Congratulations Gov. Bello, i hope you conduct the convention this March 26th and write your name in gold

But you want to leave Nigeria which is not a war torn area.


Nigeria sef. can something good news come out of Nigeria that would favour the common man? I doubt.

Let them supply it to them. Russia would rather sink europe with his atomic/biologic weapons than loose this war. Watchout how it unfolds

While i appreciate his kind gesture of given to the needy, it is in a wrong time of doing such. every year we borrow money from China to cushion the effect of budget deficit yet dashing out money. I can assure you that this $1M is part of money borrowed from China. Why are our leaders like this?

Of course we are neutral na so we cant say such. Nigeria does not really have much bilateral relations except arms purchase which we buy from them

Rest in Peace Mr. President if this information is true

Ayed44:
No matter how stubborn u think Putin may be, Putin CAN NEVER DEFEAT NATO.

You can take this to the bank.

As NATO thought they are stronger together so Russia has friends too that can stand with them. Don't forget North Korea, China, Iraq and mid east countries would join in the war. NATO may defeat Russia but NATO especially neigbhouring countries like Germany, Spain, Italy, UK and the rest of Europe would feel the impact of Russia most before far away USA. Don't underestimate Russia. US that entered Afghanistan to fight even when the world condemn it did they listen. Let me just pause here. NATO is afraid despite been strong. They know that if anything goes wrong they would feel the touch of Russia so they don't want to venture into any war that does not directly involve them and that's the advantage Russia is using to attack Ukraine.

Fuckyoumod:
Not too late man..... Put a call to Putin pledging allegiance to Russia. Dish the NATO , EU and US and their meaningless sanctions.

Biden is talk more and do less.

That is it. Just one day strike he has started counting losses of which it is avoidable. All your fans don abandon you it is either you die alone or you surrender. I think this war is going to be quicker than Afghanistan/Taliban war

Adjovi:
I know Nigerians don't like to read especially a long epistle like this. This is a summary of what birthed Russia's invasion of Ukraine. Read and be enlightened

In 2010, Ukraine elected Viktor Yakunovych elected as president. The West (US & EU) were not happy with these events as they saw the new president as too aligned to Russia.Before Yakunovych's election, Ukraine had a free trade deal in the pipeline with the EU. But in 2013, Yakunovych did a 180° and refused to sign the deal, favouring closer ties with Russia.In November 2013, led by Assistant Secretary of State for European and Eurasian Affairs, Victoria Nuland, the US fomented a Colour Revolution (called Euromaidan) which led to a coup in Ukraine. Yanukovych was overthrown.Leaders in eastern Ukraine declared allegiance to Yakunovych. This led to anti-government protests in February 2014 and a referendum in Crimea where 97% of respondents voted to Return Crimea to Russia. Russia annexed Crimea from Ukraine in March 2014.
Meanwhile, the new post-coup Ukrainian government proposed a Bill to remove Russian as an official language. Russian speakers in East Ukraine were angered about this saying ethnic Russians were in imminent danger.
In early 2014, Russia started sending support to Russians in the eastern regions of Ukraine (Donetsk, Kharkiv, Zaporizhia, and Odessa) who now demanded independence from Ukraine.
In April 2014, the mainly Russian-speaking regions of Donetsk and Luhansk broke away from Ukraine and proclaimed themselves as separate Republics.Also in early 2014, Russia started performing military exercises on the eastern Ukrainian border just as NATO was doing the same in Lithuania, Latvia and Estonia, who share borders with Russia.
In September 2014, Ukraine and Russia signed ceasefire agreements in Minsk, Belarus, to end hostilities in eastern Ukraine.
Despite the Minsk agreements, from 2014 to date, continuous battles have been waged between Ukrainian forces and Luhansk and Donetsk separatists over territory in the Donbas region in violation of the agreements.
Along with the armed conflict, the EU and US imposed International sanctions against Russia. The sanctions led to the collapse of the Russian currency and caused economic damage to EU countries. By 2016, Russia had lost an estimated $600 billion. In 2017, the UN published a report stating that the EU countries were losing about "3.2 billion dollars a month" due to the Russian sanctions. In March 2021, President Putin ordered the Russian military to mobilise troops near its border with Ukraine and in Crimea. In November, Russia deployed vessels to the Black Sea to "observe" US warships. Putin said the US ships were "a serious challenge" In November 2021, the Russian Ministry of Defence said "The real goal behind the US activities in the Black Sea region is exploring the theatre of operations in case Kyiv attempts to settle the conflict in the southeast by force". From mid-January, 2022, the US started announcing that Russia would invade Ukraine, stating that an attack could begin before the conclusion of the 2022 Winter Olympics in Beijing in February. In January 2022, NATO began providing weapons including anti-armour missiles and other US-made weapons to Ukraine. On 22 January, the US delivered 90 000 kg of lethal weapons to Ukraine. The Netherlands and Spain also deployed forces to the region in support of NATO. In February, the US sent soldiers to Germany and Poland to boost NATO's presence in Europe, along with F-15 fighter jets to Romania. Britain also deployed soldiers, warships and jets to Eastern Europe.
On 21 February, the leaders of the self-proclaimed Donetsk and Luhansk People's Republics requested Putin to officially recognize the republics' independence. Putin agreed and signed Russia's recognition of the republics and ordered troops to be sent there.
On 22 February, Boris Johnson announced sanctions on Russian banks and individuals. Germany announced suspending the certification process of the Nord Stream 2 pipeline. EU foreign ministers blacklisted all Russians who voted in favour of the recognition of the breakaway regions.
On 24 February 2022, President Putin announced the beginning of a "special military operation" in the Donbas region. This is where we are now.

