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busar: @ deols,What do you mean by this?

Jazakallahu khair.

Am not here to attack anybody o o.

deols: If the wife does not like house chores, the husband should do them. and if none of them would, they should get a maid.

If they cannot afford a maid still, they have no business getting married.

Assalamu alaikum.U shld knw d@ as a married woman,U r to respect ur husband,do d household chores except in a situation whereby he personally decided to assist U o get a housemaid.

6ta,plx wen trying to say anythng abt husband-wife,remember d@

ARRIJALU QAWWAMUNA ALAN NISAA'I BIMA FADALALLAHU BA'ADUHUM ALA BA'AD. . .
d husband s d head. As stated by d Holy Prophet P.B.U.H in a hadith qouted by a brother above d@ he went to cautioned his beloved daughter(FATIMA) on d issue ov taking housemaid as soon as he hears her demand.

Also in another hadith,d Prophet P.b.u.h said "had it been I'll tell anybody 2 bow down 4 a felo human,I'll av ask women 2 bow down 2 their husabands"--RESPECT


NOTE: 1.FATIMA according to a narration wl b d leader ov d women ov aljannah. . .

do U consider urself above ha in honor o wat?

2.D issue ov housemaid/driver nowadays s a big problem--some foolish husbands tends 2 b engagng in illegal acts wt d housemaid,likwese women n drivers.

Am sorry,U may thing my words r harsh. . .there r nothng bt cautionary words ov reminder FAZAKKIR FA'INNAZZKRA TANFA'UL MUUMINUUN.

May Allah guide,guard,protect,direct n bless us ol ameen.

As we unite here in nairaland may HE converge us in d most adorable aljannatul firdaus. . .ameen

May He gvs us d means ov gettng married + pious,caring,n adorable spouses ameen.

Slaak: Salamu alaykum brothers and sisters. The thread has bin kinda inactive for sm days now, so i decided to share this:
Some days bak, i visited a married-older-friend livin on the same street. I met him washin dishes on gettin there and he started complainin hw d wife often leaves d home unswept & dishes unwashed and how he's bein forced to do those tasks wen she's on leave. The most shockin of d revelations was dat ''The wife stays for days without performin ghusl after intimacy''.
Pls, let us enlighten eachoda on the virtues of cleanliness as evidenced inThe BOOK and fm The SUNNAH.
The lackadaisical attitude of we today's young muslims towards cleanliness is alarmin, young ladies no longer believe in carryin out houshlod chores as sweepin & dish-washin. Also, many don't even know how to perform ghusl.
May Allah SWT save us.

ameen summa ameen. Jazakallahu khaira.

Does d@ means she doesnt pray for some days after hvng intimacy? o she prays wt janaba?
If d answers to these quets are yes.Please preach 2 ha in other 2 salvage ha frm d torment of Allah S.W.T yaumul qiyama n in barzakh.

dmalam: they don pay us ystaday! tnk God!

SEPTEMBER ALAWEE

Richiez: I think you should start with PGD before going for Msc

Ok,PGD in whc course? Education?

Thanks

Helo maths gurus.

I am a graduate of Information Technology.I rili love maths.I want to do my masters in maths edu.

Itz it possible for me 2 go 4 Msc. ed Maths?

I need your advces please. . .thanks

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My dear muslim brethren permit me 2
greet U wt d most adorable n d most
cherishable 4mula ov greeting i.e
Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi
wabarkatuhu.
I just thought writing abt ds topic not
because I knw mo dan any1 ov U o, rather
its due 2 it's paramount importance to
us.
ZINA means illegal sex(adultery/
fornication).All ah S.W.T in d Glorious
Qur'an have clearly prohibited ds
shaitaneous n illicit act,as shown in:
1.Q17:32, "And do NOT come near
zina; indeed its an abormination and
an evil way"
D verse clearly shows d@ we shldnt go
near zina.
In a hadith d Prophet P.b.u.h
prohibited touching ov a lady dx
neither Ur wife nor any lady d@s
islamically permissible 2 U. It is better
for U 2 touch fire o to have a long nail
e.g 9inches bn beaten in2 ur head wt a
hammer in another narration.
Ds Prohibits KISSING,HUGGING
,SHAKING,etc.
2.In Q24:3,Allah S.w.t says d@ d
adulterer/ fornicator shallnt marry
except an adulteress/ fornicatoress and
vice versa.
3.In Q24:26,also HE says d@ gud men
r 4 gud women n vice versa.Also bad
men r 4 bad women n vice versa.
4.In Q24:30-31. He commanded d
Holy Prophet p.b.u.h d@ he shld tell d
belivng men n women 2 lower their
gaze frm looking @ forbidden thngs n
guard their modesty frm illegal sexual
acts.Also d@ d ladies shld cover their
bodies except wat is apparent....als o
Q33:59(hijab).
5.In Q23:5-6,Allah describes d true
belivers as those d@ guard their
private parts frm illegal sex except 2
their wives o slaves.
In conclusion,d Prophet Muhammad
p.b.u.h warn us 2 avoid secluding wt a
lady especially in a hidden place.D@ if
u r wt a lady,shaitan is d 3rd.He also
said "Dos ov U d@ av d means ov
getting married,shld marry n generate
4 I will be proud ov U on d day ov
judgement" else engage in
superogatory fasting 2 reduce d sexual
desire.Avoid pornographic
movies,parties etc ALWAYS REMEMBER
d inevitable joni DEATH,it has no
time,date n considers none 4 his/ her
wealth,knowledge,pos ition,piety etc.
MAY ALLAH DISTANT US FRM DS
ILLICIT ACT,DOS d@ R in2 it may HE
insert imaan in2 their minds 2 shun d
act n repent.
MAY HE ALSO PROVIDE US A MEANS
OV GETTING MARRIED n PIOUS
SPOUSES. . . ameen
JUM@ KAREEM

