[quote author=PrinceInTheNort post=92666864]Alhamdulillah if it's true.

FlordFlorez:
Why waste your youthful age engaging on what will not benefit u financially & socially when your mates are building houses, buying rides, investing, etc. Wasted youths. Prison is now their home.

What crime did these guys commit, before you sentence them? Hmmmmm

flokii:
I'm sure the betrayers from a particular region will queue up behind Atiku or whichever Northerner they choose to do the bidding out of envy of SW presidency in 2023.

Na their way be that, reasons the Northerners feel they are born to rule.

Please tell me, why can’t the SW support the ambition of this particular region you are talking about? Why must the South queue behind SW? I don’t understand your post at all.

Emmanuelhector:
The clown above must be from brown roof region.. They are lazy and wants everyone else to be lazy and be an ass licker just like they are licking Jubrin's old sagged scrotum.

Scrotum, abi Sucrutum?

Biafrareform:
Good morning all, for those still awake.

I think my relationship just ended. Something we both cherish.

Well, months back my ex and I came back together. We had a bliss relationship while in our final year, but I wasn't committed at all and she knew it and left. Back then in school she kept going to my phone and of course she do see things to talk about .

After 1 year of being apart, I needed a committed relationship cos I wanted to settle down. She came to my mind and the feelings was so strong even though I tried to resist it. We finally met and resolved all issues that led to her leaving .

Is been the sweetest memory we have had so far. Everything was going fine. She is a nice and sweet girl. Our agenda is marriage and she is aware. She fits perfectly to my ideal woman. Our emotional and spiritual connection is just perfect.

Well, things take a turn when I went to her phone and saw stuff that knocked me out. What really got me mad was her dating a married man. My emotion was dead. She said the relationship is in the past. She was forced to go into it after she left school. Her mum forced her into it when she stopped caring for her and asked her to go fend for herself. Then we weren't together. She confessed to becoming someone else from who I knew when I didn't tried to bring her back. But she is not a bad as I think , she concluded .

I also saw her chat with someone where she sent a bedroom pics she took in my house. She said she is just flirting with him (they have a fling) but that I should give her time, she is going to completely cut of tiers with them.

Well, I love her was ready to stay with her.
She was around again this Val and was tempted to check again and noticed she is still communicating with the married man. Infact I noticed they met lately in January. I locked up , and decided that is over. Didn't talk to her about it.

We went out for on Saturday. She is the type that hardly post on Facebook. Infact she has reduced my activities on Facebook. Her reason, our lives shouldn't be on social media.
I uploaded our outing on WhatsApp. She did too, but didn't upload the one we took together. Yea, she hasn't done that b4. I was angry and voiced out what I saw in her phone. Accused her of deliberately hiding us from her contacts.
She apologised and told me she isn't doing anything with the man again. Just the normal chat cos of the friendship they have had b4 . She even handed her phone to me to call him and end it if I want . I wasn't taking any of that cos I saw from her browsing history where she is been searching how to make a married man fall in love and spend on her but didn't let her know of it.
She pleaded that nothing is happening between them again. Then she begged that I should stopped going to her phone that is destroying us. That if I ended up destroying this relationship, where do I want her to start.

She is back to her base and we chatted last nite and she brought up the case of me going to her phone again and I was angry with that and told her about the browsing history too.

She was completely devastated with my findings.
Is lengthy right, sorry about that. This is a relationship we both cherished and I know she love me real good. Ohh, I forgot to tell you, she bought me a native dress and sent 6k to me from her 33k NYSC allawee. She is a good girl. She is nice and caring. I love this girl real good. Never loved anyone like this before.

But I don't know what has really gone wrong with her. I was determined to really make this right, but as it stand now, it seems dead to me and I am sure she also feels same too.

I should have stayed away from her phone. But guys, is not my fault, I love this girl and I am serious about it.

Enyi, run for your life. You have a loose woman. Save your family the shame of bringing home a LovePeddler. People do change for sure, but what if she doesn’t? Don’t take chances. You will hate her the moment you guys get married. See finish will set in.

