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annolomy:
[size=8pt][/size]My girlfriend visited me today, and while we were together, she received a call from someone who seemed to be a man. At first, I brushed it off, thinking it was just a random call.

But could you believe this same man called her a total of ten times? I even told her to answer the call in my presence, but she refused to pick up. Now she's telling me that I don't trust her and that I'm doubting her.

I told her to show me proof of their chats, and I would drop the matter completely. But she insisted, saying that if I don’t believe her, that I should forget that she's not sending any proof.

What do you think about this situation, my fellow Nairalanders?

Mistakes most men do is direct confrontation: will someone that's doing shit admit to it?.. They will play the victim game immediately. Imagine you are a thief and someone accuses you directly that you are one, will you accept or deny? So don't directly accuse anyone of infidelity they will all enter defense mode and if you aren't careful you'd start apologizing even when you know you are right. Rather play a sucker to catch one. Act like you don't give a shit and you are fully blinded; in no time you will see what you want to see. And as far she is girlfriend I no too de worry. This method has proven to be cause they will become careless.

MondayOmoAdugbo:
2face go don madd well well for this marriage,... So many times him head go dey boil but he no fiy shout lol 😂


Now

Jungle don mature 😀😹

He knew that coming out public was the only way to end the torture

You see who de feed you na make you get the addiction. If other things bother your mind andno option addiction go vanish. And your mum is petting you too much typical of mothers. So you need to be responsible for your self and your mum she has done so much for you. Dont be selfish and just be thinking of yourself make that woman proud as she is hoping.

fuckJones:
so you means PDP will not pursuit the case to Supreme Court which is in Abuja?

Lol 😆. The idea is to frustrate them then there will be nothing to show for in the end. Same thing they did in presidential. It will now look like the case isn't a serious one and justice will not be served and as Nigerians we always learn to adjust to bad governance and also some bias people will still call what's evil and terrible good. Even when it doesn't benefit them.

fuckJones:
PDP and LP are not serious

They moved a case to Abuja because they know it will be difficult to ask witnesses to travel such shady moves to sink a state down. APC has no good plans for the country till people wake up they will always be slave

GanagiBitrus:
Scrabble of course.
Chess is nothing but a glorified draughts (draft).

Lol why do I feel it was very difficult for you to play it and you weren't good at it.

Sonnobax15:

The earlier Sowore realize that Nigerians aren't worth dying for,the better for him.....

He is fighting for his own ambitions. All these activities is to stay relevant

NwaAmaikpe:




While the church is a place to let go of your burdens, emotions, worries and fears, it is not a place to rid your inhibitions and indulge in such brazen public displays of affection.

As a product of adultery whose primary specialty is mainstream adultery, I can authoritatively confirm that what I see in the faces of those two are not the look of a couple but that of adulterers.

I don't blame them, I blame our Lord who is so merciful to allow such fuckery in his house.
Gone are the days we found holiness in the church; today, it's nothing but an abundance of fuckery and ikwokirikwo.

From the altar boy smooching choir mistress, to usher giving protocol officer handjob, down to treasurer looting the offering basket to the nagging married mistress of the priest who is tired of washing his semen-stained cassock.

The church must wake up.

But come to think of it, I may be wrong about those couple, but everyone knows that no one performs a better PDA than adulterers in a comfort zone of safety.

If they are married there is nothing wrong in it.. God no be hard person abeg e get why Him say him be our father and comparing Himself to the normal man that gives his son bread instead of stone. It implies He is loving so cut this your religious stufss. He asked us to prove our love to Him by keeping commandments not being too holier than thou.

Prenup

Im confused on how she is monitoring all your lines where she de work??...

Gadafii:
Werey have you "recovered" the stolen funds from your site completely?

E good as you dey expose fraudsters and criminals, but don't be one of them

Lol seems like you are still in the past.. Today is 15th January 2025

Tell her by asking for a solution that you can help her pay for.

