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sapientia:
Its the right thing na

Is that his house?

Was Oyegun's pics not there before

Farewell Baba Osho

Send forth party loading in Edo Government house

tega2luv:
Congrats

IduNaOba:
Only the heavens know the lashing this abike got after she tried to downplay the hushpuppi story the other time.
The lashing really went a long way to restore some parts of her brain yet she still mentioned an igbo name just to show off her tribalistic tendencies.
Yeye sombori

eneye1:
It reflect how we think, we hate in hatred,.We are happy is evil befalls someone. We are happy happy before Oshiomole might be removed. Funniest part, is even south south people fighting him.. How do you think north will not continue to rule

Correcto:
The way you guys brag even Tinubu can not brag like this.

helinues:
Ok

JAMO84:
The great Jagaban will never ever condescend to the level of trading words with a political cops like Ameachi.

Someone that does not even control the APC structures in his Rivers state. Wike of PDP is the one remote controlling the APC in the state and until Wike decide to let him go, Ameachi will remain his political prisoner.sharap dea..mumu. is tinubu God?






I AM DONE TALKING

johnmartus:
Efforts in futile. Pdp very useless party filled up with notorious people.

SarkinYarki:
He is making sense ...There is no way 16 years of PDP rot can be handled in just two term , I suggest we make it 16 terms for Buhari so he can solve the 16 years of PDP rot thoroughly

anslem04:
Apart from sex, do you agree there are other APN for evil spirit to access you & humans. what actually gives the link is SIN not just sex only as you insinuate, we all have our favourite sin, that is the access. next time think broadly

anslem04:
Hope they've known back home,
by the way, sex is not an evil spirit, sex itself is not the problem, intentions are ..

Officialgarri:
And some idiots will say the war against terrorism hasn't improved by up to 85%.

If this was the era when everyone was advised to shun public gatherings,
if this was the era when we had to run away from every polybags we see by the road side,
if this was the era when there were at least 5 bombings within maiduguri only,
if this was the era when Boko Haram established caliphates all around Borno, to Adamawa —Mubi, Yobe ,
if this was the era when even the President couldn't attend public functions in Abuja because of fear,
If this was the era when one needed to escape from the North East to Cameroon and then follow another route to enter Nigeria through Benue state
If this was the era when Shekau was releasing music videos and almost had a verified Instagram account,

Then, I do not think this Governor would have the guts to lay the foundation of a simple public toilet.

Sadteen:
You are the one that need your eyes to be opened if you can't separate objective reality from spirituality. Everything cause has an effect and every effect has a cause and you should understand that not every effect has a spiritual cause.

Most of the things that were once thought as spiritually caused in the past are now understood to be actually not spiritually caused.
For instance people with ur kind of mindset once thought twins were children from demons and even went as far as killing them. But now we know better. With modern science we understand how twins come about. The same thing with mental disabilities, modern science has studied intellectual disabilities so much that we know a lot about it than in the past. We know it can be caused by genetics, fetal alcohol syndrome, oxygen deprivation at birth, low birth weight or premature birth, diseases during pregnancy etc... I just pray you don't have a child that would be needing of medical attention but because you think everything can be dealt with spiritually, you'd be taking ur child from prayer house to prayer house seeking solutions... I feel sorry for such child because he/she would be the one to suffer your gross negligence and ignorance.

Sadteen:
If everything's spiritual then there's no point in having institutions of learning. There's no point wasting time and resources in researches to advance the society. There's no point having hospitals when you can pray every ailment away. Left with people like you in this world, we'd still be in the middle ages because rather than seek objective solutions to problems, you like to save your brain the stress and ascribe the solution to be spiritual which doesn't require much brainpower.

Sadteen:
No it's not spiritual. Not everything is spiritual for christsakes. These conditions have been researched and are still being researched. So should your child have an intellectual disability or a learning disability, you would think prayers would solve the problem? Answer this question honestly, have you heard about child born without limbs but after prayers, the child grew new limbs? Or twins born conjoined but after prayers they magically separated? This is becos such conditions require the help of a trained professional and in the OP's case, his brother needs medical attention not prayers.

Gundel001:
Hi good day my fellow Nairalander please I will really need your experience about this issue. Please help me read to the end as it is a little bit long.

My junior brother is 14 years old and to be sincere I haven’t seen anybody as dull as him. I don’t know if it is natural but I just can’t understand why someone at that age could still be struggling with very simple arithmetic. My brother can’t write 1 – 150 correctly at 14.

He seems too dull; note he attends one of the best private school around our area, though I know you might say maybe education is not his way but even if you want to drop out from school you should know some basic things like money, time, multiplication and so on but my brother doesn’t know anything I must say, even to write his name correctly is a problem. It is making everyone unhappy lot of money is being spent on lesson teachers and other things for him still no improvement.

