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midnighter:
Me too.

midnighter:
Who said the solution to all flaws is cheating What matters is that was her own solution, which was the cause of the break-up. So she should tell him what drove her to it.

Are you trying to say that you'd rather go on to hurt another person than be informed of a character flaw and work on it?

See, you people are getting caught up in having your sweet revenge on the girl which is not the main thing here. The point is for the guy to tie up his loose ends.

Nobody ends a committed relationship like that except if they're not serious. When you want a divorce don't you have to sit down and with the person and sort it out even though you may hate their guts??

If he meets her and she starts talking rubbish or trying to shift the blame to him, no problem! We know she can do something like that. He's already done with her so he's not going to fall for it, is he?

The woman has packed out of his life already but left her combs and cooking utensils. Let him go and return them to her and get rid of her for good.

This one you people are saying is out of emotion and not logic.

midnighter:
If you have ever witnessed a messy divorce, you will know how stupid and irresponsible it makes the man look to his family and friends when he suddenly dumps the woman, without any explanation except that he's "not marrying her again" and goes and picks up with a new one.

You should be able to explain your grouse clearly except if you're so hurt that you can't stand to talk about it.

At least he is the man, people are always wiling to believe that the woman is at fault so no problem there.

Except if he's ready for them to be nagging him about "whatever happened to our wife". Because that's what happens in African families, whether we like their interference or not

midnighter:
Thanks a lot, I respect you and your view too.

Well, he has already decided that he is no longer interested. So I don't think it will do any harm to have one last bicker

I think you are throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Even though it dignifies her, it still helps him.

He still doesn't even know why she cheated on him. What if he has some bad habit that he doesn't know about and he takes it into the next relationship?

The least that he could get out of a conversation with her would be cause of the cheating.

midnighter:
Lol, if I suspected I had been dumped for a wrong reason I would be sure to make an effort to clear my name.

If she were serious, that's what she would do.

midnighter:
She may not deserve it, but he does. It's better for his psyche in the long-run if he really cements the break-up for good. He needs a chance to argue it out with her.

What you're saying about a real lady isn't really relevant here, a real lady doesn't do so many things yet guys still marry unrealistic ladies every Saturday.

We are talking about gathering evidence. We just need to hear what she is going to say so that he can finally catch her in her lies.

When his sister asks him what happened and he can't give a concrete explanation, don't you think his family will be looking at him one kind?

He needs to hear her own side of the story.

Is this how you fvck around and expect to clear your good name?

ednited:
Race is the key for Africa's failure.

1Sharon:
Why don't you practice african religions? Why do you accept the bible?

1Sharon:
White hypothesis? The bible you believe in, who did it come from? Why do you accept the bible over your indigenous religions?

Coon.

1Sharon:
Tell me why the dead white jew hasn't come back for his sheeple?

1Sharon:
Tell me why the dead white jew hasn't come back for his sheeple?

1Sharon:
White hypothesis? The bible you believe in, who did it come from? Why do you accept the bible over your indigenous religions?

Coon.

1Sharon:
Ok

midnighter:
Well that's the problem that we are debating.

If she calls, you should still answer it and give her a chance to explain herself. It will be worse if you just leave it like that without any closure.

If she has nothing reasonable to say then that's when the silent treatment comes in. You could even record the call for reference purposes because like somebody said, I'm sure your elder sis and all your family would like to know what actually happened.

1Sharon:
Ok

1Sharon:
Don't you believe it?

That makes you a dirt man.

midnighter:
Yes! My priest always preaches that if you and your intended spouse don't have feelings of lust and sexual desire for each other leading up to the wedding, then something is very wrong in your relationship and you shouldn't be marrying because being sexually attracted to your partner is a major part of it.

People always quote St. Paul but forget Songs of Solomon and how much sex there was in it

midnighter:
Exactly. If she were the one making stupid excuses to get out of sex this thread would be 10 pages long with comments telling him to send the useless woman out of his house get another.

Because it's the man depriving the woman they have started blowing grammar, mtchew

1Sharon:
God's dirt and mud man.

1Sharon:
Who told you I haven't studied the bible? I had to study it to know it was trash

1Sharon:
@ the bolder, why did you rubbish evolution then? Not that I care.

Dirt and mud man.

1Sharon:
A truly intelligent person reads many book and feel like they need to know more.

A religious blowhard like yourself reads 1 holey book and feels like they know everything.

ednited:
Not looking alike won't stop us from being black. Who cares if we have different facial feature? Black is the blood and we have it. I can't hear the theories white guys come up with all the time to separate us.

1Sharon:
Your bible is perfect cannabis material, not reading material.

midnighter:
Exactly. So why shouldn't he block her if she's going to be writing nonsense

midnighter:
Now this is an intelligent comment. This is how I'd like to be corrected and informed instead of vain posturing and hissy fits.

But sir/ma, Wolof is just another name for Fulani. So technically they are related to Nigerians since there are Fulanis in both senegambia and Nigeria

Nigerians is even a strange term because artificial borders mean nothing when it comes to ethnicity, especially when it comes to nomadic tribes like the Fulani who wander in and out of state lines without minding them.

Bear with me though, I'm still processing your comment

1Sharon:
The joke is on you. Didn't your bible tell you that humans were created from mud?

Product of dirt and mud.

Take a very deep breath, spit it out in the general direction of your lecturer, pocket your pride then go read the bible. You can apologize to me later

1Sharon:
Why talk to me about pharaoh like he means something to me then?

The bible and most of its stories are not factual and cannot be taken seriously.

1Sharon:
I don't care about your stupid pharaoh. The bible is not a history book.

1Sharon:
You Horners and fulani are related. You fall under the cuhitic group.

The fulanis are suspected to have migrated from the horn.

1Sharon:
Fulani and ethiopians are related.

Fulani and ethiopians language group falls under afro-asiatic.

We have nothing in common with cushites we only share the african continent

1Sharon:
Black ppl? Lol your ppl clearly don't think they're black, cos I know some of the hateful comments Horners make.

You don't look like the average black person.

Race and ethnicity exists whether you choose to believe it or not.

1Sharon:
You Horners and fulani are related. You fall under the cuhitic group.

The fulanis are suspected to have migrated from the horn.

1Sharon:
Fulanis, just like Ethiopians are CUSHITES !

Ebonygirl1:
you seriously think someone who works in shop rite will have 50-70k stored up somewhere?