Assalamu alaikum warahamatullahi wa barkatuhu.

I thnk ds forum can also b used.If U c a sister/brother d@z ready 2 marry-U can advertise here on nairaland by sendng a msg 2 d moderator via an e-mail act.

D e-mail acct need 2 b created by d moderator(s )through which U can send a request if U c any sister/brother d@s advertised.

D moderator wl nw serve as a link btw d two parties.Both parties must b serious n ready 4 marriage 2 avoid d probability ov occurence ov fitnah.

How do u c ds?

harmeenart: Assalam alaykum warahmatullah wabarakatu,Hows the day going? May Allah put His barakah in all our endeavors.
Now lets turn the table around!!!!
Brothers,how would you feel if a sister proposed you?
What would you do?

A/w.w.w.

a. I'll b very glad n gr8fl 4 it shows d@ I've good qualities.

b.I'll accept ha proposal IF
bi) I've d means ov getting married.
ELSE IF
bii)She can wait 4 me,2 get a job n settle down. &&
biii) she has good qualities.
In a situation whereby she is a sister d@ I know wit bad characters.I'll advice her 2 give up ha bad habits if she truely loves me...first.

ELSE
I'll tell ha in a nice manner d@ look sister I love U 2,but am sorry it's not 4ssbl.

Yeah U r ryt deols,Mukina n oda sisters r not contributing as b4 may b de av change frm singles 2 doubles...LOLS
I dont knw y is it d@ its only Sister Sissie n Harmee d@ r responding frm d sisters side.

harmeenart: q1.I dont think so.
q2.Generalizing this is not nice o cos in my side here the majority of sisters i know want t get married to brothers who are knowledgable about their deen but though he has to be educated lyk dem.Ur personal self should b a function of dat sha.Personally no matter aw "civilized" i get,i still intend t marry a husband that is knowledgable about the deen,applies dat knowledge,is willing t learn more n share d knowledge n isnt arrogant.
q3.Just quit.(Full stop)

q1. y?
q2. Nice,Jazakillah.
Am not generalizing,but most ov d sisters here in my side d@s how they are.I once came across 1 ov them.
Wat I mean by civilised here is dos av gone 2 higher institutions ov learning n av adopted d evil ways ov dressing n intermingling wt opp sex from d western culture. U c a sister wt name e.g Ruqayya,Fatima etc dressing almost naked-ol d basic apparatus d@ Allah S.W.T said de shld cover r outside.No headtie talkless ov hijab,chest clearly shown-tied shirts n jeans.
De intermingle wt d males anyhow,SHAKING N HUGGING is a greeting 2 them.
SUBHANALLAHI

3.In d current 9ja d@ we r,where getting a means ov daily bread s not easy 4 ppl d@ a less fortunate.
I'll like 2 suggest d fllwn answers:
3a.NO
3b.NO
3c.Preach 2 him abt d consequences/effects ov commiting ZINA,n d punishment 4 any ZAAANI/ZAANIYATU d@ dies without repentace.If he still insisted,report him 2 d nearest Oga @ d TOP. DONT QUIT @ D FIRST INSTANCE.

May Allah S.W.T guide,protect n bless ol ameen.

Sissie: 1, no
2. It depends on what you mean by civilised. Having knowledge if something isn't the same as practising, many men are fast to point out Islamic rulings on women without necessarily pointing theirs out, so at times theres problem, and it depends on the sisters faith in Islam and willingness to learn. Some men don't want to marry sisters more knowledgeable either.
3. I will quit the job, and i know Allah (SWT) will give me something better.

