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Education / Re: Replace HND With B.tech, Rector Appeals To FG by dpete1: 8:10am On Mar 11 |
There's no point swapping HND to Btech. Just remove the dichotomy. Btech Microbiology?? Btech Public Admin? O wrong now Ngl, Polytechnic students are very good in practical aspect of their field, while the university counterparts dwell mainly on theories and syllabuses they've been using since 1520s Theories are now outdated. Practical aspect is always up to date. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Family / You've Made Enough Friends, Time To Make Some Enemies. by dpete1: 9:53am On Mar 06 |
You'll be wondering what tf am i saying? Calms. We feel too comfortable around our friends. We're not jolted into reality. We slack behind most times in developing ourselves, especially if we are at par with our friends(Humans mostly make friends with their mates) financially, socially, education, etc. As a matter of fact, if you do not have enemies, then you are not making headway in life. Enemies arise because they feel threatened with what you do. Also, we are never alert to dangers. With enemies, we feel the urge to always keep the guards up, 'cos we don't know when our enemies will strike. While with our friends, we believe we are at total safety, greater than the walls of China. We do not realize that if we are to fall in any time of our lives, our friends are always instrumental to it. Why? They know us more than the enemies do. They are the Trojan horse in which the Greek enemies entered the City of Troy in our lives. I repeat, no enemy can hurt you, if they do not have insider information about you. In other words, you're safer with your enemies than your friends. Why? Your enemies already know they are a threat to you. You'll glaringly see any move they make which most times, they won't want to make, because fingers will directly be pointed to them. But your friends? You know how it is. On the flip side, learn to convert your enemies to friends. This sounds crazier? Let's take a look. More often than not, a friend will not feel indebted to you, if you've helped them rise to the pinnacle of power. They'll believe it's their own merit that took them there and most times, they bite the hand that fed them. Most of these friends always have the ill intent to usurp their friend-cum-benefactor in higher echelon, in a bid to take their place, forgetting how they were favored to get there. We can glaringly see these examples around us, if we tend to look. Vivid examples are Deputy Governor - Governor crisis all the time, with the recent example of Ondo State Late Governor, Akeredolu and his deputy, Aiyedatiwa. This case is the most disheartening of all, especially if you're resident in the state. There are others like Obaseki and Philip Shaibu, Akeredolu and Agboola Ajayi, Mimiko and Ali Olanusi, Rotimi Amaechi and Tele Ikuru, etc. All these deputies wanted to become the governor, while their principal is still very much alive, or intending to run for a second term. It is pertinent to note that these governors picked the deputies, out of the numerous options they had. These betrayals happen all the time, not only in politics, but across all sectors and fields of life. Let us take a look at our history. In the mid-ninth century A.D., a young emperor named Michael III of Byzantine Empire, who made his friend from the stable, basilius, his adviser. Basilius was so engrossed in power that he trickily rose up to become the head of the army. Basilius later had his friend and benefactor's head on a long spike, and declared himself the emperor. We also know of several coup d'etat in Nigeria, lower ranked officers ousting their commanders, with the bloodiest being the coup of January 1966, led by Kaduna Nzeogwu. This coup is tagged as Igbo coup In history, which also led to the July 1966 Counter coup, also known as the Northern Coup. Enough of the histories. There's another important thing we must note. Employing friends over competency is not a good decision. It is natural to want to employ your friends when you find yourself in times of need. The world is a harsh place, and your friends soften the harshness. Besides, you know them(or believe you know them) Why depend on a stranger when you have a friend at hand? The problem is that you often do not know your friends as weIl as you imagine. Friends often agree on things in order to avoid an argument. They cover up their unpleasant qualities so as to not offend each other.They laugh extra hard at eac other's jokes. Since honesty rarely strengthen friendship, you may never know how a friend truly feels. Friends will say that they love your poetry, adore your music, envy your taste in clothes-maybe they mean it, oftentimes, they do not. While your friend is clearly incompetent to handle the role you give them, they more often than not, do not improve themselves to become