Brother Bakila, how fareth thee in this NextLevel project? Hope y’all are doing great. Just checking on you after such a long time. Sorry about AA and his botched attempt.

yomi961:
clap trap. Your hypocricy stinks. But if it is katsina, it can be done abi. In just 4years, they have constructed a 20km road, 45kva transmition station, solar street lights all in kastina. But they have not done even one project in rivers were the money comes from. How we southerners support this evil govt of clulessness in mind blowing

Seun is either a hypocrite or a bloody fo.ol. How they can build railways from Katsina to Niger or Chad but can’t fix such an important road is baffling. That road will provide billions of dollars and will put cash in so many people’s pockets. It’s called investment. Shame on Seun. That’s if the idiot has any.

Bonatheripper:

Keep shut.

I'm a man an I own a dick.
My penis have bin the same for years now.
So if I fornicate once everyday I'll also get erectile dysfunction?
Go and sleep....it's just like saying a girl who gets hard nipples everyday will also get nipples dysfunction.
They're many causes of erectile dysfunction... It is never masturbation.
Masturbation itself makes u last longer on bed cause u already release too often and your sperm bank isn't always filled to the brim which causes delay in ejaculation.


Sugar, excessive beer, drugs like tramadol, old age and some other diet are the root causes of penile dysfunction.
Not masturbation.
I know because I masturbate and fornicate actively

Chairman. You too much. Bobo-Hot

Ilekokonit:


Former American President Bill Clinton once said that 95℅ of men masturbate and the remaining 5℅ lie about it.

Medically, psychologists say masturbation is a NORMAL part of child development - ID, Ego, Super ego etc and then we had Pastor Chris Oyakhilome on video saying it is not a sin and people should stop beating themselves up over it.

A foolish woman with her own hands tears her home apart and your wife is lucky that when she denies you sex you did not take a girlfriend outside to do her work for her.

If only women knew how men's brains are wired when it comes to sex then maybe their husbands will remain faithful to them BUT these ignorant women will not listen to advice that WILL save their marriages.

Brother nothing do you as what you have just described is common to a lot of men especially if their uncooperative wives starts using sex as a weapon. In the haughty vindictive ignorance of these wives, they think they are punishing their husband by denying him sex not knowing that they are digging the grave of their own marriages with their very own hands with their foolishness.

Like bubu, abi?

2blockus:
Hello friends although this may sound strange to some person but it's the truth.

I started masturbating when I was 15 and I did it until I grew up and I feel is better than having girls that will take all my time and money.

fast forward I got a job and I pray to God to help stop this practice, another thought came to me that I should marry @ 27 so I can stop this act which I did and got married to a lovely wife.

At the first month I feel it will work not until one day my wife refuse me sex that made me to get angry I just pray to get to the office on time so I can help my self.

this was how it started and now I can't remember the last I had sex with her. infact it took us 10 month before she could conceive and people thought she had problem but I know the cause.

please I need a matured advice as she have caught me severally doing it in the restroom and I was just ashamed of myself.

note i still watch porn but not much shaaa.

Guy, get your wife to always give you hand. Masturbation isn’t a crime. Some women don’t mind. You didn’t say anything about your wife’s reaction.

Men play with themselves, just like ladies. Find out if it is okay with her. It is still better than going outside. And do it when you are alone with the doors locked. Alternatively, play together with her. I mean play for her. Some women like to watch. You may be surprised.

Don’t be ashamed bro. There’s nothing to be ashamed of.

Sad day for Africa.

DaddyYeeboz:


Not Yorubas' faults that you were lied to by ancestors who lack knowledge of history.

You have zero knowledge of your history and you're here talking nonsense.

Where did Igbos originate from? No igbo knows. If you mention Isreal here, I would tear you slap.

Please, do tell, where did your tribe originate from? Thanks

Kingosytex:


I wouldn't say there is, but the way Yorubas value their's is legendary.

Culture changes with time. We all value our cultures.