chop knuckle bro. U did well for the break down. I've always known oil/gas is the root cause of all these wahala. Pipeline this pipeline that and Crimea is an oil rich island which Ukraine can't let go but the Western media would not want to say the truth or say been economics either the truth because of their selfish interest.

No shaking. Russia has done all his risk analysis before embarking on this war. He knows NATO allies has nukes as well and he has warned them of immediate reprisal if any country misbahaves. Sanctions has no power. Russia also has allies even if it is not up to NATO/West. So Paris should keep quiet and watch the movie. By sunday Zelensky would surrender.

You no get power u dying go find trouble thinking say neighbors go support you. Abeg surround let peace come back. Inshi Zelensky

Well i wont disagree with you less about the mixing of blood with the Igbo but what i know and which was been confirmed by one senior Okrika chief that i had an historic discussions with, confirmed to me that what i told him the migration of Okrikans was what his father told him after i introduced my self to him as a Bille man in Bonny Island about four years ago.

The name Kiriki(Wakirirke) emanated after the people of Ogoloma and People of Okrika(main Okrika) met in bush on their way to market(Fe) for transaction saw theirselves speaking almost same language and understood theirselves the Okrika man now told the Ogoloma man that so you can hear me and the Ogoloma man replied that yes i can hear then the Okrika man now said we are wakirike(meaning we are alike or the same brothers). There are two brothers that found Okrika nation. The Opu Okubeye whom found Ogoloma and the other man which i have forgotten his name found Okrika and which are neigbhours. They all left Okolo-Bille in Central Abua. By then the present name Abua was not in existence but to point out the location of where they were with present location is what i used to tell you. That doesn't mean Okrika migrated out of Abua. Ogonokom is presently in Abua LGA. Same the Ibani man was also there after migrated from Central ijaw to that place.

SlayerForever:



No, Okrika didn't migrate from Abua.

As for Bille I do not know. So I can't argue.

What I noticed with history in these places is that some other groups that immigrated later tend to superimpose their history on the group they met on ground. Analysing what you said and taken it as a truth, it means that there was a migration truly from Abua into Okrika, however they met and mixed with the native Okrikans who were Igbos. Same as the ijaw folk who migrated to Okrika later.

These later migrants now present their histories as history of the land they migrated to, which is historically wrong.

So that's the explanation. Mind you all the historical information captured was from the 1800s when the history was still young.

