I feel busy schedules make the top here. People no longer have time to bond as they have to work round the clock. Father is coming in and wife is going out and vice versa . The other times left is to do something else thereby becoming "strangers" to themselves in their homes. We know what's like when strangers live together.
shogotermies: I just wanted to ask this short quick question. What do you think of Christians who goes to work or open their shops on Sunday?
My personal opinions are; Except you’re a 7th Day Adventist Christian, a university student (probably needing to attend a tutorial) and a government worker e.g Health workers and Security outfits. I believe God made Sunday for rest and he commanded it.
What is your own opinion? And if I’m wrong, tell me why with scriptural references. Thanks in advance
You would have gotten an answer from my side if you asked about Saturday which is the Sabbath.
ikorodureporta: Back then in my former place, landlords never allowed any tree due to the fear of witches..... BUT see trees everywhere in my current place
I remember how a tree from the 16th century was fell to the ground and cut in pieces about 3 years ago in delta because of this belief. I doubt trueness of such beliefs.
CalmTravels: For the first one week you come to any Nordic Country, look for this kind of accommodation. They are cheap, used by whites of all social status. Like i said earlier on, no go do big boy for Europe ohhh. Once you go broke, you go understand that most of those people you call friends are an extension of village people..
Oyinbos don't play with things like this. We are good at acting "big boys". Yet we are the ones who send money home.
• I paid commission to exchange my US dollars to Swedish krone! Foreign currency is actually not craved for here like we do in Africa
• Everyone is helpful, nice & kind. Can give up their food for you. Their social welfare system is the best in the world.
• It's a totally cashless economy here. Yes, you actually dont need a paper money. Everything is digitalized including buying anything!
• Everyone works. The bills are crazy so any krones is needed. The Swedes are naturally, big, brawny, smart and strong. So working hard is never a problem.
* Work resumes by 10 am here due to weather changes. I mean formal jobs, not non skilled jobs.
• During summer, the sun doesn't go down. Meaning, there's no night. You can get sick due to body adopting these time changes. My first night i Stockholm, i slept around 1am without knowing its that late.
• Its really stable here. Count your self lucky like me if you have access to Sweden, it takes a lot to get their papers! Their paper can straighten out some shits in your life. I am a testimony.
• Stockholm is an idea City to raise up a child as everything is cool, lovely and good! World class primary & secondary schooling FREE.
• Crime rate is really low. Yahoo, fraud or other social vices can not work here. You will be caught easily as there are traits to everything you do
• Swedes are normally thieves, they are the original Vikings or sea faring thieves of past, so to curb that natural trait to steal, the government has done a lot to ensure everything can be tranced, this gave rise to a cashless, contactless economy that has proved to very efficient! In order words, it has made the Swedes to be law abiding because off what use is it to steal when you know you will be caught? Well, their prison is better than most average homes in Africa!
• Transportation is relatively fixed. For 3.9$ (39SEK) you can get a ride on the bullet train to anywhere in Stockholm for 75minutes. No other fee applies.
• Beside Rent, food, anyone can survive in Stockholm without much of a deal! With a Salary of $3000 per month, you'd live like a king! Especially if you work remotely!
• You don't really need public transport/a car to move around city, except you are hopping from one island to another. A scooter or bicycle would be more helpful!
• Swedes are Innovative, they have customized bicycles to various roles in the house, or work.
• I prefer living in Stockholm than anywhere in USA or Canada.
• The gap between rich and poor is low compared to France or UK. Here the richest man might be that fellow riding an electric scooter, or drinking low beer with you in the pub.
• Most houses in Stockholm do not have physical keys... They use codes type into the door to open. So if you have no business there, you gat no reason
• Almost everyone drives a bicycle, or scooter to move from one place to another.
• Sweden is really expensive to live in, but has one of the highest quality of life you can imagine.
• Everyone drink tap water. It's squeaky clean & safe. pH value is almost 7.0 on the dot!
