Femmyfamous4u: Dear Friends, i would like to know if it is normal or I am being paranoid. while we were dating i noticed that my now wife does not really like sex as we hardly do the act.
She was good in other areas so, I felt with time things will sort itself out.
After the marriage, I made it known to her clearly that I will want to have the sex as much as i desire but i must say for about three months now, we have only had it about ten times. I do not want to cheat on her but my needs are not met and I have told her this times and times again with no change.
Now, she is pregnant and it is worse. What do I do my people?
What was her childhood like? Could it be a traumatic response to some past events? Good luck on your search for solutions
Yamiriflathead: Although disappointing Tinubu tried to hold Lagos with the figures he pulled so far. Lagos is the Capital of Southern Nigeria, so what were you expecting? This was a fight between ibos+SS+woke yorubas against Tinubu supporters in Lagos who are mainly yorubas and maybe Hausas in Lagos. I hope Tinubu and yorubas have learnt a bitter lesson from Lagos Elections not to befriend and feed a cub because it is homeless, hopeless, and dying. It will grow up and eat u up someday.
I'm happy yorubas can now sit down and ask qtns as to how they got everything wrong and redress it with BAT as President.
The take home from this defeat is..
Yorubas need to stop drafting non yorubas into the civil service and stop giving them prominent appointments. There are always technocrats who can always fit into any political office from the SW
Yorubas need to stop selling their lands to non yorubas in Lagos
Yorubas need to stop giving out local government of origins to non yorubas in Lagos
Yorubas need to stop allowing non-yorubas contest for Elections in Lagos or SW
Yorubas need limit the numbers of voters registration of non yorubas going on in Lagos, they care so much about Lagos and don't care if their homes rot, Henceforth let them go home and vote. They can't come and dictate to you on how to govern urselves after creating an enabling environment for them to thrive.
Contain them politically, Period!
Congratulations to the incoming President of Nigeria BAT the ASIWAJU of Lagos nothwitstanding
Naijaisshitho: I don't understand. Why will a black man/woman retaliate when a white man assault him or her? Isn't it a privilege they allow u to stay in their country? If they stop Nigerians from coming abroad now, we'll be crying foul. What sort-of nonsense is this? No matter what happens, you ain't suppose to raise your hand to hit a white person. That is rude tbh
That guy doesn't look white to me. He's more of arab than white. Yes, the Arabs have anti black tendencies.
Ablemed: I'll like to make my story short as possible without much introduction tho. And also a lesson parents/ new couples should learn from my ordeal, Pls read to the end.
Alright So I'm the only male born of my parent among 4 girls, i also happen to be the last born at it. my problem started when growing up, cause my parent aged bfr getting a Male child which was my Dad and his parent cravings, I was pampered when growing up such that my parents would never watch me do stressful things, dictate when I go out and who I moved out with (My mum's own was even worse cause when growing up, if I want to go out, she'll always send me back inside) even during secondary school they had to get a school very close to our house. my sisters were only the ones that would go to mum's shop and make sales while mum would either stay with me at home or if I eventually go the shop sef I'll always sit and just watch. Literally, I'll say I was denied the right to be exposed to lotta things and real issues about life.