SlayerForever:
INTRODUCTION TO BONNY HISTORY

Chapter 2 - CULTURE

TABLE OF CONTENTS

1. Introduction.

2. Culture of historical Bonny Kingdom.

2.1 Perception of the Supreme Being amongst the Bonny people in history.

2.2 Other traditional practices of the Bonny people in history.

- Iguana worship.

- New Yam festival.

- Shaving as act of mourning.

- Symbolism of the elephant tusk.

- Iria ceremony.

- Hunting expeditions.


INTRODUCTION

In this chapter we look at the core cultural and traditional practices of the Bonny people as recorded in the 17th and 18th centuries. These practices were observed by various scholars of that era, and consequently recorded as first-hand information, the sources of which include, in some cases, discussions and interviews with the Pepple kings.

Before we proceed however, we customarily access the viewpoints of some academic giants in the subject of interest. Professor Jones M. Jaja, Professor of African and social history, institute of foundation studies, Rivers state university of science and technology, whilst speaking about Ibani culture in the academic release "Ibani dieties and methods of worship...", informs us as follows, "The Ibani trace linkages through the kitchen lineages called "Burusoyo" or "Burusu". Lineage is also traced through the ereji blade. The ereji refers to the matriarch who ritually admitted new slaves into the family...” (pg. 34406) ¹.

The above submission paints the picture of a matriarchal society, and therefore by consequence would mean that the Ibani people, Bonny and Opobo, are a matriarchal race. This generally is in agreement with the matrilineal perception of the ijaw people traditionally.
Professor Jones continuing on Ibani culture presents that, "Eremina-Ogbo (Ere-Ogbo) is a female dance group with a few men who beat the drums. Eremina-Ogbo is the dance group associated with the Iria-bo womanhood rites” (pg 34406) ¹.

Above mentioned is the Iria ceremony (Iriabo). The Iria ceremony is a feminine cultural practice that celebrates the coming of age of a young woman amongst the people of Bonny, Opobo, Okrika, Kalabari etc which in recent times has gained international coverage from several reputable media.


In getting a clearer understanding of the Ijaw feminine concept of divinity we are aided by the work of Professor Christopher Abraham Ajueyitsi titled "God: Male, female or asexual?", an inaugural lecture presented at the Ambrose Alli University, Ekpoma in 2004. According to Professor Christopher Ajueyitsi, "the classical example of this feminine concept of God in Africa is found among the Ijaw people of the Niger Delta of Nigeria, who speak of God STRICTLY in feminine terms. All their names and attributes for God are strictly feminine, and they apply to Her alone. They have four names for the Supreme Being, namely, Temearau (Tamara), moulder of the universe. Tamuno is the Kalabari variant of Temearau. The second name is Ayebaarau..."the foundress of the universe”, (thirdly) Woyingi or Oyin, “our mother” and Oginarau, "she who dwells in the heavens.." (pg 10) ²

Hence we can observe the strictly feminine nature of the supreme being as perceived by the Ijaw Ethnicity. Another worthy mention is the devotion to water spirits which is also a fundamental feature in the Ijaw traditional religion.


CULTURE OF HISTORICAL BONNY KINGDOM

Unlike origin which is usually a static point, culture bears the capacity to reshape, absorb and drop aspects of itself with the passing of time. It is observed that the current cultural practices of a people in the present may vary greatly from what was obtainable centuries ago. This mostly is due to an array of circumstances, many beyond the control of man. However, the practices of the long past paint a clearer picture of the heritage of a people, before several distortions over time, and helps to better understand, piece together and appreciate the present.

In view of the above stated fact, we once more look into the earliest documented history of Bonny as recorded centuries ago.


PERCEPTION OF THE SUPREME BEING AMONGST THE BONNY PEOPLE IN HISTORY

Perhaps of the greatest significance in evaluating Bonny's perception of a supreme diety was the recorded conversation between King Pepple and Trade Captain John Smith circa 1835. In this interesting exchange, Pepple shares his desire to kill God if he can, because according to him, if he succeeds in killing God then he Pepple, can live forever. Apparently, in Pepple’s estimation, God is the one who takes a man's life (Pg 90) ³.

