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It seems everyone has experienced this blind date thingy, here my own! I've had loads which was fun and worth remembering except one!
I dropped my number on a Radio Programme in Abeokuta *I stay in Ibadan* and lo and behold series of calls started draining my phone battery, after doing some series of interviews for the girls I pick one *don't remember her name*. She had a lovely voice and was always on my mind for abt 3 weeks we arranged to meet; I closed early from work hoping to meet an average looking lady. I got to the bus-stop, put a call through to her and I saw a lady from afar with a bow-leg as round as *dont knw hw to describe it*. I just changed the story from I'm @ your bus-stop to I won't be able to make it today, will call you later! I was so disappointed!

I'm too ugly to notice if they're really intimidated by looks et al..... My submission therefore is that good looks don't keep girls! *Guyz Please Get Money* that's what will make you a more responsible man!

#PeAcE

Bootylicious: I go for dis!!!!! Cut them off and when ure financially Ok u continue fending for them, if u fail in d future that same mother of urs will turn her back against u,God helps and ur siblings bcome more successful,trust me den ure in for it... struggle 4urself for now ure just a kid and no matter how small ur mom shld b d one trying her best not u..........

Thanks a mil.........

Abbey2sam: You mean all your relatives are self-servicer??

Not all, some cousins of mine check on us once in a while. But for uncles and aunties they don't seem to care..... I understand they have their families too.
Losing a father can really chase people you share the same room with especially family members away!

amacastel: My der my advise may be ruthless bt I must talk to u out of xperience in ma own case I ran away nobody heard of me till am tru wit ma nursing sch I rekindle contact wen I am working with a general hosp b4 I went back for my post graduate midwifery, I belive ur siblings are up to 20yrs they should work and help u so with ur mum if they don't want to work pls lock ur heart away from everybody and fight for ur sef till u balance if not u wil not make it cos if u die ur mum wil survive. For ur mum she should work @ ur age is not mandatory to give money to ur mum she is the 1 dt is supose to give u
u don't have anything to discus with anybody take ur action if not u wil be frustrated after words pls RUN RUN RUN that's the best option

Thanks for the understanding you've shown. My immediate bro is 21 and d girl will be 18 soon.
I honestly appreciate your words. May His grace keep us all.....

Kanwulia: First of all, A BIG KUDOS for all you have done.
You should realize your mom is terrible with financial matters.
You are THE ONLY HOPE FOR YOUR FAMILY right now.

You need to SIT down with your mom and have a heart-to-heart talk letting her know EXACTLY THE DANGERS OF EXTINGUISHING HER ONLY CANDLE IN THE WIND!!!!

Then PUT HER ON A BUDGET!!!!

She has LIVED her live to her fullest capacity!
The BEST is yet to come for you!
DON'T ALLOW ANYONE TO DERAIL YOUR LIFE AND DESTINY. . . . . like a NAIRALAND THREAD!!!!

I really appreciate your contribution.
Thanks a mil!

Dreamflyin: You either cut off everyone and forge on in your life or sink with everyone. You had done enough for your family. Live your life, and answer all the bad names they'll call you, but i promise you that you'll never regret it.

Hmmm........ I do appreciate your words!

Kikiani: ok!nt ur famil issues per say..i mean he/she shld b d closest persn 2knw abt ur struggles..help MAY come..just sayn tho..

Gotcha! Thanks anyway

Kikiani: from whatever u earn monthly give her somthn tangible..that is d best u cn do 4ha..if she kips incuring debts dats ha biz..let ha sort that out..no disrespect buh ur mum is wicked!(dnt u hav a bf?or gud frnds who cn hlp u?relatives nko?)

I'm male! And relatives aren't an option cos they're all wankers!
But will you put your family issues on a bf/gf?

carzola: Get ur mother a sugar daddy!....

You must be a product of a sugar daddy!
#growup

D sage: Firstly, what is LAPO?

Man, have you ever try to know what she's been using the money for? Does she still have mother,father or other children depending on her? Is she working at all? is she a business woman or doing a wrong business?

The reason for the above questions is that,I don't see any reason why an old/middle-age woman with no responsibility would be incurring a debt to the point of making you crying out. I can only give you a genuine advise if you answer the above questions.

