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I think you are using submission like you would use the word ‘respect'. People who scream submission do not believe in ‘do unto others what you want them to do to you'. A man that respects himself and perform his duties would command respect and same goes for a woman who respects herself and perform her wifely duties.

Ambition is a contributory factor to ego . Both genders are guilty of being disrespectful when they feel like they are better than their significant other.

LynnPetra:
I still belive that wives should respect their husbands and be submissive. Unfortunately, the power of such submission lies In the hands of the husband who must first love the wife as Christ love the church. That's why I love matured men who understands the philosophy of "Do to others what you want them to do to you". You can't disrespect your wife and expects her to be submissive. The world is changing already, men now wants women to contribute both financially and otherwise to the home, and some women who are ambitious will find it difficult being submissive. Personally, I also demand respect from my man and sometimes I enforce it ,dammit!

Finally, I believe there are men that naturally commands submission from their wives because they play their roles well.It just comes flawlessly. A wise husband don't have any business with a wife who doesn't submit.

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LynnPetra:
I still belive that wives should respect their husbands and be submissive. Unfortunately, the power of such submission lies In the hands of the husband who must first love the wife as Christ love the church. That's why I love matured men who understands the philosophy of "Do to others what you want them to do to you". You can't disrespect your wife and expects her to be submissive. The world is changing already, men now wants women to contribute both financially and otherwise to the home, and some women who are ambitious will find it difficult being submissive. Personally, I also demand respect from my man and sometimes I enforce it ,dammit!

Finally, I believe there are men that naturally commands submission from their wives because they play their roles well.It just comes flawlessly. A wise husband don't have any business with a wife who doesn't submit.

How old are you?

KPboy:
Sorry my dear... I normally don't post anything. But if he doesn't love you, why does he propose and you accept to marry him?

Like we don't have married men who disagree with him?

Wise people don't seek advice from those that failed ventures especially not from a divorcee who has been unable to find a woman to settle down with since the divorce.



How old is grandpa now?:-(

kaboninc:
This particular post is not flawed.

'And wise people seek advice from those with failed ventures' - I saw this one here

I have said it times without number that that term ‘submission' is not only derogatory but also confusing.


Me, myself and I cannot be submissive (future husband take note) but I can be very reasonable, understanding, loving, respectful and flexible.

Are you saying that men do not submit to their bosses to work? A very daft comment man.....

universalMan:
The hypocrisy in most equal-right women is betrayed in their steady and constant "slavery" to their bosses in the work place vs their intolerance of submission to their husbands at home. Clearly, there is a superior desirable they are prepared to "slave" for at work! Any women who esteems money and fame over God's order should steer clear from marriage.

Love a fat woman today and become productive !

NevetsIbot:
You clearly need an upgraded brain to understand the sacarsm in my use of the word ''epistle''... Go chide.... Be a good lady and stop raising dust up for yourself

Do you really need a dictionary to understand the word ‘epistle'?

NevetsIbot:
lol. Are you done? If you live a fufilled accomplished life that has a sense of purpose, you wouldn't have time to type this epistle.... I'm a writer and my poetic licence allows me to write what I choose and not what you want to see.

No, I didn't read what you wrote cos it carries more grub than kemi Olulonyes blog...

A deliverance session? Lol, don't sweat it dear... I'm more sane in the head than you and your cohorts combined...

Don't quote me again Doveda Retard.

Nevetslbolt

What no one has told you yet

You have a boring unfulfilling life. If things were fine with you, you won't have time to write these gibberish.

One, health reason is the only reason for disliking obesity. Any other reason is BS. Adults have a right to eat anything they want and as much as they want it It is none of yourself so far they are not begging you for food or putting a gun to your head to love them.

Two, if only you lead a positive life, you would have met fat people who are also successful people. There are many hardworking, productive and successful fat men and women out there. You really need to get off your lazy bum to see for yourself.

Three, fat people don't owe you anything and that includes the way they look nor do they owe your great-grandfather anything. You have a choice to look the other way when fat people walk close by.

When you sit down to ruminate and write all the reasons fat people are this or that, you are more or less a broken record and methinks you need more than a deliverance session for you to be free from this obsession.

No, I don't!

These people have clearly shown that they have the academic and emotional strength to study medicine. It doesn't matter whether they hold a degree or have other options or it is not what they want. What matters is that the school promised them a guaranteed admission to study medicine if they passed their exams. Now that they have passed their exams, the only thing that matters is their admission.

motherfucker:
what he meant is that they shouldn't limit themselves to Medicine because honestly, speaking, not all over them will become medical doctors. Some might be pushing to study it because it's what their parents want and not what they want.

