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deols: I agree. Part of the means is having seen and known the right partner. The father of the girl still has every right over his daughter. So, he either waits for her or finds somebody else.

Yeah ofcourse he has d right.

BUT he wl b accountabl for watever happened as a result of delaying d marriage.

The father of a lady MUST NOT delay marriage of his daughter if a proposal is received frm a man who is of sound religion and character.

As I earlier qoute d Prophet p.b.u.h said 3 thngs shldn't b delayed: 1.salat 2.burial 3.marriage...Tirmidhi

In another narration he said "when some1 wt whose religion and character you are satisfied asks for ur daughter in marriage,accede to his request.IF you do NOT do so there will be CORRUPTION & GREAT EVIL ON EARTH".. .Tirmidhi

SISTERS: U also contribute to d delay of ur marriages; d husband I want to marry must b tall n dwarf,giant n short,must be fair,wt pointed nose,an Igbo by tribe n resident of SW,must have 10 flashy jeeps etc LOL

NOBODY IS PERFECT

maclatunji: Rushing to get married because you want to have sex is unwise. This is another reason for failure in marriages. There is a lot more to life than sex.

SEX IS VERY IMPORTANT D@ IT CAN LEAD TO DIVORCE as stated above by bro tbaba.

Though I agree wt U d@ there are mo in marriage. . .

D Propher p.b.u.h said "Young men,those of you who can support a wife should MARRY,for it lowers ur gaze and preserves ur chastity,but those who cannot should fast,for it is a means of cooling SEXUAL PASSION". .. Reported by al-Buhari

Not gettng married early despite d means he has can lead him to illicit sex esp if he has high sexual somethng ...waiyazubillah.

In another hadith d Prophet p.b.u.h said "those of U d@ av d means,shld MARRY n GENERATE, for I wl b proud of you on d day of recompense."

1 of d essence of marriage is procreation. . .wc can't b achieved wtout d sex we r talking abt.

IF am d 1 havng d means I can't wait fo ha 2 graduate b4 we marry.

yokiti: Barka de sallah to our muslim faithfuls and my other colleagues serving up North; Wishing you a stress free and peace break. It remains exactly 4 months for us to say Bye - Bye to NYSC service year.

Thanks.

Here in Gombe State, Governor Ibrahim Hassan Dankwambo(Talban Gombe) OON,gave a sum of N20,000 to each batch 'C' 2012 corps member on their P.O.P for transportation back to their various destinations.

We hope n pray d@ it wl b an 'infinite loop' n other governors wl emulate ds gesture done to these ex-corps members...amin.

olawalebabs: There is this challenge a brother is facing right now.

There is this lady he is engaged to, both family are in the picture of what is happening. The man is a graduate and well do, the lady is an undergradute in one of the university in the country, this brother is willing and ready to marry her now, but the lady father insist she have to finish her school before any talk of marriage. this is almost costing the relationship. What do you advise?

I thnk he shld seek for a third pary(sm1 ha family highly respect-an Islamic scholar etc) intervention,in other to make an agreement on his behalf so d@ they can marry within d earliest possible time to avoid FITNAH.

D Prophet p.b.u.h said 3 thngs shld nt be delayed:
1.Marriage 2.Salat 3.Burial. . .Tirmidhi

We r in a highly corrupted era in terms of illicit sex.MANY ppl consider ZINA as a passion o civilisation waiyazubillah.Allah s.w.t says in Q17:32
"DO NOT COME NEAR ZINA,IT IS INDEED AN ABORMINATION AND AN EVIL WAY"

May Allah s.w.t guide us ameen.

May Allah's blessings n benevolence mek ur hearts n homes;happy,har monious,joyous, prosperous,deli ghtfl n delectated @ ds festive season of Eid ul Adha n in ol d times to come ameen.

May Allah in his infinite mercy bless us n spare our lives to c mo of ds day in gud health,wealth n faith ameen.

**BARKA DA SALLAH

@ deols n Sissie,am sorry if my words upset u ppl.