Thanks for your response.
LAPO is a devilish microcredit scheme, devilish in the sense that most people who they borrow money struggle to pay it back.

Her parents are late. And me and my 2 siblings who ought to depend on her aren't.

She have a school she runs, but its not really strong, av advised her a couple of times to get a job but she didn't yield.

She's in her late 40's.........

Pacify: Make up your mind on how much you would be willing to give her, it could be monthly or quaterly...
As much as she has tried alone for raising you up, it is her responsibility to do so as you never asked to be brought into this world in the first place.

Getting your education is paramount, if you lose focus now, you may find it difficult to get it back.

Save for your school and talk to her about it, if she's the caring mother that she is, she will understand...

Thanks for your words.
I've talked to her but she said I'm stingy! I give something monthly, but my concern is that she's always borrowing money that is not spent on me or my siblings and she expects me to pay part of it for her and I tell you, it is embarrassing and disturbing as it is affecting almost every sphere of my life.

ammyluv2002: Nna, save money and set up a business for her....

Think about it! I'm still in school, my siblings stay with me, I pay the bills, I also have my life and I don't earn 50k! How much do I save monthly?

Thanks anyways!

Hello People, I really need ur help in respect to this stuff I'm going to tlk about.
I'm a 24 and I losed my Dad when I was for and I've got 2 siblings, a boy and a girl who is the last child.
My mum did her best sending us to the best primary school in Ibadan and also tried her in contributing her quota towards our secondary education; but that was all she did!
I started working immediately I finished my secondary school education in 2007 and I'm still working till date, I'm currently running an ND programme @ a Polytechnic and will be through this year.
The challenge I'm facing is that my mum is always incurring debts (LAPO et al) that wasn't used on either me or my siblings education or upbringing. She's always complaining that I don't give her money even after trying to help her with loads of assistance I can't start sharing here. In 2008, I was going to seat for GCE but because I lent my mum from the money I was going to use to purchase the form I couldn't write the exam cos my mum didn't return the money till date.
N.B. I stay alone with my siblings.
Please matured advice are what I need from you guyz. Thanks a mil!

Hmmmm........ Where do I start? I've had loads of trying+crying times when it comes to breakups, but the most painful was with my first girlfriend as a matured guy *still young though* ........ She had another fine boy behind my back that was gently servicing her machine! *painful*!!!
I still love her shaaaa but she told me bluntly that she ain't feeling me anymore, I cried for days and f***cked a chick some weeks later!
#SinglewillMing le

Any student of the Polytechnic Ibadan Continuing Education Centre (Annexe) on Nairaland? Let's hook up here......... #StaySafe

Most of these workers feel they've arrived not wanting to know the manner of people they're interacting with. They talk to people anyhow, frustrate one's mission to their office. I also make sure I'm fully prepared for their antics once I have a business over there. I'd advice you do same! #PeaceBeUntoYouAll

Itsekiri...... My mum did her best to make sure we speak and understand it!

For those saying Education first; if I may ask, does academic excellence secures a child financial future? Football all the way>>>>>>

Hello, I'm so much interested in the offer. I have written a couple of article that have been printed in a "National Daily" and will send 'em upon request. I can be reached on cliffordemmanuel@mtnnigeria.blackberry.com. Thanks

I'm sure He's as confused as any other thing, I don't blame the man; He came in @ a very wrong time..... I pray He doesn't start tellin us he didn't av a shoe while growing up!

Please Nairalander I really want to relocate to North Cyprus to Hustle for some time, how doI go by it as i learnt i will need an Invitation letter. Can anybody help with that?

Please I want to relocate to Cyprus what kind of visa do I apply for??

Everybody that was given that Award deserves it

WELL, I THINK NIGERIA OF NOWADAYS IS QUITE SERIOUS, I'M A 20 YEAR OLD GUY, WITH THE KNOWLEDGE OF COMPUTER GRAPHICS DESIGN AND I NEED A JOB THAT WILL GIVE TIME FOR MY ACADEMICS. I WILL APPRECIATE IF ANYONE CAN GET A PLACE FOR ME.
I RESIDE IN IBADAN. Contacts: emmanok24@yahoo.com, 07064753126.

thanks