An abridged representation of Pepple's conversation with John Smith is captured below :

Pepple : Suppose God was here I must kill him one minute!

John Smith : You can not kill God.

Pepple : I know I cannot kill him but suppose I could kill him, I would.

John Smith : And suppose you could, why would you kill him.
Pepple : Because he makes men to die.

From the above discourse it is very clear that the traditional religion of Pepple and consequentially, his subjects, was one that identified their Supreme Being as a male manifestation rather than a female, and Pepple wished to physically subdue Him if he ever got the chance, as any man would wish towards an adversary. The conversation however did not end there.

John Smith may be credited as the first European to forward the notion of a Christian God to a Pepple King, and by consequence to the Bonny people. John Smith, during the tricky conversation captured above, goes ahead to carefully describe the tenets of Christianity to a Pepple he knew very well could be very obstinate and unyielding to a foreign tradition. He shares the Bible creation story which Pepple enjoys while expressing his opinion that the serpent should have been destroyed immediately. Afterwards, John presents the gospel of the messiah.

It is worthy of note that while John Smith shares the Christian belief of a God who is a Father and his son who is the messiah, no where does Pepple ever interject in the conversation that God is indeed a woman (Pg 94) ³, as would have been the case if that was the belief he held. Pepple and indeed most of the Bonnians were not known to keep mute when the very core of their tradition was being challenged. If the God Creator of the Bonny people was a woman, Pepple would definitely have challenged the Christian notion of a masculine God.

Also of a strong note is the fact that across hundreds of books written in that era, hardly any one of the scholars recorded a matriarchal trado-religion for the Bonny people. Such a detail would never have escaped the very meticulous scholars if such was the case. Instead they all record the Bonnians as believing in a more regular masculine Deity, and also a patriarchal system of inheritance as obtainable within any other Igbo community. The foreign matriarchal inheritance system adopted by some Bonnians of today is a source of contention and turbulence within the Bonny society.


OTHER TRADITIONAL PRACTICES OF THE BONNY PEOPLE IN HISTORY

Numerous practices were observed amongst the Bonny people, however for the sake of brevity and focus we consider the core traditional elements.

IGUANA WORSHIP : One of the most frequently mentioned practices of the Bonny people was the worship of the iguana. The iguana was the tutelary diety of the Bonny people until its destruction in the wake of Bonny’s acceptance of Christianity. However, before the adoption of the iguana as the national emblem, the Bonny people were noted to have revered the monkey, as recorded by John Smith (pg 61) ³ and Major Arthur Glynn (pg 280) ⁴. Reverence of the monkey is of consequence and points to the fact that though the Bonnians had adapted to life on the coast, their original ancestors were most likely forest dwellers. This is generally in agreement with the established fact that the Bonnians originally came from the forest regions of the Igbo hinterland.

NEW YAM FESTIVAL: Another practice of note observed amongst the Bonny people is the New Yam festival. According to Crow, "On occasion of planting the yam, which is a principal article of food, and also when it is dug up, a grand ceremony is performed, intended as an expression of thankfulness to Providence for its bountiful supply of the fruits of the earth" (pg 223) ⁵.

From the above we are able to appreciate the ancient life of the Bonny people, in their traditional way of celebrating the yam. This is one traditional practice that is at the very foundation of Igbo tradition. There is arguably nowhere else in the entire world that yam holds the extolled position it does amongst the Igbos, hence for the Bonny people to have celebrated both the beginning of the yam planting season and the festival of the new yam, it is indeed a no-brainer that Bonny was like any other Igbo community. Observe also that the writer informs us that not only is yam celebrated, but also it is a principal meal amongst the early Bonnians. In addition to yam, cassava was also identified as a staple food of the Bonny people (pg 252) ⁵. A common feature in the Igbo diet.

SHAVING AS AN ACT OF MOURNING : Another practice of note was the burial rites observed on occasion of death. One of the major rites as documented, was the shaving of the hair and wearing of specified clothes in mourning of a deceased relation (pg 72) ³. A traditional practice still very common amongst the Igbos to this day.

