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illicit:
Buried my mum

oh oh. So sorry about that. May her soul rest in peace. Be strong for your loved ones.

hotwax:
My lovely girlfriend is a sweet woman who always give me sense of assurance. She is very decent, caring and respectful. She is so firm that it took 4 months before we could talk about romance or trying it out.

She is well known in my family circle. I base in Lagos, she stays with her parents in ibadan, but she usually come around when my family members are having a gathering. She will cook for us, do the chores. Everyone grew found of her. My siblings do even ask of her. “Where is Anu? Take care of the lady ooo”. My mom who hardly get along with our girlfriends always ask about her. All these made me to be sure that’s the woman I was going to marry. After all, my people already knew her and they are getting along well. No complain from any angle

The Problem

Late October 2021, I informed her that I would be attending a ceremony in ibadan where stays. She was exited, she even told me she missed me, the kisses, sxx etc. She can’t wait to see me again. I was excited too.
I texted her the hotel address when I got to Ibadan.

She came, we hug, and she started kissing me, but we later calmed down afterall we are just seeing and we still have the whole night. So no rushing. She told me she saw domino pizza opposite the hotel that she is hungry for it. And this is where the devil came in.
She took some cash and prepared to go and buy the piza. She was walking out towards my hotel room door, so I stood to accompany her to the door, more importantly help her with the door. She opened the door before I got there, but I was behind her. A guy also came out from a room not directly opposite mine, (I actually knew when the guy checked in. He was dragging his trawl on the room walkway, so I guess he was a new guest).

As my babe came out, the guy was coming out of his room giving my babe seductive look. Immediately he saw there was a guy behind her, he quickly looked away. He went out of the hotel via the walkway, my babe also followed him because they were coincidentally going towards the same direction.

Truth be told, I never suspected anything. I was even mocking the guy in my mind, my girlfriend is the last person you want to mess with.
She came back with the pizza, sat on the bed, munch while she was busy pressing her phone. I suspected something must have crop up with the way she was busy chatting on whatsapp. She gave me no attention. So I joined her on the bed. With sad face she asked if I have tissue, I asked what happened, she said her period just came now. I said the bathroom has a tissue paper. She went in spent minutes in the bath, came out of the bath, to pick another pant in her bag. (She came with clothes, because she want to spend few days with me). She went back to the bathroom wash, did some other stuff.

She joined me on the bed, put my hand on her padded private. She used tissue paper as sanitary pad. She said sorry, I Bleep up. I said no she shouldn’t feel sorry. Her menstruation is my joy. Afterall you are not here because of sex. We have a lot to talk about tonite. So relax lets enjoy the night. She then told me she can’t spend the night. She has to go on the same day, before evening. She gave me reason that when her menstrual cramp starts she always boil water and other things. Hotel is not the right place for it. I agreed. 6pm, she packed and started going, I was busy on my laptop fixing my office assignments. I stood to see her off. She insisted that I should continue. No need. But I insisted, as I saw her off to the door, she insisted again, go and do your work na. I will take a bike just at the entrance, I don’t know what happened, I just agreed saw her walk out the walkway, I banged my door and continue my work on the laptop.

Then few seconds later, even if she wanted to get a bike, she will still be waiting outside for one, I remembered that the plate I used for lunch still has some leftover food and if not discarded will constitute foul stench in my room. So I picked up this plate to try and place it outside my door so housekeepers could pick it up.

I opened my room door, bend down to drop the plate at my door foot, I noticed someone standing at the door indirectly opposite mine. The person was knocking gently and calling on mobile too. I guess the person is trying to call the occupant of the room. But he/she was being careful not to knock the door loudly. I always mind my business, I said to myself, why do I care, this is a hotel. So I attempted to close my door. But then, something occurred to me, the person is a female and she wore white shirt, exactly like my babe. Out of curiosity, I looked back what I saw made me sick for days. The memory keep hitting my heart like dagger.

It was my woman, I didn’t know she saw me and became frozen looking at me praying I do not look back. But I looked back and saw her. She was shaking with her mouth widely opened. Then while the looking competition was on, the door opened and the guy opened the door waiting for her to come inside, when she didn’t go inside, the guy must have noticed she is looking at someone on the walkway, the guy also came out to see who she was looking at, he saw me and quickly closed and jammed his door.

Then I jammed my door too. She stood on the walkway for 10minutes. Then she started banging on my door. Calling my line. I didn’t answer. She sent text and also whatsapp.

“Its not what you think. I can explain. Something came up. Please open…I need to discuss something with you. I will not leave if you don’t open”. She did all that for like 20minutes. Then she left. That was the end of our 1+year relationship. She too did not bother to call or text after that day.

