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@Bawomolo if u choose to go by that manual, thats your choice

I go by the Bible and God's design for marriage is stated in there, one man one wife. The Q'uran says four wives if you can love them equally, lets see how possible that is. one is already a major issue, if u can take on four, pshh thats all on u man.

I think our generation is missing the concept behind the institution of marriage, Marriage is a beutiful thing created by God and if done according to the manual then it will be well with us. Marriage is not a prison or a bondage ground, but this new generation have been polluted with all sorts of thrash that we have taken for granted the beautiful institution of marriage. yes the vows are difficult to uphold becuase we live in a sinful world but it is not impossible to uphold them.If it was impossible, God would not have endorsed it.

Marriage is not finding the perfect person but knowing that your husband/wife is nothing but a wonderful, lovable sinner.

GOALLLLLL for BRAZILLLL

Poster please beteer remain the good guy that you are. But dont let people take you for a ride. Never live on a false identity and always choose to represetn your true identity. In the end it pays off for being who you are and no matter how bad you get treated, the girls will always come back to you. I am talking from experience. Everyone called me the goodie two shoes and the churchy persona nd i was always mocked for being that way but the same people who mocked me are craving to be friends with me because as you get older and wiser, you begin to drop your childish ways and you begin to realize the importance of life. Some thing you did before will have to be dropped and you will have to start acting mature.

You saying you want to become a bad boy just goes to show that you are not sure of who you are and you probably have a misplaced identity, dont let your surroundings or society define who you are. Dont even let a girl define who you are, let your definiton come from a higher authority (God) and it will be well with you.

Served in Yobe state, Fika Camp for about 3 months with a school (I cannot remember the name) and redeployed to Lagos and served with an accounting firm to complete it, Year 2007

But with the passion of Donovan and Dempsey, I am thinking USA might stand a better chance, Not that the black stars are not passionate but they have to put in extra effort.

I am all for Ghana winning the match tomorrow but I am scared of the fact that they have been unable to score any goals besides their penalty,  Americans on the other hand have grown too ARROGANT and I am praying that they get humbled by the Ghanians? Who do you think is advancing to the Quarter finals out of both teams?

In my own opinion there are various reasons why a relationship wont work based on the people involved. One major issue is compatibility and by compatibility, i mean SPIRITUAL COMPATIBILITY, PHYSICAL COMPATIBILITY, EMOTIONAL COMPATIBILITY, INTELLECTUAL COMPATIBILITY AND SOCIAL COMPATIBILITY. There has to be a greater amount of similarities between the tow than there are differences. COMMUNICATION is another issue. For example, when a man hurts his woman, some women would keep it inside of them for days rather than come out with it upfront and make the issue escalate beyond normal. Couples have to learn to be honest with each other. TRUST is another major issue. If there is no trust, there is no love. There are so many more i can think of but let me stop for now and hear what everyone else thinks

All you nairalanders (some of the posts am reading), is it thatyou are blind or you can't read or you are too impatient to study exactly what the poster is sayingShe is not seeking for advice of any form. Dint you all see where she said she is HAPPILY MARRIED and some of the friends she used to envy are still searching for partnersShe just wants to hear everyone's opinions on what makes a relationship tick. She is seeking knowledge and information, not battery. So if you all pay attention and read the posts, then you will stop being dumb and respond to her post in the most reasonable way possible,

, and then we would be complaining about people Yakubuin when you all are worst than Yakubu sef

Why do I feel like Argentina and greece have conspired to make it a drawWhy havent they scored against greece

Dual Core:
. . . and FIFA in honoring Nelson Mandela could just terminate the games and award the cup to SA.

LOL,

waladis:
Seeing what happened to the North Koreans today , am really very happy to be a Nigeria

My Korean North korean friend is so ashamed right now, Hopefully Nigeria does not get disgraced tomorrow with something similar

Imagine Nigeria last match was like that

That would havee been a Kaitaster

Am glad Ronaldo was MOTM, He deserved it

I think it was unfortunate that CIV was placed in such a group. there was no way they could have survived

I mean brazil was only able to beat the with 2 goals to 1, It was a very Kaitatophic match, lets see how portugal plays with brazil, that will definitely be a match to watch

Ohh My, I am short of words, Pleease comments,

Ni Oruko Jesu esu ko ni KAITA ona mi, AMIN o

Where would you prefer to school in terms of tuition costs, living expenses and job opportunities??

Paul and Mary got married and couldn’t afford a honeymoon, so they went back to Paul's parents home for their first night together as husband and wife.
In the morning Johnny, - Paul's little brother - got up and had his breakfast. As he was going out of the house to school - he asked his mum if Paul and Mary were up yet.
The mum replied - "No".
Johnny asked - "Do you know what I think ?"
His mum replied - "I don't want to hear what you think just go to school".

Johnny came home for lunch and asked his mum - "Are Paul and Mary up yet ?"
She replied - "No".
Johnny said - "Do you know what I think ?"
His mum replied - "Never mind what you think ! Eat your lunch and go for your lesson , "

After lesson Johnny came home and asked again - "Are Paul and Mary up yet ?"
His mum said - "No."
He asked - "Do you know what I think ?"
His mum replied - "Ok, now tell me what you think"
He said - "Last night Paul came to my room for the
Vaseline and I think I gave him my super glue by mistake"!!!!!!!!!!!

