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2 friends that got whipped in the ass by a party they both helped to build.

A married woman sharing photos with another man. You want an arrangee person to take the bullets for your misbehavior in order to save your secret lover and your marriage.
The truth is that most women are usually involved in double standards but are quick to cry foul when a man looks through the window while driving.
Well if I'm your husband and I notice your games I will try not to complain. I will quietly gather the evidence of your dubious games then surprise you in a shocking way.
Hit you? No that's too cheap and stressful.

I'd quietly marry a younger and more beautiful woman.
I'd ask your kinsmen to direct all inquiries to you.

I've learnt a lot from Northern Moslems.

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merahki:
And then the relative or friend whose only desire and purpose in life is to marry would just say yes to you like that? Because as only man left in the whole wide world?
Then you both would rub the marriage in her face? Talk about delusions with calm/finality!
(I don’t blame you shaa, finally )
But just know your post resides in that town called “outsidenorm”, where near impossible things happen because deviant stuff exist to make us appreciate creation I guess. Your neighbours would be females who sleep with their relatives’ husbands and aborts babies with them, that odd man or woman who sleeps with their cats or wall geckos, all those kind of neighbours, you get?
SMH

The relatives and friends would definitely say yes they always do and believe me they'd improve on her failure.

The one that walked away from her marriage because of ego and irrational mindset is the real loser. She'd be the one to sleep with her mom, brother, cats and geckos

How much is the Camry?

PDP second base succor only that it came too late because of overconfidence of romancing with APC thinking that his sins are forgiven.

Queenmaker:
Glad to know you are happily married. That's the more reason why you shouldn't add more fuel to the fire in another man's marriage, giving him option of infidelity rather than a mature approach to things. The truth is, marriage is sacred. The moment you think you have an option apart from your God-given spouse, then you've pushed God aside to depend on your own wisdom.
May God have mercy on this generation.

God may just be saving him from a manipulator. It's obvious she's not ready for marriage so let him look for a wife. Let her mom and brother marry her.

Queenmaker:
Are you married? If not, please desist from giving such advice.
@OP,this is a public forum. Be careful how you solicit for advice here. You are married, many forum members are even yet to write JAMB.

Yes I am happily married but not to a nagging woman or wicked trouble maker and manipulator

shestrong:
Wetin concern u concern my dp? carry urself nd ur comment commot for hia jor.

You better behave well when you get married so you don't take a decision that will cost you your marriage. There are ladies everywhere willing to take over but there are no husbands everywhere only fvckers. Beware!

shestrong:
I can't believe u had over 500 likes for this unreasonable comment, so he should go marry a second or third wife over what ? instead of advising him to properly manage d situation. is that ur idea of marriage? mtchewww

She should have thought about this picture in your dp before involving her family.
You call my comment unreasonable while more than 600 people find it reasonable.

Pussywar:
Not all, your mother doesn't.

Evidently you are from a family of whoremongers. I dedicate your future insults to your family and generations.

Pussywar:
Looool. After replying me. Dense.

O yeah wh0res deserve some slacks

Jesse25:
Make he kill her first abi..... Nigga Bleep ur self

Everyone is not a cheap pussylicking gay like you.

Pussywar:
You deserved the insult. You're a toxic man and a misogynist.

Attention seeker. Application denied.

zimach:
Oga with this your advice, I'm not sure you are married. God forbid, what if at the process of trying to slap the woman, sth worst than this happened?? What if the woman was the one that went out and came in at 2am?? I believe they have been having normal misunderstanding and the woman never reacted this way by calling her people. There are many ladies young say? The devil you know is better o. You never jam one you go slap and you won't go free. He should have entered the room and lock himself up there. Let him go and win his wife back.....

She's lucky I'm not the one because she may never come back to that house again.

For your info I'm very happily married though my wife knows the shit she can't try with me. So you want him to keep following her up and down like house fly follow poo when she has already made her decision, a rebellious one at that. Arrant Nonsense.

Pataricatering:
More stupid advice.

So you can't air your views without insulting others. You know what it's your entire household that is stupid. Your stupid ass is the type that manipulates her husband. Pray he's not someone like me. I dedicate your future insults to your parents, husband and children. Idi0t

Saintmary:
This is meant for the OP
See woman beater in training.
So, since you have apologized, and she is adamant, you will kuku build for yourself a broken home.
You better go and restore your home and prevent further stories that touch.
Or you think Nairalanders will live in your marriage with you.
However you make your bed, you, your wife and your baby will lie in it.

She started building the broken home by being unreasonably adamant to apologies and even involving her people what nonsense.
She invited trouble and she got it coming. Some women knowing that their man is not a violent person often take advantage of that and push him to the wall. Everyone has a limit to patience and tolerance. Forget the many seeming chivalrous women wrapper all over Nairaland sugarcoating their stand whereas it's not coming from a sincere heart.

Most guys would break at such heights of provocation.

Fountainofyouth:
Hell no, the normal reaction should be shouts and insults, which the Op's wife did, that has been my point from the onset, he over reacted by hitting her instead of walking away.

Shouts wont solve the problem as evidenced in the OP's story.
He walked away she didn't respect that but chose to be stupid. It earned her a slap putting the jeopardy.
Dialog would have been better

Fountainofyouth:
Violence- immediate revenge
Marry her relative or close friend-long term revenge
Same thing, different scenarios, but okay.

