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boxypane:
Imagine this one was actually his wife, e for don finish am.

It might be the opposite actually.

Im certain that this woman is on a genuine course

Solofresh2:
Hello fellow nairalanders, trust you are doing fine

I created this thread very few weeks ago
https://www.nairaland.com/8758154/girlfriend-been-giving-me-attitude


So on Wednesday,a friend of mine called me that he saw my girlfriend with a guy at a club party here in Lagos (I will keep the name of the club secret).I taught it was a joke until he sent me pictures of my girlfriend with the guy at the club on Whatsapp.
lt was taken from a distance but then I could recognize her in the picture.She is the one.Her dress was so loose and you don't need someone to tell you she is on a mission with the guy I saw her with

So yesterday, I told her about it when she came to my house and I showed her the pictures and she was shocked and started begging , telling me the guy was just a friend and that he didn't have anything intimate together but just fun.

If you see the way she was weeping, you will pity her but I didn't.

I told her it's fine but deep down, am done with her

Na to see the other side of me remain

Confronting people with evidence of any sort is like telling term to be smarter next time. Evidence are meant to make you learn about the person faster . Nothing more . You have an upper hand when you have first hand info because it makes you see clearer. You loose this upper hand if you give out the information.

Solofresh2:
Hello fellow nairalanders, trust you are doing fine

I created this thread very few weeks ago
https://www.nairaland.com/8758154/girlfriend-been-giving-me-attitude


So on Wednesday,a friend of mine called me that he saw my girlfriend with a guy at a club party here in Lagos (I will keep the name of the club secret).I taught it was a joke until he sent me pictures of my girlfriend with the guy at the club on Whatsapp.
lt was taken from a distance but then I could recognize her in the picture.She is the one.Her dress was so loose and you don't need someone to tell you she is on a mission with the guy I saw her with

So yesterday, I told her about it when she came to my house and I showed her the pictures and she was shocked and started begging , telling me the guy was just a friend and that he didn't have anything intimate together but just fun.

If you see the way she was weeping, you will pity her but I didn't.

I told her it's fine but deep down, am done with her

Na to see the other side of me remain

Confronting people with evidence of any sort is like telling them to be smarter next time. Evidence are meant to make you learn about the person faster . Nothing more . You have an upper hand when you have first hand info because it makes you see clearer. You loose this upper hand if you give out the information.

Let's take a look at the richest black mans hand as well; which will It look like in the picture.

Stephen0mozzy:
😂😂😂😂😂😂
You wan impress her na. You dash girl wey nor be your babe money without her asking. Of course she'll "act" like 15k is not a big deal to her.

Let's try something. Send your guy 5k, say make e take guide. Your guy go regard you like say na million.... You know why, him know say na from your heart.

But the ingrateful girl knows/feels you wan off paent. Yo gast send #150k for dinner.

She didn't ask him to do it

givedemwotowoto:
They first suck you in, you become dependent, then they ask you to pay

Lol good business strategy

For me adultery should not be forgiven from any parties at all. Jesus said it's a yardstick for divorce so it is . If you forgive this it might happen again but this time you'd never know .

MaziObinnaokija:
The young man should forgive his mother/pray for her forgiveness/reunion back home to her family.

Infidelity should never be overlooked!! Forgive someone that does that and you'd be seen as a weakling by the person you forgave and they'd do it again!!

Africana1123:
VDM mr integrity whey use Nigeria contribution start family business


Very nonsense man

And why is EFCC not after him?

I like to become a priest instead

Lol for me just move on. Forgiving a cheat is making the person more difficult to catch the next time.

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Python25to30:
You wan implicate yourself because of $400.

You calling it in USD makes it clear that its small compared to the problem that comes with spending the money

escortafrik:
Hello guys, I really need your advice because I’ve been turning this over in my head and I don’t want to make a mistake.

So a bit of background… I’m in my final year at the university, just trying to finish with good grades and figure out what’s next for my life.

A close friend of mine introduced me to her cousin a few months ago. He’s doing really well for himself, stable, calm, and very intentional in how he carries himself.

We got along pretty quickly and things moved from just talking to a serious relationship faster than I expected, but it has been good so far.

Now the situation is this… he wants me to move in with him.

At first, I thought maybe it’s just excitement and love growing fast, but he’s been consistent about it and says it’s because he sees a future with me and wants us to start building our life together properly. I do like him a whole lot , and part of me likes the idea of us being together in that way, like a real couple sharing everyday life.