And cause I was not the sociable type cause I'll literally stay at home, watch movies, eat and my movements limited, I was exposed to pornography and masturbation at a very young age and I battled that bad habit thr my University days (Did I say my Parents also dictated the University I went to cause it was close to our House to and any small riot in school then the next hour they'll come and pick me back home till every thing dies down)
So guys over time, I've grown to be this boring guy who is shy, timid, suffering from low self esteem and can't give vibe even when gisting with my fellow guys, in which most of them just relegate me to this small boy level. Did I also say I've never had a Girlfriend all my life cause the truth is ion always know what to say or how to maintain talking vibe. At first I decide not to care and just always console myself with I was created like that and just continue my boring life, it has now gotten to the point I'm not rated in anything at all, most people just make friends with me cause of what they can gain from me, I'm not even good in anything, I can't speak clearly, I'm kinda literally mentally dumb and ion see me useful for anyone or anything, perhaps maybe God only, No business sense, no work skill or experience, no trade experiences to
I'm currently a Corp member serving and before then I rebelled against my parent cause they wanted to dictate the state I serve which is our state of residence so I go to my ppa from home but I told them No and even got to a fight to my Dad cause of this issue and we din speak for like 2weeks, he eventually called me and we settled. But the issue now is guys I've got less than two months left for my POP for service and you don't expect me to return home useless to my parent house again?? Tho sincerely thr my service year, I din touch my allowee so I've saved up to 270k so far. the issue is ask me what I want to do with the money? I've got no idea, what business sense or idea? Nothing is coming to my head, infact I don't know. The funny thing is, my roommate is exactly my opposite, very outspoken, bold, full of vibe and bring back different female friends each day, this guy is not really financially buoyant but you see girls cook and travel all the way to give him for us to eat. I just wish I was like him, i wish i had the vibe
I'm 24years now and at this age, no idea bout my future, bout life, I can't even relate with people, I'm just so sad, depressed and frustrated. At the moment the only job coming to my head is the military cause I served in a military barrack cause I choose it myself but most of the junior officers are trashing my interest by telling me not to waste my time say I no go survive am with my nature, that military needs tough people and endurance bla bla and on the other hand, my mum is saying Never she'll never allow me join the military not over her dead body and she's bout recruiting my Dad to and Sincerely I'm frustrated and my depression have taken another turn that over the past weeks I've been thinking suicide and it's getting really high, I say I should type this here bfr the worse happen cause if I can't be useful for myself what really is the point living??
Please this advice is to parent and intending parent/couples, pls and pls expose ur children to life, don't over pamper your kids, work on them to make them sociable and outspoken, I swear you'll be doing them a great favour. For me I thought my parent loved me, I thought they were trying to protect me but they've put me in a deep mess I have to face alone and just I pray I get the opportunity to make things right with me
Things like this happen in life. Usually such parent like yours were acting out of their fear and so on. No disrespect intended. I read in another page that you told her not to call you. Don't start like that, it will hurt you more. Do this,if you may: 1. When , she tries to contact you tell her you just need a break and that you will be the one calling for a while. This is to give you some room to start healing. 2. Seek a psychologist or therapist. Follow thorugh what you are told. I can refer you to one if you wish. 3. Start working on yourself to crerate a new you- Meditation, reading of some scriptures, working on your inner self etc. Now these exercises will hurt. It will seem as if you are going through the whole thing again. This is part of the healing process. 4. Get a support group, peple you can talk with and they could give you good advise. 5. Find something that works for you. 6. Also know that you were playing your role in a dysfunctional family situation. 7. Try to look to what's ahead of you. 8. As for your depressed state , I don't know where you are currently. You might just need to get more sunlight , more of going out to get fresh air , exercising, vitamin d etc, 9. Find what works for you. Realise this is gonna take time to see the desired change.
Indomixx: Hello guys I've noticed over time that I'm a huge fan of graphic images. Anytime I see a post on nairaland where "graphic image" is, I rush to view it so I can see the graphic images. Those bandit stories where people are killed, bomb blasts involving dead victims actually thrill me, even accident scenes where people died . I don't know if something is wrong or I'm possesed. I need help, I don't think it's normal.
Hello, how long has this been for?What's going on in your life? Stressed?Depressed? It could be that your life is 'highly graphic' currently and therefore you are attaracted to such. Enjoy peace and joy and graphic stuffs will become less attractive. Usually, being attracted graphic stuffs could be your coping mechanism for what's going on within
I have two daughters: one will be 3 years old later in the year and the other will be 1 next month. I noticed that my first daughter is too timid. She gets easily frightened by her peers. She is quiet. She will allow just anybody to carry her - even those whom she is older and bigger than - without any resistance.
I really don't like these attributes about her. I want her to have the boldness to resist some of these things. I want her to be aggressive. I want her to grow up having confidence in doing things her way. I also wish to instill that in the second child. Thank you!
Hello I am sure you are the dad. How do you and your wife treat her? Do you scream at her? Do you do anything scaring to her?Are you highly authoritarian towards her? Do you use words that don't promote self-esteem like bad-mouthing? If you can answer no to all these then you need to look deeper? How do you treat her mum? Are you guys happy around her? First look at the environment then you can move to wanting to increase her confidence.
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