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yusman14:
Hello bro ..
This baby has really destroyed my finances expecially during this lockdown..I play on daily basis..and I have lost #15k to this evil computerized program established to wretch ones life...it started when the FG announced the lockdown of higher institutions...I play virtual due to boredom and fun not really because I need an urgent money..I am tired of my situation it has really affected me mentally, academically, spiritually....
Anytime I remember my loss money I do feel sad...I don't think I can recover my money again if not,I will continue to loose...
I need a Job to keep myself busy... although I am learning web development,improving my musical skills... please how can you help me...any advice?? please sir I need your attention...
we can talk on WhatsApp too

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OvisFranko:
Good day bro.
It is good you cried out for help. That is a pointer that you are ready to accept help.
Though some of us here can't help you with a job,but our advice will go a long way in helping you.
I respect your private life, but I would advice that you stop visiting brothels.I know you have needs, but what should be topmost in your life agenda now is how to be financially independent.
The monies you are spending in paying those prostitutes can be used in buying data to surf the internet to get good information that will help you up skill.
Have you thought of working remotely? Lots of remote works are online.
Check out Freelancer.com ,Upwork ,etc.
You can even sign up for volunteering opportunities just to keep yourself busy physically and mentally.
If you can't do online work, why not stoop low to learn a handiwork that will propel you into financial independence later.

thanks

Calapar:
Learn driving. Then, look for who can give you a car to do Uber. I registered my car on Uber not because of the money but whenever I get depressed, I go online and do Uber for a while...meet people and engage in discussion for those that want and move on!
Avoid being alone. Worst, take a walk on the street. You'd be amazed how ideas flash to your mind or you'd rather meet someone that can help you.
Don't think you're alone - myost youths are facing the same thing. Always know that everyone - both the rich and the poor - have problems!!!!

thanks

paulolee:
hmm...my friend just take it easy with the prostitute matter so that it wont consume you but pls stop talking asif meeting with prostitutes are that bad..

its not bad but it's not my thing

Spysees:
You did that within a couple of week? Ya see bro? I've never engaged in 3 to 1 bound to lose with a 's£x worker' in mah life, but you gotta show some respect; you know? Stop referrin' to 'em as 'prostitutes', call 'em 's£x worker' instead... I think they are very unhappy people tryin' to put food in their cabinets...

I respect the fact they are hustling and know situation pushed them to it

Newbielearner:
I understand what you're going through. There's a need to feel special. The pleasure of achievement and success ha been mentally diverted to sex.
I hate to break it to you that even if you stop it now, you'd find yourself back soon enough and eventually give up. Except if you replace this habit with something else.

From a neutral perspective, I'd have advised to download a very engaging movie series with a hero you can mentally fix yourself as. That could be a starting point. But as a Christian, I'll advise that you forgive yourself. See those oloshos as sisters (don't mind how it sounds). Sisters that you can't see yourself having intercourse with.

Go to pray. Buy a headset. Fill the memory card with worship songs and business teachings of Bishop Matthew Ashimolowo and Anthony Robbins.

Download documentaries of Great men. Then go for a training like website design, digital marketing, PMP or HR. Even if you have to borrow for it.

I can assure you that in the next six months to eight years, you'd be a plethora of achievements. Most likely employed, a business owner, an investor or a freelancer.

Good luck bro.

thanks for the advice, I appreciate

infogenius:
I am sorry about what you are going through.
Yes, no job. Create one, think and create a system that makes you money.

Guy, here's what you should do.
Begin to look for problems and solutions( u have created a business already) to them and then money will chase after you.

Prostitutes will only add more woes to what you are battling with.
Get up, just urself off depression, and look for just ONE problem to solve.

thank you

[quote author=InfernoNig post=91116680]Its a choice you made. Sleeping with prostitution won't solve or cure depression, its just 5-10mins pleasure and the depression continues. My guy, you can either let depression bring you down or you bring down depression by taking charge of your life. First commit to God and leave the rest for him to take care of.

Secondly you have to prioritize some things in you life as no one will do it for you.

Lastly find something to do, don't wait on the government or roam the streets for job, learn a skill, welding, or anything lucrative, no matter how small. With time you will gain.

God be with you

Peace[/quote thanks

Ugaboy:
Self descipline...dont associate with friends that visit there.
even by mistake olosho can not move me...i see em as boring set of people.
i made friends with two, 5yrs back...even wen we were good and interactive friends...yet i slept with non of them. They were very caring and supportive to me then...the first day they try offering me sex, two.some i mean...i rejectd it.
they undastood my person, i only broke tides with em when i left for university
...always keep urself busy with positive things ok. It ok to have urges, for now u are jobless. Dont make it a priority. U have greater prob.
GOD Will u get over with the addiction.

thanks bro

Spysees:
3 times? & you called that an addiction? What's this guy sayin'?

Bro I don't do prostitutes, having sex with two prostitutes on 3 occasions sounds like an addiction cos I'm. Not used to it

CAPSLOCKED:
YOU'RE JOBLESS AND HUNGRY, BUT SOMEHOW, YOU STILL MANAGE TO AFFORD PROSTITUTES?

