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Na wa o, It is clear that a large percentage of people posting are not virgins and are you freaking kidding me, who the heck told you that virgins are mostly wowo, thats just a silly stupid consolation beacuse i know too many damn freaking party girls who are virgins and in their early twenties, and they are not keeping it cos they had no opportunity to have sex but they are keeping it because they are seeking daily to do the will of God and walk in righteousness, Yes we all make stupid mistakes, but please let those who have chosen to remain virigins till their wedding night breathe,

Gosh people and their thinking sha,

@Mr Cork, I choose not to go into that with you,

For a long time I have always wondered what the point was in getting married especially when a lot of men and women were not respecting the institution of marriage, It was like wahts the point of being married if marriage is just filled with all these heartaches and boredom and pains and disappointment,

But then as time went on and I grew older, I have began to realise that God created the instituion of marriage for a purpose, He created it to mirror the relationship Christ has with his church, And that marriage is the best form of relationships and just as we often disappoint God and go against his will, so will it be in a marriage between man and woman,

I want to get married because God has blessed that institution and I am ready to be a helpmate to my man. I am ready to demonstrate the love Christ has for the church to my man. I also want to partake of the blessings attached to leaving the marriage bed undefiled,

Yes it sounds very spiritual but marriage is nothing but a spiritual union,

@Mr Cork, I choose not to go into that with you,

For a long time I have always wondered what the point was in getting married especially when a lot of men and women were not respecting the institution of marriage, It was like wahts the point of being married if marriage is just filled with all these heartaches and boredom and pains and disappointment,

But then as time went on and I grew older, I have began to realise that God created the instituion of marriage for a purpose, He created it to mirror the relationship Christ has with his church, And that marriage is the best form of relationships and just as we often disappoint God and go against his will, so will it be in a marriage between man and woman,

I want to get married because God has blessed that institution and I am ready to be a helpmate to my man. I am ready to demonstrate the love Christ has for the church to my man. I also want to partake of the blessings attached to leaving the marriage bed undefiled,

Yes it sounds very spiritual but marriage is nothing but a spiritual union,

@Mr Cork just as the woman will be stuck with one ***K for the rest of her life

Hmmm keep the answers coming, this is interesting

hilli666:
Never!! Woman of today is not the kind I would want to spend a lifetime with. She cant cook, doesnt believe in nuturing, to busy competing with me in the office, child is raised by daycare, so self conscious (honey does my but look big?? Do you want the honest answer?) There are some women out there that are still natural, intelligent, beautifull but they are the hardest to find. I might even take a life time to find one of those but they are worth waiting for. Im not down with this microwave generation of woman. If it doesnt cook in the microwave, then it doesnt exist.

Hmmm as harsh as some people may find your words, its just the sad truth, The revolution of our generation is amazing and sometimes I feels it has done more harm than good in some certain aspects, Women are now so into feminism and forget that God created us to be a HELPER first. No one stopping you from maximizing your potential and achieving all your career goals as a woman but I feel we women should never forget our priorities in life, We are women first, helpmates and supporters.


As for the right age to marry, hmmm

Statistics for this year has shown that millions of peope all over the world got married and I can only imagine the number of divorces and separations that has occurred.

People get married fora variety of reasons. Some because society expects them to get married, some for monetary reasons,some for religious reasons and yet some because they solely want to fulfil their physical desires and cravings.

If you ever think of getting married, please give your reasons for wanting to be in this institution of marriage.

Statistics for this year has shown that millions of peope all over the world got married and I can only imagine the number of divorces and separations that has occurred.

People get married fora variety of reasons. Some because society expects them to get married, some for monetary reasons,some for religious reasons and yet some because they solely want to fulfil their physical desires and cravings.

If you ever think of getting married, please give your reasons for wanting to be in this institution of marriage.

Statistics have shown that millions have gotten marreid this year and I can only imagine the number of divorces and separations that have also taken place this year,

People get married for a variety of reasons, Some because society expects you to be married, some for religious reasons and some for the mere fulfilment of their physical desires,

If you ever plan on getting married, please tell us your reason for wanting to get married.

