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Lifedonor:
I will have to go straight to the point.

The lockdown due to covid 19 made my girl friend and I bond even closer to the extent she practically was almost living with me. She only leave my place to her house (not too far from mine) just to change her clothes or her other items as the case maybe.
Sometime along the line I fell ill and she was very much helpful.

Fast forward to early May, I discovered she had become too glued to her phone. We would be seeing a movie on TV and her phone will be with her (chatting) at a point I complained. This got worse to the extent that when I wake up in the night say 1AM this girl is still up charting.

Two days ago I went to the hospital for my final check up and I left with the keys since she wasn't around when I left the house. When I got back I found her small Nokia phone on the table and I decided to go through it.

The messages I found there are things I won't want to talk about but the major one that promoted this thread is that I saw a message from her choir member telling her that he is on his way to church already and that she should come fast before the program starts so they can meet. I went through his previous messages with her and lo and behold they have been dating for a month now.

Guys when she got back I threatened fire and brimstone and booommm! The confession.
They usually meet an hour before choir practises and they went behind the church towards the generator house to kiss touch and romance that was the reason she always left the house so Early.

Do you guys know that we had a very good sex that same day she left to the church to kiss this guy. Do you know she bathed in my house, she used my deodorant, she ate my food and wore the clothes I bought for her. Apparently she kissed and romanced two guys in less than 3hrs.

This is the second time she is cheating on me. I know quite sure there could be more but this is the only one she agreed to may be cos there was a text evidence.

She has been pleading and begging. But if she could do this even in the church and on a day I was in the hospital ... I am thinking of quitting. Pls advise me

She is 22 in her finals the guy is 25 same university (I live in a university town)

I have met her parents and I have verbally told her that I would marry her. If not for the way 2020 turned out I wanted settling down November this year. We have dated for 2yrs

She even spoke to my mom in the morning of the same day.

A chief fornicator accusing a fornicator of cheating on him for fornicating with another fornicator. God is watching you with 72D.
The wages of sin is death, bro. As obedience leads to blessings, disobedience leads to curse. Choose blessing so you may live.

ijustdey:
https://thenationonlineng.net/three-brothers-kill-sibling-over-proceeds-from-mothers-burial/

And the mother as she got to heaven suddenly saw her son beside her; Remigius, wetin you dey find for here.
He'll then answer; mama, I dey follow you for back na.
Too bad for the family though, the love of money is indeed the root of all evil. Guys beware.

Tonyclems:
To God be the glory, great things he has done.
After so many cancellations of date, I finally said yes I do to my beautiful wife on the 23rd of may 2020.

Lala beg help ur boy push am to promise land.

She's really pretty. The Lord bless your home on every side. Wishing you and your new bride marital bliss. Stay blessed, bro.

As oil price don drop. It's time to quickly review salaries by slashing it, so politicians can still have a big pay after all.
Nothing should touch the politician's renumerations, according to them.
This will not happen, Ngige. Review the politician's stipends instead.

Ego is one of the reasons. Since distrust and unfaithfulness have already set in, this has placed the relationship on a wrong foundation. And you see, man is characterized at looking at a situation on long term basis. Once he sees the long term isn't going to be favourable, he withdraws.
Long term effect could be; akward behavioural tendencies of the child as he/she grows which might be different from the man's behavior.
Another one is sending the child to school with his money and then, another man coming to reap where he has not sown at the long run.
Also the Dad to the child may use the opportunity to visit the house his child lives to see his child, which may not go well with the man of the house as that could spark another relationship between his wife and her ex and we all know, men are quite possessive of their wives. Except both of them reach a consensus as to how they can raise that child, that relationship is definitely going to be a complex one and if this kind of issue is not sorted out quickly, their home is not going to be a blissful one.

Who is May D as well as Cynthia Morgan? We don't know them here in Austria.

Too bad for her. The separation is better than being killed while trying to save one's marriage.
I really respect the solid advice she gave the son. I could feel the warmth and closeness between a mother and son.
A great lesson l received too; no matter how long you stay in another man's country, you will still be regarded as a second class citizen.
Let's always remember home.

Madness everywhere. A wolf in a sheep's clothing. Thanks goodness for the security cameras. I'm certain he will be severely dealt with by the law.

traihit:
I'm sorry sir but I don't think we can ever be delivered from the hands of our politicans because the spirit controlling the politicians is the same controlling the common man. The common man just don't have the platform to express it well. Until we change our value system...

You're right to an extent.
We can be delivered from their greedy hands through our collective efforts.
The common man issue will be dealt with later. Right now, we're talking about Obasa and other geedy politicians.

So traveling to Canada is just overhyped.
With divine providence, l believe one can make it, bro.
This might be an act of discouragement, though. But it's the bitter truth one should embrace and work on if one wants to migrate to Canada.

Skimena, I tell you. Na you be the real man. What you did was somewhat hard but you see, at times, one just have to let go of some people's frailties after all we all have our shortcomings too.
As one popular slogan says "let love lead". The man has learned a great lesson by your exceptional singular act.

Gather your life first, bro. Get your bearing about life. Be fulfilled to a certain extent and leave the poor girl alone.
There are several fishes in the river and you can get one after you have become successful.
It's obvious the girl needs someone who can guide her through about life and relationship as she lacks good orientation. Be the one to offer that proper advice. Stay focused, bro

Some people prefer evening newspaper. Some people prefer suya newspaper. The important thing is for the paper to be read.
You read the former after work while you read the latter after eating your suya.
If you don't know what l mean, then it's up to you.

A warped way of stealing. But I'm not surprised because you never thought you would be caught, after all that has been the norm in our system.
I pray we shall be delivered from the hands of our greedy politicians as the spirit of greed has greatly eaten deep in their hearts.