better. They believe they have a sort of assurance cover them, and you won't lay them off, as they are your "good friend". I do not need to tell you the calamities that will befall that business. It is left for you to find out. But on the flip side, if you turn your enemies into friends, they have an eternal obligation to themselves to make sure you do not perceive them as enemies anymore, but one you can trust. This gets easier and fun, if you had the opportunity to terminate or do something bad to these enemies, but decided to let them live. They'll go to extreme ends to make sure you do not have to doubt them. Ever wondered why the Bible said we should pray for our enemies, and not kill them? The Bible said by so doing, we are heaping coals of fire on their head. They are caged in this dark psychology for life and if you're smart, this is your greatest asset. Friends do not always have a reason to stay forever loyal to you. They believe they've done enough for you, and most often than not, switch allegiance to what suits them. You see the difference? Let me give you a bit of history. For several centuries after the fall of the Han Dynasty (A.D. 222), Chinese history was marked by violent and bloody coups, in which one general would replace another as emperor. These new emperors would kill their rivals and establish new dynasties, but the cycle of bloodshed and instability would eventually repeat itself. New generals would rise up, assassinate the current emperor, and establish their own regimes. This pattern of violence and instability continued for centuries, making it a dark and turbulent time in Chinese history. In A.D. 959, General Chao K'uang-yin became Emperor Sung. He knew the odds, he might soon be murdered. Soon after becoming emperor, Sung ordered a banquet to celebrate the new dynasty, and invited the most powerful commanders in the army, those who are most likely to overthrow him. Now, after they were all drunk to stupor, he dismissed the guards and everyone in the hall, left with only him and the generals. The generals thought he was going to kill them all. Instead, he offered them a proposition: Resign from the army, and i will give you all riches, houses and a feel of rule. The generals were astonished, because here's a man who could have killed them easily, but gave them another chance. The next day, they all turned in their resignation and remained loyal to the one who just gave them their lives. Emperor Sung didn't have to worry about being overthrown for a long time, because he just converted his enemies to friends. Over the years, he repeated these similar practises and with that, he was able to break the chain. The Sung dynasty ruled for more than three hundred years. These examples are all around us too, if we look closely. As a matter of fact, you can decide to perform this experiment. Have a talk with your public enemy, make them see why they shouldn't be enemies with you, as you are both fighting same course. Convince them, and watch as they turn to your strongest ally. But, I need to warn you. It does not always work. You should be smart enough to know if it works or not. BUT, BE CAREFUL! Do not turn your friends into enemies. Some friends genuinely wish the best for you, and will always go to any length to prove their loyalty as a friend. If you turn your friend to an enemy, then, you are on the steep pathway to self destruction. No one will lift you up, when you fall into a ditch, not even your enemy-turn friend. This article is long enough for now. Let me put a stop to it. I hope later on, I'll be able to build on it. But before I go, let me bullet the points again • Strive to make more enemies than friends • Employ Competence over Friendship • Learn to turn your enemies into friends • Never turn a friend into an enemy. These might seem confusing. I'll implore you to read slowly, and re-read. Thank you for your time Adeoye Peter (Sapele) ©2024 |
Crime / Re: Man Murders Canada-Bound Lover, Kills Self In Lagos by dpete1: 7:47am On Feb 06 |
This is a completely fake news! It's the man that's traveling to Canada, not the woman. The woman allegedly stabbed the husband, then herself. https://twitter.com/OluAyoola7D/status/1754459804242678056?t=dXGx7WXA_580_LbJaNRs4Q&s=19 |
Romance / Re: My Phone Mistakenly Called My Ex by dpete1: 2:56pm On Aug 12, 2023 |
All those of you asking what someone is still doing with ex' number... Why can't? Relationship no b secret cult. U fit need your ex help later and vice versa, no matter how you guys ended up. I'm still very much in good contact with my exes, and nothing dey sup 43 Likes 3 Shares |
Romance / Re: All Of My 8 Girlfriends Tattooed My Name - Says Man (pix/video) by dpete1: 3:24pm On Jun 28, 2023 |
Then wtf is ours with that 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Business To Business / Re: Reliable And Affordable 1688.com Procurement Agent by dpete1: 6:52pm On Jun 10, 2023 |
