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midnighter:
Unfortunately that's one reason people don't have much sympathy for lawyers, because of their smart mouth. It's a double-edged sword that helps them win cases and also messes them up at times lol. Comment full of perambulation

midnighter:
I didn't say that, by the way but I'm glad you understood what I meant.

ednited:
I have heard other Nigerians saying the same thing. Although I don't know to what degree we lookalike. But Ethiopians have no idea about the fulani people.

midnighter:
I didn't say that, by the way but I'm glad you understood what I meant.

user283:
There's this lady I've been dating for two years now. We happen to be members of the same church and I ought to have taken the relationship to the next level by getting my parents to her place for our introduction last month but I had a rethink and postponed our introduction due to an issue that might cause problem in the future

I noticed my girlfriend is the stingy type. When I mean stingy, it's on the high side. Assuming she's just averagely stingy I wouldn't really be bothered but this is gross.

I work as a bank teller (contract staff) and my salary isn't really much while she works in Shoprite. Even from the little I earn, I'm always sensitive to her needs and I tip her whether she's stranded or not since I love her but how can I explain being with a lady for two solid years and I've never for once received any gift no matter how little it is? Not even something as little as toothbrush or hair cream

Initially, I didn't see this as a big deal probably because I grew up with the mentality that it's a taboo for a man to expect gifts or little support from his girlfriend when he's in dire need
but I've now grown to realize that "give and take" is one of the key elements of a good relationship

Even if I get stranded or go into debt, my girlfriend acts nonchalant and she'll be the
last person that will ever render a little financial assistance to help my situation. You might say I should sit her down and discuss about it. Yes I've already done that and I made her understand that I actually postponed our introduction for no other reason but because I'm still indecisive if I want to spend the rest of my life with a selfish woman but her response shows she takes pride in being stingy

I even used logic to whine her younger brother recently just to be sure if she's stingy to me alone but the boy confirmed it that her sister is very stingy. I decided to carry out my findings on her brother because I believe he should know her better.

You might want to talk about sex but my belief is that sex is just a mutual pleasure and does not define what a woman gives to you in a relationship especially a relationship that will lead to the altar

What's getting me worried is that we've come a long way but I don't want to end up with a selfish woman because it's written all over her that she cares so much only about her own well being

Please advice your fellow brother. Do I have a reason to be worried? I've been jumping a lagoon for a woman who can't jump a gutter for me especially when it comes to giving. Should I tolerate this level of stinginess from a woman simply because I'm a man?

P.S: I'm still with her because she has other good traits

Please pardon my typos. I wrote this in a hurry

midnighter:
They are both bad but mistress is not wife.

Marrying another woman is embarrassing your wife, shekina

midnighter:
Listening to her? How would he listen to her when she hasn't said anythingBabe, digest it..

Your relationship that was about to lead to marriage is crashing and all you can do is try to indirectly bait your boyfriend with immature musings about suicide so that he will forget what happened and come running back to save you.

She has his number, she knows his house, she knows where to find him ... if there's any misunderstanding whats so difficult about going there and clearing it so that your husband-to-be won't have the wrong idea

She is just being manipulative. That's what people do when they're trying to force your hand without admitting their own error.

Attention indeed...spits...

midnighter:
Yes, he should be willing to listen to her and not conclude too hastily. Anything could happen.

I just disagree with the whatsapp stuff...she should explain herself in person if she's serious.

Up until the time he blocked her, she couldn't even open a chat to explain. All she knew how to do was write rubbish status update smh

midnighter:
She hasn't told you whether their sex life was good prior to the pregnancy so it's difficult to comment.

By the way this is not "old-fashioned man" but "ignorant and incorrigible man". Starving her of sex for almost 2 years in the name of protecting pregnancy is just stupid. He could have asked for the correct information during antenatal class.

midnighter:
It doesn't exist in my place either. Yes it's original sin from ancestors.

It has to do with his life because it may affect his own marriage in future if he becomes an osu because of his sister

lilwetdick:
this is the most stupidest stuff i have ever read in my life

African-Americans population in the US is 45 million, while Nigerians living in the US are mere 80,000-150,000, do you expect Nigerians to be more successful than African -americans who are the natives of the land

Guy think for once, Nigerians arent the richest in the US or even the most educated, there are many African-americans richer than the thousands of Nigerians in the US and even more educated than many Africans pls dont be short sighted, even African-americans spending power is more than the spending power of the whole of Africa.

Eastern Asians immigrants are more educated and successful than Nigerians

Nigerians should stop hyping themselves, if we were so this and that we would have replicated that so called success in Nigeria

midnighter:
Lol happy Sunday and Monday. Hope you enjoyed Dominican delicacies today for your Sunday lunch?

greatermeme:
your username assigned to somebody else? Just imagine!

greatermeme:
That's just the veracity!

greatermeme:
I'm surprise you keyed into that cheap lie!

midnighter:
Interesting

midnighter:
Lol no problem dear, there are both good and bad in every country

ednited:
Not all Ethiopians are like that. Not all of us.

Ilamina:
What's so special about them

We africans, will struggle to survive in our Africa

We don't need them

midnighter:
Interesting

midnighter:
I don't get, is that not possible?

RPirez:
A fool like you is probably hoping this Akata scum would one day come to 9ja and bail you out of ur misery by marrying you, abi?
You go dey surprise that she doesn't even have money to obtain an ordinary passport.

You dey 9ja dey run ur stinky mouth out of utter ignorance. You're surely sick!

AmuDimpka:
OSU didn't come from heaven . The king's made it and the king's can unmake it.. and they did


This is one reason that I would jeopardise Biafra struggle...they are deceiving themselves


Ndị nzuzu ...igbo na ezuzu ezuzu big time


Tufiakwa

midnighter:
Exactly. That's the other side of it

chenzen:
if u need me to fix things let me know... I m not really busy

midnighter:
Okay. But you still haven't answered my questions.

Why is it okay for you to insult me but you write all this when I give you the same measure??

midnighter:
So are both osu and ohu stigmatised in the same way?

midnighter:
His dad has already married and had children so his concerns are different.

This is his own future family on the line, that's why he's worried. He has a right to be worried because that stuff can affect you in the future, especially as a man

midnighter:
You ran your mouth to me first. All of us are free to disagree with you here, Im not your slave that you would be insulting me and telling me my mind is out of control and you expect me not to fight back.

Why do you insult another person and then complain that theyre talking to you anyhow? Are you the only person allowed to say anything in this place?

Dont go about insulting people if you know you dont want them returned to you.

midnighter:
Why don't you go there!

In fact call the Fulanis in your non-existent Lagos neighbourhood to flog you until you pass out, nonsense

RPirez:
Baba ass licker, gbenu e soun make you face front. Well, just like the demented Akata chic... you're no different since comprehension is rocket science to you guys.

I said wealthiest Blacks.

Learn to read, bro...

1Sharon:
Nope S.A. is developed because of the developers. The clue is in the name.

1Sharon:
Na wa. You're always saying to not believe what I read, what to believe then?

kenzosky:
It's simple, they said we sold them into slavery. While in Paris, i tried to make some acquaintance that i know (Black guys) from the West indies understand that our parents didn't sell their parents into slavery like the White men brainwashed them to believe, rather it's the White men that came to Africa in guise of religion and colonisation, and before we knew it they started stealing our brothers and sisters. Just like they went to North America and killed three hundred million Red indians and claimed their lands.