Misplaced priorities!!!... Too much money, time, and konji...

Na you go still come here later complaining of how your "wife" is stressing you out!!!

You better focus on securing your future and destiny, before you enter one chance!!!

29 years!
You think say you be small boy.
To born early too good for Nigeria.
You born@ 30 years of age,if you dey 50 years and your pikin dey 20 years, you nor go like am?
Arrange your girl enter, you don reach to born.
Nor fear!
God go help you.

Up coming father loading..... by this time next year ur a daddy, my advice for you is to hustle if God destiny that d girl will be ur wife Notting will stop it,dont allow her to stay with you for now.

Angelfrost:
Misplaced priorities!!!... Too much money, time, and konji...

Na you go still come here later complaining of how your "wife" is stressing you out!!!

You better focus on securing your future and destiny, before you enter one chance!!!

You sef see am ba?

Firstnebo:


Is this arguable?

You started unnecessary argument.
Open a dictionary and check up the meaning of the word ANGEL
He never mentioned bible

cruxgemmata:


I didnt see where i mentioned Bible here.

Well, bless your heart you did not.

Bless me too I did

Hmmmm!!!

I don't know why young struggling guys are just too obsessed about girl friends and women. Oga, please focus on your hustle first.

Staying in a single room is an indication that you are yet to find your feet in Lagos. Your major concern should be on how to develop your capabilities and work harder towards a better future and not one inconsequential girl that will later abandon you.

Your scenario is common with company's drivers, office assistants, artisans, security people, dispatch riders, apprentice, cleaners, buying and selling merchandise - Do your profession falls in any of the categories mentioned?

Those kind of people sabi spend on girls that will always abandon them. They will train girls in school who will abandon them for a well to do guys.

Oga, if you are already in a hole, please stop digging further

GUY , PLEASE DONT TRY IT,
i made the same mistake in 2017 and that lead to the end of my relationship.
She came to Lagos and started misbehaving,
let her stay on her own and be free to take decisions of her own, immediately she parks to ur house when you guys are not married yet, bro i bet u, u will regret it.

you just want to be fucking every day, if not you should be able to advise your self. why do you think you wont get her pregnant? just see your self as a married man

donbachi:
To live with pregnant woman don dey hungry u.

As in...

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

Would you allow your sister or daughter stay with a guy whose only intention is to use her as a sex object?

Geeksamir:
Hmmm
Just kukuma tell us that u want free kpekus

Lol, maybe he doesn't know that this is what he wants yet. That "coupling" lifestyle dey hungry the guy. But on a second look, you said it "free Kpekus" he is after-- Am just wondering, if he pays rent and feeds the girl, it means he has paid some dues and free to hit the honeypot as reward. At the end nothing is free. Even the ones we call girlfriends are just upgraded takers to. You end up paying for every ounce of "Kpekus" u chop

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

It's well with Nigeria.
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Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

YES,OP

Davash222:
Hmmmmm..
Egungun be careful.

Staying with a Nigerian girlfriend is like staying with the devil.

naso
And staying with Nigerian boyfriend is like staying with Jesus,okwa ya?

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

"HML in advance'. But what sensible girl would leave such a great opportunity to serve her country and come live with some guy she's not married to? Even if you're married, wouldn't you encourage her to go for service first?

Not a good path you're trailing cos, you'll end up impregnating her and you know you're not ready to be responsible for such. So drop the idea and let her go serve in peace. Get her footings and you both can plan towards being together as man and wife not boyfriend and girlfriend.

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

You don't need any advice, nothing confusing here, plus u already know what you wanna do. Kindly leave space for nairalanders who truly need advice so we can help out accordingly.
Thank you

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

In my honest opinion, don't bring her with you for the following reasons:

-your instinct is against it
-chances of pregnancy
-more burden to you

Nevertheless cohabiting also has its own advantages:

- more closeness and intimacy
- A chat mate and helper

However, a more better option would for her serve in another state while she visit you as time permits.

Eulalia:


"HML in advance'. But what sensible girl would leave such a great opportunity to serve her country and come live with some guy she's not married to? Even if you're married, wouldn't you encourage her to go for service first?

Not a good path you're trailing cos, you'll end up impregnating her and you know you're not ready to be responsible for such. So drop the idea and let her go serve in peace. Get her footings and you both can plan towards being together as man and wife not boyfriend and girlfriend.

Uncle you no understand his post....he said he is thinking of working her posting to lagos, so she could serve there.

collinsfhk:


Are you for real? As a Christian, he should pray whether to stay with girlfriend or not? What kind of Christianity are you practicing? Please repent. Thank you

God bless you Jare . .
Some ppl will Sha comment, for comment sake

Oga na express u want enter so o

Better don't try it..or else

My advise is for your girlfriend:

Do NOT stay with this man! Do not stay with this man!

You are already anticipating a lot of problems that could come up. Avoidable problems if you are as mature as you all claim to be. You cannot be in the same house and be doing fend for yourself and I will fend for myself among-st other things.

You are simply not ready, even emotionally.

Ningen:
“Self contain” is meant to contain one person.

Inviting her under your roof implies she's your responsibility but you're too broke to carry that burden. Don't start something you can't finish.

U are right about every other thing but one....Self contain doesn't mean it supposed to support one person. It Called self contain because it has the three facilities (toilet, bathroom and kitchen). It means it complete in itself. It contains the other thing hitherto mentioned hence the tag, Self contain.

Sinzumarv:
Be a nice guy and just allow her come stay with you. Congratulations daddy Femi

chukwunweikeemi:
My brother,co-habitation is a sin.If you love this girl and would like to marry her,then let her remain with her parents/guardians until you come and take ger hand in marriage.Then the both of you can live together.Runaway from premarital sex and don't put yourself in comprosing situations and God will bless you as you obey him.

I second this. It's the truth even though its not difficult to practice.

Toluwashe778:


bros, to the ops, he is trying to render assistance (i hope u get that)
the reasons why i suggested he should pray is that if his faith did not condemn it and if he is sure there will not be problem afterward then it is fine. or did ur bible not tell u about helping others?

He has a good intention towards her but the risk is also high

Can a man carry fire next to his chest and his clothes not be burned?--proverbs 6:27

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

single but not searching


U are very wise

Warlord2012:

Uncle you no understand his post....he said he is thinking of working her posting to lagos, so she could serve there.

I understood perfectly well.
Work her posting to Lagos so he can harbor her? Isn't it? Thats my drift. Cohabiting with someone you're not married to; to which he's already expressing fears as he knows things might go south against his initial plans.

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

Ok.

Ishilove:

You sef see am ba?

Yes ni!!! Some people just think sex is food! Like it's a much needed daily nutritional supplement.

Leave the guy... This "marriage" he hungers for will be his undoing!!!

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

Its like you want to bring drama to your life...

Concentrate on building yourself in your own space....let her build herself in her own space..............