Kingosytex:
Yes, OBJ has to do that, he is a subject to the king and as such must accord obeisance just like all other subjects do.

There is no big deal there, i just like the Yorubas because they value their tradition.

Is there any group that does not value their culture?

post=81185617:

The bolded above is so true and apt.

Peaceful coexistence, love and unity is all we need in our nation to move forward.
God bless Nigeria.

Equity, Equality of citizens, fairness to all, merit-based appointments, will lead to peace. Without these, there will never be love and unity.

Agribusiness is not the responsibility of government. It should be private and independent of government. We are too used to being spoon-fed by FG.

BlackPantherCri:


My exes were bastards. Na axe I suppose use chase them if not for fear of God.

Did you guys read the part that this was before their wedding? They both sound like they have baggage

Sorry about your exes . It was just before the wedding. So they were committed. Well, we haven’t heard from her yet. She’s still wrong in my opinion.

Boss13:


Yes - none is excluded even my wife, sisters and mother. That’s the nature of women. As you said, it’s part of their DNA and human composition. All men must know this for their own good and betterment else they would be aloof to the doings of women.

Men must understand the method their wives or the women in the lives utilize to manipulate them. For instance, my wife is the yelling type. At the beginning of the marriage, it was irritating and annoying. Now, I consider what she wants and if it’s for my own betterment and the overall betterment of the family, I will do it. If it’s exclusively for her, if she like break the house with yelling, I will not bulge. Once she knows my stance and she tries a different approach and find out I’m adamant, she gives up.

All men must prepare for eventualities and must at every point seek to improve their lives financially, and healthy wise. If you die tomorrow, your wife will move on and some may do some with another man. If you have conversations with women, their priorities is themselves, their kids, their family and then you (husband). This is a fact and not a joke. Many men here would always want to say my wife is different - I laugh in Chinese.

Please, I’m not condemning women or hating them. NO - we need women in our lives, without them many of us may not enjoy this life. However, I’m highlighting what makes women, WOMEN. Many young men will never get this till they get married. I didn’t and I thought I was a smart man when selecting women.

I will conclude with this - Understand the manipulative weapon of choice your woman uses only then you will begin to see things clearly and choose your actions appropriately. Overall, seek your own happiness first and do things that will keep you happy and healthy

You be expert oo. Will the men listen? We underestimate women’s ability to manipulate us. I just got manipulated as I dey type this sef. Like you rightly said, the key is to be aware of the mode of one’s wife’s manipulation. It is their strong weapon.

BlackPantherCri:


I personally don't want to believe she got down with her ex. It is a mere allegation, not substantiated by fact, he did not 'caught' her

Anyways, it is only normal for people to go through that phase, missing your ex. Him without sin cast the first stone. Can he prove he has not made contact with his ex? Does that mean he went ahead to sleep with them? . Personally all my exes were bastards, nothing to miss! Lolz! Until he has proof that she slept with her ex, it is just his anger speaking.

Helloooo! The OP never accused her of cheating. He actually claimed to trust her. It’s other guys that are suggesting that. It is not about the OP we are here for. This is about the lady. She’s wrong to be in touch with her ex. It’s sacrilegious and insulting to compare one’s exes with one’s partner.

Please, stop sounding feminist by saying stuff like that. His wife is very wrong, and it’s only a matter of time before the whole thing will blow up in his face. Unless God intervenes. I hope you are not in touch with your exes. It’s a bad idea to do so. Focus is key to success in anything we do.

Boss13:


True. That’s why they devise means to manipulate men. This is peculiar to ALL WOMEN. In fact western women are the worse. The young OP must consider that his happiness is of great importance. How do you relate with a wife who is unappreciative after her husband had gone laboring for 48hours so they can pay their bills and have food to eat. Many would see she is a terrible wife - NO. She is a manipulative woman, who chooses to make her husband feel less of a man so she can control him.

Some women would choose the weeping approach or the yelling approach or even the quiet approach or I will not cook or give you sex approach till she gets her bidding done.