I dont know if I am wrong for this but this picture is really disturbing, iT gives me the creeps, I was taken aback when I initially saw it,

But I thank God for His blessings, The lady ahd twins that died a year or so ago and God blessed her with 6,

Question though, how does a woman breastfeed 6 kids

@POSTER,
everyone has his or her level of tolerance and for you to be able to tolerate another's flaws, you must really love that person, thats the foundation, also there are some certain things that need to be said upfront before two people become serious and one very important thing that needs to be talked about is your previous sex life, very very important, and if you cant deal with your partner's previous sex life, then u should not stay with taht poerson cause you will only be sticking with that peron out of pity,
Yes u have forgiven but it will only take God to be able to forget and not let it hunt u anymore, From ur story i believe she told u this piece of info way afte y'all became serious which for me is lying, when someone develops an interest in me and i in him, major things that need to be discussed is our past sex life, u cant hide it for long, nothing is hidden under this sun, it will definitely come to light
i also suppose ur a virgin which makes it harder, but cant you get past this, YES, would it be hard, YES, would there be major issues to deal with and consquences to face in deciding to marry the person, BIG YES, but as i said earlier, once u really love that person and the grace of God is everly sufficient then you can overcome,

@POSTER,
everyone has his or her level of tolerance and for you to be able to tolerate another's flaws, you must really love that person, thats the foundation, also there are some certain things that need to be said upfront before two people become serious and one very important thing that needs to be talked about is your previous sex life, very very important, and if you cant deal with your partner's previous sex life, then u should not stay with taht poerson cause you will only be sticking with that peron out of pity,
Yes u have forgiven but it will only take God to be able to forget and not let it hunt u anymore, From ur story i believe she told u this piece of info way afte y'all became serious which for me is lying, when someone develops an interest in me and i in him, major things that need to be discussed is our past sex life, u cant hide it for long, nothing is hidden under this sun, it will definitely come to light
i also suppose ur a virgin which makes it harder, but cant you get past this, YES, would it be hard, YES, would there be major issues to deal with and consquences to face in deciding to marry the person, BIG YES, but as i said earlier, once u really love that person and the grace of God is everly sufficient then you can overcome,

My fiance and I are virgins and we intend to keep it that way till we get married, worhtless going with the crowd and joining in the sexual revolution, Its a blessing and I wouldnt ask for anything different

My fiance and I are virgins and we intend to keep it that way till we get married, worhtless going with the crowd and joining in the sexual revolution, Its a blessing and I wouldnt ask for anything different

annita19:
I'm a girl but I hate drama queens. She will dump you soon or later. On the b. Account area I didn't get it. I heard Nigerian girls are so financial dependable and too demanding, how true is that

Ok if there is one thing I cant stand in this life its STEREOTYPES or GENERALIZATIONS, and here is brownteeth agreeing to it,

SO Annita financial dependence is not particular to Nigerian girls alone, if we want to go down that lane, I could tell you Black American girls are worse and White girls are least Financially dependent on their men, So please lets stop the generalizations and not put people in a box, it shows a huge lack of intelligence

Its sad to see that some people will actually not donate an organ to their better half, How selfish the world has become, If I can donate to strangers then how much more my spouse?

Romeo4real said it right, If you cant donate your kidneys to your spouse even after knowing that one kidney functions as good as two, then you should not be married or you are married to the wrong person or you married for the wrong reasons, Its sad and this brings tears to my eyes,

I dont understand if its reading problem that is doing some women here,

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so in your opinion having just $45 in the wallet and credit card debt os $5000 equates to "affording to comfortably spend excessively on luxury goods"

If they can afford it fine (which in most cases they cant) but if u go broke acquiring all those things then something must be wrong with the woman/man

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Bawomolo you could not have said it any better, PETTY is just the word I was looking for, God bless you,

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Anytime, Hopefully they get the point now

mutter:
If you can afford it why not. I think this most is more about women who can`t really or should not really be affording it.

[i]Weave $450, Gucci bag $375 ,Prada shoes $485, Vera Wang shades $180 , Fendi wallet $120, House of Dereon Bangles $85, Movado Wristwatch $165, the list is endless, [i]Amount of cash in the Fendi wallet $45, credit card debt over $5000.[/i][/i]

Now nothing wrong in getting those frivolities listed above at those ridiculous prices if you feel you have the money to waste on it and not bat an eyelid and still take care of business but after reading the italicized (Amount of cash in the Fendi wallet $45, credit card debt over $5000), thats just sheer stupidity and I think that is the point the poster is trying to get across.

Tolutara, I am reading between the lines and seeing your point and what you are tryig to get across. Its just that a lot of women are not getting the point,

Am an accountant so I have an accountants mentality, some people call it the stingy mentality but before i buy any major stuff, i always do a cost benefit analysis, do i buy a PC that costs $500 but with a high risk of crashing in 1 year or do i get a $1200 mac book that has a greater possibility of lasting me 3 years (useful life) with a lower cost of maintenance saved over the entire useful life?