• I met several Nigerians, most of them left Italy to reside here. They're always preferred before other African nationalities.
• Nigerians here, as in Kigali keep the law.
Swedes aren't thieves. Maybe centuries back. Are you still in Malmö? Good job with this thread.
Softboy001: I think I am not attracted to my girlfriend anymore, I really don't know what happened. Normally I have a very high lipido. High sex drive, before I meet my current girlfriend. I stay a long time without a girl. I normally do soapy. I actually prefer that than spending my money on any hook up babe. (I don't do olosho)
It's been a month now I started dating this girl. At first wen we had sex, it wasn't that cool, I wasn't feeling it at all, I was already used to my soapy. She didn't make me cum or feel anything no matter how hard or fast I Bleep. D sex was just there... it felt like Nothing, but later on sha it got better.
But currently am not having any interest in d sex anymore cause am not just feeling it. Last night was worse, she was practically begging me for it. And I couldn't believe that there will be a day, that I would reject sex, it was weird for me, I don't know what's causing it but am not interested in sex when it comes to her, I just don't know. D feeling is not there, and it's not like I have any other person.
And it's not like am not Hot, or I have any sexual problem but am not just interested in her sexually. I don't know what might be d cause, I have been giving excuses for like 2 weeks now to buy time, I can telling she is getting angry and frustrated with what's happening. Her words was " if I do this to you you, will you be happy" last night she begging me for it, I had to lie that am not well, and I have serious work at the office tomorrow early morning
I don't want to lose her cause currently she keeps me company but this is something I don't want to turn into something else.
I think another thing that might be causing it is d difference in our stature, lately I have been admiring slimmer girls, and I get Hot just looking at them. a better way I can make you guys get a picture of is
Am like wizkid stature, and she is like omotola in Nollywood. Or tems With big ass.
It's fustrating what's happening. Cos I love this girl and she love so much. But physically we not compatible
You could be addicted to your soapy thing. Have you had similar experiences with other girls? You do porn a lot?
Mrwhite09: I am living like i dont have a working immune system, i fall sick regularly like every week. last week i was on malaria drugs and antibiotic, i havent finished it then again yesterday i fall sick again nd they inject me with another malaria drug and give me another antibiotic.
i am tired of taking these poisons i feel like they hv started affecting my liver, i am very vulnerable to viruses and bacterias whenever a person cough to my face the following day i will fall sick.
i dont have hiv as i did the test several times all negative, but i suspect i have cancer cux of the presence of a swollen lymph node on my neck. guys im truly tired and depressed i cant hustle normally because of my condition please if you know anything that can boost my immunity tell me. because of my condition i know a lots of antibiotics like cipro,amoxyl,doxycline,clarithromycin,azithromycin e.t.c i dont know why these doctors never get tired of prescribing these drugs to me. i live constanly with a stomach discomfort, fever, flu, colds nd catarh there is no any known ulcer meds that i hvnt take in my life but i am still thesame. its depressing me nd making me suicidal. i dont need money from anyone i just need help from people that went through thesame situation or people that know of a solution.
There was a time someone cough on me i spent complete 2weeks sick.
Why not consult a specialist? Swollen lymph doesn't mean you have cancer. How's your sleep life? How are your emotions aside relationships with the symptoms? How's your blood sugar level? Do you move a lot? Taking antibiotics itself can cause several side effects. Follow this guy on Instagram and you could learn a thing or two-
Femmyfamous4u: Dear Friends, i would like to know if it is normal or I am being paranoid. while we were dating i noticed that my now wife does not really like sex as we hardly do the act.
She was good in other areas so, I felt with time things will sort itself out.
After the marriage, I made it known to her clearly that I will want to have the sex as much as i desire but i must say for about three months now, we have only had it about ten times. I do not want to cheat on her but my needs are not met and I have told her this times and times again with no change.
Now, she is pregnant and it is worse. What do I do my people?