The spirit of greed at work in the life of another 'entrusted' politician.
The people voted for you based on confidence but your ulterior motives will not allow you to deliver good governance.
Shame on you.

Donpaper:
It's not everything one has to be religious. And God is not a computer, He doesn't always talk that way. You can pray and not even hear anything, if you are not being used to following God. As many that are led by the Spirit, not those who call God when they only need answers. For God leads by the inward spirit. That aside God told me two years ago to invest in my biz , at that time 30k, it was big then to me, no results for 13months, after then, results started coming and in less than 10months I am in 7 better figures. He just told me again to invest about 2m into the same line of business. I didn't waste time, cos if 30k became millions in months, what will millions become?

But you wanted HIM to guide you and HE actually did because you were sensitive to the Spirit. That's the point l am driving to the op. Either by committing it into God's hands by praying or by being sensitive to the Spirit, the op should be encouraged to do that, otherwise, he will engage in a business he will later regret.

shaddie0241:
Nothing wey no go see, commit 300k to God's hand so He'll come and invest for u. Kukuma go carry am go give ur pastor. Isokuso somebody

That's my piece of advice. Do you have any issue about that. He's left to take or leave it. And
you don't have to quote me, bro because the advice wasn't for you. The last time I checked what I wrote, I never mentioned taking him to my pastor. Get a life,bro and stop flexing your muscles over somebody's matter

Can l add number 9.
9). The visionless man: These type does not have a purpose in life. He lacks direction. Anything, any work, and anywhere goes for him. When a man doesn't have anything he is pursuing in life, he will definitely achieve nothing. A man should be full of ambition with some goals he wants to achieve per time.
With a visionless man, even the wife may be somewhat stagnated. Hence, it is advisable that any woman should ensure her man is purpose-driven, otherwise she will be unfulfilled.

The spirit of Mammon has taken over the lives of our youth. We cannot serve two masters. Pease God, deliver us from this spirit of greed ravaging our land.

I thought a popular clergy, Bishop Oyedepo, to be precise clamoured for it few weeks ago but some people spoke against him. Now that their master has spoken in the person of Trump, let's see what will happen.
Among other things, we also need prayers to subdue this pandemic. This is achieved if God's houses are opened for saints to gather and pray.

Seuntek:
Good afternoon fellow nairalanders. Please advice me a viable business i can start with 300k. I am a private school teacher and I'm not ready to quit now until my business can sustain me. I work 7 to 5pm. Thanks my dear fellow nairalanders.

why not commit into God's hands. Trust me, tell HIM to lead you to the right business and HE will definitely do. HE said in the good book that "HE will guide along the path of righteousness for HIS name sake". Stay connected to HIM, bro. My two cents.

May his soul rest in peace. And the good Lord will grant the people he left behind the strength to bear the loss.

Her pregnancy, her business.

iamyemiakins:
SEVEN THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN MEETING YOUR PARTNER'S PARENTS FOR THE FIRST TIME.

This is a major step in a relationship, so the first impression can be a lasting impression, believe me when I say that.

1. PLAYING WITH YOUR PHONE

Avoid being on your phone, texting, checking your mail, facebooking or chatting. Sometimes most of us do it unknowingly. It is true some chicks do that just to keep themselves busy, but your spouse parents might feel dismissed and think you are not interested in getting to know them, especially, So avoid your phone at that first time.

2. LIE TO MAKE YOURSELF LOOK GOOD

Being fake instead of who you truly are is a mistake that can upset your partner's parents, and even your partner. Remember, they may get to know who you are later or in your absence, and it could really hurt your relationship. If you have told your partner the truth about you and your partner has accepted the kind of person you are, his/her parents should be able to do same. So there is no need of lying to attract their likeness.

3. BRINGING UP A CONTROVERSIAL TOPIC FOR DISCUSSION

Please don't bring up a topic like Religion, Politics, or s3x for discussion, even if you know that your believe are in line with your partner's parents. Some people still consider it bad for bringing up such topic for discussion before them. Concentrate on getting to know them more rather than those topics. If they keep discussing such topic among themselves, do more of listening.

4. DON'T GIVE LONG SPEECHES, MAKE YOUR SPEECHES BRIEF

Despite the fact that they are very interested in getting to know you, they also do not want to spend the entire time listening to your life story. Don't tell them stories about how your father divorced your mother when you were a teenager, how your community people burnt a woman to ashes for insulting her hubby, and all that. Make your speeches brief and interesting.

5. PUBLIC DISPLAY AFFECTION

Yes, public display of affection can be wonderful,but there is appropriate time for it. This does not mean you have to become cold, distant and robotic. Feel relaxed, interact with them gently, smile and be friendly, but make it neutral, rather than behaving as if you are desperate to have them as in laws.

6. DON'T FINISH ANY FOOD GIVEN TO YOU

Whether the food is small or plenty, and no matter how delicious it is. Never ask for alcohol if you are asked to make a choice of drink. Don't be carried away. This is very important.

7. DON'T PASS THE NIGHT THERE

No matter the persuation, don't pass the night in their house on your first day of visit.


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@7. I passed the night in their house. Infact, she won't allow me to Lodge in the hotel. She's so accommodating, till now.
8. Be neat and simple in your looks. First appearance, they say, matters most.

They didn't give her sexual orientation ni.
Where are the older women in that household. They have their shares of blame.
In any case, this is a classic example of child marriage gone wrong.

One of the disadvantages for naija ladies abroad.

Kyak. So irritating. On top wetin.
Two wrongs don't make a right. You would have called him and settle the issue amicably. It's all about recognizing one's frailties and settle issue without hurting anybody.
This is better than killing him, though.
Las, las una go still settle.