SYMBOLISM OF THE ELEPHANT TUSK : As far back as 300 years ago the reverence of the elephant tusk amongst the Bonny people had already been well established. During Barbot's stay at Bandy (French adaptation of Bonny) in 1699, he observed the symbolic use of elephant tusks. According to John Barbot, "Thus with much patience all our matters were adjusted indifferently....The king ordered the public cryer to proclaim the permission (of his people to/) of trade with us, with the noise of his trumpets, being elephant's teeth..." (pg 459) ⁶.

Over a hundred years later, John Smith will also observe and record the significant use of the elephant tusk amongst the Bonny people as means of making key announcements (pg 120) ³. Exactly as obtainable in the general Igbo society.
But perhaps the most illustrative of the high significance of the elephant tusk in Bonny culture is its use by its most prominent person, the King. Bonny kings from time immemorial have been known to carry the Ọdụ mkpa alọ (Odu as called in Bonny to this day) as a symbol of their authority. This practice is steeped in tradition, Igbo tradition to be precise, where a bearer of the Odu is regarded as having attained the pinnacle of societal achievements.
The Ọdụ, till this day is carried by the Kings of Bonny and Opobo as their symbol of authority over their domain.

IRIA CEREMONY : The Iria ceremony as observed amongst the Bonny people and the neighboring tribes of Okrika and Kalabari is a cultural practice that has attained wide recognition in recent times. The Iria is celebrated amongst the women folk at different stages of their lives from early youth through adulthood.

Whilst the ceremony has continued to gain recognition, little is researched on as regards its origin. This had lead to a situation where it is erroneously linked to the Ijaw Ethnicity of Nigeria.
The Iria ceremony has as its original traditional name : Ị rụ Mgbede (coming of age/maturity). A keen eye can quickly observe how time and circumstances have worn and distorted the original Igbo words of Ị rụ (to attain/to reach) to Iria, while the Mgbede (maturity) has been casually discarded. Hence the current name of “Iria” could be argued to be meaningless, or at best a poor reproduction of the original. The Iru Mgbede ceremony is an age long female coming of age ceremony found amongst several Igbo communities. The ceremony was usually practiced as soon as the girl child attained puberty. At this time the girl(s) go into seclusion as the traditional rites begin in earnest. According to Igbo culture the men were never allowed into the seclusion area.

For the stipulated time of seclusion, usually about 3 months, the girls are closely tended and taught in clear details how to manage their homes by mostly aged mothers. Also the girls are fattened and their shapes worked upon such that they are irresistible to the male folk on completion of Iru Mgbede.
On completion of their time in Ị rụ Mgbede the girls were made to go through the ceremony of "Ipu Ama" i.e stepping out/public display, in some cases at the village square or at the market, with her body beautifully adorned in uli (camwood).
At the completion of this the girls were now completely qualified to be espoused.

lru Mgbede also served to ensure that girls did not engage in premarital engagements as it was a taboo for a girl to be impregnated before her Iru Mgbede ceremony.
In the Ngwa and Ukwa-Ngwa areas of Igbo land where Bonny people descend from, the ceremony bears the exact name as captured above : Ị rụ Mgbede, as against other variations of the name to be found in other parts of Igbo land like Ida Mgbede, Ịnọ Mkpuke, Ikwaezi in Mgbidi, Ibauke in Umuahia. The neighboring communities to Bonny where Iria is celebrated today which include Okrika, Kalabari (New Calabar), are all recorded to originally have Igbo ancestry, Okrika being from Afam Ndoki (pg 24) ⁴ and New Calabar descended from Arochukwu and a section of the Efik from the Duke Ephraim family of Calabar (pg 265) ⁷ and (pg 25) ⁴ with elements of both Igbo and Efik culture still observable in New Calabar. Until the modern era it was still the practice in new Calabar to take a deceased chief to Arochukwu to be buried.

The claims in some quarters that the Iru Mgbede now Iria and also the Nwaotam forest masquerade of the Igbo race are mediums of connecting to the water spirits, are bogus and should be consequently disregarded. The culturally inclined can observe there is no connection to water divinities whatsoever in both ceremonies, and there are no basis for such whatsoever.

