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I know a woman is truly into me when she begins to invest in me more than i do. I was a simp even down to investing my peanut earnings into a woman who has never known love, who had been used, dumped and abandoned by alphas all her life. She made millons effortlessly. When it got to my turn i wanted to be different ,as it was my default setting to play nice. Omo i saw alot. Cheers to realising my folly over the years and the emergence of an emancipated simp.

LIVINGICONREBOR:
I remembered when I credited one gal's sportybet account, north of six figures. I no still achieve anything with such "nice" gesture.


cc guobe

The moment u even give anything more than smile, it's never coming back else she really likes u.

Tenrack:
I can bet my balls she no still gree.

omo

Tenrack:
I no even fit bash the guy, the Tori just dey too funny. I be dey expect part 2. Guy beta turn this thing to book series. E go sell. 😂😂😂 Omo men dey see things for this life.

Oboi :😂😂

Precious201010:
All of us have simped one time in our life... Back around 2007 I had 1 crush at Garki market, very beautiful black lady, she usually help her mother to sell ugu leaf...

Sometimes just to see her smile and talk with her, I'll go and buy ugu that I don't need for anything, then I'll throw the ugu away when I get home.

Lol.. this is hilarious. I remember attending a girl's church just to make her like me despite my stance on religion .. oh no

kiddaz:
Lol guyyyy.. your men supposed gather flog sense enter you. Whaaat :
From the call you supposed done know say na control things na chai. You for still try run her later despite her having a boyfriend. You just allowed her use you for free. Them go laugh you tire on top bed that night no be small

My guys chop me rawwww... Omo dat girl use me play . She no gree come my side. She dey always talk say make we comot .. She almost use billing kpai me before I ghost am

muyico:
Fiction or non fiction ??
Z

It's based on my experience. Realtime.

Bck in 2020 I could recall one time , there was this new beautiful girl in my street whom i admired so much. Lets call her Amina, a corper. She had skin like milk and hourly glass shape that made all the boys drooled.

Her walking steps made her backside giggle with every pace in time. I was barely 23 and was a fvcking simp. Each time our eyes met, she would smile sheepishly as i waved at her , while she giggled her behind as she walked past elegantly. In my head i was like "omo this babe don dey dread me, be like say things go sup". My next game plan was to take her number and i did.

One day Amina walked past and my friends called my attention , " oboi that banny don dey pass again". Prior to this, i had informed them of my intentions to block her. But that day i was reluctant , cuz i was dressed like a servant as she had seen me in that clothing thrice before. I would be appearing like merlin..u know...

My greatest desire that period was to please her and give her a good treat . I didnt mind if we had nothing, tho i wanted some . Watching her facial expressions alone was satisfying as she was drop dead gorgeous.

Eventually i got her number on a good day. We got talking and i opted for her to come over and she agreed. I bribed my roomie to clean up the house and get lost .
He did but at the 11th hour before her arrival, she canceled and preferred we stayed out or go somewhere nice, which i obliged.

We sat inside Final Fantasy at Choba for a drink. She was soft spoken and even the tone and sound of her voice melted my heart each time she spoke my name. I guess i was in love . The babe just dey gimme joy , we fit knack


In that moment , she received a call and she became uncomfortable as i read her expressions. It seemed she was being questioned about her whereabout and her response went like this. " I'm at final fantasy..i'll be there soon, i just wanna get shawarma and drinks. dnt worry i'll get for u too ''.


By this time, we'd spoken for about an hour and she had the sudden prompt to leave, but asked us to go get shawarma and food for her friend. Prior to getting the shawarma, i had paid for our food and drinks (2 plates of beef rice and 2 chi exotic and extra turkey, plus a take away pack for her friend) totalling 21k.


Mind you, i never bothered to ask if her friend was male or female. I assumed it would be a female friend cuz ladies would barely buy things for guys. In my simp mind i was like "make i run some 1 or 2 for her friend, so i go get some rating".

We got to the shawarma stand and while we were there, i saw her waving at a c300 benz. unknowingly to me , it was the male friend who called her. She ordered two shawarma and i told the guy to make extra one , and i forgot to tell him the extra one was for me. As she was about to pay, i brought out my card and offered to pay, she smiled widely , it pleased me...how foolish of me . He put all three in one nylon pack and handed it over to her .


It wasnt his fault, he thought we were going home together(i wished), and because of pride i couldnt collect that one extra shawarma back ..hahahahaha . i been mumu sha. She hurriedly collected it . I was expecting a hug but Amina shook me saying " i had a nice time. You're such a sweet soul. see u later, that's my friend over there. bye".

She hurriedly left and got into her friend's car . I felt like the ground should swallow me. Did i just buy food for a girl's boyfriend? I stood there zombified in disblief as they zoomed off probably to go do some pounding and energize themselves with the food i got .... yh it was her boyfriend . SHE told me later on. That day i trekked home thinking of the rubbish i had just done

I actually bought a pack of rice , 3 shawarma and drinks for them. Money wey i been plan to use sew native and buy pams...omo e waste. . i for just carry olosho , e for no cost me reach like that.