The whole thing felt like sharp scorpion sting to me. I never believe what I saw. Anything relationship started irritating me. I don’t think I can go into relationship again. These people are quick to call men dogs, but they are public toilet. I prefer to be dog than be where everyone dump their sper_m.

Don't get irritated. Just be happy and be grateful to God that you didn't get married to a prostitute. Be prayerful when it comes to choosing a life partner. There are more to relationships than what you see physically, hence the need for you to commit it into the hands of God. There are still good ladies around. Remain ever blessed.

Creativeowos:
Hello guys, please i did my medicals at Qlife last week and my blood pressure was high, i was really surprised because am just 27years old. Do they refuse someone because of blood pressure. Please anybody that knows the perfect answer should reply please ���

No. You don't get refused. My BP was high too. IRCC still sent a report that l passed the medical.

Yadid:
Red flags are all over the place, but it looks like you are so into him you are willing to overlook them. You need to take things slow here

You are very right. The red flag is so real. The guy is a player who has mastered the act of playing on a woman's emotions and the lady is too desperate. She just needs to slow things down. Her great mistake is if she has started sleeping with him. That would be her greatest undoing.

This is just a sad story. Be the real man at this trying moments. Call your so-called wife and the "daughter", including your relations regarding this matter. Let them know what you have found out. And after that, jejely walk out of the marriage. For your instincts to tell you to read the messages on her phone, know that it's God's ordained plan to save you from an impeding danger.

Dowen college or doom college. Mstcewwww

No water to work but una see water to cook meat. Ok. Continue...

pocohantas:
Shut up! You are beginning to sound like a broken record. Was your mother not first a Nigerian woman before your dad married her, had sex with her and she became a revered MOTHER that can do no wrong?

Were you not one of the tribal warlords calling Lola (the Yoruba witch) a bad woman?

Were you not one of those that said she should learn from Anita how to be submissive and keep a family together?

Because you can’t bring yourself to attack Anita’s tribe, since you are Igbo yourself, you have decided to lump women together.

When you guys are not tearing yourselves down along tribal lines, next thing is to face your common enemy- WOMEN.

Tell us why Anita, the accepted IGBO PERFECT and SUBMISSIVE WIFE ran away. Maybe Peter is indeed right!

This is why every wise man should create a balance between his nuclear family and extended family. Peter separated himself from them and since they couldn’t see Lola (their common enemy) to prey on and blame every wrongdoing on, they turned on themselves.

Peter has finally been vindicated. I swear, Paul na Taliban, Peter na USA. That's why peter ran away from paul just the same way USA ran from taliban wahala.

Happy birthday Cutie. May your days be long and may you fulfill God's plan and purpose for your life in a grand style.

Eyaaa... dont' be surprised he will still contest for presidential post in 2023. Which way, Nigeria.

Good development. This is one good news l have received today, which has made my heart to be glad. I hope it's quickly implemented.
Imagine paying a tuition fee at a high exchange rate and almost took a month for it to get to the said school. That's really frustrating.

Nothing but breast and butt implant. Not impressed.

Ladies, love yourself the way God has created you. You are beautifully made and wonderfully created.

Akannitommy:
Definitely, you can. If she uses her own personal or company bank account to run the business, feel free to add it and indicate in your LOE/SOP (under the home ties/family support section) what those document(s) are for.

Thanks. I appreciate.

Akannitommy:
@afomon12 and @ikemummy

Congrats on your admissions and funding. I also wish you both and others still waiting a positive outcome in your applications.

From personal experience and those I know on this paltform as well as offline, it is best to always include your own bank account statements in addition to the school funding. For instance, I had less than N50,000 in my account when I submitted my application with full funding (for 4-years). However, that didn't stop me from generating MBS for the naira and for a virtually empty dorm account too to show as POF. I requested my GCMS note two months after arriving in Canada to get a sense of how the processing went. It was a 78-page document. NB: When I submitted application for SP in August 2020, NSE was not yet in effect then.

For the person who is married and already submitted the application with school funding only, (27k CAD is not addequate per the new NSE rule). This is where you could have used you own personal bank statement to make up the difference. Note that you also have a family and the VO will likely adjudged your application with an eye on what your family will survive on while you are away. So if you want to send additional document, I suggest you add a LOE that shows breakdown of your costs for the first year and your funding plans. Show how your family will cope financially while you are away even if this is just showing that your spouse has a job/business to support in your absence. March application date also seems a bit mature so I would request GCSM notes now.

For the single applicant, I think you did a good job but could always be better. If you have no qualms with submitting your own bank statement for one year, I think it is okay to do so. Although it would have been best if this was done originally.