They are very, very manipulative. Everyone of them. It’s in their DNA. I truly feel for that young man.

BlackPantherCri:
Anonymous010,

I know many things have been said... But this sounds like me. Except the insulting mum part. I was a work from home mum and was frustrated by everything my husband did. We fought everyday and like her I refused to cook, I did as I liked. Infact my catch phrase is that "you don't have sense". I was like a wild animal and I don't even know why my husband put up with me all these years. We loved each other o, but sometimes something will switch in my head. He was sure I had a multiple personality disorder.

It's been over 10 years. Something changed. We relocated. My husband was also skeptical if abroad wont make me worse just like you but these years abroad have felt like bliss. see eh, the heat and frustration in Naija can make someone a wild animal, add to all this small small annoying stuff like warming soup and delayed salary, oh gosh! I was so frustrated and I also had a little baby.

Now, in the abroad by husband will ask for Edo ka ikong, I will cook it with periwinkles sef. I became a model wife. The triggers for my mental switch are no longer there. I can now focus on love and be loved.

I can never thank my husband enough for being there through that phase. He never for one hit me or lost his temper. There shouldnt be two mad people in a house. The early part of marriage has these teething problems. Now when people come to us for counselling, we just laugh. Me that will stay up at the window if oga comes late to start a round of nagging, I sleep peacefully all night now, anytime he comes home is his kettle of fish. Maturity will set in. Just be patient with her and give it time. No marriage is perfect.

Great advice, and I totally agree with you. The only thing is that you didn’t factor in the “ex-factor”. Why is she comparing him with her ex? Why is she upset with his mom? Is she the only one in Naija.

You turned out good. I am happy for you. Nevertheless, there’s no guarantee that this one will end in praise, as we like to say in Naija. You are blessed with an angel as a husband.

ogbonti:


My brother, the God wey no intervene for naija, will suddenly interven in the US? Hmm. You have given him a great advise, I hope he heeds

I believe you. I have seen this play out times without numbers. She’s up to no good, and our man is not street smart. She trusts him...hahaha. Women don’t trust any man. Unfortunately, most men trust their wives. If only we know what goes on in that their beautiful heads, we go run.

Op is in deep shit as it is. Taking her to the States will be one of his biggest regrets. Gun powder things!

Formidable1:
On the contrary, I have a different advice: if you leave her for the USA, your marriage is done and dusted.

Many are advising you to ditch her, do a DNA test, don't go to the USA with her, etc. But I'll only tell you one thing: love her even more.

You're already married to her and what more? You have a child. I've always advised couples whose marriages are on the brink to work it out for the sake of their children. Trouble-laden marriages often have a ripple effect on the children; they grow up to have less honor for the sanctity of marriage, and they in turn start having problems too, spreading it to their own children and it spreads down to the next generations. The outcome?

I don't usually delve into issues like this without hearing from the other party. You can never get the full behind-the-scene story from one person. However, from all you've written in your post, OP, I failed to see the efforts you made to find out why your wife suddenly became aggressive to you. I doubt it's merely about the birthday as most people are suggesting. Have you tried to sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her? Have you tried to find out what it is that you do that makes her despise you? For all I know, you may have changed as well. You may no longer be the man she used to know. You may have stopped showering the love you used to shower her when you were still dating her.

I'm married for 6 years now with kids and I dated my wife for 5 years before we finally got married. I can tell you that marriage isn't a bed of roses. It takes two to tango. My wife on certain occasions have been angry or aggressive with me, but each time she did that, I looked inwards and understood that I was falling short in a way. And the only solution to that has always been to assure her of my love by giving her more attention, affection and care.

Nobody is perfect, and I'm not saying your wife is without a fault. But if you really want your marriage to work, you have to look inwards and ask yourself what you've been doing when you guys were crazily in love that you've stopped doing. You said you could work for 48 hrs straight without coming home; I'll be frank, no wife can cope with that. And then when you come home, what do you do? You start demanding for food? No, bro...what you do is to consider first how lonely she's been and the lack of attention, and try to make up for that. Play with her, tell her sweet things. In fact, once in a while, take her out for a treat, buy her some nice things on your way home after such long shifts. Show her that she may be lonely, but she's not alone. Make her understand that your absence/work is a necessity in order to give her a comfortable life, and assure her of a better future where you'd find a better source of income without having to absent from home.