What was her childhood like? Could it be a traumatic response to some past events? Good luck on your search for solutions
Yamiriflathead: Although disappointing Tinubu tried to hold Lagos with the figures he pulled so far. Lagos is the Capital of Southern Nigeria, so what were you expecting? This was a fight between ibos+SS+woke yorubas against Tinubu supporters in Lagos who are mainly yorubas and maybe Hausas in Lagos. I hope Tinubu and yorubas have learnt a bitter lesson from Lagos Elections not to befriend and feed a cub because it is homeless, hopeless, and dying. It will grow up and eat u up someday.
I'm happy yorubas can now sit down and ask qtns as to how they got everything wrong and redress it with BAT as President.
The take home from this defeat is..
Yorubas need to stop drafting non yorubas into the civil service and stop giving them prominent appointments. There are always technocrats who can always fit into any political office from the SW
Yorubas need to stop selling their lands to non yorubas in Lagos
Yorubas need to stop giving out local government of origins to non yorubas in Lagos
Yorubas need to stop allowing non-yorubas contest for Elections in Lagos or SW
Yorubas need limit the numbers of voters registration of non yorubas going on in Lagos, they care so much about Lagos and don't care if their homes rot, Henceforth let them go home and vote. They can't come and dictate to you on how to govern urselves after creating an enabling environment for them to thrive.
Contain them politically, Period!
Congratulations to the incoming President of Nigeria BAT the ASIWAJU of Lagos nothwitstanding
Naijaisshitho: I don't understand. Why will a black man/woman retaliate when a white man assault him or her? Isn't it a privilege they allow u to stay in their country? If they stop Nigerians from coming abroad now, we'll be crying foul. What sort-of nonsense is this? No matter what happens, you ain't suppose to raise your hand to hit a white person. That is rude tbh
That guy doesn't look white to me. He's more of arab than white. Yes, the Arabs have anti black tendencies.
Ablemed: I'll like to make my story short as possible without much introduction tho. And also a lesson parents/ new couples should learn from my ordeal, Pls read to the end.
Alright So I'm the only male born of my parent among 4 girls, i also happen to be the last born at it. my problem started when growing up, cause my parent aged bfr getting a Male child which was my Dad and his parent cravings, I was pampered when growing up such that my parents would never watch me do stressful things, dictate when I go out and who I moved out with (My mum's own was even worse cause when growing up, if I want to go out, she'll always send me back inside) even during secondary school they had to get a school very close to our house. my sisters were only the ones that would go to mum's shop and make sales while mum would either stay with me at home or if I eventually go the shop sef I'll always sit and just watch. Literally, I'll say I was denied the right to be exposed to lotta things and real issues about life.
And cause I was not the sociable type cause I'll literally stay at home, watch movies, eat and my movements limited, I was exposed to pornography and masturbation at a very young age and I battled that bad habit thr my University days (Did I say my Parents also dictated the University I went to cause it was close to our House to and any small riot in school then the next hour they'll come and pick me back home till every thing dies down)
So guys over time, I've grown to be this boring guy who is shy, timid, suffering from low self esteem and can't give vibe even when gisting with my fellow guys, in which most of them just relegate me to this small boy level. Did I also say I've never had a Girlfriend all my life cause the truth is ion always know what to say or how to maintain talking vibe. At first I decide not to care and just always console myself with I was created like that and just continue my boring life, it has now gotten to the point I'm not rated in anything at all, most people just make friends with me cause of what they can gain from me, I'm not even good in anything, I can't speak clearly, I'm kinda literally mentally dumb and ion see me useful for anyone or anything, perhaps maybe God only, No business sense, no work skill or experience, no trade experiences to
I'm currently a Corp member serving and before then I rebelled against my parent cause they wanted to dictate the state I serve which is our state of residence so I go to my ppa from home but I told them No and even got to a fight to my Dad cause of this issue and we din speak for like 2weeks, he eventually called me and we settled. But the issue now is guys I've got less than two months left for my POP for service and you don't expect me to return home useless to my parent house again?? Tho sincerely thr my service year, I din touch my allowee so I've saved up to 270k so far. the issue is ask me what I want to do with the money? I've got no idea, what business sense or idea? Nothing is coming to my head, infact I don't know. The funny thing is, my roommate is exactly my opposite, very outspoken, bold, full of vibe and bring back different female friends each day, this guy is not really financially buoyant but you see girls cook and travel all the way to give him for us to eat. I just wish I was like him, i wish i had the vibe
I'm 24years now and at this age, no idea bout my future, bout life, I can't even relate with people, I'm just so sad, depressed and frustrated. At the moment the only job coming to my head is the military cause I served in a military barrack cause I choose it myself but most of the junior officers are trashing my interest by telling me not to waste my time say I no go survive am with my nature, that military needs tough people and endurance bla bla and on the other hand, my mum is saying Never she'll never allow me join the military not over her dead body and she's bout recruiting my Dad to and Sincerely I'm frustrated and my depression have taken another turn that over the past weeks I've been thinking suicide and it's getting really high, I say I should type this here bfr the worse happen cause if I can't be useful for myself what really is the point living??
