Dpsychologist: A recent discussion online in a relationship group exposed something many people rarely talk about.
Many men are so accustomed to spending money, planning dates, buying gifts, paying bills, and making sacrifices for women that the moment a woman does something thoughtful for them, it becomes a memory they never forget.
Think about that for a second.
A woman receives money and gifts regularly, and nobody thinks twice about it. A man receives a birthday gift from a woman once, and he remembers it for years.
One man said a woman once gifted him ₦30,000 on his birthday. The money itself was not life changing and probably could not even last long in his account, but years later he still remembers the gesture like it happened yesterday.
Another said no woman had ever taken him on a date before. His dream date was not a luxury restaurant or a five star hotel. He said a movie ticket and popcorn would have been enough to make his day.
Several others admitted that a simple suya date, shawarma outing, haircut appointment, shirt from a boutique, or even buying them a drink would genuinely make them happy.
Why?
This is because many men are raised with the belief that their value comes from what they can provide. Society expects them to spend, protect, solve problems, and carry burdens. Very few people ever ask what they need emotionally or financially .
Many women do not realize how uncommon it is for men to receive thoughtful gestures.
Some men have spent years paying for dates, buying gifts, settling bills, sending transport money, and showing up for people. Yet nobody has ever thought to do something similar for them.
This is why what may seem small to a woman can feel massive to a man.
The gift is rarely the point but the effort is. The money is rarely the point. The thought is. Many men are not starving for luxury. They are starving for appreciation.
Perhaps one of the most misunderstood truths about relationships is that men are often easier to impress than people think. Not because their standards are low, but because genuine acts of care directed towards them are surprisingly rare.
A lot of men are carrying memories of simple gestures because those moments reminded them of something they do not experience often which is, "what it feels like to be appreciated instead of expected"
In my opinion, it is more of a Nigerian/ West African thing. I might be wrong. Back in the days it wasn't always like this.
plsdisvirginme: Hate is a strong word but this woman made my life miserable. I was underfed when I was a child and that contributed to my slim stature. All my siblings have great body except me. I was told when I was young. This woman will leave me hungryand be doing churcht hing. Carry church for head . Leave me as a kid hungry and he going to church. I can't forgive her
Are you the first child? How old are you now? Maybe you can change or improve what you eat?
Rossididdy: I saw more than 20 of it, was only able to catch 6 because they ran in different positions inside the bush...I need to keep it pls how do I feed them, do I need vet drugs?
So cool. I never saw Quails in Nigeria. You can use Google or AI
Despite the energy challenges they are experiencing, they still had to waste electricity to power a microphone for Peter!
Is it that they do not have top priorities other than listening to the fictions they are being told.
Moreover, Peter should reduce his carbon footprint . Burning aviation fuel across the globe still won’t make you win! Your defeat is already a constant.
Is he using private jets? If not, then his carbon footprint is miniscule .
DSS1335: Everything I bought from temu is either useless, worn out or torn out in less than 6 months. They need to tighten their market against sales of substandard products
Really? I have been lucky with most things I got there. I usually check reviews before paying
kpankpangolo: Normal level. Lock us in perpetual poverty which will take ten years to pay back — an extra eight years considering interest. Na their way. Na our leaders way. Sani Abacha’s inconsiderate loans are still being repaid today in the form of crude oil and gas exports. Children born when he died are twenty-eight today. Many with kids of their own.
dapadawee: Oga, go and sit down always quick to judge and condemn Nigeria police force. You came into a country and picked a random girl to take to your country without parent consent. It's a business she has been doing and the informant gave police information. Though it is very possible she was set up by the police and their agent informants and the police just want to chop inside or why would you think they have her phone to make contact out of the cell nobody monitoring her.
But the truth is that she is not innocent how can a Cameroonian pronounce ashawo fluently how does she know what is called ashawo house. If she had said prostitution I would have agreed. You guy saw tears and jump to defend her. When someone told you she is forced to do ashawo why not tell her to report to the police. I know that area well nothing you fit tell me that hotel should be within Ajegunle orile trinity Alaba amukoko or festac. How can she pronounce kirikiri very fluently
Did you watch the video? Can you read between the lines? She said the girl was going back to the village, not Cameroon. She also said the girl is working with them including the man who wanted to help her at the park.
Check your water quality and temperature (hot or cold) how does it affect you. Check your sponge, soap, towers, body cream else check with a dermatologist.
Not really if it is a drastic weight reduction. It can create probz for the body. I would advise him to return to eating normal 3 meals a day of rich foods, no snacking in between.
Nteogwuija: They all are saying they don't know. I don't know if they're feigning ignorance or they truly do not know.
Or maybe they don't want us to find our father's people.
I've even tried going to the school in Lagos where I did a few days in JSS1 b4 my parents passed but they said they couldn't help since I didn't even do my Junior WAEC there, let alone SSCE.
The nursery school we attended then, I've searched for it online, no records of it.
Difficult experience. I sincerely hope you get answers soon. If they he was Benin, try some Benin online platforms. But they will need you to answer questions which seems like you don't have the answers. Example is in Benin the family name can be used to trace a person
Nteogwuija: Anyone knows where or how I can trace my Benin root? My parents died when I was about 9 yrs of age, that was around 1999. My mum's family were the ones to come to us first and took us to Rivers State, changed our surname to theirs.
I know how my real surname is pronounced but I have forgotten the real spelling. And I believe knowing the real spelling would be a starting point in helping me locate my root.
Vacora: I am aware of injustices and discrimination and I refuse to be asleep. That’s woke. Some you keep believing and bootlicking your massas. They turned a black word to enlighten us into a pejorative one.
Vacora: You guys just open your mouths and talk without thinking. The authorities haven’t even concluded their investigations and you are here already cho cho cho. Abeg critical thinking is not the dark arts. Stop spewing MAGA score points here.
Arrowhead71: So let them use the IQ to turn their country to a beautiful place like Dubai. Qatar and Russia....and stop wasting their oil money financing Terrorists
Well, you probably don't know much about the country. Even with all the sanctions they aren't so poor like many countries . Also, a lot of things you see in the counties you listed are mostly owned by western folks. Di some findings
Emu4life: The Iranians are a rare breed. 40 years of sanctions like nothing happened
They are. They are so intelligent - The men and women. I have personally had dealings with them. They are one of those nationalities that have impressed me especially with their IQ, programming and maths skills.
Dunamai86: For me life was much better and saner. Yes, technological advancement has improved the quality of life but sanity, respect for life and modesty that once defined us as people has been replaced by insanity. Where are the playgrounds, street football, et all. I had unforgettable forest adventures with my crazy friends. Nowadays it's not even safe to allow children play alone outside in many neighborhoods. Nature is gradually being eroded , toys and gadgets is now the other of the day.
We also built lasting friendships and immunity from such adventures.
A lot of times people quote scriptures to soothe their biases. Does Elam equates Iran? Elam civilization lasted for a while already and later became part of Iran. I doubt this scriptures is referring to present day Iran.
Romance › Re: Many Men Are So Used To Giving That Receiving Feels Like A Miracle by elevated2: 8:04pm On Jun 25
the joke is on you