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Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 1:01pm On May 26, 2023 |
TreasureJunky:I am on WhatsApp. Maybe you can drop yours if you don't mind 1 Like |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 9:36am On May 26, 2023 |
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Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 9:33am On May 26, 2023 |
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Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 7:03pm On May 24, 2023 |
motta:Yes i did ask him. He said he wants to come and pick mosquito net, as there was mosquito there. The man who helped him got the job was there. The man was even telling him that he can't leave now because the work is Monday to Saturday and he left on Friday. He didn't tell the man his reason for leaving. He didn't listen to the man. He took his bag and left. I had to borrow money for him to go apologise on Monday. He doesn't want to go initially because the man has already explained everything to me in details. He told me the management has lay him off. I pleaded and cry to the man but he said it's beyond him. He doesn't own the company but he's one of the top boss I'm sick and tired of everything 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 6:32pm On May 24, 2023 |
TreasureJunky:Yes he can. May God almighty forever bless you sir for doing this. I sent you a mail sir. You can also reach me on this number; 08028638025. Thank you so much sir. |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 5:46pm On May 24, 2023 |
achimendy:This was what i was scared of seriously. He knows how to blackmail someone. Reason why i can't leave my younger siblings and parents with him. He's a complete burden. I wish i had money to get accommodation for my mum and younger siblings. I sincerely don't want him to live with them again. That's also the reason why i wish he could get something doing and live on his own as a man. 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 4:10pm On May 24, 2023 |
enonche85:Sorry i can't find that on the post. Maybe you can help direct me to the place if you don't mind. |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 1:30pm On May 24, 2023 |
Igbokwechika101:no he doesn't take drugs. I know that for sure. 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 1:13pm On May 24, 2023 |
thedarkened:Thank you so much for this sir. |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 1:09pm On May 24, 2023 |
O Kcjosh:so sorry to hear that. It is well brother |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 10:40am On May 24, 2023 |
superCleanworks:You're right. He's already constituting nuisance in the house. I can't imagine he continue this way till he clock 45 or 50. He will be frustrated and can do unimaginable things along the lines. This is what I'm trying to avoid. Seriously I'm tired of this guy. 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 10:35am On May 24, 2023 |
sonssyo:It is well. |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 10:11am On May 24, 2023 |
Aguogba:Thank you so much sir. God bless you 1 Like |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 10:07am On May 24, 2023 |
franchasofficia:He can read and write. He isn't tech savvy and he can't ride bicycle. |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 10:04am On May 24, 2023 |
MasterTeeUSA:I have sent you a mail sir Thank you so much. God bless you. |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 10:02am On May 24, 2023 |
Dpaulie:Thank you brother. I appreciate your input. |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 10:00am On May 24, 2023 |
Starships4u:I have thought of this myself but i was considering other factors How would my family feed, pay house rent and other necessity? They can't do that without my support seriously |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 9:53am On May 24, 2023 |
vickydevoka:Yes. I know it's not easy learning a skills at that age. I sincerely understand. I felt he doesn't have options considering the fact that he doesn't have money. He should be able to bring himself down and learn 1 Like |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 6:18am On May 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:He do ask me for money at times and i give him whenever i have. I guess he uses the money to buy card. This guy has shown me eh. I've spent money that i can't spend on myself. There was a time he told me that he can't continue sitting at home doing nothing. Then i asked him what does he want. He said if i could raise small money for him let him go and stay with a friend of his (conductor) probably he could help him look for bus to work with or anything else entirely. I discussed with my mum and we reason with him. Initially, I'm not happy seeing him sitting idle doing nothing as a man. I had to look around to borrow money. I met with my supervisor and begged him to borrow me any amount and i will pay back when i collect salary. He loan me #10,000 and i gave it to my brother and he left the following day. My monthly take home was left with #15,000 having given out the #10,000 to my supervisor. You won't believe this my brother came back home after four days. I didn't even ask