letstalksense: There is this lady I plan to marry, which I have made known to her already even before she travelled for her NYSC. Although she just came back from NYSC service recently. We are just discussing the way forward and on the process I was asking her about her sexual life and how recently she had sex. After insisting for her to answer. She opened up and told me she had a sexual relationship during her NYSC service. And the reason was because I didn't call her at a particular time so she thought I have find anther woman. And that was when I was having some personal challenges. According to her, they ended the sexual relationship in the camp. That she is sorry and all that. I didn't really expect that attitude from her as she seem to look responsible and Godlily. I was just disappointed even though I pretended like everything is well. And I was also thinking she had the courage to tell me the true.
Now I have to make my decision, but needs a matured advise and guidance from a mature mind please.
Do think I should continue my marriage plan with her?
Pease what do you advise I do?
Thanks in advance.
You as a boy should not go into the marriage not for your own sake but for the safety and peace of mind of the lady.
Please this kind of question only break relationship for those unserious fellows.
besayag: Marrying a lady because you met her during evangelism as a virgin, a pastors daughter, a member of ur same winners chapel church, might not guarantee anything peace at all.
Dnt be too eager or quick to trust people. People can change at anytime. People can be very ungrateful and deceptive.
| met Sheila February 19, 2022. We became friends which later became intimate.
She told me she would only loose her virginity to the man that would marry her, since her Ugep,Cross River, mother, who’s now 41, who had earlier married 2 different men, with 2 kids, before marrying her father and that she was over due at 21 for marriage.
We fully agreed with her terms and conditions. | immediately began a full upgrade of her unkept situation by firstly giving her 300k and also replacing her tattered phone of less than 60k to a brand new iphone 12 Pro Max of 860k in less than 2 weeks.
I later also replaced the 12 Pro Max to a brand 14 Pro Max of 1.2m that she’s currently using to slay. I did a alot of shoppings for her.
Bought her clothes and bags incuding expensive human hairs she’s using without sleeping with her then. I later proposed and she fully accepted. We later did a Legally introdution, traditional and white weddings in benin city.
Sheila immediately changed by showing her real self after our wedding by wanting to set standards for me because she now felt she was blown as juju wife, fully verified on Instagram, with more followers from her earlier struggling 3k followers when i met her.
A fully sapa girl i met with just 2,700 in her account.
I have never raised my hands on her any day. I dnt beat women at all. I respect them so much. The least money for her upkeep was 100k.
She now wakes up to tell me that i derive dignity in begging my oga, and that i am fully a slave and that am disgracing her on social media.
had earlier taking her to show same oga for the first time before we wedded, when we were in Abuja Transcorp Hilton, and oga asked her straight forward if she was ready for marriage, and she fully answered by saying yes and oga immediately gave her 500k for airtime.
Oga was fully present in benin for my wedding, after cancelling a 140m show appearance. Oga..
If you don't fear women then you don't value your life. Sweet but deadly.
I once had one who said I deflowered her but I later found out that she was using money on a boyfriend even after marrying her. Hm! Women I salute you all.
If you fear women then you don't value your life. Sweet but deadly.
I once had one who said I deflowered her but I later found out that she was using money on a boyfriend even after marrying her. Hm! Women I salute you all.
illicit: You have had your chances with young handsome single men in your prime
You blew it
Now u are getting shorter
So what u see is what u get....
The bitter truth is that a man will for sure cheat on a woman at least once in his life-time whether by mistake or intentionally but my take is that the man should respect the woman by doing so without her knowing. Do your shit very far from her or outside. Respect her and regard her as your one and only.😒🥺 Enjoy your life
The bitter truth is that a man will for sure cheat on a woman at least once in his life-time whether by mistake or intentionally but my take is that the man should respect the woman by doing so without her knowing. Do your shit very far from her or outside. Respect her and regard her as your one and only.😒🥺
Jewessgratitud3: I just thought to share and again it's no bodys business what I share about myself here. I chose to do it and don't care if it sits well with anyone or not. My life, my share .