The truth is that women would always crave attention and that feeling of being cared for, and believe me they could go anywhere to find it. It is how they're biologically wired, and we the men have to understand it to that extent. If you don't give your wife attention and care, she'd seek it elsewhere, including from an ex. Now, I'm not saying she's doing the right thing, but once a woman starts comparing you with her ex, it means you've started falling short and you need to up your game. It's usually hard to move on from a past relationship, esp one that didn't break up in bad terms, but with the right amount of care and love from a partner, one can get over it. If you dare leave her behind for the USA, you can kiss your marriage goodbye. It'd just give her the conclusive reason to go full time with her ex. In fact, going to the USA will give her the focus she needs to be with you. You guys will be far from the depression that comes with living in this country.

From your post, I observed that you're kind of saving your money for the 'bigger things' while she's the one providing the money for feeding. She may feel like you're using her. How about making an arrangement with her in such a way that there is a balance in the finances. You have to be the man now by providing more money than she does for expenses. At least, 65/35 would do. It's no longer back then in school when she used to give you money, and cater for you. You're now the head of your family, and if you're earning more than she does, you should provide more than she does.

As for the issue of insulting your mum, talk with her. Find out the reasons behind her disregard for your family. Forgive her and give her more chance. With love, all things are possible.

Please, and please, don't ever entertain the notion of doing a DNA test. Whether positive or negative, it'd do you no good. I'd bet with my last dime that that child is yours. Your wife doesn't seem to me like that kind of woman people are suggesting she is. Your post also shows that you believe in her faithfulness and fidelity. She's just probably frustrated with many things she's not getting from the marriage.

My advice is already taking up a page. But I'd stop here. I'd just ask you to:

1. Look inwards into yourself and find out what you've started doing or stopped doing that has made her change.

2. If you still really want your marriage to work, then work on it, at least for the sake of your little child.

3. Show more love, play with your wife, try to do those things you know got her attracted to you. Always forgive readily.

I wish you a happy married life, bro. May God bless your home.

If the OP follows this your plenty advice, he would end up a wreck. For starters, his wife should have no business with her ex. She should never insult his family. She’s not even cooking for him. OP worked 48 hrs shift and came back home, and you expect him to still be all over her. Really?

I live in North America. US will bring out the worse in her. I am married too. I count myself very lucky to have a beautiful wife: inside and outside. Bro, happiness is a choice. If we go by his side of the story, this marriage is headed straight to the rocks, once they hit US, unless God intervenes.

Anonymus010:
I Need The Advice Of Experienced Married Men

NB: This is not my real account, I created this account for the purpose of this issue.

Please, I need the advice of married people (especially married men). I will make the story as simple as possible and I promise not to compromise the truth to favour me in this issue.

Brief Introduction: I am a man in my late 20's. Got married last year and currently have a 3month baby.

Brief history of my relationship prior to marriage: I dated my wife for 4years before we finally tied the knot last year. I met her in the university, we were classmate in school.

Before I started dating my wife, I was dating a girl in the same class but we both agreed to separate after 1year because we were age mate and she was keen on getting married immediately after graduation which I knew I will not be ready for marriage by then (Note: No sex in the relationship, She was a virgin and because I couldn't assure her of marriage, I didn't sex her).

After the break up with my ex, I became close to my wife and we started dating. She was self sufficient as she had a source of income while in school, she supports me, gives me money, cooks and buy me food etc. She was the best woman any man can think of. I fell in love along the line and decided this is the right lady to marry.

Note: There were several backlashes from other classmates insinuating she snatched me from my ex but we scaled through all that. We dated for 2more years in school and we graduated. We dated for another 2more years post school till last year.