It's highly time u dumped her. She will make you cry cuz i can see you've invested alot, hence you are concerned about if she shows u off or not.
I'll never make the mistake of investing a dime in any woman that hasn't invested hugely in me. There's a girl who is so into me, i barely give her shishi and i make so much compared to her. She earns peanuts, but she always wants to support whenever i pretend to be broke. I can never bother myself or behave insecure around such a lady who showers me with love, effortlessly.

That babe no like u at all. You are dating urself.

Samantha125:
Well, I'm not bothered by the fact that I'm not a mama's baby... I'm doing just fine...😌😌😌

Like I said, I've made peace with it long time ago.

That's good to know.

Samantha125:
My mother once told me how she'd have abandoned me had it been that I wasn't her child.

My only crime was that I'm a straight talker who's always direct... She's said a lot of more hurtful things over the years.

Already I've made peace with the fact that I'm her least favourite child... My father's love and emotional support is enough for me.

Ehya. I see . You should heal. . It's not really fair to receive such treatment from your mom.

Samantha125:
But seriously, what kind of a full grown man is always talking about mama this and mama that? The guy didn't even say anything about advising or helping his own father.

He'd rather help his sister and mother than his father, perfect traits of a mama's boy... Basically what he's implying is that his father should just go ahead and die in silence.

I'm guessing you're still single in your thirties . Lol .

Gadafii:
I used to be like that no1, until I met this young girl that didn't just love me, she cares for me, look out for me, respect me, soft spoken and generous towards me, me wey be gangster con dey crave for love😂😄

Then I realized I have been suffering in the hands of naija girls reason I was like that no1 for a very long time.

She's so deliberately about my welfare, look, stomach, sexual desires, growth, everything you can think of, brings me food, clears the bills sometimes when we hang out, I had to loosen up my bredas.

Guess what guys, she's not a naija breed, black beautiful yoruba girl, clownish, and smart.

Make I pause here first 😂

Did you later dump her?

SixSeven:
Never show any form of emotion or weakness before a woman unless it's your mother.


This includes crying in front of them. These days, women are trying to change the narrative of strong men saying that he needs to cry, dadidadida. Crying doesn't make women feel secure with men. Cry in your man cave as a man but never show weakness in front of women. They will use it against you. Although men have cried because of death and things like that, it is understandable but for world problems, no.

Your number 5 is contradictory. I think you are referring to religiosity or maybe it is better to say have a personal relationship wit with God instead of groupthink.

Your number 2 and 3, invest in yourself first and if you help a woman, do not expect gratitude. A lot of people expect that because they spent on a woman, she should pay back in marriage, sex or whatever. Help her because she is a human being. Help her because she deserves it but never invest your emotions in it. That is the mistake. Do not expect reward from her because that means you are doing it for a different reason. There is a way you will do things that she will be the one begging you to marry her and it is always important to let her love you more than you do. Not obsession because that will be possessive but the way you wrote in number 1 about your mother, a woman who has your best interests at heart will help you as a wife and mother to your children. Most men don't look at who will give birth to their children, they just plant their seeds anyhow.

At 28, you are smart enough to write this but let me remind you of something

ACT WITH KINDNESS BUT DO NOT EXPECT GRATITUDE.

Aptly noted and understood. Thanks for the corrections and additions ...

1. Never show any form of emotion or weakness before a woman unless it's your mother.

Be always non reactive and emotionless to everything they do , talk less and never argue with a woman. The moment you do, you've lost, as you've resorted to express feminine energy and it's a turn off. You'll lose all respect. She'll begin to resent you for disappointing her and for hypergamy to be satisfied, she'll find someone more masculine .

2. Never invest in a woman or take women seriously. Never give them any form of advice or help unless it's your sister , male friend or mother.

It's a trick or test whenever she seeks for your help, opinion or advice on issues. The moment you advice or help her, she thinks she's of value and you are compensating her for that.

3. Hustle smart and hard . Invest it more in yourself than anybody else.

If you deny yourself to help others, they'll upgrade and look down on you . Your sacrifices will not be remembered, and people will resent you for putting them first inpalce of yourself. Especially women.

4. No one cares about you or your problems.

The moment you open up to people ,they'd be comforted that you're in misery whilst they give you a pity advice behind their mask of pretense decorated with a vague smirk. Then they'll ghost you the moment they realize the chips are down. These were same people who knew your value and would want to be around you always when things were rosy.

5. Hold fast and firm to God in moments of trials and even gladness.

He's the anchor in the waves . He heals all wounds and restores. Don't subscribe to religion. Pray in your closet , alone or with your family. He knows how to comfort you.

Removed.

Disclaimer: This post is not to tarnish the image of any single mother . But to share my experience for any young guy to take note of the patterns of promiscuous women, especially one that is a single mom.


