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tomi4life:
I am 35 and my wife is 29, we have been married for 6 years now, we have 2 children a boy and a girl. We didnt court much during our courtship because of long distance.

I really have a problem with my wife and not sure what can be done to address, now I must be very honest am not sure there is anything I can do I just want to use the platform to vent my frustration.

My marriage has not been very good, lately myself and my wife leave like room mates and not lovers, despite the age difference between me and my wife she doesnt really respect me. For the 6 years we have been in marriage 3 things have caused all our fights: cooking, Sex and finance

My wife rarely cooks in the house, things around welfare are not taken seriously, actually in a week, my wife can cook for me just 1 time. She cooks for the children and baths for them daily, we also have a help who does alot of cooking. She rarely askes me what I will eat, honestly I always have to go to the kitchen to sort myself, sometimes I buy food outside from eateries and bucker. Sometimes when she cooks it usually very late 10pm. I have complained severally and what happen is she tries to change, after a week, we are back to the same state. My wife can do without cooking for me for weeks. It really really pains me cos am a foody and I knw hw my mum treats matters of food. she is this person that forms busy, either she is busy with work or some church activities, she always has an excuse. She goes to work only ones a weeks the remaining 4days are remote. To address this issue I now order soups from major restaurant outlets, An example is today easter sunday, I had to tell our maid to prepare rice for myself and the kids, cos my wife was in church, we all went to church but she decided to stay back, knowing fully well no food was prepared.

Sex: [/b]our sex life is very boring, when we got married we always fight about sex, cos anytime I ask for it she always complain she is tired, so what I now do is ask for it only sat morning, brethen this is only day I get sex. If I miss that day, it is still next week. We sleep in different rooms, she sleeps with the children in the master bedroom while I sleep alone in another room. I can tell most time she doesnt enjoy it and never ever askes for it, I always ask and initiate it. She just lays like a log, even kisses is a no no, except she is really on, which rarely happens.
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Finance: I have always earned more than my wife, when we got married, I was earning 3 times what she was earning, but she changed jobs and got promoted severally and we were earning the same amount. she also does alot of side runs where she gets 200-300k monthly as side hustle, there was even a time she was earning more than I did. I dint let it bother me I continue to foot the entire house bills. 95% of the enitre house of comes from me, she only pays the maid , buys cooking gas and my sons diaper. Every other thing in the house is covered by me, house rent, school fees, project, all the bills. I give her 75k as food money monthly. I have continue to question her why I should give her food moeny if I still have to end up going out to eat. I think the only reason she sometime listens to me is cause i still provide the finances for the house. The time she was earning more I could see how she belittle some of my decisions. I just prayed to God, cos I noticed the respect was gone, when I talk to her about her role as a mum and mother to the home, she says she is working, she is busy, I mentioned to her that the money she works is for her, she doesnt share with the house, I have never asked her for it and am not against her working, she however should not neglect her responsibility as a mum. That my role as a father, God helping me is to provide, and this is why I work. I also noticed when I got a new job and my salary increased she kinda off felt jealous she didnt tell me but i noticed it, she began to aggressively look for jobs.


I really dont think we have that initmacy, we are just there, my wife cant come to tell me anything bothering her, she keeps to herself. Funny part is she is a very religious person, my wife will sleep with bible on her hand, wake up with bible pray and serve in various church unit, I however dont think she really understands what she reads. She also has a very bad temper sometimes when I raise certian issues, the ways she talks sometimes I have to hold back a response if not the whole thing will escalate. There are days I will raise certain issue up, the next things she mentions is " let just dissolve this marriage as it is not working" sometimes , I just refer her to her bible cos the utterances that come out of her mouth makes me doubt her understanding of Christianity.


I have never assaulted her, we have nt had any physically fight, what happens is most times when we have issues, I dont speak to her for days, then she come back apologizing. Sometimes when am wrong I also apologies.

Am not saying am perfect, I know there are areas I can do better, like in the buying off gift, I rarely buy her gift, not cause I cant but Cos she earns well and I believe she should buy whatever she needs with her money my wife earns approximately 800k monthy.


I expect my wife will support me but it like she is stressing me. when we go see my parent or our parent, it is all smiles, they dont knw hw stressful their daughter is, she even forms trying to serve me food and all.

Dont get me wrong she has some good side, but this thing is really getting into me. I dont drink, smoke or womanise, divorce is also not on the table for me.

...and you cannot enter market buy food stuff and prepare your meals by yourself??if na sex,u find sex go outside case closed

AcuraZDX:
Their is what is called "accomplice" in law.

As an "innocent person" what you are supposed to do in such a situation is to report to security agencies that a suspicious amount of money was paid into your account.