U r ryt ma sister.
WAMAN YATTAQILLAHA YAJ'ALA LAHU MAKHARAJA,WA YARZUKUHU MIN HAISU LAA YAHTASIB.

Q1.Y not?

QUESTIONS FOR SISTERS

Q1.If U c a brother wt d qualities U want,will U approach him?

Q2.Why is it that most sisters that think they are civilised e.g a graduate, dont want to marry a brother hu s Islamically knowlegeable enough?

Q3.Some men nowadays av no fear ov Allah in their dealings wt d female staff working under/with them.Imagine in a situation whereby U r working in an organisation,and the oga approach U d@ he wants to do SomethngX wt U. 3a.Wat wl b Ur response? 3b.Wil U allow him to do it,so d@ u can continue working there o may b 2 get promoted? 3c.If it happens d@ if u turn down his request U'll loose ur job,wat wl u do?

I once ask a sister Q2,she said I dont want to marry an Alfa/Usta/Malam bcs their wahala too much...she hesitates to xpantiate.

harmeenart: [b][\b]A question for my brothers:
Can u marry a sister that is more knowledgable than you,islamically?

YES! YES!! YES!!!

I dont consider age,wealth,knowledge western o islamic education of a sister as a threat 2 d marriage.So far she has d qualities I want.

maclatunji: ^Kindly explain what Mr. Van der wal's theory says.

wat I mean by Van der waals forces-simply r d forces ov attraction/repulsion between bro X n sis Y.
Some sort ov 'Chemistry' can exist btw d 2 two but de wont lyk 2 form a bond due 2 d absence ov d forces.

maclatunji: I disagree, it can't. The kind of agreement I mean is not continuously saying 'yes' to what the other person says. It is more about thinking alike and seeing things in much the same way for the most part.

In what is becoming old-fashioned English, X could say she finds Y very 'agreeable'. What X is referring to is 'chemistry'. #LOL

Gr8 Chemist. but some sort ov 'Chemistry' can exist btwn sis X n bro Y,but de wont lyk 2 marry each other due 2 d absence ov 'Van der wals' forces ov attraction...

@ mac,[b][/b][b][/b]Hence, there is a need
to ensure that there is some sort of
chemistry between the two before
getting married.

HOW? Plx expantiate. . .

harmeenart: A naseeha: Allah made a promise to us n thus gives us hope.Allah says: Wa man yattakillaha,yaj'allahu makrajaa.Wa yarzuquhu min aythu la yahtasib......
And whoeva relies on Allah,He would make a way for him out of no way.And He would provide from where he doesnt except.
InnaAllah aqqu...Verily,The words of Allah are true.
Ours is just to submit totally to him n av complete reliance in Him.Av sincere intentions n work towards it.May Allah ease our affairs n grant us our heart desires.

AMEEEN. Jazkllah 6ta

tbaba1234: May Allah make it easy.

[color=#000000][quote author=tbaba1234]ameeen

My dear muslim brethren permit me 2 greet U wt d most adorable n d most cherishable 4mula ov greeting i.e
Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi
war barkatuhu.

PLEASE I SERIOUSLY NEED UR DU'As

I'm sincerely feeling d thng TOO MUCH but I dont have d means ov getting married as ov now...I also find it difficult 2 fast due d stomach problem I've.

May Allah guide us n protect frm engaging in2 any illicit relationshp AMEEN.


JAZAKUMULLAHU KHAIRA

Please a6t me wt ur prayers...May Allah provide me n ol d muslim singles a means ov getting married EARLY n pious spouses AMEEN SUMMA AMEEN

hmmn aureee/nikaah 'daa'dii.

Allah S.W.T Ya ba mu ikon yi,Ya kuma bamu nagari kuma masu son addini...ameen--

May Allah S.W.T give us d means ov getting married,May HE also bless us wt good n pious spouses ameeen

D Prophet P.B.U.H said "dos ov U d@ av d means ov getting married should marry and generate,4 I'll b proud ov U on d day ov judgement"

In another hadith,he said "If U marry u've completed half ov ur deen,try n complete d half"

@ tbaba, I ddnt understand u,it seems u r contradicting urself.Please clarify d fflw:

a.U said there is no problem u can fall in luv just do it ryt.

b. communication s allowed

c. secluding wt d lady includes phone calls- wc u said s haram.

d.u said is allowed just do it right n also s haram


Question: For e.g I meet lady X on facebook,due to her love 4 d deen I love her so much.Afterall I've never seen her physically only ha picture.

i. Is it permissible fo me to chat wt ha online,to knw ha likes n dislikes b4 going 2 ha family??

ii. Is it permissible fo me to declare my luv 2 ha?

iii.wat if she sends me a text message using ha number. . .if she obtains mine via my profile on facebook... is it permissible fo me to call her o b communicating on phone?