All in all, both applications are promising.


post=102957456]Wow!!! Please let us keep in touch.

Thanks Akannitommy for the enlightenment. Can l use my wife's confectionary business to show she has a job to support herself with while I am away.
NB. Her cake business is not registered with CAC.

Iberisamuel90:
Please gurus in d House I'm in a high tension.
I have an admission wit humber college, I made an initial deposit of 7,300k in Canadian dollar, I'm to complete the full first semester payment if not I will lose d admission.
I have till June 23rd to pay my fee complete. I have done so using form A since June 3rd, up till now zenith bank are yet to debit my account. Pls which bank is d fastest to use for FORM A. I need two days process

I used zenith Bank and it took exactly 3 weeks for the entire process.
Someone else on this forum (can't remember his/her name) used stanbicIBTC and it took him/her a week for the process.
I hope this helps.

TsaTrinity:
I saw and ignored.
I'm wiser now

True. Someone sent it to me too. I simply ignored it.

jonosas:
TIMELINE
First-time applicant

*Masters (MENG) Mechanical Engineering, University of Windsor, Fall 2021 (deferred from InterSummer 2021)

*Background: B.Sc Mech Engr; 10 years’ relevant work experience; home-ties: family, land, pension.

Upfront medicals (IOM Abj) – 1st April
IELTS exam (in preparation for NSE request), General CBT – 3rd April
Application submitted - 14th April
Biometrics - 16th April
NSE (IELTS and MBS) request – 26th April
IELTS and MBS submitted – 28th April
Eligibility review started - 4th May
Medicals updated to pass - 19th May
BVL & PPR (3 minutes apart) – 16th June

Documents Submitted
*IMM 1294, 5257, 5645
*Letter of acceptance
*Digital photo
*International passport (including old passports, though they only contained 2 other African countries)
*IOM e-medical sheet
*IELTS TRF (LRWS 8.5,8.0,8.5,7.5; avg 8.0)
* CLIENT INFORMATION
- SOP – Resume – Pension & Gratuity – Family Tree (cause I felt it would help explain better) – Marriage certificate – International passport of family members –A few pictures –Land survey and architectural plans –Police character certificate -2 professional body certificates –NYSC cert –Bachelors degree cert and transcript
* PROOF OF FUNDS
- GIC ($10,000) and MBS (N11m in account for 4 months with an account that had been opened for 10 months) –Wife’s business CAC certificate –Tuition deposit receipt –Reference letters from present and past employer –Payslips for past 3 months –Appointment letters

I would like to thank God first and foremost for making all things possible! And my wife for encouraging me and prompting us to fast and pray (tho I chop small during the fasting period o; I no go lie). Many thanks to the guru himself @Justmellow for the guidance; the email exchanges were and are invaluable! You’re too much! @Insanity – the very first person I reached out to and who still helps me to this day! @Klianud @Spectro you guys are wonderful. Special thanks to everyone on this platform; your questions and answers shine the light for so many.

Lastly I would like to thank myself. For the perseverance, for painstakingly reading through previous threads just to get a good idea of the whole process, for convincing myself that my age (37) is not a factor, for writing a stellar SOP (though it took weeks, lol) and for “noogling” (using the searchbox in Nairaland) when I was totally lost.

Truly, it has ended in praise.

God bless!

I tap into this testimony. Mine is the next in Jesus name.

shupy:
The Deputy High Commission Canada
4 Anifowoshe St,
Victoria Island,
Lagos

Thanks so much. I appreciate.

I just wrote to my pension body, requesting that they should generate a letter for me, stating that I will be using part of my pension to support myself while schooling in Canada.
They have actually replied me, asking me to fill an attached reference letter, specifying the correct address and location the letter should be addressed to.

Please house, which is the correct IRCC address.

shupy:
Thank you very much for this follow-up. Everyone else dismissed the advice given to the OP. It's a difficult circumstance and they were all saying there's no reason to be concerned. Nothing is impossible but a false hope in the name of being positive is dangerous especially when the red flags can be addressed.
I have come to realise people would rather listen to those that give them high expectations than those that are realistic. I'm going to start keeping my opinion to myself. Nairaland doesn't show the true reality of application refusal rate. It's easy to give an update about PPR, it takes a lot to write about application refusal. Only a very few are able to do so and it's important we learn from their experience.

Keeping your opinions is not the best bro. Comparing what you & nifnifemi stated, I realized both of you actually have got some valid points concerning the matter at hand. I think the person in question would have weighed everyone's opinions and I believe he must have acted wisely after all.

You have been of tremendous help to us on this forum since 1900BC. And I, in particular won't make light of your opinions.

Lianna2020:
Lol

I no wan be admin o

It’s stressful.