HUNTING EXPEDITION : Great hunting expeditions were recorded amongst the ancient Bonny people by writers and other observers of the time. Until the modern era, every year the great chiefs and men of Bonny held a hunting festival. As reported by Richard Francis Burton, “Once a year every great house with its chief repairs to the bush and makes a surround of men and boys to trap gazelles and antelopes...the evening of the battue is spent in devouring its proceeds and in hard striving with strong drinks” (pg 293) ⁷. John Smith also reports on this annual hunting festival, “...After a successful battue when more deer have been captured than suffice to satisfy their appetites, they (deer) are laid about in their rooms with their four legs tied together...” (pg 153) ³.

Great hunting expeditions into the outlying forests were a commonplace event in the Igbo society and both the young and older men looked upon this hunting expeditions as an opportunity to show their hunting prowess to the admiration of the community. Great hunters were given high recognition amongst the Igbo people.
In recent times though hunting expeditions have declined with the rise in modernisation.
Most of the aforementioned points which have been discussed above are major cultural elements of the Bonny people, some of which are still observed even to this day. These cultural elements as investigated, stand side by side with practices obtainable across the rest of the Igbo nation.


REFERENCES

1. Jones M. Jaja (2015). Ibani Dieties and Methods of Worship : A survey of extinct traditions in the Niger Delta.

2. Dime, C. A. (2004). God: Male, female or asexual? Inaugural Lecture. Ambrose Alli University, Ekpoma.

3. John Smith (1851). Trade and travels In The Gulf of Guinea, Western Africa. Simpkin, Marshall and Co, Stationers Hall Court, And Thomas Gill, Easingworld.

4. Major Arthur Glynn Leonard (1906). The Lower Niger And It’s Tribes. London : Macmillan and Co. Limited.

5. Hugh Crow (1830). Memoirs of the late Captain Crow of Liverpool. London : Longman, Rees, Orme, Brown and Green; And G. And J. Robinson , Liverpool.

6. John Barbot (1746). A Description of the Coasts of North and South Guinea. London : Assignment from Messrs Churchill.

7. Richard Francis Burton (1863). Wanderings in West Africa Volume II. London : Tinsley Brothers.

I see, so in your history/write up no relationship between Bille and Bonny. Bille and Bonny has no cultural relationship/ties meanwhile both has been aged long best of friends and brothers. Is alright.

At bolded, that history is not correct. Is that what the Okrikans tell the publisher of this historic books? Indeed true history is been buried for centuries what we see now are half baked histories or distorted history. For record sake Okrikans migrated from Akpata Bille(Okolo Bille/Old Bille) in Ogonokom, Centeal Abua in Abua/Odual LGA. Same thing goes to Bille people, Ibani, Nembe people and Ogoloma people all were settled as relatives at that Ogonokom metropolis community which is now a small village and still existing in Abua. I would stop here but if you doubt go and ask questions.

I come in peace.

Bokroma Owu tuwo

Carry arms and defend your self as well, this govt has failed this nation. I can bet with my annual salary that after Buhari retires from Also Rock next year he won't dare to relocate to Daura because ISWAP will kill him.

Just imagine Buhari use this year's budget of N17.1Tn and play #sure_2_odds on Bet9ja we won't be borrowing again to fund this year's budget again.

In fact we would have so much money to spend this year

I just wanna make a common sense.

Dawinlove:
I see Nigerians celebrating

You are right base on my own analysis. I no see anything oo na base on the fixtures i analyze below

In summary pls. No time to read what won't give me business idea or put food on my table

SkullMinerSW:
Nigerians politicians can be found attending different Churches and Mosques every week. However, they believe that power is gotten and maintained through different amulets and symbols that can be found around them:

The most famous politicians and their amulets and symbols from ancient Egypt and Babylon:

Bola Tinubu: Has the most famous symbol known as the infinity symbol which can be traced to ancient Egypt.

Yemi Osibanjo: Has the 5 pointed star also known as pentagram used by pagans and those versed in the ancient mysteries from Babylon.

Atiku Abubakar: Has the Nazar evil eye bracelet.