As we r preparing for fasting 2moro i.e Arafat day in other to get Allah's mercy n forgivnss of all our sins. . .May He accept our ibad@s,du'as n grant us our heart desires here n hereafter ameen.

Ma'assalam.

deols: Actually, tbaba did not say that it is unrelated to the post. He said my comment inspired it.

What bothers me is how an innocent comment brings the worst to his mind.

I may have to take longer breaks at other times.

Maybe seeing each other's usernames too often is starting to have negative effects.

I hope a psychologist agrees with my method

Eid Mubarak in advance Everyone

Take it easy pls deols n Sissie.Understand where sm1 is headng to b4 u set d missiles on him.

PLS B MINDFUL OF UR WORDS FOR ALLAH'S sake.

wat brought d issue of seeing ur username . . .go for break. . .haba we r not kids. . .easy sister

In an authentic hadith d Prophet p.b.u.h was reported to av said "a gud muslim is d 1 who no muslim is hurted by his hands n tongue"-rough trans.

**EID MUBARAK In advance
***don't forget to fast on d 9th Dhull hijjja i.e a day to eid as it expiates for two yrs sins-d previous yr n d coming yr--Reported by Muslim.

Am sorry if my words are harsh.D truth is always bitter.

May Allah s.w.t guide n forgv us ol.

deols: In my case though, I find it very easy to talk about these things. Maybe because of my profession.


I dislike it when people give the weird looks or act like it is abnormal to talk about sex.

If Umar R.A hu married his daughter to d Prophet p.b.u.h, can ask d Prophet p.b.u.h abt d islamic rulings on vaginal intercouse frm d back. . .reported by Ahmad n Tirmidhi.

Then we shld feel free and ask questions abt wat may b beneficial to us. So d@ if we marry we won't deny our spouses rights unknowngly.

deols: I don't think asking the question is soo essential.

Majority of people are in the average group of having just the average amount of libido. That is why we have more average height people than the tall or short. I mean, same principle.

So, without asking the question, majority will marry someone that has just as much libido as they do or whose does them no harm.

But of course there is always the exceptions and in that case, asking puts the mind at rest and the possibility of getting on with the right partner is increased.

Not many would be able to do that. Especially if brought up in our conservative society. They could pray and just trust in their prayer. Istikhara could lead them to the right partner.

Are u saying d@ d level of libido is directly proportional to d height of an individual?

If u r short u've low.If u r tall u've high??

D@ means is nt advisable for sm1 to marry a person d@s taller than him/her?

Sissie: Some of that question is weird, how will the person know how many rounds, except previously married?
But I think to an extent someone can tell how their drive may be, or the level of libido.

@mac am not making it look like a chore, but to some people its a chore. And I do not think tiredness may be a good enough reason to say no islamically, am not talking about extreme fatigue, just being tired after a day of work, chores and taking care of kids.

@esji am talking about a man who says no because he's not in the mood, is that a sin islamically?

YES,it is Islamically. Its ha ryt.Even if he is not in d mood.D Holy Prophet p.b.u.h highly recommended pre-intimacy before sexual intercouse.She shld engage him d@.

Lkwse for d wife to deny him his ryt is a sin Islamically.Unless if she has a genuine excuse like sickness,mensturation etc

It is emphasized in Islam that a husband should not deny his wife’s physical needs. Both of them are related to each other, as Allah says in the Qur’an , “They are
a garment for you and you are a
garment for them…” (Al-Baqarah:
187)


A husband who without any
genuine reason neglects his wife’s
needs is as sinful as a wife who
neglects her husband’s needs
without any excuse. The husband
and wife both should care for eah
other in all matters, whether they
are moral and spiritual or
financial and physical. The
relationship between the husband
and wife should be based on what
the Qur’an says, “love and
compassion” (al-Rum: 21).”