I'm sharing this just to let some ladies know that being a widower doesn't break a man and will not stop him from being an unrepentant cheat if he wants to. I used to think a widower will be more responsible and loyal to one woman considering the fact that he's now a second hand value bachelor and the death of his former wife will make him get closer and more committed to his spouse, home and family at large but I was wrong cos after my experience with one, I realized men will always be cheat men.
This happened in 2013 after staying away from relationships for a long time. So I joined Badoo ( it was the rave then, though I joined in 2012). A young man ( in his 40s then) chatted me up and I checked his profile. There he stated that he was looking for a lady for serious relationship and added he was a Christian. He was also looking very handsome and tall. We chatted and exchanged numbers.
When we got talking he told me he was a widower. It was hard to believe because he looked very young. He now told me he married very early. He went ahead and told me he has 6 children 👀👀👀. I didn't believe until he showed me their pics. 4 girls and two boys. He said the wife kept having children because she wanted a male child and died after giving birth to the last child, a male. She got home from the hospital after childbirth and started bleeding immediately and was rushed back to the hospital but never made it back. Meanwhile he was not in the country when this happened.
This made me have compassion and developed feelings for him. After a few months of inviting me over, I finally agreed to visit after he assured me the elder sister is staying with him to look after the baby ( he was already a year then but was not walking). He never liked the boy because he was always saying the boy caused his wifes death and each time the baby boy sees him, he'll be screaming due to the way he looks at the baby and I'll be telling him to stop, teasing him that it's him the boy resembles. So when I visited for the first time, I was shocked at what I saw. He actually owns the house he was living in in Sango. He built it when the going was good but after the wife's death, he came back and stayed for a whole year without a job. He just got the job he was doing as a hotel manager when I met him and his take home was not good at all. So to maintain the big house was a challenge. He could barely feed his kids. Even the two older ones were not with him. They were living with his brother just to ease him of the burden. when the sister saw me, she got angry and told him that he has not finished taking care of his children he's bringing in another lady. He told me to ignore the sister and face him. If I go there, I'll cook and serve everybody because he was always complaining of not having money but sometimes he'll give me part of the money I used.
Initially the children didn't like me and he said I should be buying them snacks. So then if I close from work, I'll go and meet him at his office and we'll go home together. I bought snacks and the children reluctantly collected the snacks. He went to work on that Saturday and I gathered the children and started telling them stories. They began to come close. When he got back he drove all of us to a football viewing center and bought me pepper soup. I thought I had found the right man. I was even saying I don't need to birth any children since he already has six. We'll just stay with his own children ( lol . small girl sense). He would tell me no, that he wants me to give him a beautiful daughter like me.
Six months into the relationship, I noticed something in his room while he was away at work. I saw a foreign prison card in his jacket I now began to connect the dots. I remembered him saying he was away when the wife died and while she was pregnant, he had problem abroad. So she developed BP. He even told me he wasn't around when his house was built that the wife supervised the whole thing before he now had a problem but be never told me what the problem was. I then discovered with the prison card, he was prolly in jail all that time. I didn't ask him anything.
Later he started telling me there's this single mother that has been begging him to marry her and she buys him stuff. I was like marry her now afterall two of una na second hand value. He'll laugh and say God forbid. That he wants chassis. The lady buys him and his children stuff. At a point I told him to stop collecting the gift or risk our relationship. He promised to stop.
One day he was sleeping and i was just going through his phone ( I never used to do that) and saw "my love". My head sparked. I woke him up with a heavy slap and showed him, he started saying its you I love. I said no! Tell me who this Is.. then I began to cry because I just knew it was over. He started begging and called his Aunty into the room. The aunty said the person is a family. I said call her. He now called the number and an elderly woman picked and he started telling her that I'm crying my eyes out here because I saw a message he sent to her. The woman spoke with me but I wasn't convinced. Throughout that night, he played "please forgive me' Brian Adams. hmm.. feeling nostalgic now. I calmed down and we continued.