I go think am as I’d like to connect with Nigerians and also share ideas .

Please create the group and let's join. UCW is my prospective school too. My student visa/permit application is in view as well.

It will surely end in praise.

ossysam1:
Good afternoon House,
I want to apply for study permit using my elder brother as my sponsor. He is 45years and 1am 40years. I have a BSc in Accounting (3.70/5) with over 8years banking experience. I was offered admission in Financial Planning (PGD)for Jan 2022.
I was shocked when someone told me that it will be difficult to get a study permit if I use my brother to serve as my sponsor. My elder brother is a business man.

Please I will appreciate if I can be properly guided so I would be sure I'm in the right direction both for the course and sponsorship.

Thank you.

Don't mind whoever said that to you. It won't be hard, bro. If you bear the same surname, that's fine. If you don't bear the same surname(because I have seen some cases like that), prove with an affidavit that he is your elder brother. Back everything up with a strong SOP, some documents(like his birth certificate, family pictures, affidavit/notarization letter signed by him and lawyer etc) and you are good to go.

It will end in praise.

badmanjo:
It has happened oooooo!!!!!! PPR has landed for my friend ooo, this morning by 8am
Course: Foundation in Visual Arts
Program: ordinary Diploma
School: NBCCD

Timeline: Applied July 11th 2020
Medical Request- July 24th 2020
BIOMETRICS- DECEMBER 14TH 2020
Then the long ass wait..........
BVL: June 14th 2021
PPR: Same day and time
One longg Year for the visa... It has ended in praise

Wow...Almost one year. And how were you so tactful and patient. Am glad it ended in praise after all.

Blazca:
Can I be approved if I don't go through NSE?

You can. NSE is express route. Without NSE is normal route.
You can simply tell IRCC that they should use the normal route to process your application, telling them that the time to prepare and submit your IELTS is somewhat short. That is if you don't want to write IELTS.
I hope this helps.

It will end in praise.

timesup234:
A time will come, you will clamor for this ogun and shango you so wish to be eradicated. Unfortunately for you, according to your stupidity, your time will be up then, and it will be too late

U're so daft to the extent that you can't even construct your English to tackle humanoid01. You went as far as plagiarizing his statement. Na una type dey do copy and paste during exam.

Samken111:
The IELTS test costs approximately ₦75.000 in Nigeria. The price is consistent across British Council test centers for the IELTS Academic and General Training exams.

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Are you having issues with preparation?

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All the best...

Thanks Samken111. Expect my mail.
Thanks to the entire house as well for being there for us.

Bukoj:
Wow! Congratulations! Thank you so much for sharing. You've stirred up my faith. I also attend NLP every morning. May Canada favour you in Jesus name, Amen.

You can say that again, Bukoj. ToluDstar really stirred my faith as well. I had no choice to pen down all the important actions he carried out. I am planning to take same steps right now.

Lianna2020:
Instead of waiting for medical request, I think new applicant should always try and do upfront medical.
It makes it easier and complete .


Imagine someone waiting for three month for medical request.

Hello Lianna2020. Congrats on your PPR. I read on the UCW website that IELTS is not compulsory if English was the language used in the Uni l graduated from. Please why do l still need the IELTS for the student visa application. I just got an offer letter at UCW for MBA and I have paid the tuition fee for Oct intake. Though I am yet to start the student application, l foresee IELTS may be an issue as there is limited time for me to study and write the exam. Do you think my PPR will be ready before October. What do you advise.

I wish he would hear but unfortunately as it's entering the right ear, it's flying out from the left ear.
I won't be surprised if the AGF is one of boko Haram sympathizers.

Wahala dey for person wey drive one way for 3rd mainland bridge, na prostrate be the begging format o

[quote author=philip0906 post=97862563][/quote]Worst things happen in this shithole country, dude.
People get killed and the killers go Scot free. Infact, they are walking freely in the street. If in doubt, ask the fulani bandits, the kidnappers, the boko guys etc. This ordinarily will not happen in a saner country.

Trayceey:
not really. The first time he came to see her, which has been a while now, he didn't come empty handed

I am happy you said he brought something the first time he came. Your fiance wasn't wrong when he came the other time without anything. Maybe, he never had but he still showed courtesy and respect by coming to see his would be- in laws. The mistake you made was that you should never have supported your mum. My wife has supported me uncountable times when I go visit her parents. There was a time l wanted giving 5k to them. My wife "cornered" me quickly and added another 5k to make it 10k. So, l know what I am talking about. If you are certain the guy is great with some good prospects, please swallow your pride and apologize to him.
Please forget the bullies online. I think they're just there to distract and make you lose focus. Stay blessed.