This is why the Shariah has made
it obligatory for both spouses to
fulfill the sexual needs of their
spouse in marriage . This is
understood, the scholars say, from the above mentioned Qur’anic verse
(2:187)

Sissie: What if no pain but just tiredness/fatigue, is that enough reason islamically to say no?
What if opposite is thé case, the wife is thé problem, the husband isn't obligated to agreeing everytime she wants even if he's not in pain or something, if he's just not in the mood?

@tpia, I want to knw whether it is permissible Islamically for some1 to ask his/her prospective wife/husband such questions.

^ I was dscussing wt a brother,hu said he heard an Alfa in their place(Ilorin) who told them d@ is very important 4 u to knw ur prospective wive's level of libido, no. of rounds she can go etc,n also fo ha to knw urs fo compatibility B4 MARRIAGE.



I dont if anybody can clarify this t

o us. Is it PERMISSIBLE ISLAMICA

LLY fo some1 to know these b4 m

arriage? If YES,HOW? pls cite reference(s)

frm d Qur'an,Hadith o any authen

tic source of Islamic law.

These are very important question
s d@ we shldnt ignore to find solutions to them.As de affect us b4 marriage as singles n after marriage.

May Allah s.w.t guide us ol. . .ameen

^Am nt sure whether de av paid o not.Some1 wrote ds:

noah010: ma frnds wey do IT for 2009 don dey receive alert. pple wey use first bank, UBA etc but me wey use GTBANK never receive o, anybody in ma shoe?

^ Allahu akbar.May ur dream come true ameen.

WHY I WANT TO GET MARRIED

1.To satisfy my intimate needs. . .#very important. . .
2.To get Children
3.To have a life-partner that we shall guide each another and struggle to attain Allah's pleasure here and here-after-Al-Jannah
4.To have offsprings d@ shall b educated n trained to be Ulama's,Doctors academic n medical,Professors,Sheikhs,Engineers,Lawyers,accountants,Nurses,Pharmacists etc d@ wl become ambassadors of Islam wherever de r. . .in other to uplift Islam n assist d poor,needy n d less privileged.

To me LOVE s d 1 no. feature d@ I'll av 4 any lady b4 I marry ha.Then physical attraction. . .Bt I dnt consider ha BEAUTY. rather knowledge western n islamic,love 4 d deen,piety,Character,manners n mannerisms,respect,trustwortiness etc

Reported by Abu Hurairah
(RA): The Prophet (peace be
upon him) said, "A woman is
married for four things: for
her wealth, for her lineage,
for her beauty or for her
piety. Select the pious, may
you be blessed!".
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

noah010: ma frnds wey do IT for 2009 don dey receive alert. pple wey use first bank, UBA etc but me wey use GTBANK never receive o, anybody in ma shoe?

I did mine 2011,I used ECOBANK. ...bt I ddnt c any alert o o o.I wan buy sallah Ram wt d moni o o o ITF. . .

CORPERS WE O O O
We never see alawee here oo(Gombe State)- Though our ZI told us d@ dos using ecobank have gotten theirs. . .


D group i created in
facebook is not showing up
in search. . .

when i log out, log in with a
different facebook account that
is NOT a member of the group
nor a friend with my usual
facebook account, and search
for the title of the group, no
results come up. the group is a
closed group. i just created it
last night. does it take some
time to get into search results?

Thanks

the group i created in
facebook is not showing up
in search. . .


when i log out, log in with a
different facebook account that
is NOT a member of the group
nor a friend with my usual
facebook account, and search
for the title of the group, no
results come up. the group is a
closed group. i just created it
last night. does it take some
time to get into search results? Ijebabe or nex should please help me delete this topic. Thanks

A hadith pertaining d issue of household chores has been qouted earlier by brother mac.

I also quoted some hadiths where d Holy Prophet P.b.u.h said d wife MUST respect her husband bcs he s ha jannah n hell.Also d SISTERS should knw d@
If UR HUSBAND says U shld cook it becomes OBLIGATORY 4 U 2 COOK except in exceptional cases like sickness etc

Also remember d@
ARRIJALU QAWWAMUNA ALAN NISAA'I BIMA FADALLAHU BA'ADUHUM ALA BA'AD. . .

