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Mindlog:
"especially women are guilty" while the fathers, uncles, brothers, cousins who are likely to be older, are innocent. 🙄

As you can see i said both are guilty of it however, i said women are more guilty because they are the ones who initiated and in couraged it, where these people know not to go near her as she would lower her respect for them and would even over embarrass them. But for them to have done it, it means she gave them green light which is the couragement, So, she is more guilty than them

Janadozz:
Nice try, but you just committed a logical fallacy—specifically, the false equivalence fallacy. Let me break it down so even a toddler could follow:

Your argument:

Adultery is a sin ✔️ (we agree)

Robbery is a sin ✔️ (we agree)

Therefore, proposing marriage = proposing adultery ❌ (WRONG!)

Here's why:

1. Adultery is defined as sexual relations with someone who is NOT your spouse.
If the man marries the woman first, she becomes his wife—legally and biblically. Sleeping with your own wife is NOT adultery.

Is the married man marrying going to a person he is not going to have sex with?

Janadozz:
Is adultery not a sin?

Let me ask you something just as simple: Is water wet? 😂

Of course adultery is a sin! Hebrews 13:4 explicitly says: "Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but fornicators and adulterers God will judge." Clear. Unambiguous. No debate.

But here's where you're missing the point:

My entire argument is built on stopping adultery—not promoting it. Let me spell it out slowly:

Scenario A: A man has one wife but struggles with sexual temptation. He ends up sleeping with side chicks, prostitutes, or other women outside marriage. That = ADULTERY (a sin).

Scenario B: A man has two lawful wives. He sleeps with both within the bounds of marriage covenant. That = NOT ADULTERY (because they're his wives).

So which scenario has more sin? Scenario A. Which has less? Scenario B.

My proposal is a harm reduction strategy—like giving a thirsty man clean water instead of letting him drink from a dirty river. Both quench thirst, but one keeps him alive and healthy.

Now let's flip your question back at you:

If you know adultery is a sin, and you see a man struggling with it, what solution are YOU offering?

Are you just going to point fingers and say "stop sinning"? That's like telling a hungry man to "stop being hungry." It doesn't work. The Bible gives a practical solution: "To avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife" (1 Corinthians 7:2). If one wife isn't enough to keep him from sinning, then give him another lawful wife so he has no excuse to step outside.

That's not promoting adultery—that's preventing it.

So yes, adultery is a sin. And if you truly care about stopping it, you should support any lawful means that keeps a man from committing it. Including a second wife.

Or do you have a better solution? I'm all ears. 🎤😉

So, thank God you admit and confess that adultery is a sin just like robbery

So, now that you agree that adultery is a sin, do you now confess that you are saying that a wife should commit the sin of adultery by telling her husband to go and commit adultery by him marrying the person he commits adultery with?

Janadozz:
Nice try, but your logic has a giant hole the size of a bank vault. Let me explain:

1. Robbing a bank is EXPLICITLY a sin.
Exodus 20:15 – "You shall not steal." Period. No debate. Proposing robbery is proposing sin.

2. Proposing a second wife is NOT explicitly a sin.
You still haven't shown me one verse that says "Thou shalt not have two wives." Instead, God gave laws regulating it (Exodus 21:10, Deuteronomy 21:15-17). You don't make laws regulating something that's inherently sinful—you ban it outright. God didn't ban it. He regulated it. So proposing polygamy ≠ proposing a crime. It's proposing a lawful option.

3. Your analogy would only work if polygamy = theft.
But theft is universally condemned in Scripture. Polygamy is not. So your comparison is like saying: "If you propose I eat two apples, are you guilty of gluttony?" No—because eating apples isn't a sin. The quantity isn't the issue; the act is.

4. But let's flip your argument with your own logic:
If proposing a lawful act makes the proposer guilty, then Moses was guilty when he proposed divorce (Deuteronomy 24:1). Yet Jesus said Moses allowed it because of hard hearts (Matthew 19:—and Moses is in the Hall of Faith (Hebrews 11). So was Moses guilty of sin? No. He gave a concession to prevent worse evil.

Likewise, the wife proposing a co-wife isn't proposing sin—she's proposing a concession to stop her husband from committing actual, explicitly condemned sin: harlotry/adultery (Hebrews 13:4).

So to answer you directly:
Am I guilty? No—because what I'm proposing isn't a sin. It's a lawful, biblically regulated arrangement that has existed among God's people for centuries. If you want to call me guilty, you'll need a verse that actually says "Thou shalt not have two wives."

I'll wait. ⏳😉

Is adultery not a sin?

saintruky:
You speaking as the Bwala (PA) of God?

Yes. 1 Peter 4:11

Janadozz:
Wait, let's pause right there. 😂

How does proposing a marriage equal committing adultery?

Adultery is sexual sin with someone who isn't your spouse (Exodus 20:14). The wife isn't sleeping with the new woman—her husband will. She's just the matchmaker, not the participant. Big difference...