A single guy with a single mom almost never ends well. It's a losing game in most cases.

zed7:
It's funny how after some time, you wonder what you saw in that person you couldn't live without.

It's all funny to me now. Seeing and knowing the predictable patterns.

anthonyuncle:
I would've sighed at this but,
Mtchew!

It's not that deep. Trust you're good.

Closed.

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Gunayo:
When you see a single mum that doesnt like staying with their child or children, just know that she is promiscus and such a person cannot be faithful

She said it was her parents who insisted that the child stayed with them. But it's over 12years now . She's used to it and has refused the child from even visiting for holidays

Wealthyonos:
Replace it with womanizing. Better still, fall in love with a lady that you'll be accountable to

Woman go make him death quicker

Mistersolar:
hope u were able to get over her

It's still fresh. Might sound funny but I'm trying to heal. But she still wants back . I've cut her off from the last means she has of reaching me.

Mistersolar:
sigh....but y are these set of people like this,its after i had issue i started seeing loads and loads of men on facebook narrating their ordeal,wish i did my homework,bro i come lean,come become shadow of myself...whats with those hand and waist beads stuff,are they enchanted or spelled or something

There must be something diabolic about those waist beads. Just like you, 3-4 days of no contact and I'm running back despite the disrespect. She cheats and rubs it on my face. I was mentally unstable and couldn't focus on my self. But I'm done now . Not all single moms are this way but majorly those made outside wedlock are likely to have same pattern behavior.

Anaconda76:
For the singular fact that she preferred her daughter to live with her grandparents instead of her is enough red flag.....yet you still chook head.

I tried convincing her many times to let the kid live with her hoping it would make her a little responsible and cool headed. But she refused , claiming she has little or no bond with the child . The child too rarely misses the mom.

Mistersolar:
hello guys,omo my strong guy don turn weak guy,i dey weep sleep,sleep self no dey come,i don free girl wey don travel enter cairo wey won marry me,even girl wey her papa get hotel,i mean even a 33plus lady whose father left a house for her....i no still gree marry dem oo......na one single mother of one wey no get anything i come still dey beg dey pursue even as shes cheating on me rubbing it on my face..now if i vex mute,maximum 4days i don dey run after her.....now i had to speak up to my mum cos i don lose weight from sleepless night,cant eat even declined some some work,30 yr old single mother ooo imagine...now my mum took me to an alfa, na there it was revealed the girl used spirituality...mind u d girl is cherubim and seraphim attendee..im just forming strong man here, cant even focus at work
So the issue is how do i break free..in between our relationship ,she bought waist bead and i asked her where she got it, she said nearby market..now im thinking dat bead wasnt ordinary ....the issue now is shes very very rude and disrespectful, shes not even adding anything to me,if i sleep it has to be her dream...imagine ur fiancee cheating and still rubbing it in ur face but u still wouldn't let her go..what wrong guyz

Sorry bro. Was in this same mess. I made a thread yesterday about my experience. She's a single mom of one who cheats and just recently she started wearing waist beads and leg chain. She's always rude and disrespectful. I just ended things. I trust you're ok and haven't gone back?

Teymanhenry:
When you meet a woman and start catching feelings, it’s important to pay attention to how she earns a living and the kind of life she’s building for herself. This isn’t about judging — it’s about clarity. Just as women observe men for stability and direction, men should also observe women for independence and values.
If you don’t earn enough to comfortably support yourself, don’t try to sustain a relationship with money you don’t have. That’s not love, that’s pressure — and pressure eventually breaks things. When a relationship is built mainly on financial maintenance, someone with deeper pockets can easily step in and replace you.
The real lesson is simple: use your head before your emotions. Use your brain to think instead of your heart or dick. Choose wisely, build yourself first, and let relationships grow from mutual effort, not financial desperation.

Thanks very much for this piece advice. It sank in well .

Talismann:
I swear to God, hand go touch you. Nor go hustle

Lol . The information here is based on my experience. I have funds to spend half a million on myself for technical trainings and also survive a couple of months without a job. I'm a mathematically inclined individual who's into programming n tutoring. I'm currently without a full time job but I still remotely work at night and handle a couple of lesson gigs. Thanks for the advice tho.

Talismann:
awwwnnnnn please go back to her, she cares so much about you.

Why not just marry her bro. She go dey cook steady and give you steady knacks. Think about all the enjoyment bro.

You even have a child, her child which you can call your own.

Awwwnnnnn young daddy

Thanks for your input.

omooba969:
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Hahahahaha 🤣 🤣 🤣, @bolded shows you have not learnt from your past experience. It shows you are not emotionally intelligent, neither a man guided by principles.

Hahahahaha 🤣, you're only a victim of error...lol 😂😂🤣🤣

It's funny to you, but I never claimed to be anything. I'm only human and I'm prone to make mistakes . Thanks for your input.

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