YOU PATRONISE THEM NOT BECAUSE YOU'RE DEPRESSED, BUT BECAUSE IT'S DELICIOUS. STOP GIVING DUMB EXCUSES AND OWN YOUR NEW LIFESTYLE.

if u have never been through it, u cant tell the story

victorian:
Read the Bible from Old Testament to psalms and proverbs. Read and understand every word in it.
Pray, pour out your heart to God.
Pray for forgiveness of sins.
Stop having sex with anybody, it delays breakthrough.
Also listen to Worship and praise songs . They are soul lifting .

Always decree and prophesy good thing onto your self, by placing your right hand on your head while blessing yourself, for there is power in our tongue only if we believe.

When my life collapsed some years back, I cut off from sex for 5years! I focused completely on God and gave my mind and all to God while I look out for opportunities to rise again.
It's not an easy ride. It was very tough cos im an orphan. And my extended families where just there for decoration. All man for himself.

It was just me and God himself. And I was determined to surpass and rise again.

It was war but thank God, I have overcome that period. God has lifted me up again and even expand my biz even in this lockdown. I can only say it's God .

If you hold. Firmly to God. Helpers will come your way. Job offers will come your way and u will be amazed how just one destiny helper will locate u and lead u out of the tunnel.

Don't despair. Just free your mind, and believe God will change things.
He has done it before and he can still do it again.

Only if u believe.

Extended Family members are now calling, singing my praises and all. Forgeting how they all left me when my parents died, my only Brothr died and I was left alone to my fate when things went so bad and terrible for me . But it's all good. God dey.
I still give God the glory for everything. God knows best. I've forgiven all of them and moved on with my life.

So leave sex alone and cling to God.

thanks a lot

Everrest9:
Follow the instruction; read the Bible from beginning to end.

Okay

yvelchstores:
First of all, you need to allow the Lord into your life. Go to a church and mean every moment while at it. See my daily devotionals.

Secondly, your degree won't bring food on the table, remove every shame and actually harness your possibilities in the area of businesses. Could be buying and selling, could be service providing.

thanks

Oluromantic:
Well for the sleeping with prostitutes, once the source of d depression is settled, you will look away from it.

Now what you can do to stop the depression is avoid being alone. You didn't say if you're married. Do what makes u happy or shift the sex addiction into another addiction like videogames..PS4, football matches, music etc.

Single, I'm 28

Fox12:
Obviously, you are idle.
The devil is indulging your imagination with porn.
Simple advice, Stop depending on Man(Family and Friends)and Start Depending �on God.
Don’t waste while waiting.Go learn a trade or try learning something new I.e driving,programming,catering et al.
Fast and pray and you will be okay.

Thank you

anthonyuncle:
read ur Bible

Can I get peace within reading my Bible, if u got Bible verses please help me

Amb1045:
My guy life no balance oooooh, you gat to control your desire before you destroy your destiny. olosho no be better thing. I understand your frustrations most youth are facing the same problem of no job na waiting Dee push people to any means of success. I no blame hushpuppi because the matter strong now and man must survive

Thanks

Baloranking:
No job, where do you get money to visit the brothels??

Talk to God first, and work on yourself, the same energy you put in looking for brothels use it in search of jobs.

Desist from what you're doing and await your testimony.

Thanks a lot sir

I see y'all as family, this forum has helped me a lot so I don't mind airing my problems. I'm a graduate, got no job and things haven't been really good with me this year due to the pandemic. Lotta insults from family and friends ,Lotta you know when you don't have money you don't have a say even IN family. I haven't slept with a prostitute until this year May, I really got depressed and that led me to that. I'm not proud of it but Its now becoming an addiction and done stuff like that 3 times. How can I get peace within?? Really gotta stop visiting brothels cause I don't like the idea of paying for sex and it's immoral. I wanna stop before it goes out of hand

I see y'all as family, this forum has helped me a lot so I don't mind airing my problems. I'm a graduate, got no job and things haven't been really good with me this year due to the pandemic. Lotta insults from family and friends ,Lotta you know when you don't have money you don't have a say even IN family. I haven't slept with a prostitute until this year May, I really got depressed and that led me to that. I'm not proud of it but Its now becoming an addiction and done stuff like that 3 times. How can I get peace within?? Really gotta stop visiting brothels cause I don't like the idea of paying for sex and it's immoral. I wanna stop before it goes out of hand

Dis nigga Don ball wetin men fit no ball IN a lifetime. Make him suffer small. These are the main reasons boys venture into rituals and yahoo plus. I wonder how people feel living on another person's wealth, like u don't care if that person u duped is gonna commit suicide or get depressed. Babes dey follow this kind men cos him dey deliver and same babes go dey yab legit hustlers. U see babe mata, leave me cos dem fit put u for serious gbege. Rayhushpuppi.... R. I. P

U want make we park am

Nonsense list, where is rotimi and co

opalu:
READ MY OWN STORY

this story charged me like a battery, nice one

Greatzeus:
To everyone weeping may endure for a night but joy comes in the morning.We shall overcome In Jesus Name

Amen

IYANGBALI:
na your fornication especially with married women dey delay your blessings

With ur wife abi

This guy's money no be audio jawe, I guess this guy is the wealthiest Nigerian artiste coupled with his inheritance. Not crazy about his songs but dude has got a good heart and him still dry cash out.... Baba God make my blessings no delay, make I no misbehave