Osibanjo is complete innocent. I can vouch for him but not those two other guys

Chelsea would win the match with Man City 1 : 2 Chelsea

Lukaku will score in this match

I also wants to learn

But with the level of other platforms in recharging your phones especially through your bank account app or short code system i am afraid it may not be that lucrative as it was but i am open for more explanations and experiences

officialmario:
Good morning Nairalanders

I want to use this medium to seek for your advice..

Me and my wife has been together since 2014, although we have not done marriage as we only did introduction, but we planned having our marriage this year, we had two kids, but I think right now I'm not comfortable living with my wife.

I am not enjoying this relationship anymore, she keeps beating me whenever there is quarrel between us, she is fond of slapping me and giving me punches, at times she makes use of wire and and broom to scatter my head.

The one that happened on Monday is really giving me much concern, she checked my phone and saw a friend I was chatting with and instead of her to ask me about the lady, the next thing she did was to slap me and she started beating me to the extent of having right hand dislocation.. It's not as if she can beat me if I decided to fight back, I don't want to raise my hand on a woman, it's a curse and I don't want to do that, this is getting out of hand and I am not living comfortable at home again, we sleep on different bed, she doesn't allow me touch her again.

She is even planning to get a room by ending of this month when she gets her salary..
I told my sister about her behavior, the advice she gave me is that I should beat the hell out of her whenever she raises her hand to beat me.

I have pleaded with my wife to let us continue the way we have been doing before but she wouldn't listen to me.

I am really confused and I don't know what to do right now..

I need your advice my great people of Nairaland.

Oboy sometimes gangstar love is the best for a woman like this.

Kobojunkie:
The same "helping with love" that turned our mothers into glorified househelps for their husbands, that even to this day, the average Nigerian man, not only thinks but believes that marriage installs him as a god freed from responsibility of doing many of the same chores he did all by himself as a single man?

Let's not get these things tangled up abeg!

By the way, the OP'S woman is not a stay-at-home woman and there is nothing in the marriage contract that stipulates a wife's job is to clean up after her husband. They could, as a couple come to that agreement of their own, but it ain't written somewhere in the terms and conditions of marriage that it ought to be so.

@ Bolded, fortunately that attitude is what kept them into their husband houses for 40, 50, 60 years of marriage compare to now that people would be married for 2-3years and would be marking marriage anniversary because of unnecessary broken homes which doesn't stay up to six months again thereafter divorce.

Skyview01:


Thread carefully lest you be called a simp by Nairaland warriors.

Fortunately thats what him or her just describe itself

Fred166:
I married my beautiful wife January this year, I Love my wife so much, I have never cheated on her since we got married. I opened a business for her worth 900k. i've already promised her a car this coming year (well I ride camry muscle and I'm tired of sharing the car with her).

My wife is too lazy, all she cares about is her eye lashes, make-up, nails and watching Zeeworld all day, She goes to her shop 10am and return 3pm, She barely take care of the house. Sometimes the plate I used for breakfast before going to work would still be on the dining table unwashed when I return. Her make-up tools and bag littered everywhere in our sitting room.

We're expecting our 1st child, Now that She's pregnant (4 months) she's worst. Na so so chop chop, I will jokingly say babe Pls don't go out of shape I won't look ur side again, Is like the more I beg, the more she chop chop. ...weird food carvings. Coconut water and bread, shawarma and pepper soup with sugar cane in her hand, I dare not buy it for her otherwise I won't sleep.

I still cook when I'm back from work. Anytime I tried to talk to her, she would say can't I see she's pregnant, she's having waist pain, leg pain, Infact body pains. I wanted to employ a maid she refused, she spoke ill about maids, she said they are husband snatchers e.t.c.

3 days ago, She asked me to renew our dstv sub and I refused. Yesterday I noticed she has done it (first time). I saw her watching Zeeworld, laughing sheepishly and pointing to the TV, I needed to watch man united match so I changed the channel, she dragged the remote control from me and changed it back to Zeeworld, she said I'm too stingy, I didn't sub for her, I refused to buy her a car.