But I spoke to my friends and they are not having it at all. They keep telling me that once I move in, it might reduce the chances of marriage happening, that men can get too comfortable and stop seeing the need to “formalise” things. Even his cousin who introduced us is saying I shouldn’t as well but I’m quite surprised because this guy has been so good to me in every aspect of my life.

Now I’m stuck in the middle. I don’t want to act based on fear, but I also don’t want to ignore advice that could save me from future regret.

So I’m asking honestly… what do you think I should do in this situation?

You'd regret it...

Skydiv:
A friend of mine and his wife have been having a series of misunderstandings for some time now. He has asked his wife to leave the house because he is no longer interested in their relationship. The wife, a nursing mother, said she needed time to care for her newborn baby.


They had a serious argument, the lady packed her belongings and left the 2 kids behind a 3 years old boy, and a 3 months baby girl. My friend was shouting furiously that he would bury the kids, and even pointed at a spot to bury them if they didn't make it to the following day, that the woman can not blackmail him with the kids.

Both kids were crying seriously. I went inside the house and carried both kids, my friend started yelling at me that I should drop the kids, or else, he would do something stupid. Instantly, I became very angry and dared him that you cannot do anything, you are a heartless beast who doesn't deserve a child.

He went in and pushed me and the kids outside, then locked the doors and went away, both kids were still crying on my arms. I begged their neighbour to help me carry the eldest child; luckily, the 3 month old baby fell asleep on my arms. They live in a very remote area, so for me to get access to a cab or bike will take over 30 minutes of walking having no other option we started the long walk. After around 10 minutes of walking, it started raining, so I covered the newborn baby with my shirt. We saw the mother on our way, and walked past her she didn't even care.

While under the rain, the baby started crying, the mother couldn't withstand the sight of seeing her kids and me in the rain crying, so she ran to us and started crying and begging me to hand her the newborn baby, which I did, and she started breastfeeding the baby who stopped crying and fell asleep. Luckily we saw a keke that carried us and took the girl to her family home.

Reflecting back, something was telling me that I overstepped my boundaries, that I shouldn't have cared about the kids if their parents didn't. That I should have just walked away quietly. So I humbly ask, did I overstep my boundaries?

Nice job sir.. thing also is what exactly did the woman do that warranted the dispute. If it's infidelity then the asking the woman to leave is justified same for if it's infidelity from the man and the woman is leaving because of that; but then there I ways to handle it that it doesn't affect the children if she wants to leave we could just agree that the nursing child can tag along with her. Infidelity shouldn't be tolerated by any party because it creates room for more !. Even the holy bible approves that as a yardstick for divorce. Every other issue can be resolved amicably.

brain54:
This is a special message for all couples out there. Men should learn how to trust and surrender their Financial Control to their wives at certain stage in life and the wives should not betray the trust by craving for frivolity...


If you like trust anybody blindly and unreasonably, just because they are your spouse.


You go cry!

Just know the person you are dealing with first before makkng such decisions

LagosOrigin:
APC is about to scatter

Lol, see beyond the scheme. It's more like a public smoke screen and deception. They want to play the victim as well making it look like it's not just other parties (that they have orchestrated their crisis ) are having internal crisis.

givedemwotowoto:
That thing that Tinubu is looking for, e go find am shaa

The thing that we all are saying now - something similar to what you are saying, I am just imagining that that might be what the Cameroonians started saying now the man done rule for so many years and him no free comot.

adamkkk:
I have this friend that got married on time. It was because the woman was pregnant as at the time and the guy was still in school(200level). So he dropped out of school to become a full time husband. That was the excuse he gave back then.

The woman got him the first child and then the second. My friend was living minimal to support the woman, he even rented a shop for her and spent so much on her(I don't want to talk too much).

One day another married man far older than my friend, approached him and advised him to tell his wife to stay away from his family. Apparently, the woman was dating the other man and when the other man decided not to continue the relationship anymore, the woman(my friend's wife) started threatening him and his wife and was acting jealous. It was that same period that it became known that the woman was dating other men and has been promiscuous for years even though they were not helping her with money. It was devastating.


My friend gave alot to that marriage and just like that, he was betrayed. So after everyday quarrel, she left the house.