Now over to the jewelry, designer things and gbo gbo everything that women purchase, IMO i think a lot of women buy what they dont need, Yes some say they can afford it but how many of them truly have savings for unforseen circumstances? Most of them are just living from paycheck, which in itself is not entirely bad,

Am not much of a fashionista and makeup crazy, I keep me simple but for those that are more of the fashionistas who try to join the badwagon, i think all things should be done in moderation. You dont have to have all those luxuries at once or at every opportunity u get to shop. Be wise in your spending. Its a discipline.

Ohh gosh, this Cork of a thing is too funny kai, i will pay any amount of moiney to watch him paiform laive hon stage, no offience

Kai i cant stop laughing o, Mr cork you deserve an award for comedian of nairaland. I really want to see what you look like so do us the honor of posting ur pix, am sure u look lik this:

ohhh Mr Cork you crack me up real bad, you are so hilarious and i wonder why people really get offended by what you say, i just read your posts and laugh my ass off mehn no offience

And to the men that say they will slap their MILs that means if your mother should slap your wife its ok for your wife to slap your mother back and beat the living daylight out of her,

Am the only woman working with a lot of Men which is so awesome, i dont like working with women, its so relaxed, i dont work on weekends and its so unique, different stuff to do everyday, paid vacations, awesome insurance policy, good pesion package, job security, they wont just fire you under short notice, paid sick days off etc etc

Laajman I feel you,

I left Nigeria just 2 years ago after living in Nigeria for 23 years, I have no regrets so far coming to the states cause God just kept making a way for me and directing my footsteps, As a young single lady looking forward to someday being a wife and a mother, for me home is wherever my husband and children are,
You create your own home and home is where your heart is, North America, South America, Europe, Australia, wherever, as long as I have God i can survive and make a difference wherever i find myself, Nigeria is always in my heart and if God says I have to go back there then so be it, but I wont try to impress anyone by saying I will move back, I am so open to new things and for me it doesnt really matter where i choose to live in the end,

Wallie:
On the issue of spending one’s riches to develop one’s neighborhood, generally speaking, blacks are not as philanthropic as whites. How many rich blacks will give away half of their wealth to people or organizations?

Bill Gates, Warren Buffett, Larry Ellison, George Lucas, Paul Allen, T. Boone Pickens, and many more are all going to donate at least half of their fortunes. Larry Ellison has the intention of giving away, at least, 95% of his assets. I wish I could say I would do the same if I was in his shoes, but I doubt I would. Why should I care about my wealth if I’m already dead? I have no idea.

On the issue of developing Nigeria, I think NIN and NID both have complimentary parts to play and success will only be guaranteed if we work together.

Whether NID admits it or not, NIN is needed to actualize our goals in Nigeria because they have the information we need along with knowledge of the terrain. On the other hand, NIN needs NID to infuse a different “variable” into Nigeria; if not, their result will always be the same.

Are NID smarter than NIN? Not necessarily true but probably better exposed, generally. I’ve always wondered if I would have achieved the same level of success if I was still in Nigeria slugging it out with all the issues conspiring against one’s success. I will never know the answer to that question but the thought gives me a better appreciation of Nigerians that made it in Nigeria.

well said

I dont understand all the distinction between Nigerians in Nigeria and Nigerians in the diaspora, We are all freaking Nigerians and no exclusive group is responsible for moving the nation forward, We are all responsible. so rather than point accusing fingers at each other why not we discuss our plans and visions for the country if that is truly what you feel you are called to do,

A lot will not agree with what I have to say but I'l say it anyways,

Yes being a virgin (man/woman) does not guarantee the person being a good wife/husband but in my opinion, depending on the reason an individual chooses to remain a virgin until marriage and is able to maintain that position, it shows the degree of Intergrity, Honesty, Faithfulness, Self control and Discipline the person possesses.

If an individual chooses to remain a virgin until marriage because of his/her belief in God and because he/she is staying through to his/her standard developed from biblical principles then the possibility of the person being a trustworthy faithful wife/husband is high. And someone with that mentality also has a high possibility of being one who chooses to develop himself/herself morally and thats why the person is most likely going to be one that can be trusted.


So i dont think being a virgin should be condemned because it actually speaks volumes whether we like it or not. But thanks to our depraved and fallen genration, being a virgin is now equated to negative things, its a shame,

@REALITY 101, get a reality check, there is no guarantee in marriage and the fact will always remain that you can only reduce the odds of your marriage not working or your relationship not working by setting standards and counting on God to direct your path, thats just the reality, has nothing to do with bein pessimistic or negative, its just the TRUTH,

Reduce the odds by not settling for a man/woman who cheats or beats u while your still courting. Reduce the odds by being with someone who compliments you and who shares the same values and morals as you do, who loves you and whom you love and so many more. Of which they all still gurantee nothing cos we are humans, Only God can help us with our choices, thats LIFE,