Brief history immediately before marriage: Everything was fine till my wife's birthday last year. I did tripple shifts at work(48hrs work non-stop) and came back a night before her birthday and slept off. I woke up 2:30am to wish her happy birthday. She got angry and told me I didnt put her in mind and that I was not the first person to wish her happy birthday (She later told me her ex wished her first at exactly 12am). I apologised to her and told her the reason I missed the time. I had just 10k, gave her 5k to do a birthday photoshoot, used about 3k to buy her goodies as salary has not been paid.

Fast forward to after 1week of the birthday, she came up with serious issue, saying she wanted a break but not total break-up for some months to put herself together. She lamented she was not getting anything from the relationship, I don't usually take her out, I didnt celebrate her birthday well for her, I didnt buy cake, I didnt buy gift etc. I apologised and pleaded with her to be patient as we had big projects before us (wedding, masters degree and family apartment) which she knew I was saving for. We settled it and had sex. After 7days, I saw a call log on her phone where she had a conversation with her ex for almost an hour between 11pm and 12am. After 1month, she missed her menses and was pregnant. I asked her if she ever saw her ex, she cried and swore that she didn't (Note: I trusted her because she is modest and she is not the sex type). So, I agreed, accepted the preg, quickly arranged an impromptu wedding, I quickly sourced for money, spent over N2million on the wedding......

THE PROBLEM:

2weeks after the weeding, my wife started abusing my family especially my mum, telling me she hated how my family behaved during the wedding. I pleaded with her not to allow this to affect our home. The insults and abuse became perpetual. My wife works from home and will give me several reasons why she cannot cook after giving her money for food stuffs once I collect salary. Its just 2 of us living in a mini flat & I wash my clothes myself, but she will give me thousands of reasons how the non-existent house shores prevent her from cooking.

After 9months, she gave birth, I asked her who she wanted to come do omugo with the baby between her mum and my mum. She opted for my mum (claimed her mum will be giving her problem). Not up to 1week that my mum came over, she has started complaining about everything she does. Despite the fact that this woman will wake up 5am, wash everybody's clothes, bath the baby but she doesnt cook. My wife started complaining about her being obligated to cook every morning because of my mum's presence(Note: she doesnt cook in the morning, if I am going to work by 8am, I will either warm a left over previous night's food or source for food outside). When the complain was becoming overwhelming to the point of her almost insulting my mum in my presence, I told her I will tell my mum to go back to her house( my mum lives in a mini flat too with my dad, so they are very comfortable). She said I shouldn't. After 1 month, my mum left. The abuse, insults and complain continued. She will nag about how my mum did when she was with us, abuse and insults my family. I will appeal to her and defend my family. My wife became complete opposite of who she was when we were dating.

The real issue at hand: We would be migrating to the US soon. Lately, I can't control my wife, anytime I don't buy her idea or wish, she will rain insults on me. Just 3days ago, she told me I don't have sense repeatedly just because she said we should go and greet her mum's pastor which I told her not now but we can go later. If I tell her to do something, she will do otherwise and give me thousand of reasons she can't do it. 2months ago, I reported all her attitudes to her mum, her mum talked to her but no change, she is getting worse. Last week, I did 24hours at work, I got home, my wife didn't cook. I got into the kitchen, made custard and placed the soup on the gas cooker. We were both in the living room. She perceived the soup was getting burnt and insulted me, telling me it was because I was not the one that dropped money for the soup, thats why I wanted to burn it (She cooked the soup with her money because my salary was delayed). She insults me at will, gives me no respect and treat me as trash.(Note: I had never cheated on her and she doesn't doubt my fidelity. Likewise, I had never suspected her of such too).

I am currently scared because I know US is women's world because I have included her and the kid as my dependents in my green card petition. I am scared for my life and career because she could go worse in the US and destroy all I have laboured for.

Please kindly advise me on what I can do to change her.

Sorry for the long write up and any grammatical errors.