Damzytech: The contact us button on your page isn't working. How can I reach you? Also, what are your rates? |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Please I Need Advise On Any Soft Skills To Do As A Side Hustle by dpete1: 2:54pm On May 04, 2023 |
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Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Please I Need Advise On Any Soft Skills To Do As A Side Hustle by dpete1: 2:53pm On May 04, 2023 |
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Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Please I Need Advise On Any Soft Skills To Do As A Side Hustle by dpete1: 1:47pm On May 04, 2023 |
Learn affiliate marketing Get 50% profit/commission when you sell a product, no matter the price. You can easily earn 30k a week. Interested? Reach me on WhatsApp Link on signature 1 Like |
Career / Re: Interns Needed - Digital Marketing Firm In Magodo Phase 1 Lagos by dpete1: 4:17pm On Apr 02, 2023 |
Brandler:Good Evening, can I remotely apply for the Social media manager job, as I'm not based in Lagos, but Ogun State? |
Literature/Writing Ads / Re: . by dpete1: 12:52am On Jan 04, 2023 |
Cregon: If this offer is still available, I'll be glad to take it. #5 per word, 3k words edit daily, 1.5k ghostwrite daily. Kindly send me a PM 1 Like |
Literature/Writing Ads / Re: How I Wasted Million Naira Plus Hiring Writers On Nairaland... by dpete1: 12:46am On Jan 04, 2023 |
James4bright: Hi! Send me a DM , and I'll get back to you |
Literature/Writing Ads / Re: How I Wasted Million Naira Plus Hiring Writers On Nairaland... by dpete1: 6:42pm On Dec 23, 2022 |
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Phones / Re: Between Redmi 10c And Samsung A04s, An Advice. by dpete1: 2:33pm On Nov 09, 2022 |
The major issue of using Samsung phone is the cost of replacing the screen, when it has issues. It's almost 60-70 percent of the cost price. Apart from that, Samsung phones are great. Redmi 10c is a good phone, too 1 Like 1 Share |
Fashion / Re: Daniel Precious Emerges Winner Cultural Queen Africa, Gets Exotic Car (Photos) by dpete1: 9:33pm On Sep 11, 2022 |
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Business / Re: Hilarious Shopping Plaza With Different Business Options (Caption Yours) Pics by dpete1: 12:24pm On Sep 06, 2022 |
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Celebrities / Re: Bouncer Called In To Remove Williams Uchemba For Spraying Naira On Pastor Tobi by dpete1: 4:14pm On Aug 30, 2022 |
This same "fake" pastor that blasted Choir that their song is boring to death?? I'm not surprised. Btw, this is a very irrelevant news to be on FP 8 Likes |
Religion / Re: Children Of God,i Need Your spiritual Help by dpete1: 12:15pm On Aug 26, 2022 |
Why don't you go fully into God's Work? It is very obvious that you're a special Being. You might not see Rest until you embrace the Gospel fully, and allow God to use you 3 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Burna Boy's Ex, Stefflon Don Rips Her Pants While Twerking At An Event (Video) by dpete1: 5:43pm On Aug 25, 2022 |
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Celebrities / Re: Charles Okocha Gets A Strange Hug From Excited Female Fan (Photos, Video) by dpete1: 5:39pm On Aug 25, 2022 |
Lol. Babe was feeling d D Hug Kwa God abeg o 1 Like |
Literature/Writing Ads / Re: 3 Writers Wanted To Write Articles - No Research by dpete1: 4:41pm On Aug 13, 2022 |
1 Naira per Word. What a very ridiculous rate! |
Education / Re: Kwarapoly Graduating Students Punished For Stylishly Signing Out After Its Ban by dpete1: 9:16pm On Jul 11, 2022 |
Lol. Maybe they're not yet done with their Projects before Signout, that's why they're still afraid to do cause additional chaos 1 Like |
Literature / Re: Urgent Recruitment For Highly Experienced Long-Term E-book Writers by dpete1: 12:34pm On Jul 11, 2022 |
1.5 naira per word, and you're looking for highly skilled. You're joking with yourself sha. |
Religion / Re: Help!!!rat Eating Our Fingers And Toes. by dpete1: 12:30pm On Jul 11, 2022 |
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Career / Re: Have You Ever Been Insecure About What You Studied In School? by dpete1: 2:23pm On Jun 02, 2022 |
It's sad we live in a World Where People say hurtful things without minding the Consequence. This is the Same Way People Downgrade Polytechnic Graduates. When I went for My 1 Year Industrial Training, there was this Masters Holder I met, man couldn't even perform what I, a ND holder can perform 23 Likes 2 Shares |
Business / Re: I Tried Affiliate Marketing... Here's What I Found Out. by dpete1: 2:41pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
Goodnuel: Thank you! I just stumbled on this thread. I'll watch the Videos now |
Technology Market / Re: **PHONE SWAP CENTRE**SWAP IT NOW!!! pin:265DA560 or 08033923897 by dpete1: 2:00pm On Mar 17, 2022 |
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