Are you joking?
If someone proposes that you should go and rob a bank, is the person guilty or not?

SeeWahala:
Okay, 🤗 just checking . . .

🙏🏾

SeeWahala:
Who said Adam and Eve had only 2 kids? 🤔

Didn't say they had only 2 kids

Janadozz:
You make a fair point—I did say the wife should initiate...
.

Are you saying that the wife should cmmit adultery by initiating it?

ManknowThyself:
Men all i see is you are living a sinless life of perfection in every aspect of life.

My blue print of life is unique and different from yours as yours also unique to you.

The grace and mercy for my life is totally different from yours.
That's why life is all about choice and happiness through the inner soul in you and that's your intuition of information concerning your destiny.

Every one gat his life to live just discover the blue print of your soul purpose in life.

One side chick is a must and that's decipline.

So saul thought and lived but i proceed no more for it is clear your heart is cast

lighkas:
Just capping uselessly. Are the Americans he spoke about visitors? Person dey contrast between quality of life for Americans and Nigerians, you dey yarn una usual dust.

Is the visitor not him? Abeg, make una dey go oo, i no talk say make una no go.

Mrsoft3:
God made mercy to automatically renew everyday but you common man dey tell another man say God no go have mercy on am. You are delusional.


Even Paul said he has found himself doing what he doesn't want to do and struggle with it all his life, but you come dey form holier than that.

Marriage is sacred, a man's nature is always before him, men are polygamous our fore fathers never hid or suppress it they ensured it was a great blessing for their farms and businesses marrying and having Concubines

Certainly not for committing sins you willfully intended and planned even in advance to commit. As you said, Paul did not will it, but can that be said for others? No.

If you say that your nature is polygamous then it means that you are still carrying the old sin filled pagan man whom were your parents. Therefore, such people are not born agai, so no even mercy to begin with

Arostar2023:
Who on earth told you that adultery is a capital offence and can’t be forgiven?

Deuteronomy 22:22,
If he truly wants to walk in the way of fidelity and integrity, then he must see that there's truly no forgiveness for adultery

uvie66:
.... another nonsense talk......I jappered more than 25 years ago and I Don drop two upstairs for Lagos and one for London.....and I am in my 50s now, so it was worth it.

No wahala.

Amotolongbo:
Only if you could explain how life continued after Adam and Eve as claimed by your Bible.

Also, how human existence continued after the Noah story

Now, you are asking this, yet you are the one who said how can 2 people fill the whole world.

And in answer to your question, every country has prohibited in sex

See the reaction of some people here, it tells you a lot of people especially women are guilty of in sex Daughters benshin with fathers, uncles, brothers, cousins before they go outside

PrinceOogaBooga:
Thank you Sir
I sincerely appreciate this

Same to you brother. 🙏🏾

ManknowThyself:
You right brother but God mercy will overcome that cos my family is above her in every aspect of life.

God knows am not perfect.

Sorry, brother to tell you the sharp Truth, you are not going to get mercy from God for you have already purposed in your heart to commit adultery. And adultery is one of the capital offences that cannot be forgiven. So you are not doing anything different from those who are unfaithful. Having a side thing is over far from the way of overcoming,

Love thyself bro, men who commit adultery are no different from those who put sniper in Fanta and drink it with barbecue fish

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uvie66:
..... Nonsense talk of course the grass is greener on the other side, employment, security, peace of mind etc.

See your brother that is on the greener grass
https://www.nairaland.com/8709970/nigerian-caregiver-reportedly-dies-abroad#140033351
Japa and leave naija for us. I did not say you should not go.

Kingrshd3:
Heard this different times from different displorers 🤔

Is that so

Living there for would confirm it

sahab2325:
Yes, it is possible. That is spirit of contentment.

Dev go let you do am?

Jmichael1:
Every mallam with his own kettle, person like me,omoh I no fit
As a full time delta guy,I must have atleast 1 or 2 side chicks

No expect say you go qualify for earth part 2 ooo

ManknowThyself:
Marriage is sacred and partners must bring integrity and fidelity to the table forever in their home cos that's the priority for peaceful and happy family.

Haven’t said that, in my personal opinion and choice of life.

I must get only one side chick after enough due diligence but must and will place and put my personal family "wife and kids" in pedestal above her. I will be kind to her as real authentic man but she can't ever access or know my family.

Then keep it as life oxygen secret from my wife forever and that's decipline in real case.

You know even if half side chick, you have broken the integrity/fidelity part of your declaration

Would dev let you stay sinless?

phemmyflexxy:
Our thing is not meant for one place...

That is what Atagha thought

onumadu:
@OP, only your number1 reason makes sense and closest to the truth.
The rest of your reasons are just gag-tags designed to gag men into compulsory monogamy which God never commanded.
Anything that is not natural will fail.

It is natural to steal and lie and sometimes masturbate in public, why are you resisting it?