Guy, your “wife” changed for a reason. For her to tell you that her ex wished her happy birthday before you is an insult to your person. It is a bad sign in my opinion. Stop deceiving yourself, she’s not loyal to you. Go check your child to be sure you are the father. Your wife’s anger is actually a defensive mechanism to cover her ass. It’s not about anything you did wrong.

I live in North America. Divorce her before you even think of coming here. It can only get ugly. Your life is about to get messed up big time.

Last, you appear weak. You allowed your wife to get away with too much Zap ups. Stop trying to please her or make her happy. She’s playing you. She don see you finish be that. Cut your losses bro. The earlier the better.

I have been married for over a decade.

Tunagee:
My wife started behaving strangely immediately I lost my job in April 2017. She leaves home to her mum at the slightest disagreement without even communicating or making to express her feelings; and to worsen it, her mum gives her a great welcome with a room and parlour for her to stay, without even calling me to discuss what the problem. Whatever her daughter says is always the final, and she concludes on that.

My wife literarily destroyed my image before my in-laws to such an extent that I can't even visit them again. She tells them i insult her and her parents, and i make negative remarks about them, that i abuse her verbally at the slightest provocation. Several lies against me that I did not allow her travel out, I don't give her money, I told her not to have another kid, that I told her not to work, her mother has decided to keep her with her as I speak without even calling me to discuss, even despite all my appeals. She has been with her mum now for almost ten months(my wife is a fully grown legally married faithful woman of almost 40 years)

All these disrespect, probably cos I lost my job two years ago of which I fulfilled all responsibilities to the home. i don't drink, i don't smoke, don't womanise(even till now) I have never beaten her, I never another child out of my matrimonial home, and never impregnated another woman.

Rather than resolve her marital problem by discussing with her husband, she takes it to her family claiming emotional abuse. Fine, I agree I get provoked cos of her persistent shortcomings, and of course, frustration which leads to unguided vocal utterances towards her, but this could have been resolved easily without having to involve her whole family. Now what she keeps telling my family is that her family said she should still hold on at her mum's place. This is the 10th month since October 2018.

The last time my mum went to her mum's house precisely June last month, she was asked if she was still interested in her marriage, and she said yes, that she does not intend leaving her marriage; but we should give her time. Her mother practically told me to go and do something meaningful, and that there is time to marry, separate, reunite and hustle. Her mum is the one controlling her movements and everything about her for now; not even giving her room to give me audience.

Pls advise on what to do.

We are legally married.

She has been gone for ten months, really? After one year, you are free to apply for a divorce, on the ground of separation. She can do so as well. I think you are being played here. Your claim to her faithfulness is funny and childish. Never trust a liar. Open your eyes. A woman never leaves what she has, unless she is holding onto something else. Be guided. I don talk finish. Be prepared.

I am married. Been for more than 10 years. So I am not telling you bs. Look for another woman after the 12th month, and file for divorce. You deserve better. That’s if you are telling the whole truth, and nothing but.....

Nemesis909:


Is herding of cows the exclusive of a tribe?

Just like spare parts business the exclusive of a single tribe?


What is wrong with having a radio station to educate the people?

I am happy you know that cattle rearing is not an exclusive of one tribe. Why then do we have to give a radio frequency to only one tribe in the cattle business?

Why have we not given an equivalent of 3 LGAs to spare parts dealers and their families?

Why then are the Myetti Allah, NEF, and Northern youths threatening FG and the rest of us, if RUGA isn’t a Northern agenda, to enable the annihilation of indigenous land owners?

Guy, you are not reasoning well. If you are from the North, please tell your people that this is 2019. Such nonsense will not be allowed. We in the south will bleed our last blood before being fulanized and islamized.

Once again, cattle business is a private venture. FG can assist them and others too, in any other sincere way, but definitely not by land grabbing. If you are a Northerner, I completely understand your position, but if you are a Southerner, you have simply become a useful idiot. History will never be allowed to repeat itself this time.

Nemesis909:


Manipulated how?

Does government not invest in docks and ports?
The products you bring in are yours, private, yet government does.

