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Money is involved in Marriage.

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One the reason marrying a single mother is dangerous.
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"...I wish you post this without my names as I follow.
Am a married man who has been in marriage for 2 years.

My wife is expectant but still, I married her when she had a daughter, 4 years now. Life has not been hard but we try. She wasn't working and we sat together, discussed and I accepted to start a boutique for her.

She has been running it for the last 1year and 6 months. It's at a very good place and the business is really doing well as per what on Lookers and customers plus neighbors say.

She runs an mpesa and an equity agent too alongside the boutique. So, for the last 1 and a half years; I have never seen my wife's coin from the business. I have never asked her for it.

I gave her time knowing she might strike a surprise soon after saving well. But to this minute, it's null.u Last week I asked her for some cash because I was to start construction for our rental apartment; but to my surprise, she had no money. I had to take her phone and bank statements only to realize she channels all the money to one person.

Remember she doesn't provide anything in the house, no bills to pay. Even her business space, I pay for it. I do shopping for them too. I was surprised to learn that she sends the money to her baby daddy whom she told me almost killed her before she left and became single.

Sincerely speaking, I feel drained and out of peace now. I asked her about it and she only said sorry. All messages indicate that they have been meeting. It has pushed me to even doubt the paternity of the unborn child. Am here torn between forgiving and letting her go.

Am here wondering whether to take responsibility of my unborn child or let her go too with it! If only I can make a confirmed irreversible and good decision here, I will never regret it..."

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please explain

It is an admonition to practice and not remain stuck on theory. Some get so hook up on self improvement mantra that they don't try to get involved with women.

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Note that atimes, a woman accepts to date a guy because she doesn’t want to hurt the man. Then Behind the man’s back, she’ll do hideous things.


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Clueless nice guys are weak.
Women are not attracted to such men as such they go ahead to extort money from them or it's time to settle down and get married, then they'll consider them.

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A woman will prefer to be smashed by a bad boy that don't give a crap about them than a gentle guy who is begging for their love and ready to even settle down with them.

I have seen countless times where a girl prefers a guy who made no reasonable contributions to her life but friendzones a nice and hardworking guy who helped her in her academics as well as financially and emotionally.

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Women love what is taken or what they can't get. This is why they sleep with married men or their friend's boyfriend/husband and act as if it never happened.

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A girl will come and visit a guy and get dicked even after knowing that he already has a lover, she doesn't care. That is why you keep hearing of husband/ boyfriend snatchers.

You’re not supposed to pick all calls from a girl , reply all her text message or do all her biddings. This will get her angry or frustrated, but she will value you more.

What is hard to get or reach is expensive in a woman’s eyes. What is easy is cheap.
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Women want a man who is the prize, not a cheap and desperate guy who doesn’t know how to use his time wisely.

Calling a nice guy , cheap doesn’t necessarily mean he is broke but it means he’s too needy and doesn’t know how to use his time or how to handle women.

He thinks he is being romantic and caring, but in the dating world, he’s a big simp who needs brain resetting into an alpha.
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Women prefer a man they invest in more , not a man who invests more in them.

A man who invests more is seen as cheap, but a man they invest in is seen as the prize.

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If a woman doesn’t please you, you’re in the wrong relationship. Walk away.
Do not be a nice guy who is scared of getting a new woman.
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Oneitis is why women treat nice guys anyhow they want because he does not have other options except her and her alone.
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To make a woman invest more in a relationship:
She should spend more time trying to make the relationship work.
She should spend more money trying to please him.
She should spend more energy trying to make peace when there is problem.

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Whoever invests more emotions in a relationship will definitely get hurt more when it crashes.
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For a man to enjoy a relationship, he should make the women invest in it more.
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A smoker with dreadlocks and tattoo all over his body can still be a big simp.

A man good with women is one who can handle them physically, mentally, socially, emotionally and sexually.

Some have the thought of a bad guy carrying guns, killing people, beating women, smoking , drinking and other vices.

While guys who do these are bad guys but in the context we are referring to , it involves someone who does not follow the simp laws laid down by the blue pill world.

To narrow the meaning, It is someone who understands women in and out and knows the game women play either knowingly or unknowingly.

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A high number of people don't know the difference between a bad guy and a nice guy in terms of red pill.

Being bad =naughty, in control with women, being real and honest.
Being nice= too protective, too caring to women, being cheap, insecure, and weak.

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In r/ship or marriage, when you rush
you will easily get crushed.

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Women explore the bad guys, but exploit nice guys. It’s better a woman explores you than exploits you.
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Be masculine not feminine. Be a man not a girlish nice guy.
Even if you were acting masculine and you then became nice to a woman for a while she'll start seeing you as weak.
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When a woman knows there is no other women in your life, she feels as if there is no competition and she has conquered you.
The moment a woman conquers a man, she will want to move to another man.
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What is hard to get is what women want. #SaturdayMusings

Here is the secret of dating: women only go for a man who makes himself the prize. You can be the prize by coming from a wealthy family, a leader, or tall and handsome,etc all this gives you value but do not be a nobody.
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Men, learn to have pride, and be self-centred….This is how you stand out.

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Be stingy with your attention…your attention should be like droplets of water.

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If you’re a man and you can’t learn from another man’s mistake, you’ll find life difficult.
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It’s in the darkest hours that men are born and characters are forged. -Lucio Buffalmano

The 21st century is conglomeration of betas, SIMPs, wimps, manginas, white knights etc.

There is shortage of who true men are.

Remember, there is difference between being a male and being a man.

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In the dating world, being a good girl is a good thing for a lady but being a good boy is a bad thing for a man.
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Women are not meant to be feared but understood , now is the time to understand them more so you may be fearless
— Dpsychologist

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Being a redpiller is a universal eye opener:


¶ You know when you're simping and the consequences of it

¶ You don't live in fantasy world, like blue pillers.

¶ You become better via self improvement

¶ You begin to control your emotions

¶ You know when to pull and push

¶ You know when to punish and when to reward

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He who hasn't suffered the tumoil of being a beta won't understand how degrading it is.

It can be heartbreaking to realise you have been oblivious to female nature for many years.

Being beta has psychological and physical consequences that needs to be overridden by the Alpha mentality.

Redpill revolution won't be automatic its one step at a time.
The essence of the red pill, is to make a U-turn in your life.
No one came here perfect but to be perfected.
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