Culturally, environment sometimes changes everything so we all have to get used to that and let the children make up their mind as long as we bring them up to understand African family values

This man is only interested in one thing and one thing only… sex other wise why is he married and interested in independent women.

There is no doubt that you have fallen for him which this is your main dilemma but if the sex is that good you can carry on. Other wise leave his wife and children out of it and find yourself a single man unless you want to remain a concubine forever

True love happens only if you are lucky!!! The is no magic to it or compatibility for that matter

It depends simply on the man as an individual. There are needs, wants and desire which sometimes cannot be provided by just one woman hence man ends up with……, a wife, girlfriend(s), concubine(s), one night stand(s) etc.

Think about the natural pressure the society in general puts on a man

Drop the condom when you are certain that your partner is not HIV positive or when you are ready to raise a family. Other wise you may contract STD, HIV or become a father

Backs out for a while as in back out from seeing her parents and her for a little while and see how things develop the next time you see her. Religion is all about faith and should not be mixed with politics. Unfortunately relationship is political.

You must back off so that the girl can have clear head to make her own decision without you approval, suggestion or shoulder to cry on. Other wise her family may resent you forever.

I will turn around and go and second my second lady and give her the flowers. It’s ideal to have first lady and a second lady if possible with similar vital statistics that way you will never have to throw a present away.

One woman poison is another woman’s meat!

The world is changing, so forget about the ethics of ‘I am a good girl’ and listen to your heart maybe then you will enjoy life knowing that you did what you heart told you. Girls should be able to toast guys and be able to force themselves on guys. At least these are things men do.

Maybe then the guy may develop a likeness in the woman believing that she went all the way to get her man

The world is changing, so forget about the ethics of ‘I am a good girl’ and listen to your heart maybe then you will enjoy life knowing that you did what you heart told you. Girls should be able to toast guys and be able to force themselves on guys. At least these are things men do.

Maybe then the guy may develop a likeness in the woman believing that she went all the way to get her man

If your boy friend don’t know how to make love to you then make love to him until he knows how.

Distance will be a test of sincerity and faith in the other person and a relationship but as people of flesh (blood and water) the devil is always around the corner to push temptations into the equation.

If you do not believe in out of site being out of mind, communication however solid cannot bridge the barrier between sincerity and temptation

The best start is to tell the guy everything about you without hiding anything or tell any lies or fibs Then, here comes the big one; say the following to the guy as warm and as tender as possible:

Honey, just wondering can you tell me everything about yourself the same way I have just done too?

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Let it be, get your own man and let the old man enjoy the fruit of his labour