I also qouted another hadith where d Holy Prophet p.b.u.h said "had it been I'll ask sm1 2 bow down 2 a felo human,I'll av commanded a WIFE 2 bow down 2 ha HUSBAND"

Bro ShehuAba dont relent in ur efforts continue gvn ur own contributions pls.


So U shld knw d kind of words u utter 2 ur felo muslim brethren . . .

Ash'ari (May Allah be
pleased with him) reported:
I asked the Messenger of Allah (P.B.U.H ):
"Who is the most excellent among the
Muslims?" He said, "One from whose
tongue and hands the other Muslims
are secure."
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].


JAZAKUMULLAHU KHAIRA

deols: are you sure u want me to explain anything? when this, below is what you wrote

Look am nt attacking U o o.Afterall U r not d only 1 o sister d@ said smthng about HUSBAND doing d HOUSEHOLD CHORES. . .O he shld marry a professional mopper,clearner,cook etc

I always in a forum like ds say wats in my mind IF I thought wat am posting may hurt smbody ffld by cautinary words ov reminder.

In a hadith d Holy Prophet Muhammad p.b.u.h describes a good muslim as d one hu muslims r not hurted by his/her hands/mouth. . .I cant vividly recall it.

Pls explain clearly wats wrong there?

Assalamu alaikum.I found ds article very important.Its about husband-wife responsibilities.

http://www.sunnah.org/msaec/articles/responsibilities_husband.htm

busar: @ deols,What do you mean by this?

Jazakallahu khair

deols pls explain wat u actually mean.I did not understand wat u r trying 2 figure out there.

busar: @ deols,What do you mean by this?

Jazakallahu khair.

Am not here to attack anybody o o.

deols: If the wife does not like house chores, the husband should do them. and if none of them would, they should get a maid.

If they cannot afford a maid still, they have no business getting married.

Assalamu alaikum.U shld knw d@ as a married woman,U r to respect ur husband,do d household chores except in a situation whereby he personally decided to assist U o get a housemaid.

6ta,plx wen trying to say anythng abt husband-wife,remember d@

ARRIJALU QAWWAMUNA ALAN NISAA'I BIMA FADALALLAHU BA'ADUHUM ALA BA'AD. . .
d husband s d head. As stated by d Holy Prophet P.B.U.H in a hadith qouted by a brother above d@ he went to cautioned his beloved daughter(FATIMA) on d issue ov taking housemaid as soon as he hears her demand.

Also in another hadith,d Prophet P.b.u.h said "had it been I'll tell anybody 2 bow down 4 a felo human,I'll av ask women 2 bow down 2 their husabands"--RESPECT


NOTE: 1.FATIMA according to a narration wl b d leader ov d women ov aljannah. . .

do U consider urself above ha in honor o wat?

2.D issue ov housemaid/driver nowadays s a big problem--some foolish husbands tends 2 b engagng in illegal acts wt d housemaid,likwese women n drivers.

Am sorry,U may thing my words r harsh. . .there r nothng bt cautionary words ov reminder FAZAKKIR FA'INNAZZKRA TANFA'UL MUUMINUUN.

May Allah guide,guard,protect,direct n bless us ol ameen.

As we unite here in nairaland may HE converge us in d most adorable aljannatul firdaus. . .ameen

May He gvs us d means ov gettng married + pious,caring,n adorable spouses ameen.

Slaak: Salamu alaykum brothers and sisters. The thread has bin kinda inactive for sm days now, so i decided to share this:
Some days bak, i visited a married-older-friend livin on the same street. I met him washin dishes on gettin there and he started complainin hw d wife often leaves d home unswept & dishes unwashed and how he's bein forced to do those tasks wen she's on leave. The most shockin of d revelations was dat ''The wife stays for days without performin ghusl after intimacy''.
Pls, let us enlighten eachoda on the virtues of cleanliness as evidenced inThe BOOK and fm The SUNNAH.
The lackadaisical attitude of we today's young muslims towards cleanliness is alarmin, young ladies no longer believe in carryin out houshlod chores as sweepin & dish-washin. Also, many don't even know how to perform ghusl.
May Allah SWT save us.

ameen summa ameen. Jazakallahu khaira.

