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busar: brothers still doing what they know how to do best. Shaving of beards makru? Do you havae any evidence for that? The Prophet is the best example for the believers. And i don't think there's any companion that don't keep the beards.

Sissie: Salam, I will answer your questions with questions

1. Why do many graduate men don't keep the beards, or wear trouser that longer than the ankle?

wsalam.9ja 4mula of answering questions b d@.

Does keeping beards/wearing trouser longer than the ankle fall in the same category with 'hijab'?

2.most men don't want to marry divorces or widows that have been married previously for like 2, 3 times as a first wife?

For me,I can marry any women(previously married or not) so far she has the qualities I need and she's not prohibited for me to marry Islamically.


3.you prefer women that haven't been previously married. And why do most do men in polygamy do injustice,and how many men can comfortable take care of more than one?

ummsulaym: hehehehe, ya akhee, I think say u don forget the questions ooo.... I wan commot, when i reuturn In Shaa Allah, I will modify this to the reply...

Esji80: 1.Why is that MANY Sisters that have gone to School e.g graduates do not like to be wearing 'Hijab'?

2.Most of you don't want a husband that is married i.e the one that'll take you as second,third or fourth wife,y?

3.U prefer a husband d@ won't re-marry another wife.y?

tbaba1234: I apologise if I said anything wrong or inappropriate.

I love you for the sake of Allah.

babylolaroy: you both are muslims so just stop this argurment...it is not okay to do so. agree to disagree nd lets move to something else
thanx

babylolaroy: you both are muslims so just stop this argurment...it is not okay to do so. agree to disagree nd lets move to something else
thanx

Sissie: I don't understand the argument.

One translation is

Desiring chastity not lust.

Another one is

Desiring chastity not unlawful sexual intercourse

So what's the argument?

Sissie: I don't understand the argument.

One translation is

Desiring chastity not lust.

Another one is

Desiring chastity not unlawful sexual intercourse

So what's the argument?

Qhan: Sallam Alykum Bro n Sis.

Am a regular user of NL, and also a regular guest of the Islam for Muslims forum. I have only summoned courage to post this, the reason for a New User Account.

I need opinions on How Best to approach a Muslimah for a serious relationship (With the intention of Marriage in the Next few months, say 12mnths on the high side ) under the following circumstances:

1. Not familiar with any Muslimah or have any in mind
2. A very shy and Timid person when it comes to female matters
3. Just one history of friendship with a Muslimah with hope of marriage, but hope dashed cos of Genotype issue
4. Most Muslimah are always hostile to men they tag as Strangers (and some could even insult or embarrass )


Also is it polite to Post relationship request on Forums or Groups on Facebook?

Sissie: If a man can provide for a woman and decides to marry with the main reason of satisfying his urges legally their is nothing wrong in that as far as he knows and does his duties to her.

However a man can't just decide to get married to satisfy his urge when he can't support a wife, in this situation he should fast to control his urges.

tbaba1234: ^ Wa iyyakum,

Nothing i have said goes against the understanding of the Sahaba. Please provide the evidence that states otherwise. Get married as soon as you can provide support and protection to a home not because of your urges or desires.

A person should get married as soon as he can support a home. If you can't, then fast to help with whatever urges you have. That is the advice from the messenger (peace and blessings be upon him).

0 young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes from casting (evil glances). and preserves one from immorality; but those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting for it is a means of controlling intimate desire. Muslim :: Book 8 : Hadith 3231

Help yourself to any classical arabic dictionary. Remember that is the language of the Quran. Lane's lexicon is available online.

I have a video reference that i can't upload here (too big).

tbaba1234: What is there to interpret? It is clear.

A person can have the means to support a woman but refuse to get married. Living a chaste life is certainly one of the purposes of marriage but you can not separate the hadiths. They have to be understood together.

Besides Allah makes it clear in the Quran:

....muhsineena ghayra musafiheena ...

Muhsineena-

Root: To be guarded, be inaccessible, be strongly fortified, be preserved, be protected--

This is how Allah describes a man getting married.

ghayra- not

root - except, without, etc....

Musafiheena-

Musafi is a player... One who just wants to get his lust out.

Allah says be the one who brings women into security and protection not the one who just wants to get his lust out.

babylolaroy: jazak Allah khair. Thanx broda. so i can pick it from dia and contribute mashaAllah

babylolaroy: salam alaykum warahmatullah. i see all of una. this's got to be a very interesting thread. the topic is catchy buh as you see, i just started following so i dont know wats on ground. please dont ask me to go way up to read, let a good brother or sister fisabilillah just tell me wats for discussion and i'll pik it from dia.

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Sissie: Theirs no right and wrong, you don't go saying someone father is wrong, because you share a different perspective. it's not like he's delaying for no reason, a man who don't have means to get married also delays gettings married. There's a reason.

I don't know what your going on about with the 3rd party thing. I said in my own house, my own dad no 3rd party that will change his mind, so if professors like let them suggest more than 3 methods.

Besides what is with the hmmmm graduate? I said I am not in her shoes, am not an undergraduate trying to convince my dad, when you suggested I involve a third party, was just telling umm sulaym what my sis went through.

maclatunji: To be honest, I think he makes sense. Sex is important but it is not food or water, you won't die if you wait a few years jor.

ummsulaym: Ameen... Have been catching up with her revertion case and I wonder why they trouble her so much to the point of threatening her... Am sure if it was a muslim *even if na Imam pikin* that had converted and being disturbed this way, we no go hear word for naija again...
Menawhile, may Allah S.W.T give her the strenght to carry on... It's a rise of another 'Jahliyah' where reverts are opposed like bad news... Whoever Allah guides, no one can misguide and whoever HE doesn't, no one can guide... May Allah keeps her 'GUIDED'

ummsulaym: Ameen... Have been catching up with her revertion case and I wonder why they trouble her so much to the point of threatening her... Am sure if it was a muslim *even if na Imam pikin* that had converted and being disturbed this way, we no go hear word for naija again...
Menawhile, may Allah S.W.T give her the strenght to carry on... It's a rise of another 'Jahliyah' where reverts are opposed like bad news... Whoever Allah guides, no one can misguide and whoever HE doesn't, no one can guide... May Allah keeps her 'GUIDED'

ummsulaym: he fears that I will be distracted especially if Allah bless the union with a fruit and I am still in school... The way he do explain things makes it look like he is the one that will go though the stress... Guess he is just being 'fatherly'... I have bigger issues than he approving of it... The fear of what follows approval sometimes want to make me back down as if am flowing with his decision to graduate first

deols: So if a Father sees something that could be detrimental to his daughter, does that not fall under the 'character' part.

There is a reason he is the father and he will answer for it if he gives his daughter to the wrong person.

Like I said the brother needs to prove himself good enough for his daughter, if not, the father is very right.

ummsulaym: can't get my dad to understand that... If he doesn't say you are too young, he says you need to graduate, now the going is getting smooth and his demand is a 'first class' by the end of next session to permit me to get married while schooling *first class my G.P no near*...
Truth be told, they always give those reasons with the believe of wanting the best for us... May Allah do the best for us cuz HE is the best of planners