From another angle, I think it was a smart move. And a distraction to a saga that was about to ripen( him threatening little smart) to prove a point that people are gullible to info. They don't validate it before broadcasting it. And to know who his true friends are. In one moment you think people are your friends till you are in a big mess. Someone called his mum a thief; these are brutal enemies that you must know else they might catch you by surprise like Brutus and the great Julius Caesar. Similar thing happened with Jesus with all he did for the jews, they requested a thief be pardorned rather than someone who was doing good deeds in their midst.

thesicilian:
I believe the black man is generally more intelligent given the same conditions.

Nothing special about these guys except that their forefathers made right decisions and ours didn't; and it keeps rubbing on us.

Fiscus105:
Uhmmm, prejudice way of reasoning, I guess.
So many men, abandoned their wife sexually and running after girls ,that are not in any way match their wife, even in bedmatic affairs.

The infidelity among married women, high abundantly now, no thanks to sexually deprivation of wife, for no reason by men.

In as my, some women are culprit too, but most come from men.

This is bitter fact, that we men shying away from.

Well, in your opinion it's a prejudiced way of reasoning which I won't debate because it's your opinion, but your opinions are very valid some men/women take extramarital affairs as a sport irrespective of how their spouses play their roles well these men aren't satisfied. I've seen men date women their wives are far better in all areas. Some persons start this infidelity habit because of peer influence and truth be told when you are with a like mind even evil can be made to look good. If we play a close analysis you'll still agree that if a man is comfortable at home he barely hangs around with friends except it's his nature to be around friends. In my conclusion, there are lots of exceptions to what I propounded the first time but if a man/woman who wasn't a chronic cheat begins it after conjugal bliss there is a high possibility that their own spouse is the cause.

Dtruthspeaker:
That is because you are following the op's words whereas what op is talking about is one of the many blows that hits all marriages. but men do not see it coming.

Women using sex as a weapon, is not really here since most people fornicate before they marry, so uncle can see it coming.

But consider this, while you thought she was all over the moon for you is why she married you only for you, over the course of 10 years to start seeing evidences that show you that the other guy who she preferred above you did not want to marry her, and is her spec for now after10years you now know the Truth of what she likes and she would like to and that actually she is just managing you.

Can you deal with that?

And God help you, that you are already suspicious of her chieating with someone spe close to her who is not her spec. oya na, go and lie down next to her not to talk of riding her, let me see.

From this angle, there is a sense of truth as well. Especially women they marry who is available; especially when they are in their prime or close to it. Then as time passes especially when they become financially okay themselves they start craving for their original desires. Hitherto is why I tell every guy not to entice or woo a woman with money. Know what she likes before you marry her. Some try to paint a color you desire over her cause over time the paint wears off

Women who weaponize sex at a younger age when they are married are the ones having this issue. When you tell a man no too many times, he becomes used to it and he moves on to other things that will not give him negative feedback. Many women are just like logs of wood in bed; the man becomes bored and wants adventure somewhere else: some pick a hubby while most get other ladies that will match their bedmatic fantasies.

Samantha125:
If you found her dressing like that, the you'd have two choices.

Either you respect her style of dressing or you hit the road.

You can't find someone who's comfortable and confident in her own skin and start manipulating her into losing her own self confidence for your own selfish reasons ... If you want a woman who dresses like Deeper Life sisters, then go to Deeper Life church and get yourself a Deeper Life sister.

Let's be truthful to ourselves that not skin confidence it's indecent dressing. Stop closing your eyes to what's bad

MadamVanessa:


Desperate woman stoop so low like this, and the man have no iota of respect for a woman he claims he loves.

What's the point of all these? Can't proposals be intimate and private affairs? Some persons even go to the extent of dressing up, visiting a photo studio, and capturing the moment. So childish to me

As for me, I highly doubt I'll ever consider remarriage, despite having numerous suitors at present but if at all I made a change of mind. To any potential admirers, let this be clear, I will not be proposed to in a public spectacle. You don't have any right to kneel down for me while proposing, you don't have the right to expect me to kneel and accept a ring. Try that silly attitude and see me walk away from you.

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Well, you stand for what you want. You should have protected her from even your dad. Ask her what she wants next and if the wedding she desires will pacify her. You did not marry her, that court thing seems like a secret wedding. Do the wedding a Nigerian girl desires; and also is your dad paying your bills? that is the only way most parents have strong hold on their kids.