him anything because i was angry. I don't want anything that will make me raise my hands on him or call our neighbours attention. It was my mum that was asking him why did he returned home after four days. He claimed his so called friend doesn't have a bus working with also. He has been idle as well. I think the friend is married but his wife had left him probably because he couldn't provide for the family 1 Like |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 5:59am On May 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:he has friends but they are also conductors. He has been out of job for a year now and he stay idle at home. He often lay down on the floor, sleep, press his botton phone, sit outside later in the day when room temperature is high. My mum warned him to stopped staying outside during the day because of our neighbours to avoid using him as subject of spiteful gossip but he wouldn't listen. 1 Like |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 5:54am On May 23, 2023 |
baby124:I can't leave my younger siblings and mother with that my brother. I don't think they are safe living together with that my brother without my presence. My mum has prayed and fasted on his behalf several times. Let me tell you something, my mum and late father were Muslim. We're originally from a Muslim background. My mum converted to Christian because of this my elder brother. He was seriously ill when given birth to him. They took him virtually everywhere but there was no remedy. It was our neighbour according to my parents that introduced christ to them. They came through my dad because my mum was a devoted Muslim then. My late dad had to convince my mum to take the little boy to church having gone virtually everywhere already but the sickness still persist. It takes God intervention before my mum took him to church and he recieve healing truly. My mum made a vow without being told nor compelled that she and her family will serve Jesus Christ throughout their life time. She automatically converted to Christian before she gave birth to others including me. We're known as Christian. We do go to church. Although my dad barely go to church but we do pray together as one family when he was alive. He has his own bible he read daily and he believes in Christ. 5 Likes |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 5:37am On May 23, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:he's using a botton phone, though i think it's accessible to nairaland but he doesn't know about nairaland. |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 5:33am On May 23, 2023 |
Ulunne777:According to him he left because he needs mosquito net, he didn't even bother to call me that he wants to leave nor listen to the man that helped him got there He didn't tell the man his reason for leaving. I was the one that told the man what he said. The man was surprised because he has already bought a mosquito net for him but he didn't come with it that very Friday. He doesn't have anything to do at home. No food, no money, nothing nothing. I borrowed some of the money i gave to him. I don't understand his problem anymore. 1 Like |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 6:11pm On May 22, 2023 |
bukatyne:Amen Thank you very much. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 5:05pm On May 22, 2023 |
sisisioge:That will be so difficult. My mum will not support depriving him food or shelter. I don't think she can watch him or anyone else go hungry when there's food. I wish i could disappear out of this world. I'm tired. |
Family / Re: UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 2:53pm On May 22, 2023 |
ahnie:I was told not to give up on him. My mum will develop high Blood Pressure seeing him wasting away. I don't know what else to do sis. At times i wish i had the mind to poison him silently. He was supposed to be supporting me helping the family. Unfortunately, he was a burden. I was told not to give up on him. How is that possible please? How else can i help him? What can i do please? This is frustrating. I can't imagine crying over my elder brother. I'm tired 14 Likes 3 Shares |
Family / UPDATE: I've Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 2:26pm On May 22, 2023 |
https://www.nairaland.com/7686172/been-restless-having-chat-elder All thanks to everyone for their immense contributions towards my elder brother predicament. This place is truly home away from home. For those getting to know or who just come across this thread, you can read through the link posted above to get a grasp of where I'm coming from. Someone sent me a mail having gone through my post and we both shared contact. He works on the island and he was willing to absorb my elder brother into his organisation. It's an organisation where one learn a skills and get paid monthly. Then after being certified in your skills, you can be employed as a full staff into the organisation. He would be given #20,000 monthly as stipend while learning as an apprentice but the man promised to be adding #10,000 to it making a total of #30,000 monthly. This person didn't know me from Adam but was touched by my brother's condition and he developed interest in helping him in his own little way. He asked me to inform my elder brother and get back to