It been like over 8 months now and my friend has moved on, i assumed so because he was with another girl that nearly caused issues between us


All of a sudden, he wanted the wife back. I advised her against the idea, but she was bent on doing just that. Some people were telling him to take her back like that. The matter tire me sef. So whenever the discussion came up, i would jejely avoid contributing to the talk.


So to the shock of everyone, he brought her and her load back. I don't want to say what on my mind and what am suspecting and at the same time, i could be wrong.


What do you make of the situation and is there a probable expectations in the future ?

Please let me know.

That's the only crime I can never forgive: a promiscuous wife. God forbid except me myself I was promiscuous as well in the marriage. I dont condole cheating , I don't cheat in dating so I don't condole it in any form. It's deliberate wickedness who does it should not be handled lightly. I don't care if you are miss world.

BABANGBALI:
All I know is that all liars will go to hell fire

What if he believes in what the JW people believe: just that part of that there is no hell fire, but just no resurrection for sinners

HardMirror:
it is not fake. It was a competition between Russia and USA Russia beat them with Sputnik being first satellite and also Yuri being first man in space. So if USA moon landing was fake, Russia would have exposed them officially as faking it, because it was a space race btwn both countries. Russia would never have allowed USA to cheat. Make Una dey use una brain abeg

True but some actions were questionable, like the call from space can you explain that. Or the photographer as well.

OSUigboFlatHead:
USA and lies... The king of conspiracies.

The fools still thinks we're in the 70s

SO, A PLACE THEY CAN GO, LAND, MAKE CALLS AND EVEN TOOK PICTURES MORE THAN 50 YEARS AGO IS IMPOSSIBLE NOW?
They said they can only go around it now, but 50 years ago, they had the technology to land on it


The funniest was even the landline call of that nonsense Apollo mission.

If you believed that USA actually went to the moon in the 70s, you need your head to be checked.

Well something I've still not answered even when I know their space ordeal was fabricated is how did they plant their flag on the moon

Kdon2:
Opposition that can't manage internal party crises is unfit to rule the country

Is it that you all turn a blind eye for no good reason? How can a conflict be resolved if it was fueled by an external force?

[quote author= post=138966638]2 leaders in one party?
Bunch of confused people, just like the Labour party brouhaha recently.

A party that is supposed to be an Opposition party now fighting itself internally.

Tueh.


Good point 👉


So na Tinubu dey cause opposition at other parties that are supposed to come together and boot him out?

We take God beg you , " No take this kind brain cross road oo"[/quote]It's obvious things will not get better in this country. Because people are still in delusion and choose to see only what they want to see

Globad:
For intruding into your home without your consent? Did he break into the house? Blame it on the adulterous wife.

Well that's true.

In this type of scenario I know I won't even raise alarm. Just record evidences. Arrest the guy for intruding your home without your consent and the woman will start to live with the guy from that instance. Zero tolerance for infidelity. If I can stay faithful a woman should do better.
No one can ask me in this situation to come back to such union.

chiefolododo:
IRAN IS A WICKED NATION.

THE WHOLE WORLD SHOULD JOIN HANDS TOGETHER AND DO THE NECESSARY

I think they are making a mark. They did not start the war.

Lordly13:
Dared? Iran has lost almost all their military commands,
almost all their political leader are gone ,
even the commander who order the Straits of Hormuz close is gone.

Iranian new appointed leaders live in constant fear of them being next target. That's why they're making deals now.

Or these men are ready to die because they have a better blessing waiting for them because they are fighting "Satanist" who is an enemy of "God"

Sonnobax15:

A religion that sees people of the same faith as less and inferior simply because of their skin complexion .

That ain't no religion, but ,a cult of the highest order.

I think you are overthinking this. Race, ethnicity, religion all run in parallel lines in terms of reference. The white Christians still got some racist that dislike the black christians . So as some tribes dislike another tribe irrespective if they have same religious beliefs

LordIsaac:
At least you are reducing future liabilities from the planet earth. I'd argue they're not the same.

The context is the risk involved. Sporty bet has a better potential of hitting jackpot than the other . Although I don't support gambling in any form cause it's a distraction as well.

fuckingAyaya:
I thought their navy were gonna face US. Navy man to man on water, never knew they would resort to Guerilla warfare by planting mines inside the water. Cowards!!

I hate to say this but in war it's the winner that's needed not the strategy used to achieve that victory