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ummsulaym: Ameen... Have been catching up with her revertion case and I wonder why they trouble her so much to the point of threatening her... Am sure if it was a muslim *even if na Imam pikin* that had converted and being disturbed this way, we no go hear word for naija again...
Menawhile, may Allah S.W.T give her the strenght to carry on... It's a rise of another 'Jahliyah' where reverts are opposed like bad news... Whoever Allah guides, no one can misguide and whoever HE doesn't, no one can guide... May Allah keeps her 'GUIDED'

ummsulaym: Ameen... Have been catching up with her revertion case and I wonder why they trouble her so much to the point of threatening her... Am sure if it was a muslim *even if na Imam pikin* that had converted and being disturbed this way, we no go hear word for naija again...
Menawhile, may Allah S.W.T give her the strenght to carry on... It's a rise of another 'Jahliyah' where reverts are opposed like bad news... Whoever Allah guides, no one can misguide and whoever HE doesn't, no one can guide... May Allah keeps her 'GUIDED'

ummsulaym: he fears that I will be distracted especially if Allah bless the union with a fruit and I am still in school... The way he do explain things makes it look like he is the one that will go though the stress... Guess he is just being 'fatherly'... I have bigger issues than he approving of it... The fear of what follows approval sometimes want to make me back down as if am flowing with his decision to graduate first

deols: So if a Father sees something that could be detrimental to his daughter, does that not fall under the 'character' part.

There is a reason he is the father and he will answer for it if he gives his daughter to the wrong person.

Like I said the brother needs to prove himself good enough for his daughter, if not, the father is very right.

ummsulaym: can't get my dad to understand that... If he doesn't say you are too young, he says you need to graduate, now the going is getting smooth and his demand is a 'first class' by the end of next session to permit me to get married while schooling *first class my G.P no near*...
Truth be told, they always give those reasons with the believe of wanting the best for us... May Allah do the best for us cuz HE is the best of planners

deols: I agree. Part of the means is having seen and known the right partner. The father of the girl still has every right over his daughter. So, he either waits for her or finds somebody else.

maclatunji: Rushing to get married because you want to have sex is unwise. This is another reason for failure in marriages. There is a lot more to life than sex.

yokiti: Barka de sallah to our muslim faithfuls and my other colleagues serving up North; Wishing you a stress free and peace break. It remains exactly 4 months for us to say Bye - Bye to NYSC service year.

olawalebabs: There is this challenge a brother is facing right now.

There is this lady he is engaged to, both family are in the picture of what is happening. The man is a graduate and well do, the lady is an undergradute in one of the university in the country, this brother is willing and ready to marry her now, but the lady father insist she have to finish her school before any talk of marriage. this is almost costing the relationship. What do you advise?

deols: Actually, tbaba did not say that it is unrelated to the post. He said my comment inspired it.

What bothers me is how an innocent comment brings the worst to his mind.

I may have to take longer breaks at other times.

Maybe seeing each other's usernames too often is starting to have negative effects.

I hope a psychologist agrees with my method

Eid Mubarak in advance Everyone

deols: In my case though, I find it very easy to talk about these things. Maybe because of my profession.


I dislike it when people give the weird looks or act like it is abnormal to talk about sex.

deols: I don't think asking the question is soo essential.

Majority of people are in the average group of having just the average amount of libido. That is why we have more average height people than the tall or short. I mean, same principle.

So, without asking the question, majority will marry someone that has just as much libido as they do or whose does them no harm.

But of course there is always the exceptions and in that case, asking puts the mind at rest and the possibility of getting on with the right partner is increased.

Not many would be able to do that. Especially if brought up in our conservative society. They could pray and just trust in their prayer. Istikhara could lead them to the right partner.

Sissie: Some of that question is weird, how will the person know how many rounds, except previously married?
But I think to an extent someone can tell how their drive may be, or the level of libido.

@mac am not making it look like a chore, but to some people its a chore. And I do not think tiredness may be a good enough reason to say no islamically, am not talking about extreme fatigue, just being tired after a day of work, chores and taking care of kids.

@esji am talking about a man who says no because he's not in the mood, is that a sin islamically?

Sissie: What if no pain but just tiredness/fatigue, is that enough reason islamically to say no?
What if opposite is thé case, the wife is thé problem, the husband isn't obligated to agreeing everytime she wants even if he's not in pain or something, if he's just not in the mood?

noah010: ma frnds wey do IT for 2009 don dey receive alert. pple wey use first bank, UBA etc but me wey use GTBANK never receive o, anybody in ma shoe?

noah010: ma frnds wey do IT for 2009 don dey receive alert. pple wey use first bank, UBA etc but me wey use GTBANK never receive o, anybody in ma shoe?

deols: are you sure u want me to explain anything? when this, below is what you wrote

busar: @ deols,What do you mean by this?