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Trust me, I've witnessed this incident repeat itself the number of times like I've watched the TITANIC, the result is the same; It always end in tears.

Don't judge me, this is my style of writing and you'll see it often.

Her name is...Rachel. She has put the most of her youthful years in her career and maintaining herself for the perfect man, which is commendable. Highly commendable.

She attended all the Relationship Seminar in town and online, with her friends. She armed herself with what these motivational warriors on marital matters had to say, especially the women.

Glory be to God, she finally found a guy or she was found by one decent Yoruba demon.

You don't know how harmful the relationship advice you've been taking in is until you're in a serious relationship. (Indaboski, 2007)

Below are some of the mistakes/mindsets ;

1. Embracing the spirit of OPINION when with his family.

I read some info. on Twirra, how a girl who was soon to be married into this Anambra family. The mother of the guy with excitement prepared all manner of food expecting her. She came, ate and told the guy (without being asked), "there's no pepper."

The relationship ended that day! Wouldn't expect less. Who does that?
Free food. Zero opinion! Nobody asked for your opinion, sister. Some of them have been single so long that they don't know these things. It's harrowing!



2. Acting All-Madamish Before Wedding.

You visited his family house, his younger sister misbehaved and you are with him browsing online for punishment to dish out! Haba! Him too will look at you and say to himself, "You sure say nor be man I wan marry so?" Where is the humane-part of you? Where is the caring nature you embody? This is not office and the girl didn't come late to work.

You're supposed to be pleading for the poor girl; that way, you win both hearts.



3. Never, Never, Never visiting him.

You see enh, if you don't visit him, some other lady will.

I'm talking about someone you want to marry, not some f**k boy! Most of the time, these mindsets are due to religious beliefs and parental influence. What will happen will still happen? How can you be living at point A and he at Point C, 10 minutes drive and you're saying, "I don't want to fall into sin." But, you have Love Machine and fingers.


Visit the man you want to marry, Sister Cordelia. I won't tell Pastor.



4. Overnight Upgrading Of Your Needs in a Man

The other day, I toasted you and you accepted. You said you liked me for who I am and what I do.
Two weeks later, you start complaining about how my job won't feed us both and also how I'm not so built like Anthony Joshua.
"Our ladies have run mad again". Didn't you see and hear me on our first date?

You agreed because you were thirsty turning thirty.
That's horseshit, agreement is agreement. We die here!


5. Habitually gossiping other people around him.

When a lady really likes you and is desperate for you, she freely talks about everyone and anyone.That's 90% true!

It becomes a turn-off when she talks about other people to him day and night. Like wtff, don't you have any other thing to say?

Him: Shade, do you have Corel Draw on your system?

Her: Not since that idiaat Samson, who cheated on her girlfriend and he left her after doing 53 abortions for him, mistakenly uninstalled it from my laptop...and that's just an intro! Eleru gbe ru è



6. Lying about everything until after wedding

Why build on a faulty foundation? How can you tell him no man has ever touched you so he shouldn't. He held himself and married you only for him to be welcomed with BORE-HOLE. It's unacceptable. Some men will NEVER forgive you because you can kill. Who then has been doing it with you? He won't stop thinking. Love has died before it started.

Come plain and simple. Let him love you for who are. Don't allow your 30+ friends advice you against letting go of such a catch. He is not a fish, biko. Respect him by telling him all he needs to know.




7. Putting him to test.

Even the Bible advised, "Thou shall not test the Lord thy God."

If you test your head to answer a difficult question, it will fail you. Don't test him by;

i. Bringing your hungry friends with you on a date.

ii. Asking him for huge amount of money to see if he's stingy.

iii. Using a different Social Media account to test his loyalty to you. If Peter could deny Jesus. If God turned His face away from Jesus. Who are you? Stop being over- entitled.

Lots more...Don't test his self-control by slapping him. Lols. You may not like the outcome.


Well, this is my first post and I hope you don't take it personal but see ways to pick what you like or hate and move on.