Moral of the story, it pays to listen to kids.

Describe your dream wedding night,

@sauron, Oh yeah you are very right, With the advancement of technology comes a lot of information security issues and I doubt if Nigeria is advanced in the aspect of putting the right logical and physical security measures in place to handle such vulnerabilities and mitigate such treats. I only wonder how they intend to resovle issues like war driving and all that crap when the technology becomes even more advanced, They should adopt some ecurity measures put in place by other countries cause it makes me sad to know that our banks are not doing well enough toprotect their customers against fraud, Its not entirely the banks fault cause any information system can be compromised but then they can invest more money in hardening their security measures

@sauron, thanks for that, I actually think mine was a combination of both because in one of my cases, the personal banker said the fraudster got a hold of all my card details including my PIN, They were like it was probably gotten from a form i filled or something and they even asked if i gave out my PIN to anyone but i keot saying no i did not, And they were like maybe some friend of mine has access to my card details and all that stuff, but in the end it get resolved and I think there should be some way to detect stuff like that, cause if they dont find a way to correct this then millions of people will keep getting their money stolen and thats sad,

@poster I am so sorry this happened to you, You know this got me thinking and wondering how the Fraud detection system works in Nigerian banks. I will tell you my story and that may probably help you take the necessary action.
I am based in the states and I have had an ATM fraud twice. The fraudster used the money to buy airline tickets the first time and the second time, the money was used to buy baseball tickets and to make matters worse, the baseball tickets were sent to my house address, That made it look like i authorized these transactions myself. I went to the bank and filed an ATM fraud dispute claim. You sign some documents and they send it to their fraud detection department to investigate it. The investigation usually takes a few weeks and within those 2 weeks, there are able to know if it was authorized or not. I had my money refunded to me in about a week and within a 90 day period, the fraud investigation went on and they were able to detect the fraudtsers. I dont know what they did with them but my money was refunded in full and I suffered no liability, But like I said earlier thats the American system. It might not waork that way in Nigeria but I will say dont give up on fighting it out tooth and nail. This will teach GTb that they have to tighten up their ATM security measures because of the high level of risk involved.

Women sha, una dey too stubborn, I rest my case

@Missy You have gotten this all wrong and you have taken a simple act of respect and overexaggerated it, Women of nowadays, If you try not to get so analytical and look at it from a less complex lens, then you will see that a woman is not supposed to be a slave to her husband but she can choose to respect him in any way she wants and if kneeling is her fortay then so be it, THE FACT REMAINS IT AINT WRONG TO KNEEL, Shikena!!!!

@oba, You will be surprised at what your parents have done in secret, my parents have been married close to 30 years too and I have never seen her kneel but that deosnt mean she has not done it when I was not there,

Kneeling for whatever reason for one's partner is not a sign of surrender or a sign that you are worshiping him, Just as Sarah referred to her husband Abraham as Lord as a sign of respect for him and just as you will never call your mum or dad by their first names in the NIGERIAN tradition, so is how a woman can CHOOSE to respect her husband or show him that she respects him by kneeling at whatever occassion she so chooses

I am so surprised about the way a lot of ladies here are vexing, First of all you need to establish the reason why you will kneel for your husband. In the Yoruba tradition, it is seen as a sign of respect and that deos not mean that you are the man's servant. You could kneel to greet him or to serve him or to apologize to him or to lovingly make your request known to him. And for the love of God why are some women frowning on this cos they dont want to make their husband's head swellAre u freaking kidding me?He is your husband so why should making his head swell be a problem

Women are to honor their husbands so if a woman finds pleasure in serving her husband by kneeling to him at random moments, then so be it. Those who complain and say they will never do such a thing are just displaying their sense of insecurity. No matter what, god has placed your husbands over you. Marriage is all about LOVING HEADSHIP AND MUTUAL SUBMISSION. It is not mandatory to kneel and it all depends on the couple involved but no one should come here and say kneeling is archaic or what not, Its reasoning of this kind that has caused a lot of break ups in marriages. When a woman feels like she needs to compete with her husband, Gosh!!!

@buffox its a pity some organizations dont look twice at your qualifications but the company i worked for in Nigeria before coming to the states paid all employess according to their qualification so basically a masters degree holder earned far way more than a bachelors degree holdr, it was their own way of rewarding you for your efforts, yeah i agree the reality of P&G may be that his MSc means nothing but you can never tell , he may just get promoted faster than anyone else based on his degree,

@Poster, Appreciate your MSc, Screw whoever thinks it means nothing, If you get hired by Procter and Gamble, accept it willingly even if the pay might not be what you are expecting, great things start from small beginnings and as you work with them, learn all you can learn but at the same time keep applying for other positions in other places, dont limit yourself, There will be some company out there who will think your high degree would make an impact in their organization and they will gladly hire you, So dont give up and good luck on the test, God is your strength

I am somewhat disappointed at some of teh comments am seeing here, Do not discredit his MSc degree. he has chosen to go that far and he should be appreciated for his efforts. if companies in Nigeria do not appreciate it then thats their own loss and he should be rewarded based on his qualifications and merit. Yes previous experience matters but his education equally matters. I am currently working with a bank in the US as an internal auditor and I landed that job because of God and my masters degree, so its different strokes for different folks, His MSc may be what will separate him from the crowd, just as it did for me,