KosiGee:
Congrats to Chidimma. Congrats Nigeria. Miss Victoria Theilvig of Denmark won it. I thought Chidimma would nick it.

Aka ekpuchi onwa….when it’s your time, nothing will stop you from shining and excelling…All the weapons fashioned against her did not succeed. I hate pettiness but I feel like visiting South African page….I’ll resist the temptation.

Her first runner up position is the highest placement Nigeria has attained in the Miss Universe competition.

What about Agbani

[quote author=Heffalump post=132740726][/quote]Thing is all Nigerians know what's right until the time to implement the right things comes, greed et al becomes an immutable distraction: that applies to me and you as well. We know what's wrong till it starts favouring us.

IoT 😆😆😆😆

NOC1:
Lol, but he won to be a legislature despite been in opposition. There are some people who are not intellectually sound but are very close to the grassroots, and that is what I saw in that man.

The issue the PDP guy is having outside Obaseki's underperformance is his inability to associate with grassroots, most Edolites identify him as a man for few wealthy.
He can't even communicate in his local dialect

Una like who Una go de call grassroot but e de put pepper 🫑🌶️ for Una eye. You say someone under performed because he did not come out to be announcing all his doings: you people like people that will do what suppose to be your right and the person will come out and make it look like a privilege to have such amenities and the person will make much noise about it. See structures in government and parastatals that Obaseki has created! He didn't do much but he is the only governor that pays 13 months, he is the governor that first increased minimum wage before even federal government and NLC saga. Everyone is enjoying the orderliness of things you want agbero to come back to begin indirect taxation. common man stop being a "black" man for once and think of progress. Bear in mind im not an Edoid but if we had Obaseki in delta state it will be far developed. With the minimal revenue reaching the state the man has erected electrical generating company for the state with two modular refineries. He has made the civil service standard. He has invested in the Edo indegines by creating trainings in collaboration with foreign companies so as to give international standards skill sets. The only thing that made him look like a bad guy is his bad P.R ; now you want to take your state back to 1920. Please its high time we vote in technocrats not politicians that know how to incite the populace.

Sunnyrado:
There's this babe that am dating since last year, although we met on Facebook and the thing has been really going on well, but about few weeks ago we had issues and we have just settled, so there's this group I joined on Facebook it's singles people group where you can meet someone, and I didn't know she's also on that same group.. and I posted that am a single man and am looking for a woman to marry.. she just screen shot the post with my picture and called me to check my WhatsApp lo and and behold it's my post together with my picture... I feel so uncomfortable..and am looking for a Way to defend myself.

You been one open another branch since the first business is already successful.

atom080:
You are all blatant liars, maybe trying to demarket the brand or whatever..

I've never had issue with WhatsApp on my phone since I bought it since January.

I even used three different WhatsApp with different accounts, yet I've never been warned of using unofficial WhatsApp..

How you all came up with this unfounded assumptions without a proof that you all use oppo is what baffles me.

Before you attack me, 3 of my friends also use oppo, higher models than mine, and none of them experience WhatsApp issue.

Oppo just give your your value for money. If you're thinking about long term use, with no hardware or software issue, then Oppo is the best choice.

Be it as it may you can't outrightly say someone is a blatant liar: a friend contacted me yesterday that his both lines were banned , I didn't even think from the phone brand angle we sent message to WhatsApp support and upon seeing this topic and reading through I have called him and he affirmed that it's Oppo he is using as well. The fact it isn't happening to you doesn't mean it's a lie. Cheers 🥂

I hate to break this news to anyone that thinks protest will change anything in this country. The 10day protest started and ended like a joke with no single impact. If you have seen waves of previous protest, it was chaired by notable influencial persona but here the elites that are supposed to lead their flocks to the protest are dining with their master. I mentioned this last year: protest and strike will not hold much ground during this president tenure. And also as well he plays his cards right! Like the say strike the Shepard and the sheep's will scatter. He has already struck all the Shepard's even before any action against him. I aspire to learn under him sometimes cause he gets what he wants by calculated plannings and execution. I'll advice that we should all look for a way around the problem rather than complain about it the complaints doesnt solve shit. Your elite that are influencial in your community have been bought and they are the ones that are supposed to make your demands and outcry reach the government.