I don't know what to do. With her lazy attitude I'm scared during delivery she would be saying I can't push o.

Experienced men help a brother.

Bro you got married to a slay queen and not a wife. Possibly her beauty as you described it is the only box you have to tick before marrying her. Bro you have entered one chance but it is not late to correct this mess.

She is pregnant now and that would be her weapon she would use it against you but you have to devise to a diplomatic means to correct the mess. For you to get some things right you have to act as a man, starve her of some certain privileges she is having even if it will inconvenience you fortunately that's part of the cost you will pay for marrying a slay queen and transforming her to a wife. Privileges like if you are using Prepaid Meter when the units run out don't subscribe, don't also subscribe for your DSTV, don't buy fuel if u have generator, put a close look for the business you opened for her tell her you want to get report from the business daily and if the report is not satisfactory you take over from it or go on temporary close down.

Don't forget that continuous dialogue and negotiations is very important too but why doing that you have to wake her up to her responsibilities in the house and until you see a change in her you won't do what you are suppose to do in the house except feeding. You have to cease her cosmetics and hide it.

Bro if you dont take drastic actions now (but not to beat her or divorce) you will die before your time due to heart attack or you may end up having another home just because of your peace of mind that you want.

It is a pity that you are experiencing this but that's who she is that is what she is exhibiting.
Four months pregnancy is not big enough for she to start talking of waist pain besides it is part of an exercise to keep the nerves active. If she don't control what she puts in her mouth to push might be a problem. Though many girls(ladies) are not strong enough to push like our older parents because of too much fatty foods they eat these days.

May God help you but no running away from this. Like my elder brother once told me when i was marrying my wife: he said i am signing off my freedom and also i don enter be say i don enter, no running out.

pinkPUSSY:
A prominent politician and former governor was said to have asked him how that would be taken in the South, and Tinubu told his guests that the South-East and South-South, who were largely Christians, would not matter,

Taking your fellow southerners for granted all in a bid to please your masters...

Time shall tell

Is your pvssy really a pink type? Don't be annoyed oo it's based on your moniker that warrant me to ask that ugly question.

But na why u go too fine na. You wan spoil her market?

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UCHE NWOSU, EX GOV ASPIRANT & ROCHAS INLAW KIDNAPPED FROM CHURCH, CAPTURED ON VIDEO

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Preshieben:
let me be ya side chick..
I make my own money,so keep yours
I just like it with people's husband

People from the village has arrived. Una welcome oo

deepwater:
The time u used in developing this thread and waiting for advise is enough to get your ass a cover letter.

Don't be lazy son




Imagine the type of advise coming from a failed and jobless engineering student seeking advise to start an ordinary poultry farm...

Charlie I am not the reason to your downfall and failure in life, please channel your anger to your mum who failed to swallow those morning after pills your dad gave to her after wiping her kpekpus with reckless abandon

Look at this slowpoke who survives abort coming online to insult her grandfather. I didn't blame you anyways, a child would always be a child. I can keep you, your parents and siblings and feed you all 3 square meal without complain in this hard time.
If you doubt me send me an email i will invite you and your family to come and stay with me in Port Harcourt.

I am a proud to be a father and man.
This thread is strictly for men and female gender

Boys(unmarried men) are not allowed here.


Happy International Men's Day to all the Men all over the world.

It is not easy to be responsible and keeping to your responsibilities.

God bless our souls

It may be difficult to end it up now but I assure you that that is the best decision you will take right now before you would live a life of regrets and agony. If she can influence you into her bidding and she have it then the day you won't do her bidding again that would be the end of marriage or you would face turmoil in your marriage. True love is unconditional but she is conditioning you. We all practice same faith yet condemning other denomination, that's BS mehn. Guy move on with your life. You are the one holding both the yam and the knife so you can cut it the way you like.

KoladeChris24:
I have this girl who is the only one I love, but she said she can never attend catholic church.

I told her it's not an issue - that as my wife, she's free to attend any church she likes, but she insisted our family would have to attend the same church.

She won't marry me if i stick to my Catholic faith. Please advise me, she's the only one I love, and I can't start over anymore.