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correctguy101:
That's just life.

Never truly with a happy ever after. You go sweat join.

Not when you have have walked with The Lord,
In the light of His Word,
What a glowry He sheds on our way.

While we do His good will.
He abides with us still.
And with all who have trust and obey

Trust and obey
For there is no other way
To be happy in this life
But to trust and obey!

Kingsley1169:
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How and why

Because by her fault, a woman is less than a man and she has lost many rights that you still have even though both of men and women are supposed to be equal. So she naturally hates men, however she finds that life is very cussd and terrible for her. So she needs to select and choose a man who does not have sense and who will let her sense prevail over him even if it is bad for him. But as long as it brings good to her she would be fine and she shall choose you

That is how they calculate and why she is calculating.

Equality and fairness does not suit her because God cus. her for her sins, so she needs a man who will give her both the yam and the knife and the pot and the cooker.

So, if you are looking for equality and fairness, forget it, no girl will date you. They don't want guys who have sense, they want seeem.pps

franchasofficia:
Olatunji, when you grow up, you will understand these things better. What you described has nothing to do with tribe, it's nature at work, it's Biology at work. Women date and marry up, they don't date down. If you want to date your mates as a guy, then you must come from a rich family or you must pray and work harder to become financially buoyant at a younger age, that's the only way your mates can find you appealing to date.


Folake, Sukurat, Funke, Monsurat and Laide also do the same thing. So it's not just your Nneka that does it.

And your thread also proves that you are a very immature boy with the reasoning of a very childish boy, which will make it even more difficult for your mates to consider you attractive or appealing to date.

The solution?

Focus on your academics, or your handwork if you are learning work at Baba Dimeji workshop, so that you can have a financial life and be prepared to handle women and their several responsibilities.

You can use Google or chatgpt or grok or Gemini to ask:

"What is hypergamy?" and read more about it to broaden your narrow mindset

I agree that girls date up but before they did, remember that they ran from people who were older than them and it is with us that they did mummy and daddy with technically "dated" in primary school.

And some of us swore that we shall marry them as our "relationship" of mummy and daddiness feeling stlll continued with us to secondary school.

So we all knew the girls who liked us and who were going to date us if we went for them.

And that was confirmed when we truly went to the girl and truly dating had started and was going very well until .. those girls started grumbling and complaining about our togetherness and closeness (relationship).

And you know, another thing that proves that girls do date their mates is the fact that somehow, somehow those same girls came back to date and even fornicked with us later in ss2/year 1 or even after school and in nysc, after uncle older has already over finished using and dumping them..

So, now i do not agree that girls don't date their mates for I now know that they do, just that in their usual tell of lies, they are just keeping it as a secret weapon to man pullate men knowing that we would be surprised and happily accept them and that we would not remember nor care about their wayward living.

And this is not to even consider that they even date and marry younger men.

So, this is where you see that those who say 'you dey believe woman?" are very right for between 95% - 99% of everything women say are Lies!

SpencerForbes:
What is Dtruthspeaker even writing this morning

It is completely devoid of logic; I genuinely had a headache trying to make sense of your article. You have officially won the award for the most confusing post of the day 🏅🎖️🏅

You truly have a long way to go.

hehehehe jus say that I have made you remember that very painful day of that decent quiet girl in secondary school whom you felt was a good girl and you went for her and she was already falling and falling for you.

Only for those jealous wiked girls wey no send am before to go and talk to her and after that everything scatter and the girl changed and became a bad spoilt girl.

I know you got it.

It is now i just understood how and why she changed her mind as I could not believe that she could change so easily. Plus, I was wondering what those girls told her. So now, i know so now I know how guide my daughter

correctguy101:
Living in it's self requires endurance.. let alone with another human.

There'll be enjoyment, there'll also be endurance. Whichever experience one choose to magnify, will determine whether the union will continue. Some humans go suffer you because of small thing and expect you to endure because God no like divorce. No be juju be that?

But, if we don't suffer and endure ourselves, we tend to choose people who we expect would not cause us to suffer or to endure and that is where the shock is.

Wiredbugs:
This is a wholesome take. I mean, it's just not possible for God to create a fire that burns forever just to consume the same people he says he loves. It's just impossible.

Did you not hear that when you despise and reject Love, you would get hate?
And did you not read that God loved His angels, but when they despised and abused His Love, He cast them down and prepared the Fire for them?

So, if He can do this to angels who are higher better than you how would He not do same to you, since He is Just?