him. I discussed everything to my brother verbally. Infact, i relate everything to him in my mother's tongue for ease of communication. I asked him if he has any interest in the offer and he said yes. He has interest. He's very much interested. He said he'd specialised in plumbing. I reached out to the man and we both finalise everything. He asked my brother when would he love to resume and he said month end. After the call, i asked him why month end and he said he doesn't have anything. He needs to get some few clothes, toiletries and some money for upkeep. I asked him where would he get money from less than 2 weeks to month end. He claimed if he can see any bus to work with. I told him you've been out of job going to a year, you didn't get any bus. Why do you think you'd get a bus within a short space of time? I asked him what if i rally round for him, is he willing to resume before the month end, he said yes with happy face. I borrowed #10,000 from a friend, i had #5,000 left with me, making a total of #15,000. I gave him 2 pairs of trousers and shirt i had. He bought a small school bag of #3,000 to put his clothes and he left in two days time. That was last week Wednesday. Oh! God, i was the happiest man on earth that very day.. I was so happy for him believing that he would become somebody from there. I called him to know if he has gotten there and how the work was. He said everything was fine. I was surprised to see my brother at home on Friday, two days after he left. I asked him hope all is well? He said yes. I asked him why did he came back home so soon considering the cost of transportation to island. He was given a room he'd put up with. I expected him to stay there and focus on his job, whenever i have any money i would send to him. The man that helped him with the job called me later in the day. He narrated the gross misconduct of my brother. My brother left the job on Friday during working hours. The work is Monday to Saturday. Though Saturday is half day. He explained every details of the job to my brother before he resumed work. My brother was assigned to someone else to work with, not directly the man that helped him. The man only came to check up on him daily to know how he's fairing. The man was there when my brother took his bag, headed outside with the claim that he was going home. The man told him he can't go home now till after work, which is on Saturday. My brother didn't listen to the boss he was assigned with nor the man that helped him. He left right in their presence. They do give daily report, and the man he was assigned with reported that he doesn't have anyone to work with, particularly on Saturday. The management asked him about my brother assigned to him and he said he has left on Friday. My brother was dismissed for his attitude. I pleaded to give him a second chance, but the man said it was beyond his power. The management has decided. I asked him to report there today and apologise for his gross misconduct. He went but apology wasn't accepted. If i was the man that helped my brother with this job or if i was among the management. I would do the same thing. I'd gladly lay him off without thinking twice. My mother had been crying having heard the outcome of everything. I myself had cry my eyes out, all because of this my elder brother. I am fed up. The burden is too much. I might be tempted to harm him living under the same roof with him. I had been trying to console my mum but she wouldn't listen. Landlord came to harass her last week, the very day my elder brother left, because of house rent. I had 3 younger siblings to look after. Here comes my elder brother problem again. I am responsible for all of these with my meagre pay. I don't know what else to do for this guy. I don't think i can put up with him anymore. I am tired. Why is this life full of problems? I am losing my mind completely. 134 Likes 11 Shares |
Family / Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 5:49am On May 14, 2023 |
Tealcrestmedia:Alright. Many thanks. |
Family / Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 9:06pm On May 13, 2023 |
albert2512:sorry he doesn't have a liscence |
Family / Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 3:00pm On May 13, 2023 |
gazilion:Yes I didn't use my bank account because i wouldn't want to spend the money meant for my brother. It was my neighbour account and the person is a man. I just asked to confirm and he said it was his account. He has 2 different account with the same name Anthonia. You can do a video call to confirm yourself. You will speak with my brother and the owner of the account. My brother issue isn't something hidden. I want to see him in the next 2-3 years and smile. Someone already planning to enrol him in a skill organisation, electrical precisely. He would only need to change his wardrobe and feeding because he will be living there. Please follow your heart sir 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 10:42am On May 13, 2023 |
Octopusssy:Thank goodness you've seen one today. 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Had Been Restless Having A Chat With My Elder Brother by DownTime44: 8:44am On May 13, 2023 |
skywalker240:Oh! Sorry for the loss bro. My condolences. |
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