Anything short of that, you're an accomplice to the crime and you're a criminal.

Any more question?

hahahaha..your very intelligent

Felabrity:
People wey never chop belleful dey call people wey better pass them Omo ale instead of holding their leaders accountable

Hypocrisy

..don't mind those useless beings

Abeg how I go fit retrieve my late momma sim card.one thief stole my phone with the sim card..

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Lament till they kingdom come,Suzuki boys and coro boys will continue to pick non sense price as far as car no be their own.. .their slangs na (ka ana agaga)...(make we dey go ).any where belle face.

I have been using her sim for some time after her demise..I was robbed in traffic and my phone was stolen..is there any way to retrieve the sim..I have her NIN.mbok

Plutoman:
Dr, how you dey. Longest time.
Merry Christmas to you baba

Good evening the good old GEE.....happy Christmas boss

alabi vs punters

[quote author=ayusbobs post=116738003]I will appreciate if anyone can help me retrieve my money back. I regret meeting him

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Samueltemi337:
Aussie


Na visa show I nor win lottery


Which one be do giveaway

....do give away chief . Aussie visa no be Uganda or Dubai visa.. chief Na Australia oooooo..congrats ...

lordparcel:
I just de laugh Una.....do you think you can beat the bookies

.but some people that won millions beat D bookies nah

Samueltemi337:
Finally
my visa don show

..do give away make we jollificate..congrats sha...which country visa

machappy4:
Those that say betting is scam, those who feels bookie is d greatest those who say no Money in d game abeg just check out ekitipikin ..... he is not looking bad.

..Na wah ..how person wan take blow for this betting tin

They should not look into security, they should continue gallivanting

Addme:
Inna Lillahi was Inna illahi rajium.
May God console your family

Lost my dearest Son too 2 days ago.
We just take Solace that HE giveth and HE alone taketh.

..take heart sir..God see u through

some no go c "happy recess" . Them go still drop pfp tickets tomorrow

PresidObi:


20 years from now, this man will change his name, join APC and be contesting for president.

" this you have seen"some mediocres will still support him

Efuaye:
They are simply irresponsible!

They can boast of Tinubu's intelligence as a world leader in picking Fashola and Ambode as his worthy successors but no not his choice of Buhari!

If Tinubu knows how much people are waiting to help him spend his money and waste it on his dead-on-arrival ambition he won't be campaigning!

Don't tell him pls

phatriqk:
Africans need to outgrow this mentality, inferiority complex, most powerful nation my ass, aside nuclear weapons nothing US has against other nations, take away their nuclear weapons and see how weak and vulnerable the US is, if it wasn't for corruption Nigerian military would have been on par with the US.

funny

First five to quote me gets 100 airtime[center][/center]

wiseone28:
You dey ride keke this night?

...yes o....alabi dey plan for me,me self d plan for am..B9RZ135179621FF-4551921..I dey test run this pattern..I wan go lapo collect one million play 3odds give lapo back their money to drive keke don taya me

wiseone28:
Dm your number i don't want hungry boys to disturb me..


With love message.

hungry boys

wiseone28:
Yes we are girls..

Any problem?

[color=#006600][/color] ...yes we are girls I don laff fall comot from keke..

wiseone28:
Doing giveaway for the girls here is bad?

Its not bad sir,don't be annoyed..are you a girl?,

Be like them yeye international break dey next weekend

N

wiseone28:
Hammer2022


My prayer has worked.. don't forget your girls o

For the girls noni.

Quicksilver5:
congrats oga, give your boys 4h make we share

..

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israelp:
Guys I wanna ask 1 question...who can answer me correctly get 200h giveaway .... How do one keep discipline in punting and at the same time accumulate games to win big? Honest answer pls

.... fund ur bet account for 500,comot 100 on Friday play ur acca,comot 200 on satturday Pick one of eseka game and your own ACCA..comot 200 on Sunday play one eseka game and your own..then don't fund the account the next till weekend... Just repeat the cycle till the day alabi go pity u.

hsapien:
It’s just unfair for a pastor I trusted so much could do this to me. I just feel like putting up his photo and contact online.
I never knew he could scam me.

.make I no talk the one wey my useless brother do me .I go shock am..

Xoftme101:
Oga if you no know wetin to talk just drink water and chill abeg. Police wey no train their officers or boi boi them not to use rifle dey threatening people. Why him wan search him phone or collect the phone from the owner? Is that not an act of armed robbery? See as the untrained officer land for ground sef��

....the useless officer land for ground,now imaging without gun wetin go happen to that officer

wiseone28:
Bolivia na home of goals

....no tell them oooo