So, stop thelooin yourself. God has already Said it and His Word must always be fulfilled and in all these He is still a Loving God, for He First Loved us even when we did not know Him, yet you despised, scorned, rejected His Love and rather abused His Love by doing the things you know He hates. So, you cannot reasonably expect that He would still love you after all your offences.

Abused patience turns to fury". Thomas Fuller.

"Beware the fury of a patient man" John Dryden.

Beware of him that is slow to anger; for when it is long coming, it is the stronger when it comes". Francis Quarles

And every reasonable person in the world knows this

Diamond098454:
Hmm mmm hmm mmm you sounds so convincing I know millions of girls including me that are not into old men stuffs

You don't need to lie for it were so, men won't be running from women and marriage

Diamond098454:
Not all girls

Probably only 1 in 16 million was able to completely resist until she married. If someone says its all girls, no one can say he is wrong as you won't even be able to point out one

Diamond098454:
3 ? How? This is an insult on young girls

3 ? Can you imagine? Just 3 in 50years ?please stop it already.

Every woman today was once young and that is how they disgraced themselves. Which is why women are not respected which is actually my course of study

And then i overhead one little girl probably in js 1 or 2 telling the girls with her which reminded me of secondary school

gutss:
Dating Feels Different After Turning 30

This is after burn out has occurred and when life shows them that they can still be miseryful even after having everything

erad:
It's because you're immature.

Creating this thread proves it.

Like you are mature when you find out that your wife/gf is an olosho

Diamond098454:
Not all girls. Don't generalized it

Many girls are into young guys but few are into old men

It is not me you would tell this Lie.

I nearly never saw a girl who never subscribed to the older guys situ. I have seen only 3 in almost 50yrs.

Starboytwo:
i'm honestly trying to effect change...

I met this cool headresser in Lekki. we are cool, but now its getting cooler. She is quite reserved about knowing my place and i personally don't even want her to know my place now...

We talked about intimacy, she was reserved about it too(oh she a northerner by the way.xtian southern kaduna) and i told her i want a sex-less relationship, at least for now. she surprised no doubt...

i'm loving every minute of this relationship. No ulterior motive.

She is just studying you wondering what you are doing and plotting how she should play it.

I am sure you don't know that telling a girl that you don't want sex is one of the worst things you can do to a girl.

And why did she dump you. that magic word "you can't take care of me" tells you everything.

See, you went befriending a girl thinking that as your mates, you have the same likes concerns so things should naturally go well between the 2 of you. And it did until those girls spoke then her attitude towards you changed. And after that she went on, changed and became a girl that you no longer recognise.

Why all these?

It is because her friends have activated and opened the fact that she truly wants everything in this world now now now.

Not later like you but now now now.

And where her friends have only gone to Lagos, she needs a man to take her to both Lagos and Abuja elsewhere. Where her friends have a watch she wants watches and phones. Now, now now.

Therefore she dumped you because you cannot satisfy her unreasonable needs of reaching up to her friends and even being better than her classmates is why.

Which is why those of your classmates in secondary school who have already entered into the olosho business are the ones who were clear in their minds that they can never date their classmates no matter what. And it is them who if you made the mistake of trying to toast, you would get the insult of your life.
And they are the ones who always laid the conditions of dating all other women started carrying on their heads eg like a girl in JS 2 saying that she only dates guys in the university and up which does not stop her from entering her father's mates Benz.

Now i see why.

It is because her friends who themselves are oloshos put it in her that she is supposed to be an olosho like them else they will hate her and deal with her.

So they told her "what can he give you? Is it meat pie that is shacking you? You are a foo, he is jus using you and when he has finished he would dump you. I hope you have not fornicked him? (And she must say no oo) Then they would say thank God you have small sense. Do you see what nnika got from her guy? See this watch is 250k, he took all of us to federal palace see her clothes na, nothing less than 300k. So how can a girl like you who is even finer than nnika be wasting herself on that useress boy who cannot give you anything? I will give you somebody who will even do more than that. You know chibim, (the older guy) is interested in you, i will connect you with him.

And finish, she immediately dumps you.

I have always wondered why girls refused to date their mates (especially those yellow ones from that area where their girls are plenty in yellowness).

Now they may start to date you but something her "friends" said made her completely stop. And no, it is not because your head is too big or that you are from a certain place. Those are lies she just said so that you would be unhappy with yourself but not with her so that in case you are become something she can come back. So you are in her man pulling hands.