I know someone who wanted to study medicine but he lost the admission due to strike. Subsequent trials didn't work. He wrote IJMB no way.

He then opted for Electrical, today he is staff at Total with house to his name.

You get it now?

Did you think this through before you wrote down this nonsense? When did it become wrong for people to aspire to be medical doctors or to seek a more fulfilling career?

Ejemehn:
Universities in Nigeria have become a citadel for making money instead of the popular citadel of knowledge.

You have 30 places and went ahead to make hundreds of places available. Make them cough out hundreds of thousands, study hard only for you to shift the goal post when it was time to score. They studied foundation medicine not foundation fishery or botany.

Well, I don't blame the university management, I blame the people who limited themselves with the mentality of "Medicine or nothing" or how else do you explain a nursing graduate who went back to study medicine or a student who has "decided" to remain at home for almost 4 years......

Nonetheless, I wish them all the best of luck as it goes down to the candidate with the biggest money bag

Well they didn't, it is going to be one of their mistakes you must learn from. You are stuck, do your best and don't judge them.

bicmitchum:
I was going to say this, but stopped at the risk of appearing rude. Thanks for saying it for me.
And yes, I do give them. But it'd have been better if they made better decisions during their boom days when they had some money.

Give them what you can afford. Don't let their demands put your life on hold. Parents will always demand, learn to endure it and be considerate about their demands.

bicmitchum:
You honestly don't understand my parents.

He didn't ask them to put their dreams on hold. They were the one who decided to have kids!!!....duh

However I disagree with him on not giving to parents. He should give when he can afford it and not ruin him financially. I don't think there is any kids out there who will fold his hands s while his parents beg to eat or live comfortably when he can afford to give them a better life.

Parents should also learn to invest in their future. It does any mean that their kids would be ungrateful but it would reduce the emotional and financial pressure from their kids and also save them from a lot of worries.

Acheron:
Are you for real?

After what your parents did to give you education, you find the thought of giving them money repugnant? Many a times your parents wished to go on vacation, buy a new car, invest in properties but they couldn't because they'd rather spend the money on you. Sometimes, your parents would love to buy new clothes, a fancy shoe, eat shawarma but they'd rather drink garri just so you can eat healthy, wear new uniforms and buy new school bags just like your mates and yet you don't believe in giving them money?

Do you know how huge your parents dream was and how you made them drop all these dreams just so you can fulfil your own dreams? Now you're living the dream and you think their demand is too much. Smh

Chei, it's because of kids like you my dad used to say "I'm not waiting on any child to take care of me in old age. If you do, fine, if you don't, fine. What I will eat in old age, I'm working on it".

Na your life sha but know this, whatever you do to your parents, brother Karma dey one side dey look you.

You are too nice

JuanDeDios:
Go with the lazy guy. Lazy guys rock. Besides, it's not easy to find half-Oyinbos these days. Since he's comfortable placing his hands between his legs while a woman picks his bills, I think he will transform into a hardworking person once he sets foot in America. He won't find another mugu girl there. He will send for you and you two will get married. You will hold hands and walk off into the sunset, into Happily-Ever-After where he will take good care of you.

Like they say, in every decision there are two choices: What is, and what you want; that is, what is good for you and what your emotions crave.

Flour and egg white

Cutehector:
Noodles are made from what please

Check your mail

ActOfWar:
Everything seems boring. You mind telling me how u coined ur monikers(d2d and do.ve.da)

It is not my fault you do not have the necessary training or IQ to decipher my point.

Let me help you again

If your point is ‘the lady s not raped because....'. My point is ‘Yes you are right, the lady is not raped and may your sisters experience the same'......How am I cursing their sisters o?


Now get fvck off my mentions. Ain't got time for mumus tonight!!

Kgdavid:
I suppose you mean to say responsible?

Sure, you are not responsible for my ability or inability to think (for which i am most grateful, given the sate of your expressed thoughts) but can you at least be responsible for your own grammar?

Now, though it pains me to take time out to address you, here is the truth: if their sister's, who are innocent, experience such, how would it affect the men who you say, are saying that it is not rape?

Shouldn't you be wishing for the men themselves to get raped?

But don't worry... i know and understand your type. I will not be the one to train you.

I am not respond able your inability to think

It is not rape hence the reason I pray their sisters experience such

Kgdavid:
Most of the women on this thread are daft. How is gleefully wishing harm on another girl as in the bolded above, any different from what the OP did? If anything, it is much worse.