Please this advice is to parent and intending parent/couples, pls and pls expose ur children to life, don't over pamper your kids, work on them to make them sociable and outspoken, I swear you'll be doing them a great favour. For me I thought my parent loved me, I thought they were trying to protect me but they've put me in a deep mess I have to face alone and just I pray I get the opportunity to make things right with me
Things like this happen in life. Usually such parent like yours were acting out of their fear and so on. No disrespect intended. I read in another page that you told her not to call you. Don't start like that, it will hurt you more. Do this,if you may: 1. When , she tries to contact you tell her you just need a break and that you will be the one calling for a while. This is to give you some room to start healing. 2. Seek a psychologist or therapist. Follow thorugh what you are told. I can refer you to one if you wish. 3. Start working on yourself to crerate a new you- Meditation, reading of some scriptures, working on your inner self etc. Now these exercises will hurt. It will seem as if you are going through the whole thing again. This is part of the healing process. 4. Get a support group, peple you can talk with and they could give you good advise. 5. Find something that works for you. 6. Also know that you were playing your role in a dysfunctional family situation. 7. Try to look to what's ahead of you. 8. As for your depressed state , I don't know where you are currently. You might just need to get more sunlight , more of going out to get fresh air , exercising, vitamin d etc, 9. Find what works for you. Realise this is gonna take time to see the desired change.
Indomixx: Hello guys I've noticed over time that I'm a huge fan of graphic images. Anytime I see a post on nairaland where "graphic image" is, I rush to view it so I can see the graphic images. Those bandit stories where people are killed, bomb blasts involving dead victims actually thrill me, even accident scenes where people died . I don't know if something is wrong or I'm possesed. I need help, I don't think it's normal.
Hello, how long has this been for?What's going on in your life? Stressed?Depressed? It could be that your life is 'highly graphic' currently and therefore you are attaracted to such. Enjoy peace and joy and graphic stuffs will become less attractive. Usually, being attracted graphic stuffs could be your coping mechanism for what's going on within
I have two daughters: one will be 3 years old later in the year and the other will be 1 next month. I noticed that my first daughter is too timid. She gets easily frightened by her peers. She is quiet. She will allow just anybody to carry her - even those whom she is older and bigger than - without any resistance.
I really don't like these attributes about her. I want her to have the boldness to resist some of these things. I want her to be aggressive. I want her to grow up having confidence in doing things her way. I also wish to instill that in the second child. Thank you!
Hello I am sure you are the dad. How do you and your wife treat her? Do you scream at her? Do you do anything scaring to her?Are you highly authoritarian towards her? Do you use words that don't promote self-esteem like bad-mouthing? If you can answer no to all these then you need to look deeper? How do you treat her mum? Are you guys happy around her? First look at the environment then you can move to wanting to increase her confidence.
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