he fetches water and helps with other chores, its alright. He should wash his plates after eating and all will be well. I guess he may be leaving his plates in the sink for madam to wash. For me, that's not right if he is younger. I shake my head at the men here saying he should leave his plates for the woman of the house to wash! U will make ur extended family lose respect for your wife if u allow that.
Personally, if u try that with me as a younger Inlaw, I will help u wash it the first few times in case u didn't do it deliberately. After that, I will set ur dirty plate aside and u will come n wash it whenever u are ready.
I might add that if you are not ready to wash your own plates, then be ready to stop eating in the house soon. Na so them dey turn the co-owner of the house to housemaid if care isn't taken!

JUSTbuchi:
this isn't about using your wife like a slave, believe me a real woman wouldn't make a big deal out of this, she wouldn't even raise an eyebrow!! Only women who gat the kinda ego that would raise a dead man rant over things like this

Acheron:
If your brother is an adult then he should wash his own plate after every meal if your wife consider washing an extra plate a difficult task.

If your younger brother is in his teens, he should assist your wife with washing.

stephenmorris:
you are damn wrong so for example because i don't have a job ,i should surrender my honor as a man to a woman

bodmas119:
My younger brother is living with us but my wife used to complaint to me he doesn't wash plates, pls how should I handle the matter peacefully coz am confused?

Gofwane:
how did you know my take on the whole ish was wrong? Were you there?

Oh...! I'm beginning to suspect you. There's a possibility that you were one of those girls that 'raped' the guy.

Gofwane:
if only i wasn't born? Why that type of statement. So because i aired my view you decided to say that? I thought everyone is entitled to their opinion.

Jeez! What you said has spoiled my mood. It took me alot of self control to not react to that statement.

jaybillionaire:
But the religious text is still a fact and the platform at which marriage form it's basis. So that is logical of him enough. U both need to drop facts to gainsay his claims else u both give up on him

mnairaland:
Must everybody be like u or reason like you?
If I have to be candid you are wrong and owe him an apilogy. Your approach was definitey improper.

Ever heard of the phrase 'maner of approach'?

mnairaland:
Must everybody be like u or reason like you?
If I have to be candid you are wrong and owe him an apilogy. Your approach was definitey improper.

Ever heard of the phrase 'maner of approach'?

jaybillionaire:
Lol, u r still not bn logical dear, u r more of bn emotional, why not tackle Toks with points n make us believe he is wrong

Toks2008:
Lalasticlala don't say i have come again.

There are just some anomalous teachings that should be ironed out.

mnairaland:
Pls let this fellow be.There is no crime if he finds it funny.
That was unxalled for.

ActOfWar:
You must have mastered tha art of reading so well that you turned it to your advantage..
Reason why I wanted to be friends with you. So hard to come by a sensible girl thats not afraid of any form of stigmatisation if she stands alone.. Like I said in before "you are some rare Jewel"