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First, you must know what you want, and go for it without any fears. Then it’s important to lead. Don’t expect her to make any decisions.

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You must learn to become a guy who is always in control of himself and the situations around him. How do we do this?

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BE IN CONTROL

Girls love guys who are in control because it radiates confidence. It subcommunicates power and that she can rely on this kind of guy.

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What a ThoughfulTuesday

A bad frame is a stance you have unconsciously chosen to take. Once you are conscious of it, it is easy to choose a different frame.

Do this every day for a month. Write down every bad frame you find yourself operating under and then write down a productive frame that would be a better alternative.

Eventually, your mind will do this on it’s own and become self correcting.

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The act of becoming conscious and aware of these usually unconscious frames will change your life.

When we are not conscious of them, we take for granted that they are reality, we don’t even necessarily think of them literally, but we feel and behave according to their dictates on a subconscious level.

By noticing and labeling them, it becomes apparent that they are subjective - that they are not reality.

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For Practice:

When you enter situations where you feel nervous or insecure, stop and think of the frame you are operating in - name it, and take note of it . Like “I’m not worthy of her,” or, “I’m probably going to mess up,” etc.

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Commit to your frames and don’t react to ones you don’t like. The people with the most magnetic personalities are the ones who suck others into their frames.

Choose the right ones and stick to them to the end because you really are choosing the reality that you are experiencing.

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There will be a test of wills that determines who’s reality is stronger. Whoever has the stronger conviction and is more congruent to their frame will absorb the other person.

Either she will submit to your "alphaness" and begin submitting to you, or you will flinch and she will dismiss you as just another lame guy who’s not worthy of her.

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Sometimes frames come into conflict . Whenever that happens, the stronger frame will win. Your frame might be, “I’m the Alpha male,” and hers is, “I’m above you. You’re not worthy of me.” What happens then?

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The sum total of both people’s words, actions and mannerisms sets the frame.
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When you subcommunicate dominant qualities and are non-reactive to her shit tests while being charming and fun, you project the frame, “I am an Alpha male. You would be lucky to be with me.”

All of this occurs subconsciously on a micro level, controls the meaning of the interaction.

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When a guy apologetically approaches a girl like a simp and tries to pedestalize her, the frame he has set is “You are Better Than Me” and she will immediately turn off.

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Frames also extend outside ourselves to our interactions with other people. When you talk with someone there is always an overarching frame.
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One is painful and limiting, the other is painless and productive. The latter also helps you to fi gure out what went wrong, make adjustments and get better. Same situation, different realities.

Be aware of your internal frames in every area of your life.

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You can frame rejection in two ways. You can personalize it and say, “There’s something wrong with me, so they reject me,” or you can say, “These people don’t know me to reject me as a person. I need to adjust my presentation.”

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An important area to apply frame is rejection. Rejection is a part of the Game, so don’t let it bother you. In the beginning, girls will reject you a lot because you will make mistakes.

Just like playing any a sport, you must fail first to get better. Don’t let this discourage you.

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Begin to consciously frame your thoughts towards the reality that you are the prize, that you are an attractive person and that you can take what you want out of the world, and you will begin to feel and act differently, leading to better results.

It takes some work, but it is the difference between the winners and losers in life.

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We take for granted that how we feel or view the world is true, but it is always subjective.

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How we frame things in our own mind literally shapes how we experience the world.

Winners frame situations in ways that are positive and productive, losers frame things catastrophically and as a victim. Neither is more “right”, but one is certainly more useful.

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For example, there is a glass of sand one sees it as half empty while another sees it as half full. Same situation; one person sees a reality of abundance, the other scarcity.

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FRAME

According to NLP, in any situation, there is a mental “frame” that essentially sets what the reality is.

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Have many interesting things you do that is becomes part of your life. You just invite them along to it.

They will see that you lead an interesting and unconventional life and will want to become a part of it.

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Most guys have no imagination or creativity at all. Be different, do something different. And tailor it to your life and who you are.

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If you want to be a guy like that, for starters, simply don’t do things that everybody else does.

That means if the normal date is to go for restaurant or to the movies, do something different, something more physical.

You will be shocked by how much they appreciate this.

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Being Adventurous
Being an adventurous guy represents good sex and a lot of adrenalin and emotions in the relationship.

Being with a guy who is adventurous is always interesting, refreshing and full of new things. That’s why women have such a turn on towards adventurous guys. You bring excitement to their life.

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But when a guy is confident and seems to be exactly who and where he wants to be will draw women in just by the way he subcommunicates abundance and success.

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A bleeped-up, boring life, or a life full of anxieties and troubles which you haven’t dealt with is not attractive for anybody, especially not for girls.

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So the key is first to fix your life and prepare a kingdom where you are the ruler and can receive girls into the kingdom.

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If you want others to love you, you must love yourself first.
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A big problem happens when a guy is needy to get a girl in his life and thinks she will solve all his problems. By being so desperate, every girl runs away when she smells how unhappy he is. If he cannot make himself happy, how he is going to make somebody else happy?

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Guys who have abundance in their lives don’t exude any neediness.
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