Wow! That was s what I thought when I read your post. But why are you telling me that though?

Ikigia:
You just told me how well mannered you were brought up.

Yes

sukkot:
so you wee allow ya 24 year old daughter to marry a 50 year old man ?www.nairaland.com/attachments/4212209_fbimg1473153238367_jpeg2e1d45b2b25a5cdfed2e911592c7096b

Darling there are women who marry and date older men with no fat bank account. Besies if a woman does , there is nothing wrong in it, we all have different reason for entering into a relationship. Yours is not necessarily better than mine. It is not a crime nor is it morally disgusting to marry an older man for his money. It has been happening before you were born and it would continue to happen. You don't need to disparage other people's choices.

Also, there are young adults who don't give a fvck about wizkid. Not all couples have the same taste in music and other inconsequentials. You also need to know that people do talk about lot of things other than things they have in common, you don't need to have anythibg in common with your partner to make marriage or a relationship work. Just because it is hard for you to start a relationship or converse with older people does not mean that others find it hard, laboring and difficult.

There women who chose or were betrothed to men twice their age and ended up having fruitful married lives.

Just because you don't like it doesn't make it bad, illogical, unthinkable or abnormal.

sukkot:
puhleeezeee what do you have in common with a man twice your age besides his bank account ? what does the conversation look like ? ' ermmm sweerie i have grown another white hair on my beard ? ' or maybe her conversation to the 50 year old man is ' hey sweerie whizzkid doing it big outcheaaa, i need to cop that his latest joint ? ' lolzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

There is nothing wrong with dating a man twice your age. It is happening and will continue to happen. It is as normal as normal gets

sukkot:
i never understand grown men who play computer games or whatever psp ps2 or whatever they call those nonsense. shyttt is ridiculous. but i digress, OP you have two options
1- stop playing childrens games
2 - send her back to africa and continue ya shidren games

on a side note, even if you stop playing games i think you should still send her to africa. you married a prostitute. you were the one who saved her from the life of prostitution. i mean who dates a man twice their age ? she was a prostitute waiting to happen before you saved her, but deep down she is still a crass soul hence why she can spit in your face or marry a man twice her age. i advice you to ship her off to africa and then after that stop playing games.

I don't understand people o. So she has a right to act like a psycho because he fails to do certain things? Is she a fvcking child that can't communicate? There is no excuse for being abusive. She needs to learn how to communicate with another adult.

I swear the woman is a psycho as in I don't understand her at all.

obowunmi:
OP.

You belittled yourself as a human being and as a man when you opted to settle down for a woman who once left you for a man twice her age.

Truth of the matter is that you are sitting here assuming it is love but this woman does not respect or love you one kobo.

Spitting on someone is the utmost sign of disdain and disrespect. Your so-called wife does not love or respect to you.

Go and find someone else who does and stop being disillusioned.

OMG!

Your wife is abusive and I suggest you do send her back to her parents. Tell your family members and yours. Let them all a family meeting

But then I feel like there is something more. Spitting on a person seems like what you do when someone disgusts you.

I thinknit is better you call a family meeting. If things do not change, divorce please

If you don't have kids yet, don't try until you can assure yourself that he won't continue her madness.

Shut up! You are just not a good liar

nathdim:
yeah she doesn't belong to me
I would treat her with dignity and love
I don't mind even if she insults me
But my mom a big NO

Then you should not have quoted me

Gassa007:
Not in the mood.

What does common sense have to do with being a woman. For me no one or anything can remove my mum from my life except death of course. She is why I am here today. She is the reason I thank God everyday. A man who is serious about me will respect my mum and I also expect my mum to respect a man I intend to live with for the rest of my life. Any sign of discomfort from either of them will get the culprit a serious reprimand.


Your mother is not human she can do no wrong to anyone. It is your wife that will act first and even if she doesn't, she must endure and act like a robot because she is not human and if she does, she must be a separatist. I hope your mum does not show sign of discomfort towards your wife. What will you do if your wife reacts?Throwout her out of your life regardless?

KoldKash:
You may never get this.and it's okay for you since you are a woman.but for me,my mother remains an integral part of me(and no one or nothing can ever change that) and must be so admitted by any woman who is serious about us sharing our lives with each other.and there is no other way to deal with this because at the first sign of discomfort around my mother I am on my way out of your life-and that peacefully. It's not sentiment,it's a lifestyle. I hate separatist's.