Jacktheripper:
I don’t even know who gave me the idea but I used to think marriage was like a delicious soup, a perfect mix of ingredients that, when cooked just right, becomes something greater than the sum of its parts.

Five years in…

I am starting to wonder if I have been served a plate of overcooked, burnt offerings instead.

Don't get me wrong o, I love my wife. Or at least, I'm pretty sure I still do.

It's just that lately,things with her feels like trying to hug a porcupine - painful, and leaving me wondering why I keep attempting it.

Why?

I usually drag myself through 12-hour shifts at work, working until my eyes blur, all to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table.

Meanwhile, my wife stays home with our son. It should be a fair division of labor, right?

Except lately, I feel like I'm working two full-time jobs: one at my work, and another cleaning up the messes my wife leaves in her wake.

Take last week, for instance…

I came home to find my son with a nasty bump on his forehead.

Well, my wife had been scrolling through TikTok videos while he climbed onto the kitchen counter and took a dive onto the tile floor.

When I suggested maybe she could pay a bit more attention, you'd think I'd accused her of trying to sacrifice our child to Moremi.

"Are you saying I'm a bad mother?" "Do you have any idea how hard it is to watch a toddler every second of every day?" she shouted at me like my manager at work.

I suggested it might be easier if she spent less time debating BBN housemates with her Twitter friends and more time, oh I don't know, actually watching our son. But I have learned that logic and my wife go together about as well as garri and palm oil.

Then there was the great stovetop incident of last month.

I came home to find the kitchen filled with smoke, my wife fanning at our glass-top stove with a dishcloth.

You won’t have guessed what happened.

Apparently, she decided to cook vegetables directly on the stovetop. No pot. No pan. Just leaves sizzling away on the glass surface.

"I was trying a new recipe!" she protested when I asked what in the name of the gods she was thinking. "The blog said to cook the vegetables on high heat!"

I took a deep breath like a supervisor when he had just finished listening to a terrible project defense, channeling the patience of a thousand ancestors. "Sweetheart," I said, as calmly as I could manage, "when recipes say that, they generally assume you're using some kind of cookware."

Her eyes narrowed. "Are you calling me stupid?"

And there it was.

The minefield I step into every time I try to address these... let's call them quirks. Any suggestion, no matter how gently phrased, is met with defensiveness sharper than my mother's best paring knife.

More often than not, I find myself lying awake at night, staring at the ceiling fan as it whirs above us.

I think about the bright-eyed girl I fell in love with, the one whose laugh could light up a room. I wonder where she went, and when she was replaced by this doppelganger who seems to view me as her personal enemy.

Some days, I feel the love I have for her slipping away, like sand through an hourglass.

I catch myself daydreaming about a life where I don't have to constantly be on guard like Arsenal supporters trying to defend why they have never won the UCL.

Where I can come home and relax instead of wondering what new disaster awaits me.

But then my son will come up to me, arms outstretched, babbling "Daddy!" And I'll see my wife eyes in his face, her smile on his lips.

In those moments, I remember why I fell in love with her in the first place.

She called earlier today, her voice tight with that usual tone that always spells trouble. "We need to talk," she said.

Those four words hang in the air as I write this on my laptop.

I know for sure when I get home that I will sit in the car for a long moment, gathering my courage. Whatever awaits me behind that door, I know it will test the very foundations of our marriage.

She should get a job, that will keep her intelligence sharpened and it's wrong to have a full time house wife these days. It will give her some sense of responsibility. Some Women nowadays are just outrightly lazy and you are encouraging it now she is distracted by joblessness and delving into social media gossips. And hope it's not those fine assy naturally entitled women with peanut brain you married cause they are the ones that always see trouble when there isn't one; they see every correction as insult or spite. Omoh let her go and work she'll appreciate your efforts when she does.

santaclaws:
My logic is that their database might have been compromised in the first place, don't you think? 🤔

How was their website attacked despite the SSL 256 bit encryption? If there's no internal player, then sensitive data might have leaked already prior to the website being attacked.

I believe that the website was rerouted to another clone website . So the idea is to make clients feel they are in the same website then they hacker will now get the customers logon info and use it on the main website to do customers transactions