I am a student of one of the top federal University in Nigeria same as my other siblings even at both secondary and undergraduate level we were always above average so I can’t say his problem is genetic. I really wants to know what is the problem with him nairalanders. After I finished secondary school I once taught some pupils in primary school though there were dull ones too there but with time I could see improvement unlike my brother i always try to teach him from time to time but it kind of frustrating as he doesn’t even seems like he will ever grab anything and he doesn’t behave like he wants to learn anything.

He makes it seems as if he is not interested book or arithmetic at all …we all tried talking to him endless time to always read any time he his less busy but he never does except he is being forced.

He rarely talks, he loves to keep to himself always, he doesn’t have interest in anything unlike we the others that are die hard football fans, most times my mom will tell him to even go out to play and mingle he will not still want to go, he prefer to stay at home seating all day without reading or doing anything, even if it is to draw or play football he wont.

This matter is not making everyone happy at home we don’t even know the solution to his problem again, as in imagine having a child that is 14 years old that doesn’t know the difference between 17 and 71 it is just so bad…..

We don’t know if his case is mental or spiritual. please nairalanders I know there are child experts in the house or anybody who have experienced something like this before what do you think is the problem and possible solutions to the problem your contributions are welcome.

Please help me push this pleaseeeeee

Coldie:
PDP should stop wasting their time. What Buhari has done is in view of everybody, even PDP members self dae shame for the party for their 15years of useless leadership.

By 2023 Nigerians will be begging Buhari not to leave

Coldie:
PDP should stop wasting their time. What Buhari has done is in view of everybody, even PDP members self dae shame for the party for their 15years of useless leadership.

By 2023 Nigerians will be begging Buhari not to leave

charlesELIKIBA:
HELLP NAIRALANDERS

I will be brief with my writeup as much as possible so I can explain my connection with this lady.

My single mom gave me away at a tender age of 5 to her elder brother (financial difficulties i assume), this ''aunty'' happens to be the wife of this my mother's elder brother.

Aready they had 4 children, all boys.

The home was a tough upbringing with strict rules about socialising, we weren't allowed to bring friends home or go to friends places. It was pretty strict and my uncles wife i would say was the mastermind of it all, she was strict and mean maybe because it was a house of 5 boys.

Growing up in my uncles home, I wouldn't say I was treated diffrently because I always got matching outfits with my uncle's children during christmas, gifts during christmas, same portions of food BUT IN ALL I was always scared of doing somethings my cousins would do. I didn't feel free growing up, i felt diffrent from them. In some cases they attended the best schools than I (but I never attended a govt. school or a bad private school).

It's like if their school fees was 1m naira per term, mine would be 150,000 per term.

I lived with them until I was about 16 or 17 and one morning I woke up and they said i was going back to my mother at 15 or 16 like any kid, you would start to develop conscience (sense), maybe breaking some rules and being stubborn just like their own kids. This I assume was why they wanted to send me back to my mother OTHERWISE I CAN THINK OF NOTHING ELSE I DID WRONG OR DIFFRENT.

In all of these years living with them, I saw my mother as a strange person. I had no motherly connection with her. My anty to me, was my real mother. Whenever we went visiting my mother in very rare occasions, it was always awkward.

Well long story short, I found myself back in my mother's arms, to a new environment i knew nothing about and starting to learn to live with a woman called my mother. I was naive, had no choice but to accept realities on ground. Do you know that feeling of living in a pouch house and wake up next morning in a 1 room surrounded by thick bushes. Yes that was the change.

I was enrolled into a school, my uncle was repeatedly forced to send/ pay my schoolfees until i was in ss3 and i called him to inform him about waec enrolment. He told me on the phone ''all the exams i have been writing, how many have i passed'' and that was it. He never sent a dime anymore meanwhile at this point his children, my cousins were already miles ahead of me suddenly in education. When i left the home, the eldest son went to canada to school, the second who is my agemate was already in a private uni in Nigeria and the 3rd who i am senior to with a year is preparing to go to ukraine for school and years later the last born who i spoonfed and chewed meat for attended uni in Ghana.

Well long story short, since my uncle had failed me. My mother said it was time i go to my father. My father was old retired pensioner. My mother took me to him, as expected awkward encounter. I have never known this man, no memory of him. Well he said he would find my enrolment money and he did, he later passed on a year or two later.

I enrolled waec and pased in one sitting, thanks to miracle centres.

PS: i must say i was never an intelligent student. i wasn't even average but i wasn't the poorest and neither of my uncles children were better. We were all poor educationally.