PLEASE ANSWER QUESTIONS

JAZAKALLAHU KHAIRA

Sissie: @esji80
Pre marital relationship is haram, even if you do not commit zina, DO NOT GO NEAR IT.
If that is what you did, break it off.

And court within the limits set by Islam.

Jazakillah,am not in2 any pre-marital relationshps dt transgreses d limits set by Allah.
AND DO NOT COME NEAR ZINA,VERILY IT'S INDEED AN ABORMINATION. . . Q17:32

In a hadith d Prophet P.B.U.H said it is better for some1 to have a long nail(e.g 9inches) beaten wt a hammer in2 his head,than 2 touch a lady wch is Prohibited fo him... in another narration s better for U 2 touch a burning fire-wood than 2 touch a prohibited lady.

@ tbaba,sissie n mac Jazakumallahu Khaira.

Malam tbaba, I dnt understand wat u mean by there is no problem in d relationshp if there exists long distance. . . is communication allowed? If YES,wat type ov communication s HARAM.

If NO,does it mean as we r discussing wt sisters in ds forum o any social network o website we r commiting SINS??

Please b4 we declare anythng HARAM-PROHIBITED in ISLAM O HALAL-LAWFUL lets cite references frm d QUR'AN,HADITH o any Source ov Islamic Law.

Allah S.W.T says in d Glorious Qur'an "IF U ARGUE OVER AN ISSUE REFER IT TO ALLAH(QUR'AN) & HIS PROPHET(HADITH N SUNNAH)"


TAKE IT EASY MY BRETHEN.

May Allah S.W.T d Benevolent guide,protect n guard us ol.May HE olso distant us frm HARAM n mek us successful in ol our endeavors ameen.

tbaba1234: Read the above

This kind of deep affection from both non mahram parties does indicate a relationship. Some boundaries have already been crossed.

I think it is a sensible conclusion.

I love her so much

jazakallahu khaira.

I ddnt mean d kind ov love dt involves illicit act such as sex,kissing,hugging o touchng.I'VE NEVER TOUCH ANY LADY TALKLESS OV GOING IN2 ZINA. . .

Assalamu alaikum my muslim brethren.

I wsh 2 seek 4 ur advces on ds issue: I love a gal hum I want to marry,but my parents expressed their dissatisfaction with d lady bcz she s frm a different state,wch de believe r mo socialized n couldnt marry frm anybody frm my town.Secondly,de believe dt she s a graduate n cannt marry me. We(I n d lady) both love each other.

D problem s my dad was very annoyed wt me wen my mum told him abt d lady. De both instructed me to leave dt gal n I LOVE HER SO MUCH.

My mum later suggested 1 ov my cousin sisters 2 me n I dont love her.


JAZAKUMULLAHU KHAIRA

Hallie27: I think I am in trouble. My family wants me to marry a man. He is a muslim and his family also,but he dislikes hijab,and prefers the very short ones on smart skirts and pant trousers. I think living in UK for a long time is also a determining factor for his preferences,and he's also like if I want to live and work in uk With him,my mode of dressing won't be allowed over there. Subhanallah,I can't dress that way,I love my hijab,I love the way I cover myself,and I want to have mu'mins and mu'minahs as children mashaa Allah,but my family feels am being 'excessive' in practising my islam. If I had someone that's ready for nikkah,quite 'presentable' as they wish,I would have being able to refuse easily,but now,I don't,and if I take anyone home that does not meet their level of 'presentability' or 'status',he won't be accepted. I want someone that will encourage me in the deen,preserve my hijab for me,work with me to train my children in the pathof Allah,and take me with him to jannah mashaa Allah,but now I don't know what to do. Should I reject outrightly and incur the wrath of my family,damning the concequences?

Assalamu alaikum.Sincerely U shld get an alfa/Ustaz hu preaches n adheres 2 d teachngs ov d Glorious QUR'AN n d SUNNAH ov D GREATEST MAN N D MOST ADORABLE PROPHET MUHAMMAD S.A.W dt ur parents o family do respect n listen to,to explain 2 them d consequences n effects ov marrying some1 Hu dislikes/hates HIJAB.

Ds man I strongly advice U not 2 marry him if and only if he ddnt change his bad atitude ov HATRED 2 WAT ALLAH n HIS APOSTLE MAKE MANDATORY 4 OL MUSLIM LADIES.Chck Q24:3,24:31;33:59 n 17:32. I 4gt 1 verse where Allah SWT says gud women r 4 gud men..

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