In fact government today is investing in rail lines to assist you move your products, you don't complain.

When BRT is created, for you, a private citizen to move around you don't complain.

Once government says let us settle cattle herders you suddenly remember government shouldn't be assisting.

Are you for real? Are the docks and railways you mentioned for a particular tribe, region or trade? Isn’t it for the use and benefit of all Nigerians? Dude, there’s nothing that the government has ever provided for the exclusive use of a particular people, trade or faith.

Remember the herdsmen have been provided with an exclusive radio frequency, now you want to create an equivalent of 3 LGAs in every state for herdsmen.....hmmmm. I tire for you oo. The only reason I will forgive you for this rubbish post is if you are a Fulani, and part of this grand effort at land grabbing. Lol

Nemesis909:
Very good one from the president.

How? He never addressed all the atrocities by herdsmen, but quick to tell them not to heed the NEF. Buhari is a terrorist. He is in support of the violence. He is a jihadist.

Cattle rearing is a private business. It is as private as owning a shop in Alaba or running a business in Lagos Island. Let the owners fend for themselves. We are being manipulated by Buhari, NEF and Myetti Allah. We are, truly.

Praktikals:
So Jonathan travelled all the way to Ondo state to spew that trash. Well he said so because he knows Nigerians forget things too soon.
My wife was an undergraduate of ABU when Jonathan was president and I know how high my bp used to be when i read about boko haram in the national dailies.
Jonathan is the worst president that has ever ruled this country.
To all of you that will be quoting me, I have a simple prayer for you. May God rule your lives just like Jonathan ruled Nigeria. Say Amen!

May God also rule you the way Bubu is ruling Naija, and may Fulani Herdsmen visit your household without let. Amen!

YorubaHero12:
Donald trump just keep ridiculing the office of the president, the USA is a nation that other nation look up to based on her core values and democracy.

The reason USA is a great country is not only because of its military might but the trust other nation put in her as an upright nation with people of integrity at the helm of affairs.

Trump is everything un-American and he has fought almost all the allies of the United States by insults and desecrating the office of the president.

Donald trump wife Melania is from Slovenia, she became a permanent resident in 2001, and obtained USA citizenship in 2006. Why can’t Trump tell her to go back to her country also?

Donald’s grandfather was an immigrant from Germany, so why can’t he just accept other people of color as American?

To all of you on Nairaland trying to support blindly, just know he sees all of you as people from shiit.hole countries, and no amount of praise singing will change his perception of our skin.

Are we not from shithole countries? Trump is right. Those women are unnecessarily antagonistic. If Omar knows how to fix America, she should go fix Somalia. She’s a hypocrite, just like Buhari, you, seun, sarrki, etc. If anybody doesn’t like the way the white guys run America, leave. America was built by white people.

YorubaHero12:

You should have rather remain on the topic before bringing the narrative of Ilorin or other unrelated scenarios.

We understand you guys game well, you are all being paid to push the hate narratives online by every tools you can deploy with the main goal of setting the country on fire.

You derive joy when bad things happen in any region except your region, you are no different from the herdsmen you sought to blame because the effect of your own propaganda will cost more lives when the seed germinates. Go and check the video on the genocide of Rwanda and ask yourself if you want that for Nigeria.
What you are doing may be appealing to you now but let me tell you that when it grows, we will all be engulfed in the effect. Be warned

So the country isn’t on fire yet?

Eteka1:
Evens is not listed as a terrorist yes, but he is a kidnapper and we know how and where kidnapping started in Nigeria. Its unfair to blame a particular tribe whenever there is a kidnapping attempt on the highway (without any evidence).

Where did kidnapping start in Nigeria?

TIGRITIS:

No single policy on public health, ok let's assume it is true. But look at the report again, "Buhari commissions an eye hospital".

Nigga, are you sure you can sustain this wailing for 4 yrs?

Jagdish Chanrai! Does that sound like Naija name? You no see the owners of the clinic there? This is not Buhari’s or FG’s project. Stop being naive. Read.