After some months my chairman sacked me because I refused to go out with him and told him I'm in a relationship. After I lost my job I reduced my visits because bus fare from mainland to Sango was quite expensive and he too could not sponsor my visits regularly due to so much financial responsibilities and since I had been the one doing it when I was working. It became a once in a while thing.
Then one day, he told me to come to his office let's go home that he has missed me. I asked him, do you have money he said we'll manage. This man did not tell me we were going by train ( chai things we do for love) from his office we set out to oshodi. This man put head for train lane. I said waaaat t... I almost went back but it was already getting dark. I entered train for the first time. See me shaking. He had to hold me before one man now stood up for me to sit. Because it's been a while I've been to the house, when we got home, the aunty said you'll not stay in one place. Today you carry this, tomorrow you carry another one. I told him what the sister said and he told me not to mind her. In my mind i was like... see this second wen I dey manage too wan dey play ... I kept asking until he now confessed that the Aunt was referring to the other single mother that the lady has been forcing herself on him but it's me he wants. There and then I zeroed my mind.
After that visit, as we were going that morning, we quarreled on the way because the vehicle we borded got spoilt plus I wasn't happy after hearing what the sister said. So I was just edgy that morning and blasted the driver and some of the passengers. He got angry and left after trying to get me off the bus and I refused, saying I should run after him cos he's running late for work. I was just looking at him. I didn't get down. I waited for him to go far, I now got down and took another route to my house.
I didn't call for a week and refused to pick his calls because whats the point killing myself over a widower with six children who has refused to stick with one woman. When I eventually picked, it was my guy ( now ex) who told me to pick in the bus that day we were going to camp and he was chyking me. Oga kept calling and as usual I ignored him but the sound was disturbing our conversation so my gy told me to pick and hear him out. I picked and he was crying and put all his children on the phone to beg me. He said they are missing me and one of them is sick. I said ok, I'll call you later. That was it. I blocked him. Went to Badoo and blocked him there in fact I deleted my Badoo account. Deleted his number and ended the whole thing..
Men will always be men
Modified
When I said all men are the same what I'm simply implying is, whether they are poor, rich, widower or handicapped they will still cheat or have that tendency to cheat. Take it or get lost!
A man's vulnerability doesn't stop him from exhibiting those bad habits (cheating and deception). They'll will always do that thing that make us call them meennnn... If you know what I mean and if you don't Gerrit, forget abourit. .
The bitter truth is that a man will for sure cheat on a woman at least once in his life-time whether by mistake or intentionally but my take is that the man should respect the woman by doing so without her knowing. Do your shit very far from her or outside. Respect her and regard her as your one and only.😒🥺
jeromestarks: I have dated a handful of girls. Yes ! I have. In fact, I am currently dating three girls ( FWB aside). But I have never met a lady who talks to me THE SAME WAY as do my mother.
I mean, this girl uses the same words like my mother. She faces me like my mother. She expresses confidence in me like my mother. One time, she told me that she would go to a caterer and book for 10k cake. I was like " hope you have the money for it?" Her reply was " you won't buy it for me? You will buy it for me don't worry"
As if she kept some money with me. Shuuu.
Same thing my mom said sometimes ago. She needed to buy a cloth of 12k for one occasion like that. As we were talking, she said " ehen, I will go to mama Ada and collect my clothes"
I said " that's nice" She said " that all you will say? Don't tell me you won't buy it for me ooo" Before I could say anything, she added " you will buy it for me don't worry"
This girl and my mom don't live close to each other. They don't talk on phone. In fact, they don't even cross path.
On many occasions, I have seen similarities in them. Their choice of food is the same. Their perception about life is similar. Their style of dressing is similar too ( my mom is not the type who dresses to impress. She wears what makes her comfortable and doesn't give a fvck about what others think)
If I am talking to this girl, I feel like I am talking with my mother. What's more shocking? This girl is only 19!
(The funny thing is that this young girl refused to be my girlfriend. She visits me like every day but won't allow me to do her).
If not that my mom is alive ehhh, I would have said this girl is her reincarnate.
Rebuker: "You must have up to 5 million Naira and above in your account before you can date me," the fine lady says.