What would you have me do? Hit her?

Fountainofyouth:
At least you are truthful enough to tell me this, but what will be your immediate reaction the moment she steps into the house at that time? I dey like wen people say reality abeg, no human will say he/she won't react aggressively, with shouts and all, Ahn Ahn, let's be truthful to ourselves nah, and if your partner doesn't react that way, means she's cheating steady, or you're emotionally dead to her, and if you're emotionally dead to her, dude, you need to run for your life.

You don't know me. I don't subscribe to violence. I don't believe in using violence to solve issues even if she doesn't come home for days. I have a way of making weird decisions that could make her beg me to hit her and let the problem go.
I could dump her coldly and quietly then marry her relative or very close friend and rub the marriage in her face. Violence? Nope.

Fountainofyouth:
Okay so it's a diick and bride price comparison now, how convenient, you just had to bring in Christianity and Muslims to prove what? That you're going in circles and haven't even attempted to answer my questions, what if your wife comes home late? Answer me logically like a man and tell me you won't beat the living soul out of her with a bleeding body, if I won't tell you how much of a high-ended liar you are.

If she comes back at 2am believe me I won't hit her. I've never done that but I can't guarantee my continuation with her. It's men that choose whom to marry not the other way round. Women have a right to choice but it's limited.

Fountainofyouth:
I would only answer your question when you answer mine cos that will determine how I answer yours,

How will you feel and react when your wife comes home from a birthday party at 2am in the morning?

She can't. I payed her bride price she didn't pay mine. Southerners are lucky to have Christianity dominating thus the ladies have Christian husband's. Would she react the same way if she was married to a Muslim especially northern moslem.

Fountainofyouth:
Ah fada lawd, she's a spoilt brat and not ready for marriage after one slap made her bleed, how nah? And they say our mothers of old did a good job, see the kind of men we have o, so because marriage is not a bed of roses means she should expect slaps and bleeding at anytime abi? Issokay.

You didn't answer my question? What was she hoping to achieve when she was shouting and following him up and down and refusing to accept his apology?

CHoccolaTE:
Do you know if peace talks was not working for the man before so she decided to change her approach?
What if op is the type that is very stubborn and both peace talks and violent approach dont work until you do something drastic like leaving the house for him?

If the OP wasn't a peace loving person he wouldn't have have apologized in the first place neither would he have tried avoiding her. Have you tired asking yourself what she wanted to achieve by shouting and following him up and down. She's obviously a spoilt brat and not ready for marriage. Who told her that marriage is all rosy. If my wife leaves home out of anger honestly she's not coming back. She had better stay and sort out things with me amicably.

CHoccolaTE:
This is fallacious

People have a tendency to take advantage of those they perceive to be weaker than them. I have seen sadistic people who started behaving worse when their victims approached them with humility, these sadists started respecting themselves only after they got served a good dose of their own medicine.
Some people don't respect people pleasers, they will try to take advantage of them more.

You see why everyone is different. Some people are humbled by peace talks why some take advantage of peace approach.
soem people get mad at violent outbursts and nagging while some get disciplined by it. Couples should know whichever works for their spouse.

loveliveshere:
The fact that she hasn't accepted his apology doesn't make her less reasonable.
Sometimes, when someone you hold in high esteem does an imaginable act you begin to wonder if that has been their real character. I neither blame the wife nor the husband, because we all respond differently to anger.

The man should keep apologizing till the woman comes around.

She refused to rest when he was begging her to but suddenly rested when she got a slap. OK oo.

He should keep begging her until she comes around. I hear. goddess wife.
A virtuous woman could have called her husband to a peaceful dialoge rather than rant with angry words. Believe me a peaceful 5mins counsel could have been mightier than 2hours nagging.
It's not everyman that stands nagging.

When you remember how nice your woman is even when you offend her you'd make it a point of caution not to imagine offending her. Making her happy will be your top priority but when she wants prove rebellious my dear forget it.
If she Wan go let her go.

GraGra247:
Op, Please don't listen to this stupid advice.

Op you committed two crimes.

1. You came back home by 2am - a thing I'm certain you won't tolerate from your wife.

2. When she complained you had the guts to slap her to the extent she bled from her mouth and nose.

You deserve to be in jail.

Go and buy goat and 5 cartons of drinks to appease your inlaws and your wife else she shouldn't come back to you.

Cant you air your views without insulting people?

In as much as I don't support domestic violence, your effort at apologizing and sincerely promising not to repeat it is more than enough to make you guys come back to normal if she's a reasonable woman.
don't call or beg her anymore else she will see a good stance to manipulate your sorry ass forever.
She will come back in a matter of days if you ignore her but if she doesn't, find a way to make yourself happy. You can't kill yourself over a trouble she ignited. She will loose if she tries to make it a hard or competitive game.

There are many ladies young and old with very good character that will be willing to marry as second, third and even fourth wife.

Wike will soon join APC

The counter notice by FAAN addressed only dropping of passengers by Ubet, Taxify and others. The problem has always been about picking of passengers not dropping. God punish them.

More like it. Can anyone please tell me why ASUU doesn't want to be oasrt of the IPPIS?