Meanwhile when you both started, it was genuine until her friends saw and spoke with her then she says she is not doing again or out rightly quarrels and kicks your ass out.

Only to see her fall mummuishly with one older guy and her friends approve of the relationship.

Infact all of them fall in with the guy and it looks like they are even sharing him until she finally finds out that her friend truly fornicked with the guy.

And yes the guy is always richer and older than you but the question is still why did she dump a good thing to go to that other guy.

And the funny thing is that you could have done what the guy did in giving her trips just that.. you thought she was a good girl, so the question is why?

Solofresh2:
The reason most couples say marriage is 'endurance' is because that is the truth. The 'God-ordained rule' you mention requires two people to fight their own selfish biology every single day for a lifetime. Most people eventually lose that fight because the attraction fades or resentment builds. The few couples who experience 'enjoyment' aren't better at following rules; they are just lucky enough to be naturally compatible and physically matched so that selflessness comes easily to them

Yes, its true after all they all vowed to disobey God and the things they say are right in their own eyes. So endurance dem dey find endurance they must get ee ooo, oooo.

Starboytwo:
How about mine, if I don knack you like this izz gone…

Now, currently in a knackless relationship. I like it better.

Still the same thing but worse for you would now fall in love till you find out that all this while you were zipped up, her between the legs was in active service

Solofresh2:
You don't want a girlfriend; you want a mission. You are addicted to the dopamine of the chase because it distracts you from the emptiness of your reality. Once the chase ends and real connection is required, you flee because you have no identity outside of 'the pursuer.' You don't love women who love you back because, deep down, you don't believe you deserve to be chosen. You need the struggle to feel alive

Also, it is because he knows the women are out of use so his soul switches him nto safe mode since he does not have sehnse

TheFreshVanilla:
Married man wey no fit afford corolla but get energy to chase women up and down. Meanwhile your wife dey enter bike go church and your children dey enter bike go school. Shame no even dey catch you at all.

E no get how you go troway yoursef on top olosho wey shame no go catch. E just be like person wey enter shiith wey hin no go become shiiiht.

Shame dey catch dem jus say people like una dey talk say dem no be man if dem no carry olosho wey dey calll side cheek

Thereedemer:
So renting a house means you have money bah

So people like bizzle who pay 8.5m rent don't have money abi?

Or those who rent in banana island are poor ehn?

See dis one no know say olosho no get standard. Side rubbish go still side her rubbish with poor carpenter

EDGEof2MORO:
the goal is not to catch bandits but to track you and keep you poor

You have said it. Govt too are bandits

Parachoko:
Is the FG stopping any state from building more markets? I don't understand why you're complaining.

The FG wants to handover some unnecessary burden to the states and Local Government Areas, you're here still wailing

You mean Tinubu dashing Fg assets to Lagos State so that he can take it from Lagos State?

And have still not caught one bandit with bvn, nin, and all the shi... they claimed

OkanlawonB:
A fair and reasonable flat rate should make more sense. 10% of the value of a property as legal fee is exploitative.

Is the price of living fair and reasonable and flat?

And in all these you people are still the same ones who abuse lawyers for being poor.

God should just come and end this world.

jmoore:
Are you the only professional in Nigeria?
If Nigeria Medical Association says that a doctor should charge minimum of 1 million naira for consultation or no medical service, hope you will be happy?

Secondly, agent is not mandatory. Many people buy and sell land without agents.

Ignoring your fallacious argument of are hospital bills not already expensive?

Secondly by that argument, lawyers are not mandatory, you too can buy and sell your land without a lawyer and like doctors/surgeon we will wait for you.

MetalJigsaw:
He deletes my comments too. They don't want the truth.

Clear proof that they know that they are liars

Then see the second one.

How do you expect him to know that Jesus can't have children without a wife?

There isn't any rubbish that jws cannot say

MaxInDHouse(m): 3:00pm
cornelboy:
You didn't ask about his wife.
You want to use overload to kill him.

How do you expect him to know that Jesus can't have children without a wife?

Well let them continue arguing because even if we show them in the Bible that Jesus has a wife through whom he became the everlasting father they will still argue blindly!🙂

MetalJigsaw:
Lol.. but i haven't clearly understood both your arguments

Ah!
What do you not understand?

SmartPolician:
Oga, rest! The day God starts running this world, heaven rules will apply here. Earth is firmly in the hands of men, that's why God ignores all our evil deeds

You say God ignores your evu deeds yet everything is happening as He Said. Anyway, i leave you alone