Does d@ means she doesnt pray for some days after hvng intimacy? o she prays wt janaba?
If d answers to these quets are yes.Please preach 2 ha in other 2 salvage ha frm d torment of Allah S.W.T yaumul qiyama n in barzakh.

dmalam: they don pay us ystaday! tnk God!

SEPTEMBER ALAWEE

Richiez: I think you should start with PGD before going for Msc

Ok,PGD in whc course? Education?

Thanks

Helo maths gurus.

I am a graduate of Information Technology.I rili love maths.I want to do my masters in maths edu.

Itz it possible for me 2 go 4 Msc. ed Maths?

I need your advces please. . .thanks

**************Z INA**********
My dear muslim brethren permit me 2
greet U wt d most adorable n d most
cherishable 4mula ov greeting i.e
Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi
wabarkatuhu.
I just thought writing abt ds topic not
because I knw mo dan any1 ov U o, rather
its due 2 it's paramount importance to
us.
ZINA means illegal sex(adultery/
fornication).All ah S.W.T in d Glorious
Qur'an have clearly prohibited ds
shaitaneous n illicit act,as shown in:
1.Q17:32, "And do NOT come near
zina; indeed its an abormination and
an evil way"
D verse clearly shows d@ we shldnt go
near zina.
In a hadith d Prophet P.b.u.h
prohibited touching ov a lady dx
neither Ur wife nor any lady d@s
islamically permissible 2 U. It is better
for U 2 touch fire o to have a long nail
e.g 9inches bn beaten in2 ur head wt a
hammer in another narration.
Ds Prohibits KISSING,HUGGING
,SHAKING,etc.
2.In Q24:3,Allah S.w.t says d@ d
adulterer/ fornicator shallnt marry
except an adulteress/ fornicatoress and
vice versa.
3.In Q24:26,also HE says d@ gud men
r 4 gud women n vice versa.Also bad
men r 4 bad women n vice versa.
4.In Q24:30-31. He commanded d
Holy Prophet p.b.u.h d@ he shld tell d
belivng men n women 2 lower their
gaze frm looking @ forbidden thngs n
guard their modesty frm illegal sexual
acts.Also d@ d ladies shld cover their
bodies except wat is apparent....als o
Q33:59(hijab).
5.In Q23:5-6,Allah describes d true
belivers as those d@ guard their
private parts frm illegal sex except 2
their wives o slaves.
In conclusion,d Prophet Muhammad
p.b.u.h warn us 2 avoid secluding wt a
lady especially in a hidden place.D@ if
u r wt a lady,shaitan is d 3rd.He also
said "Dos ov U d@ av d means ov
getting married,shld marry n generate
4 I will be proud ov U on d day ov
judgement" else engage in
superogatory fasting 2 reduce d sexual
desire.Avoid pornographic
movies,parties etc ALWAYS REMEMBER
d inevitable joni DEATH,it has no
time,date n considers none 4 his/ her
wealth,knowledge,pos ition,piety etc.
MAY ALLAH DISTANT US FRM DS
ILLICIT ACT,DOS d@ R in2 it may HE
insert imaan in2 their minds 2 shun d
act n repent.
MAY HE ALSO PROVIDE US A MEANS
OV GETTING MARRIED n PIOUS
SPOUSES. . . ameen
JUM@ KAREEM

Assalamu alaikum warahamatullahi wa barkatuhu.

I thnk ds forum can also b used.If U c a sister/brother d@z ready 2 marry-U can advertise here on nairaland by sendng a msg 2 d moderator via an e-mail act.

D e-mail acct need 2 b created by d moderator(s )through which U can send a request if U c any sister/brother d@s advertised.

D moderator wl nw serve as a link btw d two parties.Both parties must b serious n ready 4 marriage 2 avoid d probability ov occurence ov fitnah.

How do u c ds?