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I must say that in a recent trip to Nairaland I have met many girls saying that Nigerian men treat women as poo.
That was at least the way they were trying to explain the "attraction" they had in my regard.

@Abekeade08
Thank you for your advise. I will keep an eye to the post of Michelin89. It is true however that african in italy who succeed in business are not few. It might be a good thing to find some of them nearby where I live.
I don't blame those who accused I am not european. My english is not british at all and most of the people do not realise how many different countries and languages we have in europe and they tend to suppose european means britain.

@Area_boy
I am considering to move to Africa (not necessarly Benin) to establish a business related to my actual job.
For sure the money I should invest there will be just a part of the money I should invest in any country of Europe to make the same business.
She told she will follow me everywhere I decide, but we are just in the "everything is pink" phase, and we should check this later,

I can tell you why mine failed. But I am not Nigerian,
We failed because of lack of communication between me and my ex wife. You know, when you come back from work and you sit in front of your pc answering to nairaland forum instead of talk to her?
Also we failed because of interference from my parents,

Rejection should have saved my wedding. You keep far from parents. They don't interfere with your relation. They will not put the nose in your couple private affairs. You live happy just sending them xmas cards once a year.

@r231
I suppose you think to UK or France and the equation looks strange to you. Italy is light years far from Uk of France for African immigrants.
I know african women having hairdresser shops or ethnic shops importing goods from Africa and reselling to Italy.
I know African women working in Industry as labour in the production chain. I maybe know African women working is hospital as nurses.
You will show me evidence I am wrong but I can guarantee you that you barely find black women working as employed in office in Italy.

But to be honest: Can you give me a reason why an educated black woman with University Degree or similar should choose Italy instead of her Country, France or England?

Just the time you realise she is cheating you.

@Missy B
In Italy she will not get the job she is leveled for because:
1. She is a woman.
2. She is a foreigner woman.
3. She is a black foreigner woman.
Sad to be said but true. Thank you Italy.

@Miss Potato
I suppose you moved from Asia to Nigeria. Why that and not the opposite? This is the main point of my topic question.

Hi Miss,
This is certainly an option we are considering. I am Sales expert and she is Account which should be a fine mix.
Can I ask you who moved between you and you bf from the Country of Origin and why?

How you know for sure it will not work?

Country is Benin.

I am Italian and in Italy you must speak italian to survive, since only few speaks english or french.
She is french speaker and of course she can learn italian but she will never get a proper job just learning italian.
I write here because Nairaland is a great forum where I can find smart and funny people, and because there is not the same forum in the country she leave. I am not mentioning the Country she live since I am sure that this will affect the answers because of some behaviours they have in that place.
By the way: how do I come to you like?

I have been married for 14 years and even if we loved each other it did'nt work.
So I should have lot of reason to do not do it again. Well, not.
I want to get married again because I want to have a family, some childrens, a wife who take care of you and to take care of.
I want to return at home after work and receive a smile. I want to listen to her, I want to avoid the problems I had on my previous wedding which are clear now after few years of being single. People often underrate the talking between hubby and wife, which is together with intimacy the most important think in a wedding.
I want to make experiences with her. If you cannot share your experiences with another person is just like not have experience at all.

Hello everybody,
Is there anybody in house who can share the experience of mixed wedding? I am a white man and I fell in love for a black woman.
We were dating for some time, then I went back to Europe for business reasons.
Now we keep talking and messaging everyday and I am preparing the documents to let her come to visit me and stay for a couple of months.
I am living in Europe, but i am not sure this place will be good for her. Language will be an issue, as well as getting a job as a foreigner.
I am also considering that with my job we cannot effort to live without her to work (and she wants to work she said).
I am thinking to move myself and invest my money in an activity in the country she live (which is not Nigeria, btw), but I am not sure what will be the best for both of us. Any experience?
Thanx.

If a woman stare at me the first thing I do I move myself of few meters, just to be sure she is not staring the one behind me, if she is still staring then, uhm, well, then I dunno cause never happens. It is always the one behind me.

I am sorry I cannot answer to this question.
Please check this link: http://www.helsinki.fi/urapalvelut/materiaalit/students_guide.pdf
I hope it can be of help.

Hi,
I am not Finnish and I do not live in Finland.
I can only tell you my experience being there some times for few weeks to work.

First: It is cold!
Yes, I know you know but cold really means cold. Minus 10 or more is standard in winter. You should consider this.
Despite of this climate conditions people there is friendly and keep meet each other. But ice and snow for who has no habit to it is a real issue.
This in Winter of course. In summer I think they rarely reach 30°C, so it will not be too hot to.

Study level is very high, on the high side of the rank in european standards. Hi-tech engineers from Finland are very skilled.

To find a job as a general european rule is not an easy task and the finnish economy situation is not at high level as Germany.

Just my 2cents.

@OP
Heya,
I would not say they are not dating Nigerian women because they don't like Nigerian women phisically, or Nigerian race or black people in general.
Maybe they are simply fearing more problems to face with others cultures and they prefer to meet someone who is closer to their mind.
We know Brits are lazy!

In my exerience, the first time I spoke with a women coming from Nigeria I have been quitely scared by the concept of family which was quite different from mine, and I am italian and if you know, germans or british are quite scared of italian concept of family, so,

By the way, this morning when I saw my face on the mirror it was white!

I give u my 2cents:
I think yr problem is not what you are doing.
The problem is that you love one of the two men. You are not acting counsciously because you are not under control because of the LOVE you feel for him.
You fall to the mistake anytime he takes the occasion to use you.
From your words I don't understand if that man loves you or not. I think you should speak with him, asking him what he feels for you.
If you already know that he just wants sex from you and you feel "used" than is better to talk and ask him to stop.
If he loves you then you should consider to live with this situation and convince yourself to keep as much secret as possible, just to do not destroy a marriage with childrens involved.

IN ANY CASE, since you know this situation is sick I recommend you to change your attitude with other boys, and start to go out with one of them, try to fall in love with a new, not married guy. This is the best medicine to stop what you are doing and forget a painfull love.

The elder husband was just a mistake you can control, I am sure.

Ciao!