Long story short another uncle sprang up and paid for my university diploma which i later acquiried.


YEARS LATER my uncle and aunty decided to move back to our home town, please note the home my mother stayed in was this my uncles home. It was the boy quarters, the main house was not even in sight as at the time i was returned to my mother. We did series of bush clearing and snakes killing lol. well my uncle returned home town after retirement and setup the main structure ( a 5 bed room duplex) and thats were they lived while i and my mother lived in the BQ.

I WAS very angry with myself that i happened to still live with them AGAIN, i needed to get out of their sight, my condition was bad. i was a mere teacher to some rickety school. In all of this my uncle's wife always ensured she knew what i was upto and she derived satisfaction when she knew i wasn't doing better than her kids who were all abroad. i turned to their errand boy again after years of neglect. i was very angry with myself and needed to save to get out of the house.

Well i did manage to save up and leave the house and i promised myself never to return to that house. i felt neglected, i felt they sent me away because the goodthings were coming and they couldn't bear to see me share in them because to me they were my parents.


YEARS LATER, my aunty was sick with cancer
please note before i left the home, my uncle and aunty always sent me to travel journeys to get them medicines from a monastry. i attended such trips severally and ran other seperate errands but i never dared to drive their car talkless ask for the key. i always washed their car in the mornings, i would never also dare to see myself in the living room of the duplex with the remote in hand. when they moved back to the hometown, that fear in my childhood started again but this time i was mature enough to know i would never m amount to anything in life if i continued this again hence the reason i needed to move out.

So my aunty sickness grew worse, the husband flew her to india and back but the sickness grew worse. in all of this cancer times i never went back to the house to see her. I only heard of her conditions from my siblings (my half siblings, my mother was married to 3 men in diffrent years and she had only me for my father, another for another man and 3 for another man, i was the lastborn of all).

Then my aunty died. The day she died, i saw her in my dreams and she was crying saying ''she forgave me''. A day or two later i went to my sisters store and she told me of my aunty death, i went to my rented apartment and cried profusely. i later summouned courage and maybe sympathy and went to my uncles house and i cried before my uncle and told him to forgive me too for all abandoning them all this while.

NOW ABOUT MY AUNTY SAYING SHE FORGAVE ME IN THE DREAM: i did not do her any wrong neither did i wish death on her. All her life her greatest fear was maybe i would become greater than her children. She loved these comparisms, i was never wicked to her, i never cursed her, i was never rude to her unless i some instances when she sends me errands and i tell her i have other things to do.... Otherwise i never was negative to her instead she is the one nobody likes, by nobody i mean my uncles family. Nobody talks good of her, they say she controls my uncle and also squandered his money but in all of this i never spoke of my experiences living with them and somethings they did wrong that made me feel diffrent, i did not even tell you guys neither have i told my mother ever. i don't see them as anything that would stop my growth in life. i hate to talk about the bad in people.

WELL BACK TO REASON THE TOPIC WAS CREATED, why do i keep repeatedly seeing her in my dreams even after her death and its always on a negative role. its either in the dream she still plays mother, or she is gossip about me in the dream or she is against me in the dream, just think of anything negative in a dream and she will be the mastermind. This is really beginning to worry me. Why is she still attached to me in the dreams?

After she died, her husband, my uncle started his own sickness but has been sick for years now, he is bed ridden. The family has repeatedly asked him if there is anything he and his late wife did in the past to amount such sickness were he is living in pain but refused to die and he would not answer. One time they said, he said ''it was out of ignorance'' and thats all he ever said about anything.

It will also be good to note that of all my 4 cousin brothers and i today, i am the most successful by far.

i just finished my house (a 3bedroom, 2 bedroom, 1 bedrrom bungalow)
january this year i bought my 3rd car.
i travel round the world effortlessly.
YES I DID TURN OUT FAR BETTER THAN MY COUSINS WHO YOU KNOW HAD THE BEST EDUCATION.

I don't want to talk of their conditions, lets concentrate on me.


So this is my much writeup... I had to skip many things so you can bear to read but please be free to ask me questions.

Why do I repeatedly see my aunty in my dreams.... just before this writeup, i had just woken up from another dream she was present in, she was whispering to the ears of a very good friend of mine and then the friends turned to me and was like '' ah cahrles na so you be''?...and i was angry and was like '' how can you believe something someone you just met told you against i your best friends word'' and minutes later dream ended and i woke up.

At this point i am thinking of going spiritual to know why this is happening but this will be a first in my life. There are two popular places i have never being in my life until lately last year... One is a shrine and the other is a police station. Last year was my first time to be in a police station.
I was driving my unregistered car. That was my offence.