In the short video, the beautiful lady says, "For those of you who want to date me, please drop your CV, let me see what you can do. How can you be poor and say you want to date a fine girl? See, I am a fine girl; I don't use filters. How could you be broke and want to date me? You must have at least 4-5 million Naira in your account balance." She goes on to ask, "Girls that date poor guys, how do you people do it?"
Testiebobo: It is true that some elderly couples are more concerned about their partners even than the younger ones. " I dont want to see you on social media! But why? Dont you know that when you are on social media you get more exposed to the world, and your privacy might be tampered with by the public. But you can only join whatsapp, so that i can get in touch with you whenever i am absent from home." hmm i laugh in spanish!
The kind of things happening nowadays has become something that one can not even comprehend anymore. So, don't judge your dad as it is said 'what an elderly one sees sitting if you like climb an Iroko tree, you wouldn't see it.'
A Nigerian Mum of four has died after allegedly being subjected to domestic violence for years, Reports.
A Facebook User, Amarachi Iwuala, who shared the sad story, As Sighted By , alleged that the husband of the deceased over the years subjected her to domestic abuse. She said the husband one time, allegedly beat the wife until she became unconscious.
Amarachi said when advised to leave her marriage, the deceased who was nursing a seven-month-old baby, said she would walk away when her children were grown as they were still little. She said the mother of the deceased even asked her to walk away from the marriage, but she also refused.
Posting On Facebook, Amarachi Wrote;
‘’Another woman gone.
She was married to a man who was viôlent towards her. Not just viôlent, he would lock doors and windows, raise music volume, and then start béating her, so that help won't come for her.
One day he béat her till she was unconscious, the whole compound joined in rushing her to the hospital. After treatment, she came back to the same house.
People advised her to leave, she said her children were still little, she wanted them to grow a bit before she leaves. She wanted them to grow yet she was giving birth to more. She had four children, the last one is just 7 months old.
Two weeks ago, an old woman living in their compound called this lady's mother, asking her to come take her daughter if they still want her alive. The mother replied that the lady said she's not leaving.
This is why it's good to have some weyrey as a mother. Even if she doesn't want to leave, use vawulence and bring her out by force. O dighi apu àra.
Back to the story. Two days ago, that is Thursday 2nd November 2023, they woke up in the morning to hear the man béating the woman as usual.
After the béating, normal life continued. They said that night, the lady went about her normal chores, she stayed up till 11pm wasting and hanging cloths. Neighbors saw her.
They all woke up yesterday morning only to hear that the lady is déad. How?
The husband is saying he slept in the sitting room while she slept in the bedroom, that he only entered the room in the morning and found her dead.
Neighbors said her bed was soaked with water though, and there's still no explanation for that.
The husband is saying she should be buried immediately as he doesn't have money to pay mortuary bills.
The sad part, her father heard the news and had a heart attack, she was his only daughter. He was rushed to hospital, but news has it that he didn't make it.
Her 7month old baby cried the whole day and refused to eat every food that was offered her, she was looking for breast milk. She cried till she started running temperature.
See how many lives have been affected by her choices.
Four children rendered motherless. Only God knows what their fate will be, they'll probably be shared amongst relatives who may/may not treat them well.
I know all these because we have a mutual friend who was at their place yesterday to get first hand info. She was crying bitterly on phone while speaking to me, I told her to stop crying, the lady chose this.
The husband cannot even be held responsible. Police came, asked him questions and left.
We keep writing daily for women to learn, but some are determined to waste their lives.
Someone in an abûsive marriage will read this post and say "it's not my portion", and keep staying in the marriage.
Like I'll always say, we can't help everybody. Keep staying, keep waiting for your children to grow up, keep thinking of what society will say, keep thinking of how you'll survive, keep thinking if you'll find another man, keep thinking the children need a father, keep hoping he'll change. Just keep at it, since you have no value for the life you have.''
Family / Re: Please Should Continue My Marriage Plan With Her After Hearing This? by Erikposi(m): 9:22pm On Dec 27, 2023 
.